This chick is cool, but she treats all guys the same?

Superdude87 · 11-08-2006, 09:53 PM

There is this girl I work with. She's awesome, I really dig her. Whenever we work together we have a blast, we're always laughing and joking around, it's cool. The only problem is it seems she's the same way with other guys too (she's pretty giggly) so I don't know. A few weeks back she invited me out the movies with her, which I went to, then a few weeks later she asked me to go hang out with her and her friends, which I couldn't do, but we still hang out at work and have fun.

Anyway, it seems she's really giggly and has the same kinda "relationship" with other guys as she does with me, which leads me to believe that I'm really nothing more than a friend to her. Not really sure what to think, but I kinda dig this girl. Definately hot, definately smart and way cool in most other ways. Not sure if I should/could pursue this further or just back off. Thoughts?

Stalwart Steve · 11-08-2006, 10:03 PM

I dunno Steve. Perhaps you should ask her someplace yourself, rather than the other way around.

Superdude87 · 11-08-2006, 10:04 PM

Hey it's you again! Haha...yeah well I asked her today to go to a movie tomorrow night so yeah.

effortiskey · 11-08-2006, 10:16 PM

yeah i know how you feel, a lot of my friends act kind to everyone, so it doesn't mean she necessarily likes you.

The Experiment · 11-08-2006, 10:26 PM

You two are friends and she just feels comfortable around you.

I would back off but remain friends. Never hurts to have a friend who is a girl.

Stalwart Steve · 11-08-2006, 10:29 PM

Piitb?

ThatDarnDavidKi11111 · 11-08-2006, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Superdude87

There is this girl I work with. She's awesome, I really dig her. Whenever we work together we have a blast, we're always laughing and joking around, it's cool. The only problem is it seems she's the same way with other guys too (she's pretty giggly) so I don't know. A few weeks back she invited me out the movies with her, which I went to, then a few weeks later she asked me to go hang out with her and her friends, which I couldn't do, but we still hang out at work and have fun.

Anyway, it seems she's really giggly and has the same kinda "relationship" with other guys as she does with me, which leads me to believe that I'm really nothing more than a friend to her. Not really sure what to think, but I kinda dig this girl. Definately hot, definately smart and way cool in most other ways. Not sure if I should/could pursue this further or just back off. Thoughts?

Your first problem is thinking shes special.

Kal-L · 11-08-2006, 10:52 PM

I say nothing ventured nothing gained. Whats the worst that can happen, she says "I like you only as a friend"..pssst The best...

ironman1964bc · 11-08-2006, 10:56 PM

I work with a girl just like that. There are 6 of us guys and her that work the night shift. At first, she was friendly with one guy more than the others but he ended up quitting, so she started getting chummy with another guy. He ended up asking her out and she instantly turned a cold shoulder to him and pretty much avoids him now. Now, she is hanging around me alot and we have a great time teasing each other. I will always tell her what looks good on her and she will come in to work the next day wearing that exact thing. The other day she wore a lynyrd skynyrd tank top and low cut jeans with a thong. Did I mention that she has 36 doulble d's? I did get her to join a gym and start working out, even though I workout at home.

She is a real fun girl and we can talk about anything, but I would never ask her out because I know that she would turn to ice fast. I am 15 years older than her and I have known these types of girls my whole life. They are nothing but teasers but as long as you tease them right back, they can be alot of fun. If something does happen outside of work, she will have to initiate it because I never will.

tranceaddict · 11-08-2006, 10:58 PM

chicks are messed up man

MrBrain- · 11-09-2006, 12:38 AM

wtf??!! lol....she asked u out to the movies and showed u 2 her friends and u constantly flirt at work...U probably already missed ur chance cose she definietly digged u but now u probably got her in friends mode with ur lack of alpha 'ok now ur mine bitch' attitude.

As long as the time frame isnt to large (this has been going on 2 months MAX) she might still dig u (depends on whether she gets lots of attention from guys regularly)

so many men underestimate girls, they get hit on all the time and they are VERY aware of not giving men the wrong impression (except for chronic flirts as mentioned earlier) ...so when they ask u 2 do social things..its their chick way of givin u a shove in the right direction if uve been to pansy to ask her out previously...cept u didnt take the hint...which could land u in the friends boat very shortly if u dont strike soon.

U gotta remember that chicks do everything for a REASON with guys...they dont jus ask u to the movies on a whim, unless ur SERIOUSLY in the friends zone in which case both u and her would be aware of this and a social thing like this would be normal.

this ones a no brainer...u said u asked her 2 the movies....well hold her hand...touch her elbow when uh talk to her...anything! jus body contact and let her know u want IN!! GODAMMIT!!!

NosLliWhsoj · 11-09-2006, 09:13 AM

you me shes likes, like ATTENTION from like every guy like thats around? no way!

kamis · 11-09-2006, 09:17 AM

dude sounds to me like you missed your chance. time to find another!

Lil Freek · 11-09-2006, 09:45 AM

there's a million tactics to use from where you are.
-ask her a relationship question - her answer can often gauge where she seats you.
-ask her if she has any single friends that are like her, cuz you think she's slick
-ask her out to hang out and initiate 'accidental' physical contact - watch her reaction VERY carefully.
-just be her friend.
-jokingly ask her if she'll bear your children cuz you want some with her hair colour
-if you've got a nice ass - ask her for her opinion on it, and whether or not you should work on it more.

there's a million ways to figure your situation out. She's obviously a natural flirt and just super friendly. is her name Tasha? that would be my ex you're looking at. Every single male friend she had thought she had a crush on them, but she was just a natural flirt and nauseatingly friendly. Like 5 restraining orders later, all the guys around her got the clue that she's not to be hit on.

I would avoid FLAT OUT hitting on her, as you work together and it could make your work environment very awkward if she says 'no - ewww'

*note: i'm currently single - so really, wtf do i know?

Superdude87 · 11-09-2006, 10:47 AM

Yeah, I don't know I guess we'll see what happens. We're going to a movie/hanging out tonight so I'll try some of what you guys told me.

On the other hand, not really sure if I would want a relationship with someone I work with...but maybe...we'll see.

Lil Freek · 11-09-2006, 10:53 AM

i don't remember how the saying goes...
something like don't **** where you work?
if it goes sour, you're making your life a lot harder than it needs to be.

pondus_levo · 11-09-2006, 10:53 AM

Typical actions of an insecure attention whore. Even if she likes you more than a friend, you don't want a girl like that.

Superdude87 · 11-09-2006, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by pondus_levo

Typical actions of an insecure attention whore. Even if she likes you more than a friend, you don't want a girl like that.

Yeah I'm kinda thinking that too. She's definately a partier, and I really don't want a girl like that either. She has a ton of guy friends, hangs out with them alot. I'll be the first to admit I'm a somewhat jealous guy, and if my girlfriend was hanging out other guys (even just friends) and constantly partying and getting drunk every weekend, it wouldn't work with me.

Lil Freek · 11-09-2006, 12:03 PM

um.. ya. you don't want to mess with that girl.
be her friend, no more.

If you get to have casual sex with her... i would doublewrap it.

bootybabe · 11-09-2006, 12:07 PM

Its kinda of hard to tell you what I want to because you and her to work together. Maybe if you talk to her on the phone or something ask her if she could see you more then a friend.. if not cool stay her friend.

Superdude87 · 11-09-2006, 12:08 PM

I love how I can come on here one night, and listen to the wise knowledge of my BB.com brothers and totally change my view on anything haha. Thanks dudes

Nedo · 11-10-2006, 06:54 AM

Its real akward if it dont work out man. Dont **** in your own pool. Trust in.

Jem777 · 11-10-2006, 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Lil Freek

there's a million ways to figure your situation out. She's obviously a natural flirt and just super friendly. is her name Tasha? that would be my ex you're looking at. Every single male friend she had thought she had a crush on them, but she was just a natural flirt and nauseatingly friendly. Like 5 restraining orders later, all the guys around her got the clue that she's not to be hit on.

Lol I had an ex who was like that. It drove me fkin nuts.

Ex-Terminator · 11-10-2006, 08:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ironman1964bc

At first, she was friendly with one guy more than the others but he ended up quitting, so she started getting chummy with another guy. He ended up asking her out and she instantly turned a cold shoulder to him and pretty much avoids him now.

This is what I keep talking about. The mixed signals from women are NO accident. They play this vague "flirty" game to keep their options open. The idea is to project that "I'm sugar and spice and everything nice," but if any unwanted male attention comes her way, then it becomes, "Oopsie. I must have given him the wrong signals, silly innocent me."

Always beware of the smiling woman.

Ex-Terminator · 11-10-2006, 08:49 AM

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Originally Posted by MrBrain-

wtf??!! lol....she asked u out to the movies and showed u 2 her friends and u constantly flirt at work...U probably already missed ur chance cose she definietly digged u but now u probably got her in friends mode with ur lack of alpha 'ok now ur mine bitch' attitude.

Not so fast, my friend. You're only looking at the surface of the situation. Many women these days will practically throw themselves at you just to play a game. If you respond, she wins. Then she'll look down her arrogant nose at you because she won.

I've heard stories of bitches in clubs that will stare, flirt, blink the innocent big Doe-eyes at a guy all night. Then when he finally works up the nerve to ask her to dance or whatever, she says, "With you? YEAH, RIGHT!!!!!" Then she goes off to have a laugh with her girlfriends at his expense.

Just saying. I mean, are you aware?

Anwynd · 11-10-2006, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by ironman1964bc

I work with a girl just like that. There are 6 of us guys and her that work the night shift. At first, she was friendly with one guy more than the others but he ended up quitting, so she started getting chummy with another guy. He ended up asking her out and she instantly turned a cold shoulder to him and pretty much avoids him now. Now, she is hanging around me alot and we have a great time teasing each other. I will always tell her what looks good on her and she will come in to work the next day wearing that exact thing. The other day she wore a lynyrd skynyrd tank top and low cut jeans with a thong. Did I mention that she has 36 doulble d's? I did get her to join a gym and start working out, even though I workout at home.

She is a real fun girl and we can talk about anything, but I would never ask her out because I know that she would turn to ice fast. I am 15 years older than her and I have known these types of girls my whole life. They are nothing but teasers but as long as you tease them right back, they can be alot of fun. If something does happen outside of work, she will have to initiate it because I never will.

WTF?! 15 years older and you're flirting with her? I hope she's atleast 25+

Lil Freek · 11-10-2006, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Jem777

Lol I had an ex who was like that. It drove me fkin nuts.

luckily.. she was HOT.. and i loved telling people she was outta their league.
the we broke up, and she got fat.
not so many guys were hitting on her anymore... at least not quality guys, lol