Your thoughts on promise rings

[Faparama]

Hi, female misc. I read a thread earlier about a guy giving his girlfriend a promise ring and I wanted to get a female perspective.

What do promise rings mean to you?

[Wyomann]

Hi, female misc. I read a thread earlier about a guy giving his girlfriend a promise ring and I wanted to get a female perspective.

What do promise rings mean to you?

Never understood promise rings myself. Doesn't an engagement ring mean the same thing? It's like a ring that says you are going to get married.

Maybe a promise ring is an inexpensive engagement ring.
Promise ring < $1000
Engagement ring > $1000

[wakechica]

Hi, female misc. I read a thread earlier about a guy giving his girlfriend a promise ring and I wanted to get a female perspective.

What do promise rings mean to you?

A what? Is this an American thing?

[Fawnl]

Hi, female misc. I read a thread earlier about a guy giving his girlfriend a promise ring and I wanted to get a female perspective.

What do promise rings mean to you?

A promise ring means that I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 and we need to grow the **** up. I have always thought those things were lame. SO much worse when your adults. If you like it, put a REAL ring on it and call it an ENGAGEMENT RING.

[Tristan95]

Haha just came from said thread, its bs, either you dont love her enough to commit 100%, you are some ****gy time pussy that thinks life is like a fuarking twillight film, or you dont think its going to marriage.

Just engage or dont

[Faparama]

Never understood promise rings myself. Doesn't an engagement ring mean the same thing? It's like a ring that says you are going to get married.

Maybe a promise ring is an inexpensive engagement ring.
Promise ring < $1000
Engagement ring > $1000

Agreed. IMO, I see it as more of a sign of a lack of commitment.

A what? Is this an American thing?

A promise ring can be given to someone as a pre-engagement ring. It more or less symbolizes "I promise that one day we'll get engaged"

[Tristan95]

A promise ring means that I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 and we need to grow the **** up. I have always thought those things were lame. SO much worse when your adults. If you like it, put a REAL ring on it and call it an ENGAGEMENT RING.

Is it not a bit of a kick in the teeth?

Yeah I love you, what? Engaged? Well I promise to love you until I really do love you

[ama828]

I like promise rings *shrug*

I would give my girl a promise ring if I wanted to get engaged, but felt like we needed more time together. I think I'd want to be together 4 years steady before getting engaged, so i think a promise ring is a good idea in between that period of time.

I'd wear a "promise" ring myself if my girl gave me one. feelsokman.jpg

[ama828]

A promise ring means that I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 and we need to grow the **** up. I have always thought those things were lame. SO much worse when your adults. If you like it, put a REAL ring on it and call it an ENGAGEMENT RING.

Lol if this is your attitude, I would want to put a promise ring on your finger too vs an engagement ring.

brb not sure if girl wants to be with me or is one of those crazy girls too caught up in the social hype of marriage and commitment, so better make her wait as long as possible and give her a promise ring just to rustle her jimmies.

If a girl needs marriage and commitment right away, and isn't willing to wait as long as I want to, then immediate red flag and I dump her



edit: not trying to bash anyone's opinion or intrude on the female misc. If I'm being out of hand, call me out and I'll delete my posts. Thanks!

[Summersalt]

Never heard of a promise ring till I moved to US, personally. This would not fly in Europe. It would be considered childish.

[gunabodybuild]

had never heard of these, pathetic.

[ama828]

Never heard of a promise ring till I moved to US, personally. This would not fly in Europe. It would be considered childish.

had never heard of these, pathetic.

Why is it pathetic?

Would you rather not have a promise ring, and be with someone for 6 years before getting engaged. Or get a promise ring after 2 years, and the guy say he loves you and wants to marry you now, but would like a few more years to make sure everything is more certain before taking such a big step. Which would be the sensible thing for both sides, given the divorce rates.

I personally would rather have a few years of dating, then a few years of being engaged. But woman seem to be appalled by long engagements and find it very offensive.

We just can't win

[itsagoodday]

Promise rings always struck me as something invented by the jewelry industry to sell more rings. What matters is whether the girlfriend in question likes them.

[Tristan95]

Why is it pathetic?

Would you rather not have a promise ring, and be with someone for 6 years before getting engaged. Or get a promise ring after 2 years, and the guy say he loves you and wants to marry you now, but would like a few more years to make sure everything is more certain before taking such a big step. Which would be the sensible thing for both sides, given the divorce rates.

I personally would rather have a few years of dating, then a few years of being engaged. But woman seem to be appalled by long engagements and find it very offensive.

We just can't win

If you love each other that much then there will be a mutual understanding/aggreement of a legit future together, no pretend ring is needed.

But im a uk brah, so would never degrade myself or fiance with 5 year old love. Just be a man, and show her you're a man be giving her a real commitment.

But to each their own, if chicks go for that in us, I cant argue with that

[sy2502]

I like promise rings *shrug*

I would give my girl a promise ring if I wanted to get engaged, but felt like we needed more time together. I think I'd want to be together 4 years steady before getting engaged, so i think a promise ring is a good idea in between that period of time.

I'd wear a "promise" ring myself if my girl gave me one. feelsokman.jpg

I didn't grow up in the US so be patient with me here, ok? Here's how I have always seen the development of a relationship:


- Hey want to grab a coup of coffee?
- How about we stop sleeping with other people?
- Want to move in together?
- Will you marry me?

















- I hate you, find yourself a lawyer!


Ok I am being funny here, but really I don't get it, commitment is something you just take, it's not a ring. Plenty of people are together in a serious relationship without talking marriage. Heck, plenty of them NEVER talk marriage, and are together for decades, have children together, etc. Just TALK to each other for gawd's sake, discuss where your relationship is, and where it's going, and what you both want. And stop following someone else's timetable, life isn't an article on Cosmo. Who said you have to get engaged after X time, and then get married after X time or else. Or else what?

[ama828]

If you love each other that much then there will be a mutual understanding/aggreement of a legit future together, no pretend ring is needed.

But im a uk brah, so would never degrade myself or fiance with 5 year old love. Just be a man, and show her you're a man be giving her a real commitment.

But to each their own, if chicks go for that in us, I cant argue with that

When you see all your peers getting divorced after a year or two of marriage, and you've been in enough relationships, you begin to realize that jumping into a marriage quickly is a recipe for disaster.

I would argue that if you love each other that much, then no ring at all is necessary to show your commitment.


Edit: ^^ nice post. Wizard for my last point. Although cringe at raising a family for decades without being married. Different cultures I guess from the Catholic Hispanic culture here in New Mexico.

[mrshester]

Never understood promise rings myself. Doesn't an engagement ring mean the same thing? It's like a ring that says you are going to get married.

Maybe a promise ring is an inexpensive engagement ring.
Promise ring < $1000
Engagement ring > $1000

Whoa....my whole wedding set was less than $1000, before taxes. Here's to not spending that much on rocks

Promise rings are very sweet, as long as you're both in high school

[sonti]

They are for teenagers (on a side note, my best friend (at 16) gave his girl friend (at 15) a promise ring - and they actually did have a wedding 12 years later!). But that's pretty rare, isn't it?

Either **** or get off the pot - either we're planning a wedding or we're not. I don't like rings anyways, I have a $200 wedding ring and that's good enough.

[sy2502]

If you love each other that much then there will be a mutual understanding/aggreement of a legit future together, no pretend ring is needed.

But im a uk brah, so would never degrade myself or fiance with 5 year old love. Just be a man, and show her you're a man be giving her a real commitment.

But to each their own, if chicks go for that in us, I cant argue with that

Interesting post because coming from the UK, where people living together and having kids together without being married is actually very common.

[Tristan95]

When you see all your peers getting divorced after a year or two of marriage, and you've been in enough relationships, you begin to realize that jumping into a marriage quickly is a recipe for disaster.

I would argue that if you love each other that much, then no ring at all is necessary to show your commitment.


Edit: ^^ nice post. Wizard for my last point.

My peers relationships are none of my concern.

Been with my gf nearly 3 years, and shes lived with my family n me since last november, I have felt the deppressing feeling of another human sucking every minute of my day....... Guess what still love her, Im doing fine with the engagement ring, not a promise ring in sight

[Tristan95]

Interesting post because coming from the UK, where people living together and having kids together without being married is actually very common.

Ido actually know a family in that situation, and everything is just as happy as any other

[Kraken]

Not sure where this started from, but, I am willing to bet that in every circumstance where someone was given a promise ring, one or both were afraid of a real commitment, and this was just a front.

[sy2502]

Ido actually know a family in that situation, and everything is just as happy as any other

I have no problem with people being together without being married, I was just pointing out that the British poster's position seemed to be at odds with the general state of things in his country.

[Tristan95]

I have no problem with people being together without being married, I was just pointing out that the British poster's position seemed to be at odds with the general state of things in his country.

Yeah, as long as its a healthy relationship, why does a ring and a bit of paper matter.

I think a lot of it still boils down to social norms etc, but real love is real love

[Faparama]

Not sure where this started from, but, I am willing to bet that in every circumstance where someone was given a promise ring, one or both were afraid of a real commitment, and this was just a front.

You are correct. The original thread was deleted, but cliffs on that thread were:

20 y/o kid dating girl for 2 years
Shipping off to navy basic training
Wants to give her promise ring to "show his love"
A misc detective called him out linking a thread said 20 y/o created months ago talking about how he cheated on girlfriend multiple times
Promise ring thread was deleted

[Keltron]

Promise ring as in I promise to be a gaylord.

[wakechica]

If you're going to buy her a ring for Valentines day, I think buying a promise ring is a bit like getting her hopes up then crushing them? It's a bit wet. Just save for the real thing if that's what you want.

[pUniCepts]

They are stupid, just like engagement rings.

[Kraken]

You are correct. The original thread was deleted, but cliffs on that thread were:

20 y/o kid dating girl for 2 years
Shipping off to navy basic training
Wants to give her promise ring to "show his love"
A misc detective called him out linking a thread said 20 y/o created months ago talking about how he cheated on girlfriend multiple times
Promise ring thread was deleted

Surprised, not even once. lolz

[latebloomingmom]

OP promise rings mean exactly jack sh*t.