Men - 10 signs you're being needy *article*

[dragon*princess]

Here is an article that brings to light a few pitfalls that you might want to consider avoiding. Although each point may not apply to all women - it offers many good tips to keep in mind. *enjoy*


Men - 10 signs you're being needy

In my ten years of coaching men and women on the perils of dating and relationships, the one journey women tell me they never want to go on again is meeting and hanging out with the "needy and clingy" man. Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.

Now, I can practically hear men's voices protesting from everywhere, saying "But David, there are a lot of needy women too!" This article is not about them... it's about you.

Below are ten signs that you are being needy. Remember you are trying to attract women, not turn them off. So if you suffer from any of these signs of neediness, you need to immediately stop those actions.

1. You just walked a woman to her door at the end of a date. Instead of kissing her, you ask her if she had a good time. Women are attracted to confident men. They don't want to have to tell you that they had a good time on a date... they want you to be secure enough in yourself to assume that they had a good time.

2. You called a woman last night and she has not yet called you back, so you either email her or call her again to ask her if she received your message. If you want to push her away, this is one of the best ways to get her to quickly run away from you.

3. You start texting a woman you just began dating five or six times a day. You are over-texting her. You don't need to check in every two hours. That's a sign of neediness and clingy behavior that turns women off.

4. You miss a call on your cell phone from a phone number that you don't recognize. You call the woman you're dating, and to whom you talked just two hours before, and ask, "Did you just call me?" This kind of behavior is going to push and scare her away.

5. You agree with everything the woman you're dating says. Women are not looking for a man who agrees with everything they say. Women want a man who challenges them and from whom they can learn. When a man agrees with everything a woman says, he is telling her that he'll do anything to have a relationship (which is another sign of being needy).

6. The woman you're dating is out for the evening with her friends. She promised to call you when she got home. It's getting late and you haven't heard from her. You just can't resist and you call her cell phone several times until she answers it. This is a sign of being needy and insecure. She's out with her friends... not out with another guy. Let her have some personal space and she'll respect you more.

7. You are too available. If you have plans with a friend, keep those plans even if the woman you're dating asks you to do something that night. Women don't want men who are like a 7-Eleven -- convenient and ready 24/7.

8. You try to please a woman all the time. I'm all about men doing nice things for women, but she has to earn it. Some men will let a woman walk all over them, and then continue to be a sponge and allow it over and over again. Stand up for yourself and she'll respect you more. Letting a woman walk all over you is a clear sign to her that you're needy.

9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Women are looking for someone who is going to stimulate their mind... not bore them. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control.

10. Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. Women like men who plan out evenings of fun. Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her, then come up with a fun plan that you will already know she'll like. A needy man will do whatever a woman wants. A man of action will create plans for what they will do. Being a man of action will lead her to find you a lot more attractive in the long run.

Women are attracted to men who are confident and real. Women want to feel like you need them... but only after you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals.

The moment a man starts getting too clingy, a woman will run for the hills. This is exactly like how you will pull back from a woman who becomes clingy and needy.


Direct Link to the Article:
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/si...re-being-needy

[gfundaro]

11. You say things like, "I'll take whatever I can get." Want more for yourself or you'll be mistreated.



Just my .02

[Better Unborn]

i.e. act like she is the one that is getting a good deal.

[ventik]

Another one - noone cares how badly your ex treated you. Especially your new girlfriend.

[BayBoss]

Mine must be broken.

[bambifox]

This is "spot on"!!! Great post! I'd like to add a couple more though...

12. Don't call your woman 10 times/day. Implies you have no life other than her...too needy.

13. When you speak to her after a period of time away, don't ask where have you been?...what were you doing?...it's yet another way to let her know how insecure you are.

Originally Posted by dragon*princess

Here is an article that brings to light a few pitfalls that you might want to consider avoiding. Although each point may not apply to all women - it offers many good tips to keep in mind. *enjoy*


Men - 10 signs you're being needy

In my ten years of coaching men and women on the perils of dating and relationships, the one journey women tell me they never want to go on again is meeting and hanging out with the "needy and clingy" man. Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.

Now, I can practically hear men's voices protesting from everywhere, saying "But David, there are a lot of needy women too!" This article is not about them... it's about you.

Below are ten signs that you are being needy. Remember you are trying to attract women, not turn them off. So if you suffer from any of these signs of neediness, you need to immediately stop those actions.

1. You just walked a woman to her door at the end of a date. Instead of kissing her, you ask her if she had a good time. Women are attracted to confident men. They don't want to have to tell you that they had a good time on a date... they want you to be secure enough in yourself to assume that they had a good time.

2. You called a woman last night and she has not yet called you back, so you either email her or call her again to ask her if she received your message. If you want to push her away, this is one of the best ways to get her to quickly run away from you.

3. You start texting a woman you just began dating five or six times a day. You are over-texting her. You don't need to check in every two hours. That's a sign of neediness and clingy behavior that turns women off.

4. You miss a call on your cell phone from a phone number that you don't recognize. You call the woman you're dating, and to whom you talked just two hours before, and ask, "Did you just call me?" This kind of behavior is going to push and scare her away.

5. You agree with everything the woman you're dating says. Women are not looking for a man who agrees with everything they say. Women want a man who challenges them and from whom they can learn. When a man agrees with everything a woman says, he is telling her that he'll do anything to have a relationship (which is another sign of being needy).

6. The woman you're dating is out for the evening with her friends. She promised to call you when she got home. It's getting late and you haven't heard from her. You just can't resist and you call her cell phone several times until she answers it. This is a sign of being needy and insecure. She's out with her friends... not out with another guy. Let her have some personal space and she'll respect you more.

7. You are too available. If you have plans with a friend, keep those plans even if the woman you're dating asks you to do something that night. Women don't want men who are like a 7-Eleven -- convenient and ready 24/7.

8. You try to please a woman all the time. I'm all about men doing nice things for women, but she has to earn it. Some men will let a woman walk all over them, and then continue to be a sponge and allow it over and over again. Stand up for yourself and she'll respect you more. Letting a woman walk all over you is a clear sign to her that you're needy.

9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Women are looking for someone who is going to stimulate their mind... not bore them. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control.

10. Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. Women like men who plan out evenings of fun. Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her, then come up with a fun plan that you will already know she'll like. A needy man will do whatever a woman wants. A man of action will create plans for what they will do. Being a man of action will lead her to find you a lot more attractive in the long run.

Women are attracted to men who are confident and real. Women want to feel like you need them... but only after you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals.

The moment a man starts getting too clingy, a woman will run for the hills. This is exactly like how you will pull back from a woman who becomes clingy and needy.


Direct Link to the Article:
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/si...re-being-needy

[Hat_Monster]

Originally Posted by dragon*princess

9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Women are looking for someone who is going to stimulate their mind... not bore them. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control.

This has been my problem from day 1. I never agree with what women say.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

I agree with most but number 10. Sometimes its good to just go with the flow. I dont make plans for dates and what not, just go on impulse and then roll with it.

[missmarina]

I agree with alot of these! Maybe they should add "Dont start stalking her after a couple dates"!

[dragon*princess]

Originally Posted by smallfry06

I agree with most but number 10. Sometimes its good to just go with the flow. I dont make plans for dates and what not, just go on impulse and then roll with it.

Hi Smallfry,
I agree that "sometimes" it's good to go with the flow. And yet, "most" of the time women really do want a guys opinion. It doesn't always mean that we'll accept it and do what you want but....we do want your insight.

Examples of being too agreeable:

Me: What do you want to eat for lunch?
Guy: I don't know....whatever you want.

Me: So, would you rather have sushi or go to a steakhouse?
Guy: Either one is fine....you pick.




*omg* that sort of stuff drives me nuts! *lol*

[goyongj]

It's suprising that this was posted by a WOMAN
I hope your profile on dating site, doesn't say 'I hate guys playing games'(if u have one)

it's true if guys follow this rule, it will make girls frustrated.
you guys had a good date but he doesn't call you next day
or when you ask about doing something and he answers 'maybe' 'I will see if I can make it'

I was also wondering side effects of those rules.
What if she thinks I am not too into her?
Should I show her how much I love her during the date but I don't have to call her everyday?

[dragon*princess]

Originally Posted by goyongj

It's suprising that this was posted by a WOMAN
I hope your profile on dating site, doesn't say 'I hate guys playing games'(if have one)

[h0ckeyfreek20]

Originally Posted by dragon*princess

Here is an article that brings to light a few pitfalls that you might want to consider avoiding. Although each point may not apply to all women - it offers many good tips to keep in mind. *enjoy*


Men - 10 signs you're being needy

In my ten years of coaching men and women on the perils of dating and relationships, the one journey women tell me they never want to go on again is meeting and hanging out with the "needy and clingy" man. Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.

Now, I can practically hear men's voices protesting from everywhere, saying "But David, there are a lot of needy women too!" This article is not about them... it's about you.

Below are ten signs that you are being needy. Remember you are trying to attract women, not turn them off. So if you suffer from any of these signs of neediness, you need to immediately stop those actions.

1. You just walked a woman to her door at the end of a date. Instead of kissing her, you ask her if she had a good time. Women are attracted to confident men. They don't want to have to tell you that they had a good time on a date... they want you to be secure enough in yourself to assume that they had a good time.

2. You called a woman last night and she has not yet called you back, so you either email her or call her again to ask her if she received your message. If you want to push her away, this is one of the best ways to get her to quickly run away from you.

3. You start texting a woman you just began dating five or six times a day. You are over-texting her. You don't need to check in every two hours. That's a sign of neediness and clingy behavior that turns women off.

4. You miss a call on your cell phone from a phone number that you don't recognize. You call the woman you're dating, and to whom you talked just two hours before, and ask, "Did you just call me?" This kind of behavior is going to push and scare her away.

5. You agree with everything the woman you're dating says. Women are not looking for a man who agrees with everything they say. Women want a man who challenges them and from whom they can learn. When a man agrees with everything a woman says, he is telling her that he'll do anything to have a relationship (which is another sign of being needy).

6. The woman you're dating is out for the evening with her friends. She promised to call you when she got home. It's getting late and you haven't heard from her. You just can't resist and you call her cell phone several times until she answers it. This is a sign of being needy and insecure. She's out with her friends... not out with another guy. Let her have some personal space and she'll respect you more.

7. You are too available. If you have plans with a friend, keep those plans even if the woman you're dating asks you to do something that night. Women don't want men who are like a 7-Eleven -- convenient and ready 24/7.

8. You try to please a woman all the time. I'm all about men doing nice things for women, but she has to earn it. Some men will let a woman walk all over them, and then continue to be a sponge and allow it over and over again. Stand up for yourself and she'll respect you more. Letting a woman walk all over you is a clear sign to her that you're needy.

9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Women are looking for someone who is going to stimulate their mind... not bore them. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control.

10. Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. Women like men who plan out evenings of fun. Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her, then come up with a fun plan that you will already know she'll like. A needy man will do whatever a woman wants. A man of action will create plans for what they will do. Being a man of action will lead her to find you a lot more attractive in the long run.

Women are attracted to men who are confident and real. Women want to feel like you need them... but only after you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals.

The moment a man starts getting too clingy, a woman will run for the hills. This is exactly like how you will pull back from a woman who becomes clingy and needy.


Direct Link to the Article:
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/si...re-being-needy

thats exactly what i had in my head, i just couldnt put the pieces together and apply it

[goyongj]

I need your tip

I asked this girl if she would go to japanese restaurant later
but she said she hated fish. I told there are other menus like teriyaki or noddle. but she insisted she liked chinese food and told me the specific name of the restaurant.

If I take her to that restaurant, am I acting as 'nice guy'?
I think this will make me look like 'I am a pleaser'

what if I just pick her up and go to the restaurant I want without telling her?

Originally Posted by dragon*princess

Hi Smallfry,
I agree that "sometimes" it's good to go with the flow. And yet, "most" of the time women really do want a guys opinion. It doesn't always mean that we'll accept it and do what you want but....we do want your insight.

Examples of being too agreeable:

Me: What do you want to eat for lunch?
Guy: I don't know....whatever you want.

Me: So, would you rather have sushi or go to a steakhouse?
Guy: Either one is fine....you pick.




*omg* that sort of stuff drives me nuts! *lol*

[dragon*princess]

Originally Posted by goyongj

I need your tip

I asked this girl if she would go to japanese restaurant later
but she said she hated fish. I told there are other menus like teriyaki or noddle. but she insisted she liked chinese food and told me the specific name of the restaurant.

If I take her to that restaurant, am I acting as 'nice guy'?
I think this will make me look like 'I am a pleaser'

what if I just pick her up and go to the restaurant I want without telling her?

It's possible that she's familiar with the restaurant, its menu, and (possibly) has even gone there on other dates. *skip it* ~ But there's no doubt that she'll have a better time if she can eat the type of food that she truly enjoys. But....

"Personally" - I would take her suggestion and have Chinese Food but, go to a different restaurant than the one she insisted on. I would tell her, "Okay, we'll have Chinese but, I'm going to take you some place special."

It would show that you take her thoughts into account and yet, you have an opinion of your own too (and you're not a total push over).


PS....
Make sure that your restaurant choice is better than hers!

[LiftingIsLife]

Originally Posted by Better Unborn

i.e. act like she is the one that is getting a good deal.

why act?????? its TRUE, isnt it???

best,
~lifer

[Al Shades]

This is good advice.

[bambifox]

That's great advice! Much agreed and couldn't have said it better myself!

Originally Posted by dragon*princess

It's possible that she's familiar with the restaurant, its menu, and (possibly) has even gone there on other dates. *skip it* ~ But there's no doubt that she'll have a better time if she can eat the type of food that she truly enjoys. But....

"Personally" - I would take her suggestion and have Chinese Food but, go to a different restaurant than the one she insisted on. I would tell her, "Okay, we'll have Chinese but, I'm going to take you some place special."

It would show that you take her thoughts into account and yet, you have an opinion of your own too (and you're not a total push over).


PS....
Make sure that your restaurant choice is better than hers!

[goyongj]

It's about fighting between your heart and brain.

I want to call her cuz I have genuine feeling about her.
If she doesn't answer, I am concerned because she is not one of my fxxk buddy options.
A lot of guys already know this rule but it's hard to resist what the heart says

[dragon*princess]

I know that some of you might be reading No.10 Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. and losing sight of the rest so....I don't want you guys to miss that point. You can score major points if you can master that one!!!

The key point in Number 10 is....Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her, then come up with a fun plan that you will already know she'll like. A needy man will do "whatever" a woman wants.

It's basically saying, if you're paying attention to her "tastes and interests" you'll be better equipped to create a plan that will work for the "both of you" (without having to ask her what she wants to do). So YES....once you have a "winning game plan" by all means Stick with it!

[KennyK]

money in the bank

[swole2008]

Originally Posted by KennyK

money in the bank

shawty what you drank?

[gynoid]

Originally Posted by dragon*princess

Me: What do you want to eat for lunch?
Guy: I don't know....whatever you want.

Me: So, would you rather have sushi or go to a steakhouse?
Guy: Either one is fine....you pick.

*omg* that sort of stuff drives me nuts! *lol*

That sounds exactly like my boyfriend. It drives me up the wall!!!
Some times I want to shake him and yell "Have an opinion!!!"

Also... as I see it, question 10 is basically a guide to being 'romantic'.
I LOVE it when my boyfriend whisks me away on an adventure without consulting me with what to do first

[Mustakey]

Ohh how I can relate to the 10 signs.. This is how I believe I lost my ex. Funny thing is this.. she was initially attracted to how I was intensely, because I'd by definition, BE THE MAN. Id spark conversation, have my own opinion, take her away to nice places without asking her ( and she loved it )..

But she always asked for more.. SHE was being needy. ( We had a 4 year relationship btw ) So i kinda caved in.. i started taking her into consideration more by calling her often, agreeing with what she said.. all the classic mistakes but at that time i thought it would end the nagging. Instead what I got was a girl who fell outta love eventually.

Its only been a month since we broke up and slowly I'm becoming the confident man I once was. it only hit me after we broke up all the mistakes I made. Now that i'm single with more experience and a new perspective, women treat me so much better and I know it plus im getting buff slowly lol. So guys just stop being a pussy and stand up for yourself! Confidence and charm all the way!

[SpittfireDA]

Great Post!!!!

I seem to always attract the indecisive, needy, clingy ones that act all tough around everyone else. This is getting printed and saved!