Okay guys I need your input..kinda long

brick*house · 05-12-2008, 03:54 AM

While on vacation I met this guy. He was really attractive, not someone I thought would have the slightest interest in me. He actually remembered me from the convention I went to 2 yrs before in Daytona Beach. It was flattering how he watched me for hours before approaching me. It was impressive how he made me talk to him first. He was so open with me, telling me all about his past relationships and about his pets and the childhood illness he suffered from .We talked for hours, him being way more forthcoming than me. We fooled around some the first night...not doing the actual deed. The next day he watching me like a hawk even though other chicks were throwing themselves at him. The female-male ratio at the convention was crazy, like 25:1. We ended up fooling around again before I left. I got his email address, that's it. I really didn't go into this expecting anything, friendship at the very least. Well, he never replied back to the 2 emails I sent. Was I being totally naive or what? I was under the impression that guys don't spill their life stories to girls they just wanted to have casual encounters with. Some of the stuff he told me was too embarrasing to make up. Did I misread the whole situation? I'm more confused than anything.

FullSack · 05-12-2008, 04:17 AM

if a girl knew my life story i'd run like the wind

user67987321321654 · 05-12-2008, 04:19 AM

Men are different when they are on vacation. Personally, I don't understand how I could tell a "stranger" my life story, that's a big too extreme for my taste.
Are you sure you have the right email address? If he doesn't reply, you should not be thinking about him anymore.

GW-LAX · 05-12-2008, 04:33 AM

#1 u kinda make him seem stalkirish :-D

#2 i dont think you mis-interpreted anything, i think that he had the right intentions to try and start something with you, but maybe either he realized that it wasnt going to work, due to the distance. Mainly saying this because he seems like the romantic/nice guy/type person.

#3 How long has it been since you emailed him?, are you sure you typed it correctly?

#4 If he doesnt reply, either he is to busy, missed your emails, or it was just a vacation fling. if thats the case might as well move on, although you say you dont care, but i dont think thats entirely the case.. :-( sorry thoug

brick*house · 05-12-2008, 05:59 AM

Thanks for the replies, guys. It's been maybe about 2 wks since I sent the email so he's had more than enough time to respond. He did tell me his email was unreliable but I don't know if I believe that. I'm done with trying to contact him. He WAS kinda stalking me. He sat at the table next to us and whenever I glanced at him he was staring at me, even when he was talking to someone else. There was some girl that was all over him my last night. I wasn't worried about it because that was why he was there. He's a cover model and his sponsors paid his way so he could do the promotional thing. It was funny how he followed me around and she was trailing him. He was already making contacts for sponsorship for next year. He was like "you better be there next year, yada, yada", cause its in Orlando. I plan on going but there will be no repeats where he's concerned. I don't do second chances.I have good memories so I can't be mad at him. I'm just disappointed how things turned out. I mean damn, it doesn't take much to drop someone an email, can't we all just get along

Chalk another us to TMB "typical male behavior"

Mycophage · 05-12-2008, 06:21 AM

um, what convention were you at with a 25:1 ratio, and how do i get in??? :-D

i think most people who manipulate others tell their life stories. it makes it seem like you're better friends than you are, so then they can ask you for (sexual) favors that are beyond the real scope of your friendship.

it's also super easy to talk about yourself- it's the subject you know the most about.

if he didn't email back in 2 weeks, that's a definite no-go for you. he's not interested, just used you, or has a girlfriend back home he didn't tell you about.

lord knows i've done the same thing. felt kinda bad, but in the end, i decided it was better to just never email back than to try to maintain a "friendship" with some girl i met the day before, who was moving to another country.

brick*house · 05-12-2008, 06:47 AM

Thanks Mycophage. That puts a different spin on things, doesn't it. So guys that seem nice are suspect as well as the guys that have pickup lines, etc. So all men are pretty much suspect. That's good to know. He shouldn't have gone to so much trouble. I wasn't looking for a love connection. Fun was had. No regrets.

user67987321321654 · 05-12-2008, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by brick*house

Thanks Mycophage. That puts a different spin on things, doesn't it. So guys that seem nice are suspect as well as the guys that have pickup lines, etc. So all men are pretty much suspect. That's good to know. He shouldn't have gone to so much trouble. I wasn't looking for a love connection. Fun was had. No regrets.

If you wish to know a 23 year old man's opinion: the nicest men are the most suspect ones.

brick*house · 05-12-2008, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted by VMichael

If you wish to know a 23 year old man's opinion: the nicest men are the most suspect ones.

And my friends thought I was being too negative when I told them all men have an ulterior motives and can't be trusted

user67987321321654 · 05-12-2008, 07:00 AM

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Originally Posted by brick*house

And my friends thought I was being too negative when I told them all men have an ulterior motives and can't be trusted

unfortunately lying does open a lot of doors, you know

do you think we men can trust women? be honest

jude-o · 05-12-2008, 07:01 AM

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Was I being totally naive or what? I was under the impression that guys don't spill their life stories to girls they just wanted to have casual encounters with

Somebody you've met on vacation is clearly a sport-fu*k situation in the male mind. You were very naive to expect an ongoing relationship on any level. For all you know he's married.

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If you wish to know a 23 year old man's opinion: the nicest men are the most suspect ones.

Often true. A skilled womanizer is the most charming, likable sort of guy that you'll ever meet. If he does his job well, you'll leave convinced that he's The One when he really just saw you as a warm wet hole to stick it in.

brick*house · 05-12-2008, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by jude-o

Somebody you've met on vacation is clearly a sport-fu*k situation in the male mind. You were very naive to expect an ongoing relationship on any level. For all you know he's married.

Often true. A skilled womanizer is the most charming, likable sort of guy that you'll ever meet. If he does his job well, you'll leave convinced that he's The One when he really just saw you as a warm wet hole to stick it in.

I was waiting for the crude, rude Neanderthals to come calling. What took you so long? If you read my original message you'd know he didn't stick it anywhere.

beersandwich · 05-12-2008, 08:02 AM

sounds like a f*cking weirdo to me. who wants to talk about past relationships to a new chick, then just watches you for ages while ignoring other girls?

stone fox · 05-12-2008, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by brick*house

So all people are pretty much suspect.

fixed.
I think if you read the countless angst riddled tirades from the guys on these boards you'd see that it's not an exclusive gender issue.

You're definitely not the first person to think that a couple of days vacation fun was more than just that. You feel something different, you're 100% sure that the other party feels it too, but alas one can never know what's going on in another's mind and it turns out you were on completely different pages.

pretty much exact same thing happened to me before christmas (though at least I got laid

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Don't worry about it, chalk it up to experience you've sent the email, he has yours, just forget about it and learn from it

brick*house · 05-13-2008, 02:34 AM

[QUOTE=stone fox;164881831]fixed.

pretty much exact same thing happened to me before christmas (though at least I got laid

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Thanks, I feel so much better now

ApG · 05-13-2008, 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted by brick*house

If you read my original message you'd know he didn't stick it anywhere.

supposedly...j/k! but yeah he gave u his Email??!! Cell Number...Have him dial it into your celly so no mistaken it, unless he gives a fake number on purpose. If he's a model or what not, he's bound to have a cell fone. my little cousin in middle school got a cell fone!

Scarface2883 · 05-13-2008, 03:21 AM

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Originally Posted by brick*house

I was waiting for the crude, rude Neanderthals to come calling. What took you so long? If you read my original message you'd know he didn't stick it anywhere.

Crude, rude Neanderthal? I don't see how that guy was being that way. He just told you what he thought, and you call him names for giving his opinion because some other guy turned out to be a prick?

Makes perfect sense...jk

brick*house · 05-13-2008, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by ryannath

Crude, rude Neanderthal? I don't see how that guy was being that way. He just told you what he thought, and you call him names for giving his opinion because some other guy turned out to be a prick?

Makes perfect sense...jk

It was how he said it. Everyone else got their point across without being crude and disrespectful..."a warm wet hole"....he could have phrased it better. Maybe I was just being too sensitive...but I don't like being referred to that way.