How has dropping weight changed you as a person?

[Dominikm]

I'll start.
The Past

So in the past I was so big and fat I never wanted to go out becasue I was so self consious and though ppl would just see me as the fat dude. So that went on for a very long time and now ppl say i'm not fat and ask me where the fat has to be lost from when the say something. I know I still have more fat to loose but I have totally changed as a person, from that fat dude who could not even start a conversation and would rather stay home.

Now...

Here is an example of saturday night. I have never been out clubbing becasue of what i've mentioned above, went out and had the "officially" best night of my life, i've gone so good with diet and all and even when I did drink before it didn't unleash me to have fun, i'd still be so self consious...

So on saturday night was already in the best mood already and not on the piss and just lived it up! Then we got to a hotel/club/pub place and just had a few drinks and just lived it up on the dance floor, saw like 50 ppl I have not seen since high school and so many ppl were like damn, is that really dom...

Then we went into town, no questions asked, first step is the dance floor. No waiting, walking into the door grooving already, just dance for like 5 hours from 11 - 4am. Didn't have a worry in the world, during that time we went to a different club and lived it up, back to the other club... The whole time was one massive eye opener as to what i've been missing out on and I didn't eat any dodgy food that was right in front of me, mate ended up with a cigar and I didn't have a puff, more will power than that even while I was quite smashed. Everything was top of the tops, and another night is gonna have to be so damn tops to top that one...

No more bs self consious crap, no alcohol or drugs ever needed, just dance to the music, and enjoy the beat, but alcohol does make it awsome... May cardio from 11pm - 4pm was probaly the best session i've ever had, actually i'll rephrase that, it was the best session, felt it bigggggggggggg time the next day. Some awsome funny stuff happned that night also, made 2 aboriginal bums sitting in the street play paper siscors rock with me for $1 and we got into a VIP secion of a club, the first one and then we got free drinks while the chicks had her backs turned, just, lol, grabbed a pint glass and filled in up and bailed just as we finished doning up and the chick chased us and some how, who knows, we got past the VIP bouncer and got back into the massive cround. lol, fun times

Live it up to the max! Loosing the weight is worth the hard effort even if it take a year or two if you start very heavy...

Whos next? How has it changed you from this to that? Not what other ppl think but how has it change you

EDIT: Now i'm addicted to music also, so damn social also when out and not just quiet. Before I dind't really care for music, was good to listen to tunes but now I love it

[Want2BeStrong]

More Confidence.
Overall happiness and satisfaction with life is greater.
Not ashamed to take my shirt off anymore.
More socially outgoing, easier to talk to people and make friends.
Dramatic improvement in my sex life.

[ChiefGuy]

Originally Posted by Want2BeStrong

More Confidence.
Not ashamed to take my shirt off anymore.
Dramatic improvement in my sex life.

Agree with the first two completely third i'll just say the view has improved dramatically

[Dominikm]

Hell yea, keep them comming. Good stuff ppl, I agree with all of those above ones also.

[gfundaro]

When I was overweight (~30% BF), I used to be more of a 'jealous girlfriend.' I always thought I'd be second best, always thought other girls were prettier. I'd never wear shorts, but I wore very low-cut shirts to show off the one positive aspect of being overweight. I was really concerned with how people percieved me, wore a lot more make up, etc. And I really just hated my body.

Now I've lost about 10% BF and gained muscle, so my weight isn't drastically different, but my self confidence is. I don't wear makeup outside the office, I buy more modest and tasteful clothing, and I don't care if my BF is around other girls (unless they're the touchy-feely kind lol, that's just disrespectful). I really don't care what people think anymore and I'm not out to impress people. I'm still critical of my body, but that's because I know what it CAN be, not because I think that it CAN'T be, what I want. I am just impatient And I wear shorts for the first time since 9th grade haha.

[TheKansan]

At 475 pounds I really didn't have much of a life, aside from work. I can't say that too much has changed yet, but people say that my attitude is different than before. I am more willing to try new and different things. In the past I worried all the time about looking stupid and people making fun of me, but now it is so much easier to do things I never would have done in the past. Its embarrassing looking back and remembering not wanting to simply go for a walk because I thought people would make fun of me for even trying to improve myself. I guess you could say I have gained confidence.

[b.spencer]

There isn't a thing that hasn't changed about me. I was once strongly introverted. That's all gone. I'm an extrovert, now. I'm so much more confident than I used to be. Talking to strangers would petrify me (strange for a teacher to have a fear of talking to people, but true.) That's all gone. I hated going out as well. I mean anywhere, to work, to the mall, anywhere. Now, I can't sit at home. I have to get out and do something, especially on the weekends. If I can't I go nuts. On the down side, the new aggression that's developed because of the gym, sometimes spills over into other areas of my life. I get angrier, shorter tempered, almost like roid rages, but I'm drug free.

The most fun for me, is when I get mistaken for a 20 year old. No joke, it happens more than you would think to a man in his early 30's. I put on a Abercrombie shirt, baseball cap, and sunglasses, and I can't tell you how many times teenagers just strike up conversations with me, as I'm 19 too. I was shopping at American Eagle on Saturday, standing in line (it was tax free weekend here, so the lines were long everywhere). These three kids, two girls and a guy, standing around me start having a conversation about what they're gonna do in school this year. Then, they just started to include me in it. I never told them they were half my age and I teach high school, until they started asking me where I went to school. When I told them I was going to Colorado State University for a PhD, and they finally noticed my college ring, they looked totally stunned.

[Deathknight86]

I used to take things in stride, some call it "laided back"
Im still laid back but I no long take "****" from anyone. I used to be "the big teddy bear" guy when I was bigger with less muscle. Now Im "the big teddy bear that has no fear of getting in your face if you f*ck with him or his friends" lol. Im not an arsehole or overly aggressive just more outspoken, more confident and more outgoing. I love the new me. I wish the lady situation would get better though. But hey, thats what the Velocity Diet is for!

[FrostFox]

No. But then again, I haven't dropped that much weight yet.

More to come in a few months...

Very nice thread by the way!

[BIGVALDEZ]

I never was BIG but I had some confidence issues when it came time to go swimming or be around a girl with my shirt off, hell for that matter I didn?t like to be around the guys with a shirt off.

One step that really helped me to lose the weight like I wanted to was to get more involved and educated on nutritional intake as a whole. I learned about marco/micro timing, learned to understand the thyroid and how it functioned, and more importantly learned that hard work is the only REAL way to get in great shape.

I went from a 40 to a 33 in the waist and I feel great. I share my knowledge with those around me in the hopes that I can educate, and learn, from all of the combined shared experiences; much like this thread. Best of luck in finding the strength to meet your physique goals and in having the willpower to make the lifestyle change required to allow those goals to continue.

[ElvisC]

before:

I felt like crap (doing weed + alcohol)

I had suicidal thoughts

I was in a bad relation****.

Now:

more confidence and i have control over myself (making wiser decisions)

Also I feel great, attractive, I no longer have any kind of bad thoughts.

It's great to have your old friends from way back when complement you all the time and it's cool to see that I can get prettier women (even though I do prefer natural women... aka no makeup)

But it's good and this has became a life style. If i don't goto the gym I go through withdrawal.

[Dominikm]

Originally Posted by FrostFox

Very nice thread by the way!

Is, so lets keep it going...

Good stories so far ay

[bernard89]

Dominikm, your story sounds so similar to mine. Before I lost weight it was like I was just so self conscious that it prevent me from wanting to do anything even remotely social. I'd be so shy to speak to anyone (male or female) and I was the kid who would rather just sit by himself in the corner at school. I had a few great friends throughout school though that made it bearable.

I still have more weight to lose but the big breakthrough for me is going to be when I get under the 100kg mark. That is one massive emotional hurdle for me to get past. I can see, and others can see, an awesome physical difference in me but I just have to get to 99kg, just for myself.

I've read some of your posts Dominikm and draw a lot of inspiration from them.

[Dominikm]

Originally Posted by bernard89

Dominikm, your story sounds so similar to mine. Before I lost weight it was like I was just so self conscious that it prevent me from wanting to do anything even remotely social. I'd be so shy to speak to anyone (male or female) and I was the kid who would rather just sit by himself in the corner at school. I had a few great friends throughout school though that made it bearable.

I still have more weight to lose but the big breakthrough for me is going to be when I get under the 100kg mark. That is one massive emotional hurdle for me to get past. I can see, and others can see, an awesome physical difference in me but I just have to get to 99kg, just for myself.

I've read some of your posts Dominikm and draw a lot of inspiration from them.

Yea it's awsome now i've totally changed, the 100kg think is a massive mental thing isn't it. Last, **** I didn't know I had that much influence of ppl. Thanks

[ScottC]

I almost past over this thread as I haven't updated my journal in a while and I was anxious to get there...but I have had some life changing experiences since dropping much of my weight.

First, I am much more compassionate towards fat people. This is not to say I do not feel some disgust at some people, but I remember what I did to get where I was and I know it is possible to lose the weight/fat in a healthy way, even if it takes a long time...which is what most people don't understand and quit when they don't see dramatic results in a month or two.

Next, I have more self confidence to try activities I never thought I would, like yoga or even...running . As soon as my son starts school I am going to start doing Bikram Yoga. I need the flexibility and I certainly could use some stress relief. Also, I have decided to see if my knee can handle running. I am going to visit a local shop which caters to triathletes, and see, with some coaching, if I can handle short distance runs. My ultimate goal would be to compete in duathlons or short distance triathlons next summer, trying to raise money for the awareness of my son's rare type of epilepsy. Never in my life did I think I would want to try running. I have always loathed running long distances. Sprints were something else, but never jogging, etc.

I am sure there are more, but I cannot think of them right now. Since I used up my time here I will have to update my journal later.

[Dominikm]

Good stuff, thats awsome ay, raising money for your sons rare condidion... repped mate

[Bronkko]

i fingerbanged a model on the 4th of july in the backseat of my buddys car... nuff said.

[Dominikm]

lol

[Insulin Ihsaan]

I went from 200 pounds to 120, and a 42 waist to 32, but the opposite thing happened to me

Before: I was an extrovert, went out with friend, had lots of fun, very confident for some reason?

Now: Im an introvert, i stay at home more, more self confidence but i keep to myself more...weird eh?

[Dominikm]

Originally Posted by ihsaank

I went from 200 pounds to 120, and a 42 waist to 32, but the opposite thing happened to me

Before: I was an extrovert, went out with friend, had lots of fun, very confident for some reason?

Now: Im an introvert, i stay at home more, more self confidence but i keep to myself more...weird eh?

x2 for wierd, hey but it's cool.

[gtaguy]

Yah the Intro/Extro thing is strange.

As I slim down I'm staying the same person for the most part, but people react to me different. I've always been a pretty big extrovert, so hopefully when I continue to party it up (but with more girl success) its not too radical of a change for those around me :P

I'm going to pissed to high hell if I'm not getting some action within the next month, lol.

[schm]

Helps you with girs and exc and just with your self. It will not change every thing because there will be some people who will talk **** or say something. you Got to learn not to care what they say or think. People will like you for who you are. And if you are losing wight for them and not for your self your doing it for the wrong reason and it will never last!

[NO1UP]

Originally Posted by Want2BeStrong

More Confidence.
Overall happiness and satisfaction with life is greater.
Not ashamed to take my shirt off anymore.
More socially outgoing, easier to talk to people and make friends.
Dramatic improvement in my sex life.

right there!! Every thing he said and more!!

[jessekib]

Believe it or not my wife liked me better when i was fat,and she's a fitness freak. She says im an ******* now! oh well..........deal with it. lol

[gurudupes16]

The sex is phenomenal now, but my gf constantly accuses me of cheating.. It balances itself out.

I seem to be a lot more self conscious though. Even though I look better, I am so critical about any piece of skin that jiggles. Drives me nuts.

[Starky1177]

I make fun of fat people now....





jk

[mpipes]

Originally Posted by ihsaank

I went from 200 pounds to 120, and a 42 waist to 32, but the opposite thing happened to me

Before: I was an extrovert, went out with friend, had lots of fun, very confident for some reason?

Now: Im an introvert, i stay at home more, more self confidence but i keep to myself more...weird eh?

I don't think this is weird at all.

Maybe your way of being an extrovert was just so people paid attention to you while you were heavier, and now that you're in good shape you've learned not to care what other people think.

I was an introvert when I was real heavy and now I'm in pretty decent shape and I'm still an introvert. I went from worrying what other people thought, to realizing most are just full of **** or full of themselves and not even wanting to be around them.

I am more confident when it comes to trying new stuff though, especially physical challenges.

[Want2BeStrong]

Originally Posted by gurudupes16

I seem to be a lot more self conscious though. Even though I look better, I am so critical about any piece of skin that jiggles. Drives me nuts.

Haha, I know the feeling. When I first started working out, it was because I was fat and out of shape. Then I lost my first 10 lbs and realized how much fat I ACTUALLY had to lose, it felt like a step backwards. Cutting sucks, I'll be so happy when I finally reach that 10% and go into bulk mode

[saizen]

Originally Posted by gurudupes16

The sex is phenomenal now, but my gf constantly accuses me of cheating.. It balances itself out.

I seem to be a lot more self conscious though. Even though I look better, I am so critical about any piece of skin that jiggles. Drives me nuts.

HAHAHAH it balances out...i fell out of my chair reading that haha.

i never was fat fat..but creating a healthly life style with more exercise and losing some weight makes me feel a lot stronger and more competitive in sports as opposed to when i was eating fried foods twice a day lol.

[yioti]

Originally Posted by mpipes

I don't think this is weird at all.

Maybe your way of being an extrovert was just so people paid attention to you while you were heavier, and now that you're in good shape you've learned not to care what other people think.

I was an introvert when I was real heavy and now I'm in pretty decent shape and I'm still an introvert. I went from worrying what other people thought, to realizing most are just full of **** or full of themselves and not even wanting to be around them.

I am more confident when it comes to trying new stuff though, especially physical challenges.

exact same thing happened to me. I was the overweight class clown, i was loud and abnoxious just so people would notice me. Now i am more of an introvert but my mom and sister keep pestering me, telling me that i have lost my personality. Well i think its because i could give a **** anymore. Although i still have some confidence issues, some of the changes that i get on daily bases that i didnt get before are

1) looks and then second looks from girls
2) the feeling of accomplishment everytime i leave the gym like i have done something monumental in my life.
3) for some odd reason that i don't know of, is good grades in school.
4)an idea of what i want to do with my life, and that is help people in any way/shape or form, the way somebody helped me with my obesity.
5) ohh and i have a new found love for Tilapia when i used to hate fish, but i don't know if that pertains to this thread