Reps for Great advice. Dating 2 girls, really screwed myself over, ahh sh!t

an1m · 05-07-2006, 10:04 AM

goddammit.

Started goin out with this girl in my school like a month and a half ago off and on. At one point it started to really go down t3h old crapper

I find out that a girl has a crush on me and she's really great, had just started hangin out where she worked because she and a bunch of other people from my hi school work there and so I start hanging out with her, talking to her.

This week was her birthday and everything was going cool but then the first girl and I like had an argument type off thing in class that day and had resolved to finish talking it out after school. The new girl sees me walking with her after school... on her birthday <---- ****ing stupid of me. I walked right past her and her / my friends BUT I did speak to them all and I didnt snub them or anyhting.

Turns out that after the conversation things with the first girl cleared up ... basically no problems there right now all the old **** got talked out. BUT I still havent REALLY tried to rekindle eveything because I want to start something with the new girl.

Hung out with the new girl, and her friends who are now my friends but like really her friends and I told her to take a wlak with me, she said she was ready to go but it never happened. I'd planned to kiss her and talk to her about the possibility of there being something between the 2 of us but NOPE.

then last night one of her friends IM's me and basically tells me I'm an *******, shady and ****ed up and that im trying to be a "pimp" in a half joking way and said "of course she wasnt going to take a walk with you after we saw you walking with _____ and on her birthday"

Apparently they all have this idea that i'm WITH the first girl and i'm not. Have the idea that I'm fooling around with her, which I'm not. I dunno, this is really long and I'm screwed , dunno what to do.

LMW · 05-07-2006, 10:12 AM

well if they already think your fooling around with the first girl,you may as well do it

an1m · 05-07-2006, 10:18 AM

Yeah... the thing is I kind of was planning to this week. Like I'm pretty sure the new girl talks to other guys. I remember I was hanging with this kid i know we'll call him Guy. So Me one of my best friends and guy are randomly hanging out, decided to go job hunting, he brings up NEW girl and says how hes "trying to hook up with her" I had planned to stop by and see her b/c she works at the mall and then she actually calls "Guy" and says she wants to see him in action job hunting... probably didnt know he was right there enxt to me.

Then again she never hangs out with this guy and she hangs out with me all the time, however i saw him start flirting with her in class on Friday and she was flirting back with him a little but RIGHT in front of my face. I didn't really know how to react because she's not WITH me, but then again wtf. Like just over a month ago I stood up for Guy when he was about to get his ass kicked, and somebody was in his face but yeah.

Powerslave_ · 05-07-2006, 10:20 AM

You could always just say to them that you were just talking to the first girl, and have no feelings like that for her.

Why wouldnt that work?

an1m · 05-07-2006, 10:23 AM

1) The first girl wants to hook up with me... actually it was going to happen this week, was actually talking to her right before New girl/s friend Imed me ...

2) what should I do if I see Guy trying to move in on New girl again

3) Why do they think it's so wrong for me to talk to more than one girl? It's not like New girl didn't know that I was dating girl one when we started hanging out. Her friend basically told me it wouldnt have been cool for me to have kissed her because i'd be moving 2 girls toward a relationship ... i aint movin the first girl anywhere, I MOVED AWAY from a relationship with her just to see if there was anything with the New girl.

4) I'm not going to completely throw away a good thing to try and trade up, and I'm definitely not going to just completely end things out of the blue with the first girl because it'd break her heart and the thing with the New girl isn't a sure thing. and When I'm trying to figure out where we stand Her friend tells me i was being "shady" and an ******* and that it wouldnt have been cool for me to have kissed her that night.

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