After the last post I made on how to deal with women in various situations I got some requests to translate a list of indicators that your relationship may be in trouble. Again,
I did not write these points, I simply translated it from Spanish to English. I altered a few words here and there b/c they don't translate well to English. If you can read Spanish (Argentine dialect) the link is:
http://www.mi-novia.com.ar/idq.htm . I also want to say that although some of these may seem obvious, sometimes we ignore the obvious, which is why they are on the list.
No indicator on the list claims to be the definitive indicator that something is wrong. It is likely that many will have to appear before you realize something is wrong. With that said, on to the list.
1. She doesn't look at you the same as before.
A short while ago, your eyes met and you could stay for awhile staring at one another without saying anything and just looking at one another spoke more than 1000 words.
She really loves me?, you thought to yourself.
Now, when you try to get into that same scenario, she quickly "unlocks" that look and says something stupid like "What's going on with Johnny?" or "You think it will be cold tomorrow?"
Something is up.
2. She doesn't react in the same way as before when you tell her "I love you"
When you would tell her "I love you" she gave you a look that reassured you she was in love and then maybe hugged you.
Now she tells you "Me too", without taking her gaze away from whatever she is occupied with.
Two things could be happening:
- That you have told her "I love you" SO many times a day that obviously the phrase lost the effect that it had on her in the beginning.
- That while you are telling her "I love you", she is distracted with thoughts of a male friend of hers who that night she will see in class, or on another vulture of similar characteristics.
In the first case, start lessening the number of occasions you say "I love you".
In the second case? welcome to the club (My girlfriend left me club)
3. When she answers your phone calls, she doesn"t show the same enthusiasm she showed before.
If the "Heyyyyyyy babe" has become "Ah, what are you up to?" Something is up.
And you perceive it? No?
Should you call her less frequently? Perhaps.
Without any doubt it"s a signal that something, surely not something good, is about to happen.
4. When you talk on the phone, lately she is the one to end the conversation.
I'll let you go because I have to continue studying" or "We'll talk tomorrow because I have to call Jane".
The thing is that she lately is ending the conversation because she has more important things to do.
And you called her, for which we throw out the possibility that you did so for a financial reason having to do with the cost of the call.
5. She seems bothered by your question of "Did you miss me?".
Before, you wouldn't even have to ask her. She would tell you it herself.
But recently, if you felt like hearing her say "I missed you" you have to ask her. "Yes", she responds, but without much conviction.
What could be going on here?
Although it may sound bad what could be happening is that she isn't missing you at all.
Why?
Who knows. Women are all messed up.
6. She feels the same way about having sex as she does about renting a movie.
You can't wait for the weekend to arrive to be alone with her.
When you ask her "What do you feel like doing?", she replies with anything but what you most expect.
"Let's catch a movie" or "Let's go eat at ____ and later meet up with John and Jane"
Not a single mention of sex. If you don't propose having sex, nothing happens.
After going out, you leave her at her house, and you leave hornier than ever.
"What's going on?" "She not horny?" you ask yourself.
At your house, your best friend, your right hand, is waiting as a consolation prize.
Something is up.
7. When you see one another she doesn't preoccupy herself with looking good.
She has always been very conscious of her looks in front of you, but lately that changed.
For example, the other day, knowing that you were going to visit here, she dressed in very casual clothing and her hair looked like she just woke up.
And she then commented "I'm comfortable", and it appears to you that she didn't really care about your visit.
A short while ago she wouldn't do this.
Why could this be? Mmmmmmm?.
8. She is looking for more fights than normal.
- Babe, how much sugar do you put in this? - you ask her kindly.
- Two. Is it possible that I have to explain it you EVERY time? she responds, bothered.
- Okay, I'm sorry. I forgot. - You reply.
- You don?t remember ANYTHING! - She replies
The most logical answer to this kind of behaviour is: "Why don't you go "F" yourself?". But we almost never make such a response.
When we are truly in love what we think is "She's right, I don?t remember these things" and we try not to make the same mistake, but she will find other things to do similar attacks.
"You don?t like the same movies as me", "You don?t like any of my friends", "You never come to any family get-togethers" etc, etc., etc.
If she wasn't like this before, what happened that she changed?
Could it be that she is busting your nuts with every stupid thing because she can't tell you the real reason why she's bothered.
And perhaps this problem has a first and last name (yours)?..
9. She often mentions the name of "friend" from school, work, and then suddenly she doesn't mention this person?s name anymore.
John this...
John that...
Why doesn't she shut up about this John guy, you ask yourself.
She makes a million comments about this guy.
All kinds of comments, minus "I like him".
Then suddenly one day, as if it were magic, she never mentions him again.
Something up with this guy? Perhaps.
10. If you go to pick her up at school, work, as a surprise, and she doesn't seem happy.
What happened to the hug and affectionate kiss from past times when she was surprised?
How strange? Now when you surprise her, instead of being thrilled, she coldly greets you, and she quickly wants to leave the place.
Almost as if she's trying to hide you.
"Nothing is going on, it's my imagination" you tell yourself, as if you yourself don?t want to recognize what is going on.
Careful: Nothing is ever your imagination.
"What happens, really happens? (hard to translate this phrase to English).
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