mom has pancreatic cancer.. fuk this gay earth (srs)

[HockeyRat12]

I don't know what to do misc, it still feels like I'm living a nightmare but I know I'm not.

She's 57 and has never had any major health problems. I moved out for the summer so I didn't see her as often as I did when I lived at home, but when I did she was just fine.

A couple weeks ago I saw her and she told me she'd gone to the doctor for indigestion related symptoms which turned out to be a stomach ulcer. Then 4 days ago I get a call from my dad and he tells me that she was admitted to the hospital, not sure if it was due to worsening symptoms or a concerned doctor. So they did a CT scan and found that her pancreas looked enlarged and an ultrasound to find that there were shadows on her liver. At this point I was concerned but I convinced myself it wasn't a very serious issue. She had a biopsy done on her liver and we were supposed to get the results back today (Monday), but she ended up going home on Saturday. When my dad told me she was home I was relieved; instead of visiting her at the hospital after work I could just go home and see how she's doing.

When I walked in the door everything seemed normal, my mom was doing housework and my dad was watching TV. Then chit got real. I turned around to see my dear mom, teary-eyed, and I immediately knew there was bad news. "It's bad, I have cancer." My heart dropped to the ground and I was sucked into a nightmare that I'm still living as I type this. If you've experienced something like this you know there are no words to be said, so I just wrapped my arms around her for a moment then naturally went up to my old room. As I was turning away I heard my mom say to my dad "it's only when I have to tell somebody" with a bit of a chuckle. The strength of my parents is so admirable.

This has been a roller coaster ride that has just begun. I don't know what to think. I literally feel like a different person, like part of me died. This is the end of my childhood. The sheltered life I used to live, complete with a pair of invincible parents, is now over. The real world has come out and nailed me right where it hurts the most, my heart.

The survival statistics of pancreatic cancer are very depressing, but I have to keep my head up and have faith. I don't know the exact details of my mom's diagnosis or prognosis, I just know that the symptoms set in pretty quickly and it has spread a little bit to her liver.

My utmost and sincere thanks to those who take the time to read this and reply. I love you all.

[thewiz8807]

I wish you and your family the best brah, sorry to hear that. :/

[saltyscrot]

lost my step mum to pancreatic cancer..i know how it feels

be the best son you can be for her. Thoughts and prayers are with you. ever wanna pm me bro, i know what to expect and how things go.

stay strong, chin up.

[Bongos]

best wishes brah<3

[jlee639]

Stay positive OP. Sorry to hear

[LazyStarfish]

sorry to hear brah, hope your family the best.

[AcceptingDefeat]

sorry
would punch god for you

[MadNJelly]

Keep the faith man every cancer is beatable and spend as much time with her as you can.

[K1cker]

we're all gonna make it brah. keep ya head up high

[Tyrean5]

sorry to hear OP. gotta stay positive bro, and be the best son you can be

[Domxmb]

Sorry I wish and hope for the best for your family.

[SOunfair]

a hard road ahead of you, when these things happen its on your mind 24/7 you just cannot escape it.
don't go off the rails or start acting out because of it, now is the time you have to keep it together.
stay strong and let her know you're in this fight with her.

Hoping for the best for you man
<3

[StatisticsBrah]

Stay strong for your mom OP. don't let this effect your life plans because the last thing she wants to see is you fall off course depressed. Spend as much time with her as you can. Even if it means giving up a solid chuck of your social life. You will look back and be happy about the time you got to spend. I know I am.

[Prim3]

Sorry to hear that OP.. Strange thing is that my mom also got admitted a few days ago to the hospital with vomiting, indigestion feeling and they found that her pancreas were inflamed and her liver enzymes were high. They did blood tests, ultrasound and CT scans and her pancreas inflammation finally started coming down and her blood work improved (besides a couple deficiencies..). Seems like all this was caused by a medication she was taking for diabetes..

I'm not saying this is the case with your mom but please check. Your mom's in my prayers because I can understand how it feels. Stay strong OP.

[Rencity01]

Sorry to hear about this OP. I watched my mother die of cancer when I was 13, life wasen't fair then and it isn't now. I wish your family the best of luck.

[IcyHotStuntaz]

SO sorry to hear this op man. I lost my mum just before I turned 25 to an asthma attack. I was an only child and grew up with her. This will make you stronger no matter what. Get her onto all kinds of alternative therapys too. Stay positive. I know how you feel about the nightmare that is real part...

[piitbFBI]

Damn brah i know how you feel. I lost a few close ones from cancer it really fking sucks. Stick that chest out and head up brah.

[diffrentiable]

damn son, I hope your mums gets better.

I had a recent scare. My mum was experiencing sever stomach and intestinal pain and had blood in her stool so she had a colonoscopy to see what the problem was. The surgeon said that we would have to wait a month to see what the cause was but it may be intestinal cancer. As soon as he said that the reality of being mortal set in man. my childhood was literally over.

Fortunately it was very mild Chrons disease and the symptoms have subsidized to the point that my mum doesn't experience any discomfort anymore.
What I'm trying to say OP, is I'm very thankful for my parents health and sincerely hope your mum gets better.
-diff

[clownhouse]

Man wish the best for you all. Spend as much time with your parents as possible.

[Flexish]

I'm sorry to hear this, o.p. Please be as positive as possible, spend time with your mum. She is still here...I pray you all have as much comfort as you can.

[Highjumper21]

That's heavy.

I hope everything turns out well.

[meteoraniac]

I'm not sure how feasible is this for you and your family, but you should seek second or third opinions from other docs.

[inpursuitt]

Really sorry OP ):
My heart goes out to you and your family. Keep faith!

[MrShreddingNow]

Sorry to hear bro. Stay strong for your family and try to think as positive as possible. Im wishing the best for your family.

[BoomPowSurprise]

Sorry to hear that OP, my grandma had pancreatic cancer as well. You are fortunate enough that the doctors were able to catch it this early. Make the most of what you have now while you can, as many questions as possible, spend as much time as you can. I know I wish I did.

[mk8]

I'm very sorry OP.

I'm will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[listenlisten]

Got teary eyed reading that, good luck brother and don't lose hope.

[Reynosskuz]

I know them feels OP.
My mum has ovarian cancer. She tried chemotherapy, operations etc.

The doctors said she was overdue (death date) in 2007. Shes downstairs cooking me dinner now brah. Very strange.
I'm 100% certain that positive attitude and sense of well-being has a direct correlation with your white/red blood cell strength and mental attitude directs physical attributes.

Basically my mum somehow is still living, fine as hell with the cancer still in her body. She reads a lot of hippie books and self healing books. Burns incense and keep a good spirit overall. She believes that once you get past the shock you come to realise that there is no point crying about it you have to make the most of of life. If you can convince your mum to take it on strong form towards this I am certain she will beastmode and it won't phase her and affect her daily life.

Also, she self medicates (Not really medication, just trippy chit all from canada) with a few things. I am aware one is called cats claw, one is melatonin. All that are legal. The doctors just prescribe oxynorm (oxycotin) But they are just for pain.

[kratosbrah]

Stay strong, brahs.

[MehAesthetics]

chit that's terrible. good luck keep us posted.