Sitting Alone in College/Uni Lectures?

[tranceaddict]

because your classes change all the time at college, there is always different people and occasionally your friends are in other time slots etc..

my problem...

what if you don't know anyone in lecture to sit next to or talk with,
do you wait for the tutorial class to try and find someone????

i hate looking like a loner :S

[JLT]

Just strike up a convo with someone..

[JayKid]

Well, just sit where you like sitting, whether that is the front, back, middle, sides, whatever, and talk to whoever is next to you. Just because you don't know someone to begin with doesn't mean they are off limits to talk to... you can always meet new people, lol.

Now, obviously if a lecture hall has hundreds of kids it's a bit less personal and since less discussions (if any) go on and you really don't get to know anyone during the actual class time it'll be harder, but still possible.

Most people don't anyone either you realize, right? It's safe to say most of the kids in most classes, especially lectures (which are often taken by beginning students who have to take beginning courses) with large classes have lots of loners. Just learn to be outgoing and talk. When I was away for college freshmen year (back home for sophmore year at a CC) I actually made better friends with those in my classes than everyone else at college. Talk to some of 'em, ask 'em about work, maybe study with 'em, and maybe you'll even party with some kids and make new friends...

If you aren't outgoing though then there isn't much hope unless someone else talks to you.

[tranceaddict]

yeah its often hard to bring up the balls to strike up a convo,

how about when chicks surround your "seat"

eg. chicks target you and sit in front of you , behind and to the side?

as in a magnet

does this mean they want you to talk to em and generally its the guy who does the approaching not the chick yea?

[sammy21]

Originally Posted by tranceaddict

yeah its often hard to bring up the balls to strike up a convo,

how about when chicks surround your "seat"

eg. chicks target you and sit in front of you , behind and to the side?

as in a magnet

does this mean they want you to talk to em and generally its the guy who does the approaching not the chick yea?

That's just coincidence. Girls don't walk into lecture looking for guys they want to hook up with.

[JayKid]

Does it matter? Whether they are just randomly sitting there, or they like you, or wanna talk, or whatever... who cares, talk regardless. Just suck it up and do it, it ain't that hard once you get going, as long as you are relatively decent at conversating with people.

And hell, sitting next to girls is what you should do, good way to meet 'em. However, I personally (yes maybe I'm a bit of a nerd), sit in the front row (or close to it) regardless just because it helps me pay attention and I can see better.

Now, if a girl is up there, and she's hot, that's great cuz then she's usually relatively smart, motivated, and hot... good stuff. That's what I like though, I'm just not into the girls that sit in the back and miss class, sleep, don't do work, etc. cuz I'm not like that.

[quickups]

Originally Posted by tranceaddict

yeah its often hard to bring up the balls to strike up a convo,

how about when chicks surround your "seat"

eg. chicks target you and sit in front of you , behind and to the side?

as in a magnet

does this mean they want you to talk to em and generally its the guy who does the approaching not the chick yea?

Look, you are thinking too much. Open your mouth and form words with a person next to you. Thats it. Don't over complicate it and don't over think it. The more you think about it, the more it complicates the whole situation and the more you get nervous. You will actually find it that most people don't know other people in their class too. So if your are outgoing to the people you sit around with(try to sit in different places everytime to talk to more people) other people will see that and will be open to talk to you as well.

[Baphomet]

Originally Posted by tranceaddict

because your classes change all the time at college, there is always different people and occasionally your friends are in other time slots etc..

my problem...

what if you don't know anyone in lecture to sit next to or talk with,
do you wait for the tutorial class to try and find someone????

i hate looking like a loner :S

Dude, my College Algebra class was just like that! the class started off with like 30ish people and because the prof was a dumbass by the end of the semester, there was about 11 or 12. Fortunately, I was keeping my grades up so I didn't drop the class.

However, 2 of my friends in that class did drop it. I just struck up a conversation with some random dude and girl. We talked everyday that class met and it was fun talkin to them.

just strike up a convo with the person sitting next to you or something. talk about the professor, class work, etc.

[TricepsNGirls]

How about going to lecture to listen to lecture. I thought people matured out of egocentrism in middle school. No one gives a damn if you're sitting alone, especially in the legitimate classes.

Anyways, if chicks sit around you, it just means that you're not an imposing target and sitting next to you is harmless.

If you saw a fine piece of ass, would you automatically move to sit down next ot her? Put it in a girl's perspective - they don't have balls and they're much less likely to make the first move.

[Froze]

Originally Posted by tranceaddict

because your classes change all the time at college, there is always different people and occasionally your friends are in other time slots etc..

my problem...

what if you don't know anyone in lecture to sit next to or talk with,
do you wait for the tutorial class to try and find someone????

i hate looking like a loner :S

I find it hard to talk to people once class has already started.
Come to class 5-10 minutes early, strike up a convo with someone. If it's a guy, it's really easy. Just ask him any general question:
"Did you finish the homework?"
"How do you like the teacher?"
"You study for the quiz?"

If its a girl, it depends on if you are interested in her, or not. If you aren't interested in her, treat her as a guy and just ask her some general q's like described above.

Now, if its a girl who you are interested in, say something cocky funny.
If you walk by a girl and bump into her, say something like "hey did you just grab my ass? wow first week of classes and i already got sexually harassed"

if you see she always hangs out with another girl(s), and u see her alone, go up to her and say "hey wheres your girlfriend(s)?", with a smile, then walk away. she will guaranteed be drawn into you and be curious why u asked her that.

the best advice i can give you is, make your opener relevant to the situation. like, dont come out of no where and use a canned line like "hey who lies more, men or women?", that will sound so stupid. also, some guys recommend this but i dont think its good advice: basically just going up to people and introducing yourself "hi, my name is ______"... dont do that unless the teacher forces you to, if you do that out of random, the person will be wondering "uhh why is he introducing himself to me?"
its better and more natural to say something situationally relevant, and THEN introduce yourself

[sammy21]

Originally Posted by Froze

Now, if its a girl who you are interested in, say something cocky funny.
If you walk by a girl and bump into her, say something like "hey did you just grab my ass? wow first week of classes and i already got sexually harassed"

if you see she always hangs out with another girl(s), and u see her alone, go up to her and say "hey wheres your girlfriend(s)?", with a smile, then walk away. she will guaranteed be drawn into you and be curious why u asked her that.

The reaction to the first quote would be "uhh..ok" and the second would make you look like a stalker.


I think the worst thing to do is overthink/overplan.

[Froze]

Originally Posted by sammy21

The reaction to the first quote would be "uhh..ok" and the second would make you look like a stalker.

field tested and worked

[rcve]

sit up the front you pussy and not get distracted by all the talking in the middle and back, also the lecturer not speaking loud, speakers not working...

[Baphomet]

Originally Posted by sammy21

The reaction to the first quote would be "uhh..ok" and the second would make you look like a stalker.


I think the worst thing to do is overthink/overplan.

agreed.

just go with the flow. When you plan on getting a chick, one of 2 things happen:

1. you won't get her from the get-go and she will think you're a creep
2. IF you do get her, once she finds out that you had a plan, she will find you pathetic and a slimeball.

just go with it, be yourself. Be cool!

[KillahPriest]

Originally Posted by sammy21

The reaction to the first quote would be "uhh..ok" and the second would make you look like a stalker.


I think the worst thing to do is overthink/overplan.

"is that a gun in my pocket or am i just going to rape you"

"uh what did you just say?"

"sorry the correct answer is both"

[JayKid]

Originally Posted by KillahPriest

"is that a gun in my pocket or am i just going to rape you"

"uh what did you just say?"

"sorry the correct answer is both"

LOL, that's hilarious, reps!

And I agree that going with lames lines is retarded. You don't need to plan out what you are going to say, just start talking. If you are naturally funny be funny. If you aren't, that sucks for you cuz girls like funny, but deal with it cuz forcing funny will just sound retarded.

[socram]

Originally Posted by KillahPriest

"is that a gun in my pocket or am i just going to rape you"

"uh what did you just say?"

"sorry the correct answer is both"

nice one

[Tristan12345]

Originally Posted by KillahPriest

"is that a gun in my pocket or am i just going to rape you"

"uh what did you just say?"

"sorry the correct answer is both"

LOL

[MrSinister]

im normally always a loner n it doesnt bother me at all! lectures can be boring enough to try and listen let alone having ppl u know who will distract you.. you're there to learn not socialise.

[captainhorseboy]

i didnt usually sit with people but i still sometimes met people through incidental things or whatever. don't force it

[Cromulent]

Originally Posted by KillahPriest

"is that a gun in my pocket or am i just going to rape you"

"uh what did you just say?"

"sorry the correct answer is both"

ROFL

[Cromulent]

Oh and the more you are worried about looking like a loner the more you look like one. Just sit wherever you want and do your own thing. Sod what anyone else thinks, people generally have more respect for people who do their own thing instead of worrying about looking 'cool' or being with the 'in crowd'.

[rcve]

it's who you know not what you know.

that's the only other thing, networking and **** at uni so you get the job because you know the right people

[joelz54_99]

Originally Posted by TricepsNGirls

How about going to lecture to listen to lecture. I thought people matured out of egocentrism in middle school. No one gives a damn if you're sitting alone, especially in the legitimate classes.

Anyways, if chicks sit around you, it just means that you're not an imposing target and sitting next to you is harmless.

If you saw a fine piece of ass, would you automatically move to sit down next ot her? Put it in a girl's perspective - they don't have balls and they're much less likely to make the first move.

x2

The worst thing you can worry about when going to class is figuring out who you are going to talk to.

[RockyIV]

Originally Posted by TricepsNGirls

How about going to lecture to listen to lecture. I thought people matured out of egocentrism in middle school. No one gives a damn if you're sitting alone, especially in the legitimate classes.

Anyways, if chicks sit around you, it just means that you're not an imposing target and sitting next to you is harmless.

If you saw a fine piece of ass, would you automatically move to sit down next ot her? Put it in a girl's perspective - they don't have balls and they're much less likely to make the first move.

I couldn't agree more, go to class to listen. Strike up a conversation with them after class if you want to go out with them.

[2stoked]

I've found it impossible to strike up serious conversations and meet people in 50+ people classes. Smaller classes and the time before class where you are waiting to get it, not so hard at all. Plus non-lecture classes are very easy to meet people because you actually get to do stuff with them instead of just listen to the professor.

[xcalibur619]

its pretty simple bro, just turn up a little late, not late enough that everyone will be pissed, but like, 3-5 mins late, so that the lecture has just started, find urself a seat next to some chick who looks nice and is also sitting on her own, sit down, turn to her as u pull out ur notebook/pens/etc. and ask her "hey, sorry to bother you, but have i missed anything important?" odds are she will be courteous enough to answer, usually saying that u didnt miss much, maybe you could be a smartass and say something like "i wish someone had told me i wouldnt be missing out on much before i came to the last couple of lectures" then just hit em up with an introduction, "hi, im _________, pleasure to meet you!" shake hands, throughout the lecture, if she looks bored, talk to her, ask her questions, "so what degree are you taking?", "how are you finding this course?", and so forth.

this has been tested and has worked. ive used it when ive crashed other peoples' lectures and just struck up conversations with girls ive never even seen before.

aside from that bro, tutorials and pracs are great "have-to" situations where you gotta make the best of the oppurtunity and are pretty much forced to talk to people. good luck bro!

[Froze]

Originally Posted by xcalibur619

this has been tested and has worked. ive used it when ive crashed other peoples' lectures and just struck up conversations with girls ive never even seen before.

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL, u crash other people's lectures? so you're walking down the hall, and see a hot chick in a classroom, then u think to yourself "Man I cant let this one slide by, I"M GOING IN! *deep breath*"

its too bad you can only do that in the first week of class

[JoeyDaFool]

you go to college to learn, not high school anymore, you need good grades. if someone thinks he's cool because he's talking during class i'm gonna go berseck on him/her.