ex g/f of over 6yrs need advice from guys and girls!!

[22/m/UK]

i was with a girl for 6 and a half yrs, we got together when we were both 17, both 24 now, we've havent spoken in nearly 4 months now but i still love her and want her back!! ive tried moving on but i dont feel anything for these other girls and still only want her.

we broke up coz she lost quite a bit of weight, started getting attention from other guys and apparently im not want she wants anymore!!! its funny coz thru the year she said how she wanted to marry me, im the one for her and the all the rest of that b/s. but as soon as she started getting attention she became a different person, mood swings, always shouting at me basically treating me like ****.

now what pissed her off more then anything is we went out for her best friends bday and she turns up some another guy, (this was back in april, since we last spoke as well) so i got really pissed of coz i knew he was the one who liked her, so i try talk to her and she act like i dont exist and walks straight past me. when we all left, i finally talk to her, things got heated and she tells me she and this guy are together, i got mad and beat his ass.... whats does she expect if she rubs another guy in my face after being together for 6 and a half years... she got with this guy after 2 weeks of us not talking. what i dont get is she told me when we were talking that he isnt good looking and that she has told him that she dont wanna be with anyone?!?!?!?!?

she also said 2 weeks before we stopped talking that she loves me so much!?! so why the change all of a sudden?

she didnt give me any closure to our relationship, basically she left me with a text message saying its over and to leave her alone along with me having to deal with a whole load of questions in my head. WTF!! how can she do that?!?

what do u guys and girls think? will she realise what she had done?

i thought it would get easier wit time, but its not in this case!!

sorry i know its a long read, but the cliffs just would explain this one

[Dickbiggenstein]

What the **** you mean you was a girl for 6 and a half years? I quit reading after that ****.

[Ravage7]

...why exactly would you want to get back together with someone like this?

[Dickbiggenstein]

Originally Posted by 22/m/UK

i was a girl for 6 and a half yrs, we got together when we were both 17, both 24 now, we've havent spoken in nearly 4 months now but i still love her and want her back!! ive tried moving on but i dont feel anything for these other girls and still only want her.

we broke up coz she lost quite a bit of weight, started getting attention from other guys and apparently im not want she wants anymore!!! its funny coz thru the year she said how she wanted to marry me, im the one for her and the all the rest of that b/s. but as soon as she started getting attention she became a different person, mood swings, always shouting at me basically treating me like ****.

now what pissed her off more then anything is we went out for her best friends bday and she turns up some another guy, (this was back in april, since we last spoke as well) so i got really pissed of coz i knew he was the one who liked her, so i try talk to her and she act like i dont exist and walks straight past me. when we all left, i finally talk to her, things got heated and she tells me she and this guy are together, i got mad and beat his ass.... whats does she expect if she rubs another guy in my face after being together for 6 and a half years... she got with this guy after 2 weeks of us not talking. what i dont get is she told me when we were talking that he isnt good looking and that she has told him he dont wanna be with anyone?!?!?!?!?

she also said 2 weeks before we stopped talking that she loves me so much!?! so why the change all of a sudden?

she didnt give me any closure to our relationship, basically she left me with a text message saying its over and to leave her alone along with me having to deal with a whole load of questions in my head. WTF!! how can she do that?!?

what do u guys and girls think? will she realise what she had done?

i thought it would get easier wit time, but its not in this case!!

sorry i know its a long read, but the cliffs just would explain this one

Bitches is crazy son, that's all I know in this life.

[22/m/UK]

that reply doesnt really help me.....

[22/m/UK]

Originally Posted by Ravage7

...why exactly would you want to get back together with someone like this?

i still love her, she was never like that, only after getting the attention she changed so much.

[Govithoy]

Go find someone else.

She treated you like ****, and only stayed with you for so long because she couldn't do any better. She was only as loyal as her options, and as soon as her options opened up, ****ed off.

Don't ever contact her again. Ever. If you need to go through a year of anonymous 1 night stands to get over her, do it, just don't ever make the effort of contacting her again.

Ever.

[cyr]

Dude, my ex g/f of 1.5 years seems to sound pretty close to that. We just broke up a little over a month ago, and I'm still getting over her. Trust me, she isn't worth it and I'm just realizing it now too bro. I mean you were with this girl a lot longer than I was with mine and you're a few good years older than me. But numbers aside, you shouldn't let a girl be in control of your happiness and you deffinetly shouldn't let them play there damn mind games.

Just realize it's over, and go find someone else or a few others to take your mind off of her. I just started doing that this past week and it's working out quite well. There are soo many other women out there man, I'm just remembering that now. But really, just face reality and it being over. Hell maybe just it is for now, you guys have a long history...who really knows what your future holds bro. This could just be a bump in the road for you two, or it happened for a reason that will probably better you. Good luck man.

[Hubbard]

So you want your shallow gf back? I don't know what that's like because I wouldn't date a girl like that. But buddy look at this, she was obviously looking for an upgrade(no insult) or something different and just stayed with you until she could find someone else, it's most likely she was boning this guy when you guys were still together and that she was having doubts about your relationship for along time, girls don't just up and leave, they are thinking about it for a while, brooding over it you know.

It's gonna be hard as hell man, no lies but your already going in the wrong direction, you need to do a 180 man.

Goto the gym, get in the best shape of your life, eat perfect, get looking ****ing amazing, get your confidence up, cuz right now you prolly feel like she's the only one and all that bs, someone post that picture. But you need to get yourself feeling normal again, gotta get her out of your head. Spend a month and be selfish as hell, do everything you want without conscience. Buy a buncha new trendy cool clothes, if you have the money, get a new car, buy a big tv, go and do fun ****, take a trip, weekend with the boys, beach it up, go meet a new social circle. So the next time you bump into her she is like woah you look good, or you look different and then and there brush her off, like she means nothing, cuz by this time you won't even care. Yeah that's the advice.

And tan if you don't already

[22/m/UK]

Originally Posted by Govithoy

Go find someone else.

She treated you like ****, and only stayed with you for so long because she couldn't do any better. She was only as loyal as her options, and as soon as her options opened up, ****ed off.

Don't ever contact her again. Ever. If you need to go through a year of anonymous 1 night stands to get over her, do it, just don't ever make the effort of contacting her again.

Ever.

i dont mean to sound big headed but this guy is no way better then me in any sense she has admitted this herself which is why im even more confused. i get times where i think i hate her but that dont last long. sometimes this feel like a bad dream

[Govithoy]

Originally Posted by 22/m/UK

i dont mean to sound big headed but this guy is no way better then me in any sense she has admitted this herself which is why im even more confused. i get times where i think i hate her but that dont last long. sometimes this feel like a bad dream

See, that's your first mistake. You're still talking to her. STOP.

[5x10]

Originally Posted by 22/m/UK

i dont mean to sound big headed but this guy is no way better then me in any sense she has admitted this herself which is why im even more confused. i get times where i think i hate her but that dont last long. sometimes this feel like a bad dream

shes telling u that cause she trying to let you down easily
actions speak louder than words

try to stay busy, hang out with friends, work out, etc

you will come out a better person

[Hubbard]

put a positive spin on it, if you keep thinking about it, law of attraction states your gonna keep having **** like that happen to ya, and it's kinda true

[22/m/UK]

no im not talking to her, we havent spoken in nearly 4 months. she told me this when we did last speak, rather then moving on and finding better then me she has done the opposite. i want her to realise her mistakes

[xagdxvips]

She wants to take a break from you simply because she's bored of you and wants to experiment with different cock due to the fact she lost weight and is now getting hit on more often.

Sorry truth hurts.

[EdgarAllanPoe]

you don't sound very fond of her, what makes u want to get back with her?

are you telling us the whole story? Did you do something stupid along the way, where u clingy, did u annoy her in some way.

The girl told u she wasn't attracted this other guy when you were dating? She probably just said that cause she thought you'd get mad. You gotta think if she's saying negative things about this other guy to you its so she won't upset you. She wouldn't be dating this dude if she thought he was ugly and uninteresting.

Ask yourself why you REALLY care and get detailed about it then really think about whether its worth it.....

also if she's dating this other dude and you and her are not cool, then think about the minimal possibility of you even getting what you want.

[PowerD]

Originally Posted by Govithoy

Go find someone else.

She treated you like ****, and only stayed with you for so long because she couldn't do any better. She was only as loyal as her options, and as soon as her options opened up, ****ed off.

DON'T EVER CONTACT HER AGAIN. EVER. If you need to go through a year of anonymous 1 night stands to get over her, do it, just don't ever make the effort of contacting her again.

Ever.

This is the truest thing ive ever heard. As much as you want to call her, dont. She is your world right now, change that. It's going to take more than 4 months, maybe a couple years. But even longer if you keep talking to her. And when you ignore her, she might try to talk to you again, dont do it under any circumstances.

[22/m/UK]

Originally Posted by EdgarAllanPoe

you don't sound very fond of her, what makes u want to get back with her?

are you telling us the whole story? Did you do something stupid along the way, where u clingy, did u annoy her in some way.

The girl told u she wasn't attracted this other guy when you were dating? She probably just said that cause she thought you'd get mad. You gotta think if she's saying negative things about this other guy to you its so she won't upset you. She wouldn't be dating this dude if she thought he was ugly and uninteresting.

Ask yourself why you REALLY care and get detailed about it then really think about whether its worth it.....

also if she's dating this other dude and you and her are not cool, then think about the minimal possibility of you even getting what you want.

we were together for 6 and a half yrs how can i not be fond of her, i love her, i'd do anything for her!!!!

as for the truth, its all there i havent missed out anything, the thing she didnt like was when i beat him.

as for our relationship, its was how we both wanted it, she always looked at others couples and said to me she likes how we are, things were real good, until she started getting attention

[AlphaMe]

Man, ditch that bitch. You were with her for a long time, so of course it's going to take a while to get over her. This girl straight up disrespected you with getting with another guy, and she can easily do it again.

[cheerupemokid]

Originally Posted by 22/m/UK

no im not talking to her, we havent spoken in nearly 4 months. she told me this when we did last speak, rather then moving on and finding better then me she has done the opposite. i want her to realise her mistakes

Why?

From the things you've told us this is girl is shallow, disrespectful and quite possibly a cock hungry whore. Why would you want a girl that doesn't know how to treat you right in your life?

And how many girls have you slept with since you lost the burden of this girl? If it's less than 10 you haven't tried hard enough to get over her.

[joe447]

Originally Posted by Govithoy

Go find someone else.

She treated you like ****, and only stayed with you for so long because she couldn't do any better. She was only as loyal as her options, and as soon as her options opened up, ****ed off.

Don't ever contact her again. Ever. If you need to go through a year of anonymous 1 night stands to get over her, do it, just don't ever make the effort of contacting her again.

Ever.

Thats pretty much how i had to do it. I slept with about 23 women in about 2 months and that did it. Never contact her, and if you do its going to be bad. I contacted my ex after about 6 months just to tell her how over i was of her. In fact I wrote her an e-mail. If you want it to look at it I'll give it to you.

Btw I was with this chick for over 4 years and she cheated on me lol. I caught them and everything it was bad. Whats even more funny she said that because i was bbing and **** she cheated lol. now shes about 190 at 5'6" and prolly 20+ % bf. lol. Wat a bitch. lol.

Just dont contact her man thats the best thing. Youll get and find better.


Edit: Show her how much it hurts, or even better just payback. F*** her bestfriend and record it. Thats what I did, and oh yea I sent her a copy.

[TheDukeUSMC]

Originally Posted by Hubbard

So you want your shallow gf back? I don't know what that's like because I wouldn't date a girl like that. But buddy look at this, she was obviously looking for an upgrade(no insult) or something different and just stayed with you until she could find someone else, it's most likely she was boning this guy when you guys were still together and that she was having doubts about your relationship for along time, girls don't just up and leave, they are thinking about it for a while, brooding over it you know.

It's gonna be hard as hell man, no lies but your already going in the wrong direction, you need to do a 180 man.

Goto the gym, get in the best shape of your life, eat perfect, get looking ****ing amazing, get your confidence up, cuz right now you prolly feel like she's the only one and all that bs, someone post that picture. But you need to get yourself feeling normal again, gotta get her out of your head. Spend a month and be selfish as hell, do everything you want without conscience. Buy a buncha new trendy cool clothes, if you have the money, get a new car, buy a big tv, go and do fun ****, take a trip, weekend with the boys, beach it up, go meet a new social circle. So the next time you bump into her she is like woah you look good, or you look different and then and there brush her off, like she means nothing, cuz by this time you won't even care. Yeah that's the advice.

And tan if you don't already

6. Grow some balls


She sent you a lame text message telling you it's over? How ghey. That woman has no courage to tell you to your face. Move on. Burn all her stuff you have. My ex told me over the phone "We need space' if you're going to break up just say "It's over" plain and simple

[V8 Muscle]

send her a box of cheeseburgers every week and mabye she'll gain the weight back...after that, she's all yours!

[beemrmem3]

Originally Posted by 22/m/UK

we were together for 6 and a half yrs how can i not be fond of her, i love her, i'd do anything for her!!!!

as for the truth, its all there i havent missed out anything, the thing she didnt like was when i beat him.

as for our relationship, its was how we both wanted it, she always looked at others couples and said to me she likes how we are, things were real good, until she started getting attention

You don't miss her. You miss what used to be her. She is not the same person anymore. Shes an attention whore. Alot of girls go threw this phase at some point in there life. My ex is the same way. She was all about us getting married and stuff like that, then all of the sudden she did a 180 and didn't want to be in a relationship and wanted to do whatever she wants. Of course she claims to still love me and wants to talk. I told her no, and haven't been talking to her. Im not going to stick around while she gets this attention whore wild side out of her. What do you know, two weeks later she is hanging out with this metro funny looking asian dude, complete opposite of me. Everyone is just like WTF is she thinking. They are all whores and living a lie....

[ebric]

dnt talk to her again she must have been plannin on ending it if u talk to her then u'll become her lil whippin toy

[22/m/UK]

Originally Posted by V8 Muscle

send her a box of cheeseburgers every week and mabye she'll gain the weight back...after that, she's all yours!

lolol. as easy as it is to say forget her, it reality its hard to do after such a long time of being together. i shouldnt say or think this but i want her back.

there hasnt been a day in the last 4 months were i havent thought of her.

she bad mouthed me for not having a job or a degree, 2 months after she ended it, i have both, and i want her to know this and thats she has lost out. this other blokes has neither a degree and works in his dad hardware shop!!!

i just get what goes throught her mind, one min she loves me then hates me!!

[joe447]

Originally Posted by 22/m/UK

lolol. as easy as it is to say forget her, it reality its hard to do after such a long time of being together. i shouldnt say or think this but i want her back.

there hasnt been a day in the last 4 months were i havent thought of her.

she bad mouthed me for not having a job or a degree, 2 months after she ended it, i have both, and i want her to know this and thats she has lost out. this other blokes has neither a degree and works in his dad hardware shop!!!

i just get what goes throught her mind, one min she loves me then hates me!!

dude just don't worry about her. YOur life is better without her trust me. If you see her dont even look at her. You are to good to even look at an idiot like that so don't. I know it hurts, but it will for a long time. The only thing I can say is that there will be one day where your like wow she was a bitch and I'm glad shes gone. That day is when youll get over her. Until then its going to be a long road man. Just dont do abything stupid, and go hangout with your frinds and stuff. Trust me times like this is when you really need friends.

[Kaptn Krunch]

Here's my advice.

Forget about her. Of course you'll have feelings toward her for a while, you were with her for 6 years...But FORGET ABOUT HER! Stop calling her, don't write her, text her, email her, IM her etc. Leave her alone.

I find that hating them works great. Just think of all the bad stuff she ever did, and ball that all up into some nice rage. When you'd rather push her over a cliff than get back with her, you're cured.

[Ellimist]

These guys all have a point bro. I know you still care about the girl, and nothing will change the fact that you were a major part of each other's live for 6 years.

But that was then. This is now. She is not the same person. That person you fell in love with would never have disrespected you like this. I know it's gonna hurt to hear this, but that girl you knew is gone. Probably forever.

What matters is what you do with the time you have. You could either sink to her level and do her best friend (I reccommend against it, but still funny nonetheless), or you could come out on top (no pun intended) and be the bigger man.

Trust me bro. The days will turn into weeks; weeks to months; months to years. But you have to let yourself get over her.

[Bird4Three]

Originally Posted by Ravage7

...why exactly would you want to get back together with someone like this?

Originally Posted by Govithoy

Don't ever contact her again.

Originally Posted by cyr

Just realize it's over, and go find someone else or a few others to take your mind off of her.

Originally Posted by osymgr

As much as you want to call her, dont.

Originally Posted by AlphaMe

Man, ditch that bitch.

Guy posts to get advice.....Every guy gives the exact same advice.....and unfortunately there is a 99.99% chance this guy will still talk to her.



DON'T TALK TO HER EVER AGAIN. It is only slowing down the healing process. You have probably already met better chicks, but your ex has your head messed up.