Should I wait for her to call me?

pcinternet · 09-01-2007, 09:26 AM

Last thursday I had a coffee with the girl that I'm interested in... so we talked for almost two hours, everything seemed went well...at the end she told me about her plans for this weekend so I asked if she would like to hangout or something next weekend, she told she'll call me or message me...
so should I wait for her or should I call her?
And I just cant stop thinking about her!

Fidelis · 09-01-2007, 09:34 AM

She said she'd call you, so let her call you. If you call her you will come off as being needy, so DO NOT DO IT.

pcinternet · 09-01-2007, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Fidelis

She said she'd call you, so let her call you. If you call her you will come off as being needy, so DO NOT DO IT.

Thats what I was thinking, so pretty much if she doesn't call I assume that she's not interested... I get to move on with my life.

amberlynn72 · 09-01-2007, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Fidelis

She said she'd call you, so let her call you. If you call her you will come off as being needy, so DO NOT DO IT.

I don't think that is really the right advice.. I think you should call her if it's been awhile that you spoke to her..You won't come off as needy if you call being casual and ask her if she wants to hang out in a non chalant way. Oftentime women just don't call ..its kinda like chivalry, shyness etc etc.

I rarely call men, I want them to make an effort. If the effort is not there, I just assume he didn't like me all that much.

And you are taking the chance on missing out on a potential really good opportunity to be with a girl you really like. because of a game.

Let's be honest, most guys don't really care about every girl, it's all about getting laid. So now why should she call you? YOu must pursue her if you like her that much.

You are the guy take initiative and call.

phateless · 09-01-2007, 11:10 AM

AmberLynn and Fidelis both make good points. You're kinda stuck in the middle. If she's not interested, she's not interested. How long should he give it before he calls? If she really is planning to call, him calling could be a bad move.

amberlynn72 · 09-01-2007, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by phateless

AmberLynn and Fidelis both make good points. You're kinda stuck in the middle. If she's not interested, she's not interested. How long should he give it before he calls? If she really is planning to call, him calling could be a bad move.

A few days at most ..but he said he hasnt talked to her for about a week? if that's the case he might have blown it for the weekend and might have to ask her about the next weekend. She could have plans before then.

Seriously, every girl is waiting for the man to call. TRUST ME

This NEVER changes no matter how much we evolve.

I am 34 and still waiting for him to call..LOL

I make things easy for the guy though. if he is interested in me ..I tell him straight up i wont be calling so he better call me if he wants me..LOL... i am very honest...time and time again guys say oh you are such a breath of fresh air..

Why the hell am i still single then?? if i am not like all the other girls ,...YOU SCARED? i need some relationship advice..haha

pcinternet · 09-01-2007, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by phateless

AmberLynn and Fidelis both make good points. You're kinda stuck in the middle. If she's not interested, she's not interested. How long should he give it before he calls? If she really is planning to call, him calling could be a bad move.

Pretty good question. Thanks!
Prolly im gonna take my chances and wait for her to call... I made a lot of affords, now is her turn..

phateless · 09-01-2007, 12:53 PM

amberlynn - would you tell a guy YOU'LL CALL HIM and then expect him to call? That's freaking ridiculous... Maybe being so straight up isn't helping? There's no urgency if the ball is in their court. If they know they can call you if they want... what's to prevent them from waiting around until they feel like it?

idesigner · 09-01-2007, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by amberlynn72

A few days at most ..but he said he hasnt talked to her for about a week? if that's the case he might have blown it for the weekend and might have to ask her about the next weekend. She could have plans before then.

Seriously, every girl is waiting for the man to call. TRUST ME

This NEVER changes no matter how much we evolve.

I am 34 and still waiting for him to call..LOL

I make things easy for the guy though. if he is interested in me ..I tell him straight up i wont be calling so he better call me if he wants me..LOL... i am very honest...time and time again guys say oh you are such a breath of fresh air..

Why the hell am i still single then?? if i am not like all the other girls ,...YOU SCARED? i need some relationship advice..haha

You're 34 and havn't figured out how dating works? Something else is wrong with the picture here. I cant believe women still play these games even at 34. "Men have to call me, they have to show intitiative" etc is a load of bull**** and is probably why you are still single. It has to involve give & take. Going through these games is so high school.

amberlynn72 · 09-01-2007, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by phateless

amberlynn - would you tell a guy YOU'LL CALL HIM and then expect him to call? That's freaking ridiculous... Maybe being so straight up isn't helping? There's no urgency if the ball is in their court. If they know they can call you if they want... what's to prevent them from waiting around until they feel like it?

Well? I don't tell guys I am going to call him? And if i would say that I would call. that's just me. But I have called guys before ..very rarely and they don't care...LOL...so why call them. I was shut down..i felt like a guy.

amberlynn72 · 09-01-2007, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by idesigner

You're 34 and havn't figured out how dating works? Something else is wrong with the picture here. I cant believe women still play these games even at 34. "Men have to call me, they have to show intitiative" etc is a load of bull**** and is probably why you are still single. It has to involve give & take. Going through these games is so high school.

I don't think it's a load of b.s. at all. Like i stated before men are looking mostly to get that booty. They are not REALLY all that interested in the actual girl.. Just to get that booty. So why will i step forward in the beginning if that's all he wants.. HOw am i to know that he is actually truly interested in ME and not to just get that booty? HMM.. help me out here give me your male perspective. YOU know that guys are all about gettin that booty..and that doesnt change much not even if they are 55

GriT- · 09-01-2007, 01:55 PM

You don't call. Period. Keep fishing, plenty more out there.

pcinternet · 09-01-2007, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by GriT-

You don't call. Period. Keep fishing, plenty more out there.

Yeah... I guess I have to move on.. the fact is that shes a shy girl and im in a better shape than her so prolly it wouldnt workout.. but I'll definately call her in couple of weeks just to say whats up...

roxy42277 · 09-01-2007, 03:04 PM

Call her. If i go out with a guy i like ill wait for him to call me. I will never call a man. My mom always said "Dont make your self appear desperate." Alot of girls are like that. So she is prob waiting for your phone call. i missed out on many good things because i didnt call and they didnt call. A few weeks later ill see them and they ask my i didnt call....

so just call her.

worst can happen she doesnt answer

namtaB · 09-01-2007, 03:17 PM

Call her and feel the situation out. If she wants to hang out she'll make the time, if she doesn't she'll cook up an excuse. But definitely give her a call.

TBU · 09-01-2007, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by amberlynn72

I rarely call men, I want them to make an effort. If the effort is not there, I just assume he didn't like me all that much.

Let's be honest, most guys don't really care about every girl, it's all about getting laid. So now why should she call you? YOu must pursue her if you like her that much.

You are the guy take initiative and call.

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Originally Posted by roxy42277

Call her. If i go out with a guy i like ill wait for him to call me. I will never call a man. My mom always said "Dont make your self appear desperate." Alot of girls are like that. So she is prob waiting for your phone call. i missed out on many good things because i didnt call and they didnt call. A few weeks later ill see them and they ask my i didnt call....

so just call her.

worst can happen she doesnt answer

And women...or should I say girls, wonder why they can never find the "nice guy"...the nice guy does what you want, and actually doesnt call when you say that you'll call.

pcinternet · 09-01-2007, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by roxy42277

Call her. If i go out with a guy i like ill wait for him to call me. I will never call a man. My mom always said "Dont make your self appear desperate." Alot of girls are like that. So she is prob waiting for your phone call. i missed out on many good things because i didnt call and they didnt call. A few weeks later ill see them and they ask my i didnt call....

so just call her.

worst can happen she doesnt answer

I don't even know what to do. We went to Starbucks on Thursday so I'll call her on thursday and I'll ask her if she got any plans for the weekend... If she says yes, I'm going to forget her for good...
The bad part is I go to college with this girl

Pumpin45_s · 09-01-2007, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by pcinternet

I don't even know what to do. We went to Starbucks on Thursday so I'll call her on thursday and I'll ask her if she got any plans for the weekend... If she says yes, I'm going to forget her for good...
The bad part is I go to college with this girl

Girls that play that bull**** are not cool. Saying they will call and then don't is lame and not worth the time. Unfortunately, it seems most are like this.

I personally would wait for her to call, but don't leave your weekend wide open. Make plans if you have stuff goin on because scheduling around something iffy is lame. I've done it before. If she calls but you're too busy you now have the ball in your court. It's up to you to call her next week to make plans.

If she doesn't call this week give her a call sometime next week (especially since you are very interested and you wouldn't want this one to slip away) because there's always a chance she "forgot" or something came up. If she makes excuses, it's not meant to be or she's really gay and her bs is not worth putting up with. The worst thing would be to not call her ever if she ends up not calling you because something could happen but you wouldn't know since you didn't pursue at all. However, I wouldn't call her this week at all because you might look a little desperate.

amberlynn72 · 09-01-2007, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by pcinternet

I don't even know what to do. We went to Starbucks on Thursday so I'll call her on thursday and I'll ask her if she got any plans for the weekend... If she says yes, I'm going to forget her for good...
The bad part is I go to college with this girl

Well that's pretty crazy... don't u know the rules?? you ask a girl out for the weekend on a monday or tuesday...not at the last minute..haha ..You can't just expect a girl to drop what she is doing just because you call at the last minute and then say well screw her i am not bothering anymore..why is all this so hard for you guys...lol

amberlynn72 · 09-01-2007, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpin45_s

Girls that play that bull**** are not cool. Saying they will call and then don't is lame and not worth the time. Unfortunately, it seems most are like this.

I personally would wait for her to call, but don't leave your weekend wide open. Make plans if you have stuff goin on because scheduling around something iffy is lame. I've done it before. If she calls but you're too busy you now have the ball in your court. It's up to you to call her next week to make plans.

If she doesn't call this week give her a call sometime next week (especially since you are very interested and you wouldn't want this one to slip away) because there's always a chance she "forgot" or something came up. If she makes excuses, it's not meant to be or she's really gay and her bs is not worth putting up with. The worst thing would be to not call her ever if she ends up not calling you because something could happen but you wouldn't know since you didn't pursue at all. However, I wouldn't call her this week at all because you might look a little desperate.

It's funny hearing you say these things ....i am kinda shocked becuase usually its the guys saying yea i'll call you ..and you never hear from them again...lol

Pumpin45_s · 09-01-2007, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by amberlynn72

It's funny hearing you say these things ....i am kinda shocked becuase usually its the guys saying yea i'll call you ..and you never hear from them again...lol

guys almost always do that if they're not interested. Girls, on the other hand, unless they are infatuated, generally will not call just because "it's the guy's job and he has to show that he wants her" or something along those lines

GriT- · 09-01-2007, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpin45_s

guys almost always do that if they're not interested. Girls, on the other hand, unless they are infatuated, generally will not call just because "it's the guy's job and he has to show that he wants her" or something along those lines

exactly. Thats why we don't call..they get flustered and call us all like "wtf"? Bingo, we have dominant position.

Infamix · 09-01-2007, 07:40 PM

call her from a blocked number

if she picks up, good

if she doesn't, she doesn't know who called

win-win

2 HUGE · 09-01-2007, 07:42 PM

DONT CALL HER

let her call you. If she does youre in. If she doesnt then tough luck. If she doesnt call, when you see her again just act normal and make her think that you arent phased by her not calling you, almost as if you could care less if she called you or not. It might make her more attracted to you

pcinternet · 09-01-2007, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by amberlynn72

Well that's pretty crazy... don't u know the rules?? you ask a girl out for the weekend on a monday or tuesday...not at the last minute..haha ..You can't just expect a girl to drop what she is doing just because you call at the last minute and then say well screw her i am not bothering anymore..why is all this so hard for you guys...lol

I know that... That gives me a chance to know if she's interested... Most of the time I change or cancel my plans when I'm going on a date, but I don't tell the girl that...
I'm going to take the advice of not calling her this week, not because of looking desperate, but because I know that she works on friday nights and on saturday I'm going to a night club...

phateless · 09-02-2007, 02:59 AM

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Originally Posted by amberlynn72

Well? I don't tell guys I am going to call him? And if i would say that I would call. that's just me. But I have called guys before ..very rarely and they don't care...LOL...so why call them. I was shut down..i felt like a guy.

now you know how we feel. that feeling is exactly why this guy started this thread. show some compassion for him. it's hard always having to put yourself out there and get rejected over and over.

pcinternet · 09-02-2007, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by phateless

now you know how we feel. that feeling is exactly why this guy started this thread. show some compassion for him. it's hard always having to put yourself out there and get rejected over and over.

Thanks phateless.
Im thinking maybe I should give it a try on tuesday call and have a small conversation and then I'll ask if she got any plans for the weekend... or should I text her? Or just like every one said WAIT FOR HER TO CALL ME?
I wish I can read girls mind lol

Curtiz · 09-02-2007, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by pcinternet

Thats what I was thinking, so pretty much if she doesn't call I assume that she's not interested... I get to move on with my life.

if she doesnt call she can't care enough...simple as

she rings or she doesnt, you cant force it