Dammit To Hell, What Should I Do?!

illriginal · 10-12-2004, 10:41 AM

This is my situation… back in the day, I went out with this chick who was really good to me and put up with my bull**** including my personality. She was great as a girlfriend and we fell in love, but then this other freak ho wanted a peice of me. This was back in high school where girls were just out for games, anyways I wanted to get freaky with this chick so I told my girlfriend that I wanted a small break. Which then became a huge war with her friends makin us hate each other for a good 18 months. Anyways I got with that one chick in high school which wasn't even all that.

So I lost a damn good girlfriend over ass that wasn't even worth it. After things cooled down with my exgirl we started to hang out again (not involving her friends) and became friends, during this time she was in a relationship for 1 year already and still in love with her man till this day. I remember when we got freaky for the first time again after the break up she started to cry... told me she didn't want to be a cheater and didn’t want to feel like a slut.

Well we went from being together, to breaking up, to being friends again, then kinda having a girl/boyfriend relationship to having sex once a week mainly on Fridays when she has time. At one point I almost got her to break up with her man, yeah it's fawked up but relationship wise I dont want any other female. It's gotten to the point where we talk on the phone for a good hour every other day, discuss what happened through out the days and then Friday comes... she comes over we watch T.V. or a movie or we'll go out to eat and then right afterwards about 1 hour before she has to call it a night.. we'll just start getting into freaky mode and have sex.

She tells me she loves me, but she also loves her boyfriend. So far they've been together for almost 3 years. She tells me she hopes to be with me at the end, but then again why won't she just make things easier and just get rid of her man...

Also one thing that caught my attention was she told me her man and her don’t have sex as much… cuz they don’t have that kind of a relationship. She told me their relationship is more serious than it is fun, where as we go out to the movies, mall, batting cages… etc.. So what’s in my head is.. she basically using me and him to make this sort of “perfect” man or using me to fell in for what he hasn't. I feel as if maybe she uses me for the sex, which sounds cool… but in fact it sucks when I’m trying to get with her and stay with her.

We still do all the fun stuff. It seems like we’re going out but there’s no title to our relationship… I don’t even want to ask her if she thinks we’re friends with benefits, cuz I don’t want to start anything and make things bad between us. Honestly she’s only had 3 boyfriends, I was her 2nd boyfriend, 1st love, and the one to take her virginity as well as that was my 1st love and the one to take my virginity.

What I want to figure out is.. will she end up with me… or with him. I mean women love mature guys, and her man is very mature at all times… in my case I can be more than just mature.

Not only that there's time I tested her, we'd be at the mall and there would be this group of females and I'll tell her to hold up, I'm gonna holler at some females, and I'll even get their number though I dont keep them. Then she gets jealous a bit... and each day till months she'll ask about those same girls, she wont believe I got rid of the numbers. Noticed that if she thinks I'm talkin to other girls, she'll be more touchy feely with me and sex tends to get better as well. Man there’s times I just want to break this girl's boyfriend's face but why should I? He has no fault nor doesn’t know me… or doesn’t even know what’s going on. But just the fact that he has her grr! I think she just loves my sex and uses his money ><

So what the hell do you think I should do?... Honestly I want opinions from who ever understands this. I dont know if maybe I should just give up on us, and let her and her man be.. tell her I'm sorry for ever trying to get us back. Or just keep at it and hope she'll just come back?

Rocky4King · 10-12-2004, 10:44 AM

she is two timing her bf

what makes you think she wont do that to you?

Rocky4King · 10-12-2004, 10:54 AM

[QUOTE=illriginal] But just the fact that he has her grr! I think she just loves my sex and uses his money ><

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thats the definition of a slutbag cum gold digger

wannaturnheads · 10-12-2004, 11:33 AM

Pretty simple from a girl's point of view...you screwed her over and it hurt her...she is afraid it'll happen again so this way she gets to be with you, but doesn't have to fully commit. It's probably a combination of that and the fact that the two of you combined makes her pretty happy. She gets some security that way. If you truly care for her, tell her that you love her enough that you only want it to be you two. She'll either respect you enough for it and decide you're different than you used to be or she'll at least leave you alone and not cause you any hurt because she's jaded and turned into a "not-so-nice" girl because of the past pain.

Bella82 · 10-12-2004, 11:59 AM

I'd have to agree with wannaturnheads, you cannot expect a girl to forgive and forget so easily. The thing is, you're not helping the situation by "hollering" at other females. If you want to be with her, show it!

NUMBNUTS · 10-12-2004, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Rocky4King

she is two timing her bf

what makes you think she wont do that to you?

x2 she a hoe now. just hit it and quit it.

illriginal · 10-14-2004, 06:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Bella82

I'd have to agree with wannaturnheads, you cannot expect a girl to forgive and forget so easily. The thing is, you're not helping the situation by "hollering" at other females. If you want to be with her, show it!

But I do!, I've only tested her with the "hollering" of females... it's not like I have interest in them. I just want to see her reaction and she seems to get jealous very easily. Then she grabs onto me and doesn't let go till we get
back in the car.

Yes I understand I hurt her once before... but I haven't ever before or after that, and she's told me that I hurt her and I told her I was sorry. I told her I was young, dumb and full of cum, basically meaning it was all about getting laid I guess with different girls... but after we broke up I did my thing then started to date other females and non of them match up to her. She's basically perfect, she's the only female that I have never gotten into an arguement with, unless it was politics or just things out of the relationship. The only time we argued relationship wise was when I broke up with her, cuz I had no real reason to break up with her.

The only thing that I think it might be bad on my part is the fact that I'm a full time student and I dont have a job, I've looked but it's been bad. I can't find anything, plus I used to have a ride and see her a lot more than I do now. Maybe she's waitin for me to get a job and be financially stable.

Ah well I guess I can still be by her side till she finally makes up her mind. But it'll be the ****tiest day when she tells me she's sorry but she can't leave her current man. She knows that she's the only one I'd spend the rest of my life with, and if not then I'd stay single and just have 1 night stands for the rest of my life if I have to.

illriginal · 10-14-2004, 06:52 AM

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Originally Posted by wannaturnheads

Pretty simple from a girl's point of view...you screwed her over and it hurt her...she is afraid it'll happen again so this way she gets to be with you, but doesn't have to fully commit. It's probably a combination of that and the fact that the two of you combined makes her pretty happy. She gets some security that way. If you truly care for her, tell her that you love her enough that you only want it to be you two. She'll either respect you enough for it and decide you're different than you used to be or she'll at least leave you alone and not cause you any hurt because she's jaded and turned into a "not-so-nice" girl because of the past pain.

That actually makes sense...
trust me we tell each other we love one another but I dont know if that matters at this point, I used to tell her I loved her back in the day when we first when out. I think she thinks I just say that I love her just for other reasons other than the true meaning.