Are you Direct or Indirect

damngenetics · 10-19-2006, 06:34 PM

I've never really thought much about how you ask someone a question until I read an article about direct or indirection.

Example: You let someone borrow a book and it's reached that time where you would like the book back. So are you direct and say "hey give me my book back" or indirect and say something like "hey how did you like the book"

Or another example I read was something about in a corporate setting. Where the boss is talking to his secretary about how a certain report he has to do is causing him trouble, basically leaving the door open for the secretary to say "how about I just do those reports for you".

I haven't really noticed wether I'm direct or indirect with people. The article also mentioned being direct can come off as rude. However indirect questions tend to offend or annoy men morso than women, because you would just rather them ask the question knowing what they really want.

InternetsUser · 10-19-2006, 06:40 PM

Probably more direct, though I'm not outspoken. Indirect questions, like "hinting" at what you want, just seems... weak, not to the point, and like a waste of time. It's probably only rude to be direct if the way in which you say it is rude.

Contract Killer · 10-19-2006, 06:40 PM

Mainly, I'll find that I'm extremely direct with people, but I find when someone is direct with me, I feel offended. It helps me kinda put things in perspective. Still though, I believe in a conversation, you should only say what needs to be said, no beating around bushes.

damngenetics · 10-19-2006, 06:55 PM

What about taking things personal. People say don't take it personally. What things should you take personal and what things don't you take personal?

bleeder · 10-19-2006, 07:06 PM

I'm very direct and abrupt.

I love talking with other blunt people. It lets you know exactly where a person stands on something. Some people do take it offensive though... but oh well, i don't care to talk to them anyways.

Quatchkopf · 10-19-2006, 07:08 PM

Direct and rude if its been too long. Its my **** and if I borrowed something from you I would return it in a reasonable time.

bleeder · 10-19-2006, 07:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Quatchkopf

Direct and rude if its been too long. Its my **** and if I borrowed something from you I would return it in a reasonable time.

wtf then??! i want my Harry Potter book back!