Some of you may know my story so far... but to those who dont, here is the rundown:
- married gf of 4 years
- married for 2 years
- she went abroad as a working student
- wrote her letters EVERYDAY(not emails, real letters) so she wont feel bad
- all the while, was just cheating on me
- called me not good looking/successful enough so who am I to complain
- in-laws(her mom, uncle, aunt) attacked me verbally for raging at her for her slootiness & for cutting funds
- suicidal; didnt work for 3 months
- took all help from family and a certain friend to stop me from killing myself/depression
Lately, shes been calling me again, I dont know how she got my new number, I presume a family member or friend of mine betrayed me and want us back together. She keeps begging me back, she said she is sorry for making me feel lower than who I am. She said she will do anything to make things right and would even be my slave. I told her I got nothing for her, and forgiving her is not something I am ready to give yet. I told her to be happy and I hope she will be with another so she can stop bothering me.
She said she just feels emotional cuz its our anniversary month, and if I wont accept her back, she will try again on our anniversary month next year. She keeps texting A LOT of sweet words and apologies. On anniversary day, she asked if I will greet her, I said she should be thankful that Im even communicating with her. 2 weeks after that, her bday, I didnt even greet.
Now, her aunt(another aunt, who was neutral during the breakup), is contacting me again. I pretty much ignored her FB messages and texts cuz I dont want anything to do with my cheating wife's family. Good ones or bad. So what do Misc? Should I atleast acknowledge and talk to her aunt(who is just a couple of years older than her, 28 I think), afterall, she was neutral back then, and even gave advice and talked to me, and didnt side with the evil in-laws. And I admit, there is a bittersweet moments when I text/email my wife. We have known eachother since 2004. So say whatever we want, there is always that lingering feeling from the past.
Cliffs:
-Wife in another part of the world started to contact me again.
-Being sweet, and very apologetic
-I said I have nothing for her
-She said she will try again next year on our anniversary month
-Didnt greet her on anniversary nor her birthday
-Her neutral aunt now trying to talk to me, but I ignored her
- Should I atleast talk to aunt who helped me in a way back then or should I continue ignoring for my sake?
- Did I do right not giving a chance to my wife when afterall, who is perfect? She screwed up and she is sorry for it. Plus - she will be my slave for life, whatever I want she will do she says.
- Wat do?
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12-01-2012, 07:23 PM #1
Cheating Wife Trying to Contact Me Again, Begging Me Back; Did I Do Right Misc? (SRS)
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This is a tough situation man. Most of the misc will say no, and to find a new girl. In the end, it's up to you if you want to start a new life, or try again with her. If you're afraid you'll die alone (as a lot of people fear when they get older) realize there's 3 billion women in the world. One of them is bound to be compatible with you.
Good luck man!
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12-01-2012, 07:27 PM #9
Thing is, she admits she had emotional cheating by ignoring me and talking to another guy(she said she was lonely in a new country), but she said NOTHING HAPPENED. She swears this. But I told her true or not, emotional cheating is as bad. lol
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Talk to the aunt as she was atleast smart enough to stay neutral. Atleast tell her that there's no chance of getting back with the ex. How are things suppose to be normal after her and her family ripped into you? Damage is done with everything that was said and you can't take words back at anytime!! As the old saying goes once a cheater, always a cheater!
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12-01-2012, 07:29 PM #17
You already know what to do it seems like. None of us can answer for you. But, if you're done you're done. Don't talk to them. Don't humor them with phone calls and ******** messages. Delete them from ******** etc. Even if you did take her back do you trust her word this time? Can you ever trust her again? No.
An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.
Buddha
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here you go brah, everything you need is in the first post of the thread:
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