Girl has me confused...Advice on next move?

[Big Al 54]

Me and this girl have been talking on and off for three months now. We've partied together every other weekend for the past 2 months. We had sex the third time we hung out...and it was great...the problem is this:

I actually like this one...like want to date...and she gives me mixed signals...

One night she'll be all over me, and the next day she won't answer my phone call, I've never experienced this before...Maybe she's the type that just won't call a guy? IDK...

Two nights ago we went out to the bar together and had a really good time, and at the end of the night she decided she wanted to go home with a couple "guy friends" from her dorm....

I called her later that night, drunk and asked her what that was about...She said she just didn't want me to have to go out of my way to drop her off, and she was tired...she was really sincere and said she loved to hang out with me...blah blah...

I was drunk so I told her that I liked her, and she is the type of girl i'd like to get in a relationship with...but the timing kinda sucks cuz its so late in the semester...she said she didn't know how to respond to that...and she didn't want to respond drunk

Well its been 2 days and i haven't heard back from her...

Is she waiting for me to call? Or should I wait for hers? I've been out of the relationship thing for a while due to the fact I haven't met anyone I'd like to be in one with until now...Ideas?

[Shubbard1821]

going through the same thing. Stick around maybe a little while longer, if you feel you don't know enough to make a strong decision, or just quit it while you can so you don't get burned. I got burned, not worth it IMO.

[Gym_Kitty]

Originally Posted by Big Al 54

Me and this girl have been talking on and off for three months now. We've partied together every other weekend for the past 2 months. We had sex the third time we hung out...and it was great...the problem is this:

I actually like this one...like want to date...and she gives me mixed signals...

One night she'll be all over me, and the next day she won't answer my phone call, I've never experienced this before...Maybe she's the type that just won't call a guy? IDK...

Two nights ago we went out to the bar together and had a really good time, and at the end of the night she decided she wanted to go home with a couple "guy friends" from her dorm....

I called her later that night, drunk and asked her what that was about...She said she just didn't want me to have to go out of my way to drop her off, and she was tired...she was really sincere and said she loved to hang out with me...blah blah...

I was drunk so I told her that I liked her, and she is the type of girl i'd like to get in a relationship with...but the timing kinda sucks cuz its so late in the semester...she said she didn't know how to respond to that...and she didn't want to respond drunk

Well its been 2 days and i haven't heard back from her...

Is she waiting for me to call? Or should I wait for hers? I've been out of the relationship thing for a while due to the fact I haven't met anyone I'd like to be in one with until now...Ideas?

You definitely need to call her. Because considering the statement that she didn't want to repond when you guys were drunk, she could also assume that you said those things because you were drunk. And she might take you not calling her or anything as 'He must've just said things because he was drunk or whatever'. And it will be awkward for her to talk about it to you first.

So give her a call and talk normal. Hey, what's up? blah blah
Then meet her up or something casually, have a talk about what you said
And tell her you are very sincere about the feelings toward her and be honest about it.

If she has a right and normal mind set, the results will be positive.

Good luck!