Met a girl who works at a bar, got her number, gotta call her, what to say? (serious)

drakx188 · 05-28-2007, 01:00 AM

So i met this girl at a bar recently, and she gave me her number, first of all she said it was a house line...said she didnt have a cell phone (yea, right)
So she told me she works at night (at the bar) so shes free during the day. I met her on Saturday night so i figured id wait till monday or tuesday...except monday, tomorrow, is labor day or whatever

first of all what day should i call?
second, what should i say? Hey ___, this is ___, we met sat night while you were working at ____. Just caling to see if you want to meet up for dinner sometime, if youre up for it my number is ______. Hope to talk to you soon"

i dont want to sound like a fruitcake, but i always want to come off as slightly a nice guy so she at least returns my call since i got a "land line"
but at the bar she kissed me on the cheek twice and grabbed my ass twice soo.....dunno

ive never really called a girl i just randomly met to meet up with her, i always knew them or saw them in a person a few times so i dunno wtf to say

suggestions? (serious)
if you **** around ill neg you so dont bother unless you have something worthwhile to say...much appreciated

Relativity · 05-28-2007, 01:07 AM

Figure out something to do on what you might guess is her day off and during the day and say hey I'm doing this and wanted to see if you wanted to come (yes there is a good reason for saying wanted to come, innuendo, she'll get it if not point it out and then you can say wtf I just meant go with me. Put her in her place. Chicks eat that crap up.). Keep the call short. If she declines say cool, talk to you later and hang up.

drakx188 · 05-28-2007, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Relativity

Figure out something to do on what you might guess is her day off and during the day and say hey I'm doing this and wanted to see if you wanted to come (yes there is a good reason for saying wanted to come, innuendo, she'll get it if not point it out and then you can say wtf I just meant go with me. Put her in her place. Chicks eat that crap up.). Keep the call short. If she declines say cool, talk to you later and hang up.

she works at a bar on the boardwalk/beach so doing anything there is pretty much out of the question. she works nights so what kind of **** is there to do in the day, the day is gym time....that is foreign territory to taking a new girl out for me

so just be like hey im doin blah blah and i wanted to see if you wanted to come with me......

but do what!

thickmasss · 05-28-2007, 01:15 AM

ask if she wants to meet for a coffee
just coz you say coffee doesnt mean you need to drink it though
then after that go on to dinner

1quick1 · 05-28-2007, 01:16 AM

Just keep it short. Call her Monday - Wednesday and ask if she'd like to meet you for coffee or lunch somewhere. Keep it short and sweet. Keep the first date short and sweet as well.

drakx188 · 05-28-2007, 01:20 AM

see im banking on this, i dont want to **** it up
just broke up with a girl of 6 months the other day...and i need ass, so i dont want to **** this up and dunno when another girl as hot as this will come around

should i call her tomorrow even though its labor day or whatever

1quick1 · 05-28-2007, 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by drakx188

see im banking on this, i dont want to **** it up
just broke up with a girl of 6 months the other day...and i need ass, so i dont want to **** this up and dunno when another girl as hot as this will come around

should i call her tomorrow even though its labor day or whatever

I can smell your desperation through the internet. Females desperation detectors are 50x stronger then males. Show even the slightest sign of desperation to a woman and your chances are gone. I'm thinking this isn't going to go very well.

Relativity · 05-28-2007, 01:27 AM

I don't like these coffee ideas.. yuck, boring. You said boardwalk so that means NJ (right?). Be creative, what is fun to do in NJ, yet (and this is CRITICAL) not something every Joe does. You're going to need to be a little creative on this. Find out her day off if possible anyway you can, you can do it, if you want this girl so bad use your big head and do it.

Relativity · 05-28-2007, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by 1quick1

I can smell your desperation through the internet. Females desperation detectors are 50x stronger then males. Show even the slightest sign of desperation to a woman and your chances are gone. I'm thinking this isn't going to go very well.

I agree with this. You're going to need to relax a tad and not treat this as your last chance.

drakx188 · 05-28-2007, 01:32 AM

its obvious im not going to act like this to some girl
im asking questions now to get ideas of what to do

the 2 questions are, what to say on the phone, and what to do with her when i meet up with her

i know this isnt my last chance, but like i said, i want booty, and shes really hot

akkxn · 05-28-2007, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by drakx188

its obvious im not going to act like this to some girl
im asking questions now to get ideas of what to do

the 2 questions are, what to say on the phone, and what to do with her when i meet up with her

i know this isnt my last chance, but like i said, i want booty, and shes really hot

hey bro, I'm may be only 16, but I've tried/am practicing the a.s.f (www.fastseduction.com) techniques. I suggest you check out that site before you make the call, take a look a few articles concerning how to talk to chicks and get them attracted to you, as opposed to you chasing them. It seems like you really don't wanna miss this opportunity, so to maximize your chance for success I recommend you read up. There's no shame in getting an advantage in life via the internet

1quick1 · 05-28-2007, 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by akkxn

hey bro, I'm may be only 16, but I've tried/am practicing the a.s.f (www.fastseduction.com) techniques. I suggest you check out that site before you make the call, take a look a few articles concerning how to talk to chicks and get them attracted to you, as opposed to you chasing them. It seems like you really don't wanna miss this opportunity, so to maximize your chance for success I recommend you read up. There's no shame in getting an advantage in life via the internet

Bingo. God if only that site was available to me 6-7 years ago...

sugicalmike · 05-28-2007, 02:06 AM

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Originally Posted by drakx188

its obvious im not going to act like this to some girl
im asking questions now to get ideas of what to do

the 2 questions are, what to say on the phone, and what to do with her when i meet up with her

i know this isnt my last chance, but like i said, i want booty, and shes really hot

Have a plan.. but be spontanious... so by sounding like you're not really sure what you want to do, but by having options she wont feel akward by you just asking her to dinner, or going out for coffee... some chicks don't like that kinda thing first off. I always ask them if they play tennis or golf or something stupid like that... those always seem to work... they're out in public, fun to di (if you're into it) and can spend lots of time doing it.

drakx188 · 05-28-2007, 02:10 AM

true true
ty for the advice

last questions...should i call tomorrow or tuesday
met her on sat.

sugicalmike · 05-28-2007, 02:23 AM

the sooner the better

drakx188 · 05-28-2007, 02:27 AM

i was thinking tomorrow i dont do that 2-3 day bull****. sat, sun, mon....good enough right?

phateless · 05-28-2007, 10:05 AM

My favorite first date is a hike, and I think this is a winner in your situation because she works at a bar. She's in a dark, smokey room with sweaty drunk people every night. Getting outside and getting some fresh air would be nice, and I bet most people in bars don't invite her hiking. Call her whenever you're comfortable. The most important thing is for you to not worry about it. Be confident and be yourself.

azne · 05-28-2007, 10:11 AM

be like
'HEY BABEEE!! wnna come to the gym with me and watch me sweat while i bench press 500lbs?!?

' lol jk ask her if she wants to go shopping o.O (serious) girls love shopping

Ir0n_Samurai · 05-28-2007, 01:09 PM

One general rule I follow is that I never make it seem like i'm giving them priority in my life. Rather than saying "Do you want to grab some lunch?" Say "I was feeling kind of hungry and was about to go out for lunch, and I thought maybe you wanted to tag along"

niospecv · 05-28-2007, 02:04 PM

How do you make a long island iced tea?

Immichaelski · 05-28-2007, 03:02 PM

just sound really confident and all and say hey girl ever since you grabbed my ass Ive been hard and I cant get your fine looking self out of my head. Lmao, that might work, but hey go to the bar or wherever she works.

Below 30 · 05-28-2007, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by drakx188

i dont want to sound like a fruitcake, but i always want to come off as slightly a nice guy so she at least returns my call since i got a "land line"
but at the bar she kissed me on the cheek twice and grabbed my ass twice soo.....dunno

So she's smoking hot and the way to get her is to pretend to be nice? Where did you learn that? That right there is your problem, you value the life of a random girl more than your own.

That's why you're running around all scared about what to do. The Girl made all that physical play on you and you want to treat her so delicate? That's like having a SUV and driving slowly over train tracks. SUV's were designed to drive over much worse, why be delicate on train tracks? So obviously this girl is comfortable with her sexuality to show it to you early on. Don't treat her like an idiot. Don't be all nice and polite when that isn't you.

When you call her, you joke around with her (you have to figure out what's funny) and 10 minutes later you tell her that on a certain day, you and her are walking on the board walk. She'll tell you yes or no, if no and she doesn't tell you a different day, you tell her that's cool and end the call. Then forget about her.

Ironically, by treating the situation as desparate, you're going to screw it up so fast you won't believe. Reality is, you have to be prepared to find other girls and relax.

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