New Girl.... Serious Question

[HBY18202]

Well, I broke up with my long term girlfriend about a month ago, and got back into the dating thing about a week ago. I've started hanging out with this one girl who used to be pretty wild.

And when I say wild, I mean so pretty much has a bad reputation, and some of it's rightly reserved. I'm not saying she's been with like 50 guys or anything like that, but she's been with quite a few. I even hooked up with her a year ago at the beginning of senior year.

Well, she's a beautiful girl, and we're both out of high school now and I didn't really talk to her after I hooked up with her the first time, and she's changed alot. Now she doesn't have sex outside of relationships and is more reserved. We've hung out with a few times already and she's made it clear she's interested in a relationship. She's already making me wait to kiss her even though I had sex with her a year ago....

So anyway my question is this, do I date the girl? I'll surely take hell from my friends, and with a past like hers, trust will probably be a factor. Not to mention with a rep like hers, in a small town like mine I'm sure word is going to get back to my parents about something she's done.

[Violator009]

if you dont wanna hear crap from everyone in town id say no, but if u dont care what people think id say go for it.

[xcalibur619]

step 1.
pos rep me

step 2.
wait 5 minutes for eternal happiness to kick in

step 3.
do what works for u bro.u like the girl, go for her, be ur own man, i can understand where ur comin from on the parentals, but really, unless u plan on marrying the girl or going long term, then u shouldnt worry about it too much. just tell ur parents that ur just seeing her as a friend and u enjoy her companionship, its nothing serious. do what works for u.

step 4.
if u get her, of course, what kind of a relationship board/misc section post would this be without the obligatory, PIITB

[NosLliWhsoj]

Originally Posted by HBY18202

Well, I broke up with my long term girlfriend about a month ago, and got back into the dating thing about a week ago. I've started hanging out with this one girl who used to be pretty wild.

And when I say wild, I mean so pretty much has a bad reputation, and some of it's rightly reserved. I'm not saying she's been with like 50 guys or anything like that, but she's been with quite a few. I even hooked up with her a year ago at the beginning of senior year.

Well, she's a beautiful girl, and we're both out of high school now and I didn't really talk to her after I hooked up with her the first time, and she's changed alot. Now she doesn't have sex outside of relationships and is more reserved. We've hung out with a few times already and she's made it clear she's interested in a relationship. She's already making me wait to kiss her even though I had sex with her a year ago....

So anyway my question is this, do I date the girl? I'll surely take hell from my friends, and with a past like hers, trust will probably be a factor. Not to mention with a rep like hers, in a small town like mine I'm sure word is going to get back to my parents about something she's done.

if you like her, who cares what other people think. worry about yourself and where you are at now, and what you want now.

[Kirby28]

If you are really into her and don't care about her past, you should go for it. Live your life for you, not other people.

[scottoo]

alotta people have a slutty period of their lives...if she truly changed than who cares.

but you mentioned trust... if you have trust issuses, its going to be a mess, you need to accept her for who she is and not who she was, if you dont think you can trust her than you will be getting into a mess... im sure youve done some girls and things that would make you sound slutty, its not her fault that people put her laundry out to dry, but not yours

[HBY18202]

^Well some people have a few pieces of laundry and some have a full load...

I don't know, I'm just going to hang out with her and see how it goes...

[bootybabe]

reading that you just got out of a relationship a month ago I would say To any one not to get in another relationship that fast. But that is just me.

[RonaldMcDonald]

have her as a f*ck buddy. If your friends give you ****, its outta jealousy.

[joshwilson1]

It sounds like you may not be ready to deal with the issues and situations that will arrise from dating a girl with a sketchy past. If you are worried about your rep and what others are going to think of you, she may not be the one for you.

My suggestion for you is to take it really slow and feel her out (non sexual) so that you know for sure she has changed and you believe her and begin to trust her. You might want to be open and honest with her. If she cannot handle this, then she has not changed enough to warrent your time and/or attention.

[xplosivsf]

Been in the same situation before as well. If you can get over her past and still want to be with her, than major respect goes out to you. If she was up front about her promiscuity in the past then it would be much easier to trust that she has possibly changed her ways. If you had to do a little digging to find it out the truth about the amount of sexual partners she's had, then I would say that she is still a little too sexually out there. I also have a hard time understanding why women pull that "I've slept with you before but now I am gonna hold out on you" card. Plus, when you get out of a relationship your standards drop a significant amount. My advice to you would be wait it out for a couple weeks and see if any better situation arises with a different girl.

[HBY18202]

^^Rep'd both of you.

I don't think that I'm not ready for another girlfriend, simply because I've always had one. I like the thought of being cared about.

And about holding out, my problem now is seeing if she really is doing it because of how she is, or just because she wants me as a boyfriend and is putting on a front.

Either way, I'm fairly sure she'll be loyal, because she has been with her last two boyfriends, but the image in the back of my head is the drunk party girl.

I think I'm going out with her tomorrow, so I'll give you guys an update.

Thanks again for all the advice, and sorry I couldn't give more reps.

[CEO Josh]

Originally Posted by HBY18202

Well, I broke up with my long term girlfriend about a month ago, and got back into the dating thing about a week ago. I've started hanging out with this one girl who used to be pretty wild.

And when I say wild, I mean so pretty much has a bad reputation, and some of it's rightly reserved. I'm not saying she's been with like 50 guys or anything like that, but she's been with quite a few. I even hooked up with her a year ago at the beginning of senior year.

Well, she's a beautiful girl, and we're both out of high school now and I didn't really talk to her after I hooked up with her the first time, and she's changed alot. Now she doesn't have sex outside of relationships and is more reserved. We've hung out with a few times already and she's made it clear she's interested in a relationship. She's already making me wait to kiss her even though I had sex with her a year ago....

So anyway my question is this, do I date the girl? I'll surely take hell from my friends, and with a past like hers, trust will probably be a factor. Not to mention with a rep like hers, in a small town like mine I'm sure word is going to get back to my parents about something she's done.

hell no, people are creatures of habit, unless shes extremely strong willed she will most likely eventally return to the way she used to be. Shes prob tired of being known as the whore and wants a serious bf to validate her as such. By not giving you sex or even a kiss it shows shes trying way to hard to promote her new "image" and prob hopes word will get around that shes changed.

[user23960508710783]

You just got out of a relationship. Getting into another one is like getting out of a jail on parole and then saying "Ok, now how can I break the law today?"