Ok this girl I just met...and my ****ty halloween.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 08:26 AM

problems..

SOOO..this girl I just met funny enough seems to like me a real lot..she has some issues but we have had some conversations where we just spill the beans, talk about our lives and are both real open...she is cool and we have already made plans to go to NYC in a couple weeks and btw she was the first to call me..lol.

So basically she invites me out with her and her friends for a halloween thing...she tells me to meet her at this bar in Worcester mass so I go ok..now here is where things get hairy, I am not that huge in my eyes 6'1" 235lbs lol..I walk up to the table where she is, sitting there with her friends..all short, chunky, dorky punk type kids, goth types lol..I am a bit of a punk rock guy myself but more about the music and relaxed about it..they all give me the who the **** is this look and the guys act really intimidated by me. So I sorta say hi and say BRB ( I Had to go potty lol), i get a beer and go out and it is the same vibe of BS..like immediatly I am not welcome there.. I made some jokes a couple of them laugh as does she..but the vibe is still there..so I started acting a bit rude haha..so they basically decide to walk somewhere and as they get up she waits for me and I tell her "I can feel the love from your friends" and that I am about to get really rude because I cant stand people like that..she is like "be as rude as you wanna be" and we both laugh and again that manages to impress me on her part.. But by this time I just basically dont wanna be there, I hang out with a friend I brought and she hangs out with her group mostly..that I am avoiding somewhat btw. At one point she puts her hand on my shoulders and smiles, makes a joke and her friends look at us really uncomfortably..and im like WTF! Who are these *******s,,you know? They all get up to go to dennys and I call them all out, saying how I feel the I am not welcome vibe and that you guys obviously dont want me around and how I say I know I'm the odd man out and if it would make you all have a better night and me I'd rather just let you guys do whatever you wanna do. One kid is like its ok man..and she really wanted me to go with them all..I could tell by the look on her face. So I said I'd meet them there (my friend was in the process getting beers already) she acts worried about me, wanting me to go..but her friends are dicks so.. I stay behind at the bar planning on meeting her there...eventually we go but I cant ****ing find the place and I call her and tell her that I would make it up to her just me and her when we hangout..which she sounds happy about and to call me tommorow..and she is all ok..that is basically the end but I mean..people have acted intimidated by me, put off by me..judged me..but who are these mother****ers to completely pull this attitude BS when they dont even know me? My priority is her but still...I was waiting for one of them to say something rude to me and I was gonna get real openly mad. I hate ****ing people with sticks up their ass...when she calls me today I am gonna tell her how we are gonna have our own halloween, we can get a huge pumpkin..carve and smash it.. and im gonna have people I know give us candy, we can dress up and watch horror movies and maybe finish off with a trip to the beach to make sandcastles or something LOL..I donno..so that was my halloween..right..

Honestly, I should have just told her that maybe we can hangout some other time and I can tell that her friends don't want me around and I don't wanna be around rude, stupid people. Rather than dragging the night on and having a crappy time. I should have made it the best for myself..had a few more beers and gone to have fun somewhere else..am I wrong?

Blake Austin · 11-01-2006, 08:31 AM

Cliffnotes please.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Blake Austin

Cliffnotes please.

How about taking 60 seconds to read?

Blake Austin · 11-01-2006, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by wanaBsedated

How about taking 60 seconds to read?

LOL

Ok I'll try.

For you.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 08:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Blake Austin

LOL

Ok I'll try.

For you.

LOl ok..thanks. I am still moody and youre relaxed so I repped you..just a bit i know.

Blake Austin · 11-01-2006, 08:47 AM

Ok, I read it.

I liked her initiative, calling you first and asking you to meet up with her, that's a good thing, she's interested. A question, how old are you compared to her and her friends?

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Blake Austin

Ok, I read it.

I liked her initiative, calling you first and asking you to meet up with her, that's a good thing, she's interested. A question, how old are you compared to her and her friends?

I am 27 and she is 21..her friends about the same age give or take a few years I am guessing.

Blake Austin · 11-01-2006, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by wanaBsedated

I am 27 and she is 21..her friends about the same age give or take a few years I am guessing.

Well that's not too much of a difference, I assumed it may be a bit bigger. I just sense her friends were definitely put off by you, being an outsider, being invited into their little circle on that night. It seems as it you tried/attempted to have fun/mingle with her and her friends, it just didn't click, for some reason. No big deal.

You like this chick? If so, get her alone, on a one on one date, see if that works for you. If not, again, no big deal.

JonZ · 11-01-2006, 08:56 AM

Would have concentrated on her and ignored her stupid friends.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 08:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Blake Austin

Well that's not too much of a difference, I assumed it may be a bit bigger. I just sense her friends were definitely put off by you, being an outsider, being invited into their little circle on that night. It seems as it you tried/attempted to have fun/mingle with her and her friends, it just didn't click, for some reason. No big deal.

You like this chick? If so, get her alone, on a one on one date, see if that works for you. If not, again, no big deal.

Nah, they judged me right away before I even opened my mouth..the guys just stared at me like a combination of intimidated and bothered. When I was walking into the bar after I said hi especially..One girl was annoyed by me being there obviously..one less so..she was happy to see me I guess..but was pissed I didnt have my costume on lol. I guess I get bothered alot because I am way more open about giving people a chance and believe in personal freedom for real..

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by JonZ

Would have concentrated on her and ignored her stupid friends.

I know..I just get defensive because my life is a bit rocky right now..I guess my temper is a lil short and my tolerence pretty low.

deadbeatrec · 11-01-2006, 09:04 AM

punch those immature little bastards in the face.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 09:06 AM

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punch those immature little bastards in the face.

I was waiting for one of them to say something to me...I so was man lol.

If you knew what I was into you would see how quickly they would have fallen LOL.

dash_riprock · 11-01-2006, 09:06 AM

maybe its the fact that you are 6 yearrs older than them all????? my gf is 21 and im 20 and i know that if some 27 year old came up to the table trying to mack on a 21 year old and i was there i would think he were a joke too. there are alot of chicks your age bro. and if you cant out alpha a buncha hurtn *** punk kids you really suck, especially whe nthey are 6 years younger than you. lol.

JonZ · 11-01-2006, 09:24 AM

"I guess my temper is a lil short and my tolerence pretty low."

I cant definitely relate. Remember youre still getting to know this girl. Letting her see your ugly side isnt going to whoo her.

I woudl just try to spend time with her away from them. If you do have to be around them, ignore them. Dont be rude, if they talk to you reply bu other than that just work on her.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by riprock

maybe its the fact that you are 6 yearrs older than them all????? my gf is 21 and im 20 and i know that if some 27 year old came up to the table trying to mack on a 21 year old and i was there i would think he were a joke too. there are alot of chicks your age bro. and if you cant out alpha a buncha hurtn *** punk kids you really suck, especially whe nthey are 6 years younger than you. lol.

27 and 21 isnt that big of a deal...they didnt even know how old I was and honestly I look really young for how old I am. Most people guess I am in my early 20's.

Maybe to her dumbass friends that age matters but not in relationships.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by JonZ

"I guess my temper is a lil short and my tolerence pretty low."

I cant definitely relate. Remember youre still getting to know this girl. Letting her see your ugly side isnt going to whoo her.

I woudl just try to spend time with her away from them. If you do have to be around them, ignore them. Dont be rude, if they talk to you reply bu other than that just work on her.

I will when we are alone and we have fun.

Julie5150 · 11-01-2006, 09:33 AM

You said they were the goth type, yeah? They dig Type O and Nine Inch Nails and prefer black and a tanless physique?
Looks wise - is she fitting right in with them?

Goth is not big, muscular and strong. -Not usually.
Unless you have ass-long jet black hair, tattoos and look like Peter Steele from Type O - you'll never 'fit in' until they get to know you better (if they ever do).
Goth guys or psuedo goth - if they're the skinny vampire type - do not like guys who represent physical fitness and strength.

She, seeing as how she has interest in you, would do best to ditch her friends. She's probably not quite so into the 'goth punk' realm as they seem to be.

Her interest in you is probably because she's feeling a bit more mature than they are - treat her as such. Get her away from her friends, take her to a nice place to eat - not Denny's. And have one-on-one time with no teenage/college bull****.

If she insists on meeting you with her friends - 'cause some chicks are chicken **** that way - then I highly suggest you meet her, hang out for a few, take her by the hand and take her AWAY from them and their influence.

I know her type - I use to be that way.
Waffle House was my hang-out and I had the whole goth-freak thing going on.
Trust me, it's a phase of bull**** that a lot of chicks leave behind when they discover the joys of being with a real man.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Julie5150

You said they were the goth type, yeah? They dig Type O and Nine Inch Nails and prefer black and a tanless physique?
Looks wise - is she fitting right in with them?

Goth is not big, muscular and strong. -Not usually.
Unless you have ass-long jet black hair, tattoos and look like Peter Steele from Type O - you'll never 'fit in' until they get to know you better (if they ever do).
Goth guys or psuedo goth - if they're the skinny vampire type - do not like guys who represent physical fitness and strength.

She, seeing as how she has interest in you, would do best to ditch her friends. She's probably not quite so into the 'goth punk' realm as they seem to be.

Her interest in you is probably because she's feeling a bit more mature than they are - treat her as such. Get her away from her friends, take her to a nice place to eat - not Denny's. And have one-on-one time with no teenage/college bull****.

If she insists on meeting you with her friends - 'cause some chicks are chicken **** that way - then I highly suggest you meet her, hang out for a few, take her by the hand and take her AWAY from them and their influence.

I know her type - I use to be that way.
Waffle House was my hang-out and I had the whole goth-freak thing going on.
Trust me, it's a phase of bull**** that a lot of chicks leave behind when they discover the joys of being with a real man.

Thanks..

Yeah she is a bit of that type..but I am attracted to her rawness..she is different from her friends that is something I noticed immediatly.

I am into being who I am, really and not trying real hard..I like just having fun in general. Lol I also noticed many times in the past during the years of my dyed blue hair when I was really muscular people being really intimidated by me at first even thoe I was nice and I have a great sense of humor. The doublestandered in those groups is so funny isn't it?

Maybe she is moving into the phase of wanting a real man as you said..because she seemed really happy when I gave her my #, was the first to call..and talks to me about her life a whole lot. She pretends like all guys are evil but I know when I act liek I care about how she feels and I compliment her..that she takes it in. I hear it in her voice and thats he likes it alot.

People are dumb lol...
I am just venting here.

Thanks for the replies...
J

Julie5150 · 11-01-2006, 09:44 AM

She's been deprived far too damn long.

I was like that until I met my husband.
The only thing I never ditched was my corset fetish and chainmaille.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Julie5150

She's been deprived far too damn long.

I was like that until I met my husband.
The only thing I never ditched was my corset fetish and chainmaille.

LOl yah..plus she needs someone to listen and udnerstand her, its all a bit complicated I guess.

Nice that you never ditched that LOL!

-Live2Lift- · 11-01-2006, 10:03 AM

Good things are that the girl you into seems to support you more than her friends, and she called you first. It's a bummer her friends are judgemental *******s.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by -Live2Lift-

Good things are that the girl you into seems to support you more than her friends, and she called you first. It's a bummer her friends are judgemental *******s.

LOl ya, its ok tho..

If we get together I am gonna become the infection..you know? Where it all starts slow and then BAM I am in her life evrywhere and she always talks about me LOL..that should piss them, off nicely.

I am a really good guy to have around too bad for them..maybe she will see how fake they are or something.

Maverick77 · 11-01-2006, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by riprock

maybe its the fact that you are 6 yearrs older than them all????? my gf is 21 and im 20 and i know that if some 27 year old came up to the table trying to mack on a 21 year old and i was there i would think he were a joke too.

I agree. I know six years doesnt sound like alot but to protective friends it is. Thats like a senior in Highschool dating an 8th grader, plus you might look older than you really are. Just get to know the kids, they will probaly soften up.

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 11:18 AM

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I agree. I know six years doesnt sound like alot but to protective friends it is. Thats like a senior in Highschool dating an 8th grader, plus you might look older than you really are. Just get to know the kids, they will probaly soften up.

I look younger than I really am. Alot of people have acted this way towards me, alot of people are threatened by me..especially in new groups. I donno why really. It has happened since I was alot younger till now..

How is it like a senior in HS dating an 8th grader? We are in our 20's now..both of us so I think those lines pretty much get erased. If I was like 33 I could see why..but she is 21 and I am 27...

GEEZ

bootybabe · 11-01-2006, 11:30 AM

I had this happen to me once. I went to a different state to see a guy's friends with him and they all acted like I was an outsider. I laughed it off and was like whatever. Well the guy could sense I was getting pissed by the looks so he asked if I wanted to go see this band play. Well we go and his friends show up and we acted as if they weren't there. It was pretty good

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 11:37 AM

Yeah..I was having a ****ty night before I eevn got there..

I shoulda just said that "I am not having a good night already and your friends are lame, we should hang out just the two of us..I am gonna hang here at the bar for a bit, if you come back cool..otherwise I am gonna try to make the best of my night because I need to relax for my own life...it is important you know? Call me tommorow if we don't see eachother tonight..I want you to be happy and have a good night..but this is just ass for me and my mood.."

When she calls we will talk and it will be fine.

**Nainoa** · 11-01-2006, 11:52 AM

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27 and 21 isnt that big of a deal...they didnt even know how old I was and honestly I look really young for how old I am. Most people guess I am in my early 20's.

Maybe to her dumbass friends that age matters but not in relationships.

Well 27 and 21 "Can" make a world of difference... The gulf in maturity from 21 to 27 is a lot more than it than say between 31 and 37.

A 21 year old party girl, surrounded by her group of College party buddies, and someone who's 27 and has established themselves into a career and moving towards the future, are going to naturally clash.

I mean when I was 27 (Not all that long ago) I was dating a 22 year old and had the same problems you describe above with her friends, and as I got to know her better, I ended up having maturity problems with her.

****

Not saying that's the case here, but that span of life in your 20's where you're figuring yourself out can be a hell of a lot of chaos, with plenty of room for personality clashes... I wouldn't dismiss it quite so easily.

Gibblets · 11-01-2006, 12:05 PM

Worcester sucks. Where did you guys go? Mohynhans? The boynton?

wanaBsedated · 11-01-2006, 01:38 PM

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Worcester sucks. Where did you guys go? Mohynhans? The boynton?

****ing Ralph's diner and yes worcester sucks.

I am 27 but I have had a difficult life and to be honest with you Nainoa...I am still figuring out everything...which can make it all the more frusterating when **** like this happens. I have alot going on, you know?