I love when girls do this &@$%

GyM_RaT · 06-12-2007, 06:44 PM

So my EX broke up with me about 8 months ago outta the blue pulling that whole jeckyl and hyde ****. Anyways i'm not going to go into details but the other day she sends me a friend request on Myspace after deleting me after we broke up. Needless to say im still bitter over the break up but the fact that she wants to talk to me is a little intriguing. I'm debating whether or not to add her cause part of me just wants to talk to her and another part of me wants to say **** it. What would you guys do cause i'm sure its happend to some of you before.

Majik Ninja · 06-12-2007, 06:57 PM

without details its hard to say...

from my experiences (which may differ from yours as i'm sure they do), i'd go for it and see what she has to say.

Good luck!

NaturalMsO · 06-12-2007, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by GyM_RaT

So my EX broke up with me about 8 months ago outta the blue pulling that whole jeckyl and hyde ****. Anyways i'm not going to go into details but the other day she sends me a friend request on Myspace after deleting me after we broke up. Needless to say im still bitter over the break up but the fact that she wants to talk to me is a little intriguing. I'm debating whether or not to add her cause part of me just wants to talk to her and another part of me wants to say **** it. What would you guys do cause i'm sure its happend to some of you before.

Maybe you should consider talking with her. Perhaps she was going through a lot of horrible stuff and she didn't want to burden you with it ... and now maybe she's ready to talk and give you, at least, an explanation for her behavior. Just a thought. Good luck to you.

user89489489438943 · 06-12-2007, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by GyM_RaT

So my EX broke up with me about 8 months ago outta the blue pulling that whole jeckyl and hyde ****. Anyways i'm not going to go into details but the other day she sends me a friend request on Myspace after deleting me after we broke up. Needless to say im still bitter over the break up but the fact that she wants to talk to me is a little intriguing. I'm debating whether or not to add her cause part of me just wants to talk to her and another part of me wants to say **** it. What would you guys do cause i'm sure its happend to some of you before.

for u to see how my gf THINKS shes got it in her favor.

she broke up with me twice already, and 1 being 2 days ago. but then again, its a matter of a day for her to come back to me. everytime she 'breaks up' with me, i go: "OK!"

lmao. its like, i know ur gonna come back so im not even gonna bother saying anything. and BOOM! there she is! next day she sends me a msg on aim tellin me she wanted to call me to talk.. im like ok.. and here we are! back again..

but what does piss me off is that she takes forever to ****ing change her status on facebook/myspace to in a relationship. THAT ****ING PISSES ME OFF A LOT.

/end rant.

NaturalMsO · 06-12-2007, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Inho

for u to see how my gf THINKS shes got it in her favor.

she broke up with me twice already, and 1 being 2 days ago. but then again, its a matter of a day for her to come back to me. everytime she 'breaks up' with me, i go: "OK!"

lmao. its like, i know ur gonna come back so im not even gonna bother saying anything. and BOOM! there she is! next day she sends me a msg on aim tellin me she wanted to call me to talk.. im like ok.. and here we are! back again..

but what does piss me off is that she takes forever to ****ing change her status on facebook/myspace to in a relationship. THAT ****ING PISSES ME OFF A LOT.

/end rant.

You guys sound like Elaine and Puddy. LOL

GyM_RaT · 06-12-2007, 07:02 PM

Sorry....Basically the long and short of it was she didn't think she was going to fall in love with another person since her ex-fiancee. We are both in the military well shes out now but I was going to a diff. base and she didn't want to do a long distance relationship. Then she gave me a whole slew of reasons why she is all ****ed up and terrible at relationships and how her Ex abused her emotionally blah blah blah.

GyM_RaT · 06-12-2007, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by NaturalMsO

Maybe you should consider talking with her. Perhaps she was going through a lot of horrible stuff and she didn't want to burden you with it ... and now maybe she's ready to talk and give you, at least, an explanation for her behavior. Just a thought. Good luck to you.

I know she was going through a lot of stuff with her father dieing and she had a big test coming up for her job and she was getting really stressed out.

Right before I left Germany I asked her on aim to see her one last time for lunch or whatever and she replied, "What for?" After that I just said, "Alright take it easy and god bless", never talked to her again.

Lowerthefever · 06-12-2007, 07:06 PM

You should just decline it. Break all contact. As you do with all ex gfs.

GyM_RaT · 06-12-2007, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Inho

for u to see how my gf THINKS shes got it in her favor.

she broke up with me twice already, and 1 being 2 days ago. but then again, its a matter of a day for her to come back to me. everytime she 'breaks up' with me, i go: "OK!"

lmao. its like, i know ur gonna come back so im not even gonna bother saying anything. and BOOM! there she is! next day she sends me a msg on aim tellin me she wanted to call me to talk.. im like ok.. and here we are! back again..

but what does piss me off is that she takes forever to ****ing change her status on facebook/myspace to in a relationship. THAT ****ING PISSES ME OFF A LOT.

/end rant.

Girls do things when its convenient for them you know. They think they can have their cake and eat it too.

82nd_Fister · 06-12-2007, 07:30 PM

Am I the only person who upon seeing the word "Myspace" just totally gives up on any hope of there being any substance to a thread?

I'm sorry, myspace is childish and DATING on myspace is even worse. You're an idiot.

Illadelphia · 06-12-2007, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Inho

but what does piss me off is that she takes forever to ****ing change her status on facebook/myspace to in a relationship. THAT ****ING PISSES ME OFF A LOT

Strong roid rage

GyM_RaT · 06-12-2007, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by 82nd_Fister

Am I the only person who upon seeing the word "Myspace" just totally gives up on any hope of there being any substance to a thread?

I'm sorry, myspace is childish and DATING on myspace is even worse. You're an idiot.

LMAO you need to chill out broseve. Anyways its almost certain you will meet a girls nowadays who has myspace/facebook so what am I going to do not date her becuase she has an account. Maybe you should have read the thread or not read it becuase I think your the Idiot who thinks I met this girl on myspace which definitely was not the case.

aeons · 06-12-2007, 07:42 PM

cut contact with her completely, it'll be the best thing you've ever done. Same **** happened to me with an ex and I declined and blocked her when i had a myspace.

82nd_Fister · 06-12-2007, 07:57 PM

I know you didn't meet her on myspace. I'm just saying. Myspace is pathetic

NaturalMsO · 06-12-2007, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by GyM_RaT

I know she was going through a lot of stuff with her father dieing and she had a big test coming up for her job and she was getting really stressed out.

Right before I left Germany I asked her on aim to see her one last time for lunch or whatever and she replied, "What for?" After that I just said, "Alright take it easy and god bless", never talked to her again.

Well, there ya go. Probably just wants to talk, if she's ready. I hope it works out for you both. Whatever the outcome of the relationship, may it be a pleasant and peaceful one for both parties.

caramon · 06-12-2007, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by aeons

cut contact with her completely, it'll be the best thing you've ever done. Same **** happened to me with an ex and I declined and blocked her when i had a myspace.

I agree with this guy.

I mean, she CUT CONTACT from you like a slap in the face and now you're considering talking to her again? If you have dignity, send her a message telling her that you don't want to talk.

Besides, all she's going to do is tell you how she's doing and if she has a new boyfriend, she will probably tell you about that. Do you really want to hear about that?

Restecp · 06-13-2007, 12:29 AM

She probably just wants a higher Myspace Friend count.

Npeart · 06-13-2007, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by GyM_RaT

So my EX broke up with me about 8 months ago outta the blue pulling that whole jeckyl and hyde ****. Anyways i'm not going to go into details but the other day she sends me a friend request on Myspace after deleting me after we broke up. Needless to say im still bitter over the break up but the fact that she wants to talk to me is a little intriguing. I'm debating whether or not to add her cause part of me just wants to talk to her and another part of me wants to say **** it. What would you guys do cause i'm sure its happend to some of you before.

Deny her friend request. If she tries to contact you to ask why, ignore her.

GyM_RaT · 06-13-2007, 02:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Restecp

She probably just wants a higher Myspace Friend count.

LMAO

GyM_RaT · 06-13-2007, 02:46 AM

When you deny someones friend request does it tell the person who sent it that it was denied?

Fendi · 06-13-2007, 08:23 AM

Ya, i got an invite from facebook from the ex of 3 years. God knows why, as she hasn't made any contact with me in 10 months.

phateless · 06-13-2007, 09:16 AM

I say don't talk to her until you're over her. It will only f*ck with your head... I want to be friends with my ex someday but I'm not ready. It's been 9 months and I was with her 4.5 years. Haven't spoken a word to her 6-7 months.

nognig · 06-13-2007, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Lowerthefever

You should just decline it. Break all contact. As you do with all ex gfs.

+1

I can promise you that all she is looking for is an ego boost. If you make contact with her and you still have some feelings for her (sounds like you do), you'll just dredge up old feelings and get hurt again.

CUT OFF ALL CONTACT!!

NN

GyM_RaT · 06-13-2007, 01:14 PM

You guys are right....DECLINE HAHAHA **** THAT BITCH!!!!!

mcxk · 06-13-2007, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by aeons

cut contact with her completely, it'll be the best thing you've ever done. Same **** happened to me with an ex and I declined and blocked her when i had a myspace.

for a 17 year old ur smarter than a lot of the older members here, reps

NaturalMsO · 06-13-2007, 04:48 PM

I disagree with what some people have been saying here. Why break all contact with her and block her and play immature games like that? What good would it do for either of you? Why not just give her the benefit of the doubt and find out what she wants to talk to you about. After the two of you talk, THEN make your decision whether or not you want to break all contact with her. That seems like a much more sensible, mature thing to do.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.

mcxk · 06-13-2007, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by NaturalMsO

I disagree with what some people have been saying here. Why break all contact with her and block her and play immature games like that? What good would it do for either of you? Why not just give her the benefit of the doubt and find out what she wants to talk to you about. After the two of you talk, THEN make your decision whether or not you want to break all contact with her. That seems like a much more sensible, mature thing to do.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.

He is not "playing immature games", he is simply breaking contact with her and that's that. She did not even bother to give him an explanation as to why she dumped him, and left him hanging for 8 months, and now all of a sudden he should accept her friend request to hear what she has to say? Fukk what she has to say, she is not some godess who should be give the benefit of the doubt because whatever she has to say now is irrelevant, she should have said it 8 months ago. Unless Gym rat is stuck in his past (something chumps have in common) he has no reason to want to hear anything she has to say cuz he has moved in with his life.

I mean seriously what is she going to say?
1. Apologize: She could do that with an email.
2. Try and get back with him: He is not her servant, and should not have to be waiting on her to get her **** together so that she can come back to grab him whenever she wants, and not even bother to explain what was wrong for 8 months. That sort of **** is just inexcusable regardless of circumstances.
3. Talk about a new bf: That will only rub salt in OP's wounds.

SO as you can see she is simply not worth listening to. A man with any self-respect would ignore this selfish inconsiderate girl.

Real talk.

NaturalMsO · 06-13-2007, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by mcxk

He is not "playing immature games", he is simply breaking contact with her and that's that. She did not even bother to give him an explanation as to why she dumped him, and left him hanging for 8 months, and now all of a sudden he should accept her friend request to hear what she has to say? Fukk what she has to say, she is not some godess who should be give the benefit of the doubt because whatever she has to say now is irrelevant, she should have said it 8 months ago. Unless Gym rat is stuck in his past (something chumps have in common) he has no reason to want to hear anything she has to say cuz he has moved in with his life.

I mean seriously what is she going to say?
1. Apologize: She could do that with an email.
2. Try and get back with him: He is not her servant, and should not have to be waiting on her to get her **** together so that she can come back to grab him whenever she wants, and not even bother to explain what was wrong for 8 months. That sort of **** is just inexcusable regardless of circumstances.
3. Talk about a new bf: That will only rub salt in OP's wounds.

SO as you can see she is simply not worth listening to. A man with any self-respect would ignore this selfish inconsiderate girl.

Real talk.

And "real talk" is an apology via e-mail? I ... don't think so. If you read the entire thread, the OP did state that his girl was going through some tough times (her father's death, etc.), which may or may not have had a factor in the abrupt breakup. All I'm saying is: Why not give her the benefit of the doubt and see what she has to say? I agree, it wasn't right of her to do that the way she did ... but perhaps she feels so incredibly awful and can't live with herself knowing the way she treated him and wants to apologize (face to face) from the bottom of her heart.

Sometimes, it's worth it to give people the benefit of the doubt until you have a really good reason not to. That's all I'm saying.

aeons · 06-13-2007, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by NaturalMsO

I disagree with what some people have been saying here. Why break all contact with her and block her and play immature games like that? What good would it do for either of you? Why not just give her the benefit of the doubt and find out what she wants to talk to you about. After the two of you talk, THEN make your decision whether or not you want to break all contact with her. That seems like a much more sensible, mature thing to do.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.

It's not being immature, it's called moving on from **** that brings you down in life that you honestly don't need. Why drag along a broken leg when you can get it fixed?

Tonking · 06-13-2007, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by GyM_RaT

So my EX broke up with me about 8 months ago outta the blue pulling that whole jeckyl and hyde ****. Anyways i'm not going to go into details but the other day she sends me a friend request on Myspace after deleting me after we broke up. Needless to say im still bitter over the break up but the fact that she wants to talk to me is a little intriguing. I'm debating whether or not to add her cause part of me just wants to talk to her and another part of me wants to say **** it. What would you guys do cause i'm sure its happend to some of you before.

i say fuk it.
i went out wiht the same girl after we broke up.. wasnt good