ITT: tfw you think back on an ex gf and realize she was the one (srs)

[Dystopia1980]

A close friend of mine met his ex, an attractive white/asian chick online. She was really into him, was super nice, down to earth and smart.
Friend didn't even have a car so this chick would drive over 1.5 hours from Palm Springs to hang out with him and drive his ass around.
Cooked for him as well and was just overall a terrific girlfriend.

A year or so into the relationship, my friend got cocky, thought he could do better. He was always sort of full of himself so this wasn't surprising.
Would go out drinking at clubs and hit on other girls, and generally treated his GF like crap.
She put up with it for a while but eventually they parted ways.

Little did my friend know that was it for him. Every chick he's been with since has been progressively worse, both in looks and personality.
Now, almost 8 years later he's 32 and single, still trying to pick up girls from clubs and striking out or just getting one night stands with dirty sloots.
His ex is now happily married to some other dude and deep down I know my friend knows he done goofed. When he gets drunk I can see the depression.

[wZk.60]

Kinda know this feel...but she turned into a whore, dunno what happened to her after we broke up but she changed, it's a shame, she used to be legit wife material.

[zackarykapowski]

You've never been in that situation, so don't judge. Not one of us in here has condoned our actions or even attempted to justify them. We all unanimously agree that what we did constituted a serious lack of maturity/humility/etc. Why do you feel the need to say something so unhelpful?

In my case specifically, I was a dumb fuking kid that didn't know wtf he was doing, and I listened to my retarded friends who encouraged me to smash randoms. Not once did I stop to think about our future. What made it worse is that she found out about me cheating several times, and while she was upset, she was so in love, that she forgave me. I guess somewhere in my tiny brain, I understood that as a sign of acceptance and continued on my path of stupidity.

Like I said already, if I could go back to that time like 4 years ago, I would need some serious restraint or I think I would beat myself to death. It really bothers me, as I'm sure it bothers the OP. No need to act all high and mighty because you haven't been in this situation.

Been there completely brah. Didn't actually cheat, but talked and flirted with other girls. I also remember a time when I would cry when I thought about certain things that happened in our relationship. Remember when she caught me one time, she looked at me crying and said, "Please stop hurting me." Chit messed with me for awhile. Also, she was going to break up with me once and called her mom on the phone crying and said, "It's just so hard because I love him so much."

Was crazy man. Been about a year and three months. I beat myself up for it for a long time. I realized the things I did weren't as bad as she acted, but still, it was wrong and I shouldn't have done it. She did some chitty thing's too, but what can you do. Everyone makes mistakes. Last time I talked to her which was about a month ago, it lasted for about 30 seconds and she was just raging at me so I simply hung up. Crazy after that long that she still gets so angry at me for no reason. Just keep on trucking bro. It fades more and more each day.

[sychronicity]

I know this feel. She messaged me 3 days ago and her cousin (my friend who I met her through) is begging me to reply. Gotta stay strong bros.

See title, if she was the one why not reply?

[CountDoogula]

I was with this nice brazilian girl for about a year, she had only been in America 3 years. English was really good(sexy accent), perfect petite body 5'4 ~110lbs brazilian ass on tiny frame. She was a legit nice girl, took me 3 weeks of hanging out to finally bang her.

All she wanted in life was to have my babies, she seriously LOVED me, always wanted to play romantic music while we banged and **** haha.. I guess I was too stoned and busy playing counterstrike to really care and I eventually broke up with her for no real reason. Probably because every time she came over I just kept wondering when she would leave so I could bong out and go to sleep.

Fast forward 1.5years I've been sober 5 months, I'm alone in my basement apartment everyday wondering wtf I did hahaha. She blew me off when I tried contacting her... probably out getting pig roasted by an NFL team.
Oh well 25 is too young to settle down... right??

Holy phukk brah. These feels. I was in a really similar situation. Had a super smart, rich, cute little Philippino girlfriend who lived in the posh area of Sydney. No idea why she went out with me cause in my youth I was from the crappest part of Sydney (Western suburbs), had zero dress sense and was skinny as phukk. I was punching well above my weight with her.

Started to get complacent, thought "I got her, I could get another bish easily!". We would go out and she would wanna bang, and I would just bang her in my car so I could drop her at her door and leave immediately to go punch bongs with my mates and play Marvel vs Capcom & War of the Monsters on PS2. Eventually we broke up. I didnt care at the time. Few months later though and I started to realise how badly I'd phukked up. Fast forward 2 whole years later and I had cleaned up my life to try and get her back, but my window of opportunity had closed. Beta as phukk behavior on my part. Definitely learnt a lesson, but it sucked learning it. All this chit happened about 8 years ago but I still think about her regularly. These feels generally dont have an end brahs.



Inb4 Dear Diary

[Nino Quincampoix]

lmao

reality = probably 1000 other girls who are exactly like this "soulmate"
better yet 1000000 other girls who are all her and way more


get out there bra

[zackarykapowski]

lmao

reality = probably 1000 other girls who are exactly like this "soulmate"


get out there bra

i hate when people say this. unless you've experienced it, you will not know. the connection you feel is unbelievable and it just feels right. it's so natural and simple. i've banged numerous girls since. talked to numerous girls and could have dated numerous girls, but honestly, every girl since just doesn't excite me in any way. it feels like after you meet that certain person, everyone after that is basically irrelevant. i'm confident she was the one for me and if soulmates exist, i'm pretty sure she was mine. crazy stuff, but life goes on brahs. nothing you can do about it.

[SUTTER3]

If she was the one, you would be with her now.

There is a reason you 2 grew apart/wore on each other and you 2 separated.

If you 2 were really meant to be, you will end up with each other. I personally chose not to look back. Things ended the way they did for a reason (or many) and it's not usually all on one person (even if one person was worse then the other).

Until then, just pursue what makes you happy now and goals for the future.

Very well said. That's what I'm trying to do right now.

[shtabe]

you should never put a woman so high up in your life that it wrecks you when the relationship ends

[Fsharpasharp]

sometimes i blame the reason why my ex [emotionally] cheated on myself. like maybe if i didn't make her cry so much, or be mean all the time, or compliment her, maybe she wouldn't have cheated and we could still be together and happy.


shiit ****s with my head

[TheUniBrah]

I was in the same situation until last week brah.
pulled the beta move of texting her and telling her how i felt, and she said she felt the same way.
currently "working things out" but it feels just like it did the first time.

suck up your pride and go for it if you really feel that way about her brah, youre gonna make it

[vinhuman]

dat feel when have only had one girlfriend...

and am still with her

That said

[MuayThailand]

this thread is confusing for myself when i think about leaving my good girlfriend so i can smash sloots.........

[STLmisc]

Fuuuu. Threads life these make me think to treat my girl friend better. She's so cute and so tiny and the sweetest girl I've ever met. She wants the world for me and tries so hard to push me to be a better person. But I drink alot and feel like she's always on my case and we fight alot bc im an ass and hate ppl telling me how to live. But I swear I'm going to regret it if she leaves me bc I dont change. I can't imagine her with another guy. Thanks for the feels OP

[AliLeo94]

2:22 feels are just too strong in this one.

I am outta here, sorry OP.

[lemeseethem]

Tfw the girl who is your soul mate is your ex because she's dead.



The biggest regret I have is taking her being around for granted.

[cookiefiend]

Tfw the girl who is your soul mate is your ex because she's dead.



The biggest regret I have is taking her being around for granted.

That's even worse.
Feel so bad for you man

[lemeseethem]

That's even worse.
Feel so bad for you man

Meningitis bro

[cookiefiend]

Meningitis bro

So sorry man

[ajs02aj]

You guys all need to go ride a bike, listen to a bunch of gangster rap, hit the gym hard and change your psyche where all you care about is money and yourself.

When you become so narcissistic and obsessed with yourself no girl will ever matter again. This has happened to me.

Well, it's a good thing girls don't matter to you anymore because I can assure no self-respecting woman would ever care about a man who loves money and himself more than her.

[Danzeligan]

i'm fuking terrified at the idea that i'll go my whole life knowing the girl for me got away....

You're probably running away with all kinds of ideas in your head about how perfect it was etc. You were chit together. Bottom line. If she was 'your one' it'd have lasted.

[ajs02aj]

I was in the same situation until last week brah.
pulled the beta move of texting her and telling her how i felt, and she said she felt the same way.
currently "working things out" but it feels just like it did the first time.

suck up your pride and go for it if you really feel that way about her brah, youre gonna make it

Tfw after 10 years you suck it up and and then get turned down.

Good on you though. Hope things work out for you.

[conner50]

Going through this same exact thing...in the process of getting her back

[ltrrtl218]

i hate when people say this. unless you've experienced it, you will not know. the connection you feel is unbelievable and it just feels right. it's so natural and simple. i've banged numerous girls since. talked to numerous girls and could have dated numerous girls, but honestly, every girl since just doesn't excite me in any way. it feels like after you meet that certain person, everyone after that is basically irrelevant. i'm confident she was the one for me and if soulmates exist, i'm pretty sure she was mine. crazy stuff, but life goes on brahs. nothing you can do about it.

so this. tried to rep but on recharge

[arv91]

must suck knowing that now an actual nice guy is cumming inside the vagina of your true love

[andrepmeet]

Same thing happened to me and is still happening to me. Went out with a legit beautiful girl and started to think all that positivity we got was directed at me. Really it was cuz of her. Seinfeld said beautiful women are like beautiful Godzillas because they just stomp through life unaware of all the breaks they get. 30 Rock did it with using John Hamm. Anyway I was dick coulda married her broke it off and have ****ed only lessers since then and it sucks. I get angry even when im getting laid if I start to think about it. so yeah...

[zackarykapowski]

so this. tried to rep but on recharge

yeah dude. it's insane. honestly felt like when i met her it awakened my soul. not trying to sound sappy at all, but it truly did. it's almost like my life didn't start until i met her and i had done some incredible things before. it was just something you cannot explain or understand unless you've experienced it yourself.

[100whey]

Nope. Doesnt happen to me. Every serious relationship I look back on I think to myself how glad I am that I'm not with her anymore.

[xnorthface]

Way too many feels in this Bitch and i can't cry at work k?!

So here's my Story

Been together 4 years
She waited for me while i was in the airforce
Prepared all my meals although she was was a Vegan ne never Bitches about me eating meat or anything
Just the most wonderful Person i ever met
I started to **** up after i was back home
Didn't go to College spent too much time with "Friends"
She wanted to move together asked me how much longer till i put a Ring on it.

I didn't appreciate or deserved her and all that she did for me

Two years now since we split and not a single Night i haven't thought about her

Life is empty now
Working Lifting Getting wasted Alone on the Weekends

**** me

[zackarykapowski]

Way too many feels in this Bitch and i can't cry at work k?!

So here's my Story

Been together 4 years
She waited for me while i was in the airforce
Prepared all my meals although she was was a Vegan ne never Bitches about me eating meat or anything
Just the most wonderful Person i ever met
I started to **** up after i was back home
Didn't go to College spent too much time with "Friends"
She wanted to move together asked me how much longer till i put a Ring on it.

I didn't appreciate or deserved her and all that she did for me

Two years now since we split and not a single Night i haven't thought about her

Life is empty now
Working Lifting Getting wasted Alone on the Weekends

**** me

It happens bro. We all take chit for granted until it's gone.