Girls and their signs.....

[EdgarAllanPoe]

based on the posts here it seems like guys interpret like 90%+ of the movements/expressions a girl makes as signs. In reality, do you think these girls are consciously TRYING to send signals or is it just something we hope we are right about.

I sit and read some of the things here, and I'm thinking I never put in that much thought to how I move and what gestures I make around a girl I like. As a guy all I really try to do is smile more and look into her eyes. I don't have this trunk full of signals I try and send out to tell a girl I like her.

Do you think girls really put in that extra effort?

[norxcal]

Originally Posted by EdgarAllanPoe

based on the posts here it seems like guys interpret like 90%+ of the movements/expressions a girl makes as signs. In reality, do you think these girls are consciously TRYING to send signals or is it just something we hope we are right about.

I sit and read some of the things here, and I'm thinking I never put in that much thought to how I move and what gestures I make around a girl I like. As a guy all I really try to do is smile more and look into her eyes. I don't have this trunk full of signals I try and send out to tell a girl I like her.

Do you think girls really put in that extra effort?

I think women send a lot of signals because of their nature (highly social). You see it's totally acceptable for young girls to be animated,talk a lot, and have a lot of girlfriends but usually this is not true for boys. As boys turn into men they are not aware of these signals that women are sending, hence we have a hard time picking up the signals (you don't know how many women have said I didn't pick up on their signals).

I don't think it's neccesarily extra effort on their part either, just how society has made women to be. Go to a place where groups of women are hanging out and observe how two different groups of women passing each other will communicate with each other without saying word, they are truly queens at non-verbal communication.

However there are a few dumbasses on here who over analyze everything "she licked her top lip twice and her bottom lip only once when she was eating, does she want to suck my dick?"

[Jaw-Knee]

Originally Posted by EdgarAllanPoe

Do you think girls really put in that extra effort?

Nope. Most of the time they won't even realize that they're doing it.

[BMEgrad]

Originally Posted by norxcal

However there are a few dumbasses on here who over analyze everything "she licked her top lip twice and her bottom lip only once when she was eating, does she want to suck my dick?"

LOL. If I could rep you, I would.

[Nasty$al]

You want success with women? Study non-verbal communication. Master that, and you're way ahead of the game. Take it from a man with over 75 confirmed kills - 98% of which were 7's and above (lots of 8/9).

[Below 30]

Originally Posted by norxcal

However there are a few dumbasses on here who over analyze everything "she licked her top lip twice and her bottom lip only once when she was eating, does she want to suck my dick?"

Sharp shooter.

Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

Nope. Most of the time they won't even realize that they're doing it.

I agree.


Trying to read signs was probably invented by some guy who was afraid to talk to girls. So he made up things about a girl's body language and he'd only approach a girl if she did certain actions. This would make a great excuse as for why he would rarely talk to girls. He'd just say it's because she didn't play with her hair etc -30-

[luckylynch]

Originally Posted by EdgarAllanPoe

based on the posts here it seems like guys interpret like 90%+ of the movements/expressions a girl makes as signs. In reality, do you think these girls are consciously TRYING to send signals or is it just something we hope we are right about.

I sit and read some of the things here, and I'm thinking I never put in that much thought to how I move and what gestures I make around a girl I like. As a guy all I really try to do is smile more and look into her eyes. I don't have this trunk full of signals I try and send out to tell a girl I like her.

Do you think girls really put in that extra effort?

dont know and dont care....once they look at me there defenses will be lower and then they become transparent....

[Shadow666]

Originally Posted by norxcal

However there are a few dumbasses on here who over analyze everything "she licked her top lip twice and her bottom lip only once when she was eating, does she want to suck my dick?"

Lol repped.

[user9689066]

I put forth the obvious extra effort if i'm interested....but nothing is worse than accidentally making eye contact with some guy at the bar or a party and the next thing you know, he's all over you because he's convinced you've given him a sign...pleaseee

[Cuchulainn]

Who the fcuk cares? Why are you waiting for her to send you signs? Go up to the girl/set and initiate the conversation.

[Kaptn Krunch]

If you get good at reading body language, you can tell what women think about you most of the time. People don't pay attention to their body language unless they conscienciously try to do so.

Example: Yesterday at work, I was talking with a 40 year old woman. She's decently attractive, but I noticed that even though she was leaning toward be while she spoke, I was leaning away from her. Once I realized I was doing it, I switched my posture to lean toward her to be a sign of attraction.

Granted, most people don't know **** about body language, but it can't hurt to try and convey the proper body language in the situation.

Summed up, both women and men convey signs of attraction, or disattraction without even knowing it...Unless like I said, you make it a point to control your body language.

[norxcal]

DOes anyone know of any good non-verbal communication books/articles, etc.? I've been observing a lot lately and trying to decipher things but I'm sure there's a book out there that can save me a lot of time.

[Kaptn Krunch]

http://www.channel4.com/science/micr...trol/more.html

The books on this page will teach you to read body language, read faces plus will teach you the signs that someone is lying. I'd also maybe recommend learning to interpret what people's penmenship says about them.
The penmenship thing can actually be used to get women, and/or, find out which ones have high sexual drives. Large loops in their y's and j's equates to high sexual drive IIRC.

Plus, if you haven't seen the show on the SciFi channel called Mind Control with Darren Brown, watch it. Amazing!

[mcxk]

yeah

[minorityiswoah]

I like Gemini girls

[sword_]

Originally Posted by Nasty$al

You want success with women? Study non-verbal communication. Master that, and you're way ahead of the game. Take it from a man with over 75 confirmed kills - 98% of which were 7's and above (lots of 8/9).

What all do you study? I've studied some body language and some vocal cues, but I don't just use it for attraction and it genuinely interests me.

[Ace_2007]

The only thing you need to remember is that everything she does is a signal that shes interested in you.

Just dont go raping her lol.

[norxcal]

Originally Posted by sword_

What all do you study? I've studied some body language and some vocal cues, but I don't just use it for attraction and it genuinely interests me.

A lot of guys on the boards study things like Mystery Method (the guy has his own tv show now), David DeAngelo, things like that. They're mainlt for picking up girls or "sarging", but like you I'm also pretty interested in the communication side of it in general. PM me if you're interested in some of the material.

[Guardian]

Originally Posted by EdgarAllanPoe

based on the posts here it seems like guys interpret like 90%+ of the movements/expressions a girl makes as signs. In reality, do you think these girls are consciously TRYING to send signals or is it just something we hope we are right about.

I sit and read some of the things here, and I'm thinking I never put in that much thought to how I move and what gestures I make around a girl I like. As a guy all I really try to do is smile more and look into her eyes. I don't have this trunk full of signals I try and send out to tell a girl I like her.

Do you think girls really put in that extra effort?

If it seems forced then its not a true sigb

I guess with experience youll know. There are some signs imo that tend to work but you have to get the sense that the girl isnt thinking of them, shes just doing them naturally. Some ones I find are ture is if a girls eyes water, if she leans in towards you, and if her eyes have a distinct twinkle to them. They are easier to pick up when your talking to a girl one on one, when your in a group obviously things can get complicated.

Also this is VERY important

Some girls may give you these signs because they are naturally attracted to you. But you may get shut down because they have a bf or maybe they convince themselves something isnt right with you. For example lets say your an auto mech just out of the shop, some girl may give you these signs then when you try you get shut down. The girl may try to convince herself she wants a more professional type of guy when she actually is attracted to you. As stated, some girls with bfs will also do this. The problem is girls brains and natural attraction dont always match, for it to "easily" work they do have to match. Girls who brains disagree with their attraction you need to somewhat force yourself on for it to work which can obviously be tricky.

To many guys take it to heart when they get shut down and think they see signs, the reality is the girl may be attracted to you but for other reasons it didnt work.

[The Gootz]

Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

Nope. Most of the time they won't even realize that they're doing it.

True, but at the same time, sometimes it can be subconscious so they don't mean to do it but it's for a reason...if that makes sense.

[kelso]

We totally over analyse everything because they give off very mixed signals, that coupled with the fact that most the people in here seem VERY insecure about themselves to begin with which is what leads to that uncertainty in the first place.

[MonsterBakk55]

I think the overall way a girl acts is the biggest key to telling if she's into you or not, not so much just a few certain characteristics. This kind of comes with experience too; you get a feeling for what girls are into you and what aren't.

There are a few simple things I have learned though that have had tests done, etc. I took a human sexuality class last year and actually learned quite a bit.

-If a girls eyes are kind of glazed over, that usually means she has some type of arrousal.

-If you make a sudden movement, and she follows, that means you have her attention, even if she doesn't know it. An example of this would be sitting on a couch next to a girl and then you decide to move your legs or something. If she's 'into you' then she will probably make a subconscious movement following yours. This isn't always true, but most of the time it is.

I think you just have to spend time around girls and read their overall body language (and talk obviously) to get a good feeling for it. A few years ago I hadn't the slightest clue how to tell if a girl was into me or not, but now I can usually tell within a few minutes.

[The Gootz]

Originally Posted by MonsterBakk55

-If a girls eyes are kind of glazed over, that usually means she has some type of arrousal.

-If you make a sudden movement, and she follows, that means you have her attention, even if she doesn't know it. An example of this would be sitting on a couch next to a girl and then you decide to move your legs or something. If she's 'into you' then she will probably make a subconscious movement following yours. This isn't always true, but most of the time it is.

Interesting...

*looks for girl on couch to test theory*

*looks for girl who looks like she smoked one too many fatties*

[MonsterBakk55]

Originally Posted by The Gootz

Interesting...

*looks for girl on couch to test theory*

*looks for girl who looks like she smoked one too many fatties*

lol hey now, the couch thing was just an example. And of course this is assuming you guys can get a girl on a couch.

[The Gootz]

Originally Posted by MonsterBakk55

lol hey now, the couch thing was just an example. And of course this is assuming you guys can get a girl on a couch.

haha, not a problem! That's what the rohypnol is for JK ladies

BTW I wasn't bashing what you said. I thought it was hence my quote.