girl ignored me--I spotted her driving, but drove away - was i rude?

[fazazakzz]

there is a girl I liked who I used to hang out with a few months ago pretty regularly. Long story short--she had a BF, so i just played it cool and was waiting for her to break up. It was inevitable that she would break eventually break up with him given the way she was being treated.

Anyways, around a month ago while we were talking on the phone, she mentioned that she had broke up with the BF. Ever since that day it seems as if she has been ignoring and avoiding me. I was having a hard time getting a hold of her on the phone, and she would hardly return my calls. The last time i spoke to her was aorund 2 weeks ago over msn. I tried having a regular convo, but she started giving me one word answers, and then after a few mintues she stopped messaging me all together. I waited for 10 minutes then said "hey im leaving!", within a second she says "bye". This just confirmed that she had been intentionally ignoring me, so i ended up saying "thanks for ignoring me" before logging off. From that day on, i stopped getting on msn in hopes of her being on. I also stopped anticipating day after day that she would eventually call. I also forced myself not to call her.

Today (two weeks after the msn convo) while i was driving around the grocery stores parking lot, i spotted her in her car driving around. I thought i heard her honk but iam not 100% certain she did. Anyways, i ended up catching up behind her and trailed her as she pulled into a parking spot. Instead of pulling into the parking spot next to her, I pulled a left turn and drove away. I dont know why i drove away--it just felt totally involuntary.

Anyways, im not even sure if she saw me. Im not sure if it was her who honked. I am just worried that if she saw me, would she think i was rude?? Did i do a good thing by driving away? Would you have done the same?

[RavensFan2k3]

Originally Posted by fazazakzz

Anyways, im not even sure if she saw me. Im not sure if it was her who honked. I am just worried that if she saw me, would she think i was rude?? Did i do a good thing by driving away? Would you have done the same?

If she saw you, she'd think its rude. If you want her, you did a bad thing. If you dont want her anymore and you want her to know, you did the right thing.

[fazazakzz]

Originally Posted by RavensFan2k3

If she saw you, she'd think its rude. If you want her, you did a bad thing. If you dont want her anymore and you want her to know, you did the right thing.

well i actually did have to get back to work, but i did have enough time to pull over and just say hi. IF she does end up calling, i think ill just let her know. LAst thing i want is for her to think im rude. At the end she was rude by ignoring me.

[mcxk]

fukk her, be rude to her and Don't apologize for it. SHe initiated the rudeness.

[idesigner]

Originally Posted by mcxk

fukk her, be rude to her and Don't apologize for it. SHe initiated the rudeness.

what this guy said. **** that ****

[xagdxvips]

Girls and their mind games. She's playing you man. They all do that ****. She wanted to see how much you liked her if you kept talking to her. What I DO NOT agree with is you saying "thanks for ignoring me" before you logged off.

When you act like she never existed is when stupid girls want you back. It's a shame, you treat women with respect and kindness you get nowhere. You treat them like sh!t and act like they're nothing, they want to bang you.

My 2 cents..is that you did the right thing by driving away. Now she's thinking all these thoughts about this and that. LOL Girls SUCK!!!! They have no idea what they want. Never get too attached to some chick.

[DXX1980]

Originally Posted by fazazakzz

there is a girl I liked who I used to hang out with a few months ago pretty regularly. Long story short--she had a BF, so i just played it cool and was waiting for her to break up. It was inevitable that she would break eventually break up with him given the way she was being treated.

Anyways, around a month ago while we were talking on the phone, she mentioned that she had broke up with the BF. Ever since that day it seems as if she has been ignoring and avoiding me. I was having a hard time getting a hold of her on the phone, and she would hardly return my calls. The last time i spoke to her was aorund 2 weeks ago over msn. I tried having a regular convo, but she started giving me one word answers, and then after a few mintues she stopped messaging me all together. I waited for 10 minutes then said "hey im leaving!", within a second she says "bye". This just confirmed that she had been intentionally ignoring me, so i ended up saying "thanks for ignoring me" before logging off. From that day on, i stopped getting on msn in hopes of her being on. I also stopped anticipating day after day that she would eventually call. I also forced myself not to call her.

Today (two weeks after the msn convo) while i was driving around the grocery stores parking lot, i spotted her in her car driving around. I thought i heard her honk but iam not 100% certain she did. Anyways, i ended up catching up behind her and trailed her as she pulled into a parking spot. Instead of pulling into the parking spot next to her, I pulled a left turn and drove away. I dont know why i drove away--it just felt totally involuntary.

Anyways, im not even sure if she saw me. Im not sure if it was her who honked. I am just worried that if she saw me, would she think i was rude?? Did i do a good thing by driving away? Would you have done the same?

why is that rude? she ignored you and treated you like **** and you still feel bad about driving away? you did the right thing.

[fazazakzz]

Originally Posted by xagdxvips

Girls and their mind games. She's playing you man. They all do that ****. She wanted to see how much you liked her if you kept talking to her. What I DO NOT agree with is you saying "thanks for ignoring me" before you logged off.

When you act like she never existed is when stupid girls want you back. It's a shame, you treat women with respect and kindness you get nowhere. You treat them like sh!t and act like they're nothing, they want to bang you.

My 2 cents..is that you did the right thing by driving away. Now she's thinking all these thoughts about this and that. LOL Girls SUCK!!!! They have no idea what they want. Never get too attached to some chick.

yea i bet she is having a million different things running through her mind now. I treated this girl so good, and all i got in return was her avoiding me. Girls are weird.

[MrBrain-]

Dude...I recently had a case of one-itis (cept the girl is interested in me) and I can tell you that as SOON as u start this worry wart ****, respect her above urself (ie. waitin for her on MSn when shes not convoing properly) and start analysing her ****...you will LOSE CONTROL (if u ever had any control) and she will start treatig u like a boy...not a ****ing man. also note that friendship usually but not always means being treated like a 'boy'.


STOP. Wake up. Realise uve got one-itis. dont just say it...RECOGNISE and BLAME urself for ur feelings...cose your the one whos creating them...real 'love' is somthing that is reflected back...if its not being refelected than its simply one-itis or obsession/ deep connection.

You are the problem. Stop careing about her...dont say it to her 'im not caring now' or anything similarly lame (ull come off as qualifying urself) but rather just STOP CARING and maybe even try to frustrate her for fun. FOR FUN! Let her ****ing go...LIVE UR LIFE...reality is what it is..u cant change it and if shes avoiding u than good on her...she wont get your respect will she!!

Then if she knocks on ur door...than cool....if not, **** her anyways ur fine without her.

Also ask yourself...do u think she is obssessing over this rediculous horn honking thing? no ....if anything shes pissed at u...and so ****ing what? She wasnt gonna honk and then come over and blow u. If she takes offense its her problem and if u cant sort it out later than **** her...shes a shallow whore anyways rite?

[fazazakzz]

well it looks like she is on msn right now (im appearing offline). Im contemplating whether or not to log on. Its 12:15AM, she is usually not on this late at night--i bet she is waiting for me..

[MrBrain-]

Get on.. say hi...then vibe with her. Neg her, be playfull...if she isnt returning the love. Then be like...meh im bored ...see ya...get offline.

And dont mention the horn thing...I swear ur thinkin that U AFC mother****er!! dont u dare.

[fazazakzz]

Originally Posted by MrBrain-

Get on.. say hi...then vibe with her. Neg her, be playfull...if she isnt returning the love. Then be like...meh im bored ...see ya...get offline.

And dont mention the horn thing...I swear ur thinkin that U AFC mother****er!! dont u dare.

Right as i was about to go on she logged off, so i didnt bother. YEa i was just going to play it off like i didnt notice her in the parking lot. Im not going to mention her honking. Ill just tell her i was zoned out becuase i had the flu, which is true, i am pretty sick today.

[IAmABiscuit]

Originally Posted by xagdxvips

LOL Girls SUCK!!!!

They do

[BUGIE]

Originally Posted by fazazakzz

while i was driving around the grocery stores parking lot, i spotted her in her car driving around. I thought i heard her honk but iam not 100% certain she did. Anyways, i ended up catching up behind her and trailed her as she pulled into a parking spot. Instead of pulling into the parking spot next to her, I pulled a left turn and drove away. I dont know why i drove away--it just felt totally involuntary.

I think she'd say this guy is stalking me.. It sounds like you drove up behind her in a parking lot (which is true stalker behaviour and shows you went out of your way to follow her) so she'd know you were there and then purposely drove off

P.s. if she ignored you, you did right.... I do the same....

I've done worse.... This girl at school would hang out with me all day at school but then totally ignore me on the weekend... I approached her about she was like "sorry i didn't realise" but did it again the next weekend.

After about a month or so i saw her on a bus stop one weekend while driving. She saw me coming and her face lit up with the "he's gonna stop and give me a lift" look... Instead of stopping i honked the horn, waved hello and kept on going..


I'll tell you something the bitch got the message that day

[mcxk]

Originally Posted by fazazakzz

Right as i was about to go on she logged off, so i didnt bother. YEa i was just going to play it off like i didnt notice her in the parking lot. Im not going to mention her honking. Ill just tell her i was zoned out becuase i had the flu, which is true, i am pretty sick today.

Way to go, not only will she know your a pussy punk, she will also know you are a liar. Just ignore her and man up, show her who the boss is, I am sick of this generation of dickless males.

[fazazakzz]

Originally Posted by mcxk

Way to go, not only will she know your a pussy punk, she will also know you are a liar. Just ignore her and man up, show her who the boss is, I am sick of this generation of dickless males.

alrite. so tell me, what should i do? Act like yesterdays event never happened?

[mr.perffect]

Originally Posted by fazazakzz

there is a girl I liked who I used to hang out with a few months ago pretty regularly. Long story short--she had a BF, so i just played it cool and was waiting for her to break up. It was inevitable that she would break eventually break up with him given the way she was being treated.

Anyways, around a month ago while we were talking on the phone, she mentioned that she had broke up with the BF. Ever since that day it seems as if she has been ignoring and avoiding me. I was having a hard time getting a hold of her on the phone, and she would hardly return my calls. The last time i spoke to her was aorund 2 weeks ago over msn. I tried having a regular convo, but she started giving me one word answers, and then after a few mintues she stopped messaging me all together. I waited for 10 minutes then said "hey im leaving!", within a second she says "bye". This just confirmed that she had been intentionally ignoring me, so i ended up saying "thanks for ignoring me" before logging off. From that day on, i stopped getting on msn in hopes of her being on. I also stopped anticipating day after day that she would eventually call. I also forced myself not to call her.

Today (two weeks after the msn convo) while i was driving around the grocery stores parking lot, i spotted her in her car driving around. I thought i heard her honk but iam not 100% certain she did. Anyways, i ended up catching up behind her and trailed her as she pulled into a parking spot. Instead of pulling into the parking spot next to her, I pulled a left turn and drove away. I dont know why i drove away--it just felt totally involuntary.

Anyways, im not even sure if she saw me. Im not sure if it was her who honked. I am just worried that if she saw me, would she think i was rude?? Did i do a good thing by driving away? Would you have done the same?

wow strong stalking

[Relativity]

This is bizarre.

[c.r.e.a.m.]

i think your thinking to much

[DXX1980]

Originally Posted by fazazakzz

alrite. so tell me, what should i do? Act like yesterdays event never happened?

get another gf and ignore the bitch, or talk to her face to face and tell her to stop playing head games