Best friend messing with girl friend.

Brokensteel · 05-24-2007, 12:48 PM

Basically, he's messing with this girl that I have a bit of history with, but have since become really, really close friends. A short while ago, we cut any "romantic" ties between us and then my best friend decides he likes her. See, she already really dislikes him because she believes that he's a bad influence on me (and I can't say I disagree). About three weeks ago, he begins talking to her on AIM...a lot.

Apparently, it started off as cute, innocent "flirting" or whatever. After that, he tells her straight up that he likes her, even using the word love and asks her out. She turns him down. A week or so later, he does the same thing. This time, she tells him like it is.

A school club that both of them are in is going to Auburn University in July for some sort of meeting thing. He tells her that he's going to stay in the same hotel room as her and is going to sleep with her (What he means, I don't know.)

Last night, she calls me and tells me that he's really bothering her. He's been asking for pictures because he found out that she's given me several, he's making all sorts of sexual jokes towards her, won't stop texting and calling her, and is literally afraid of what he'll do on the trip.

What the hell do I do? I'm literally torn between two friends. I never knew that he was a "creep" or stalker in anyway, and if I bring it up, he'll just lie about it. When he's around me, he always tells me that he can't stand her.

I'll rep for decent advice.

niospecv · 05-24-2007, 01:01 PM

This is tough because she isn't your gf technically but he should respect the fact that you all have some history. You can't totally blow him off either because unless you and the girl are dating then it is fair game. Talk to him about this in a rational matter and see where it goes from there.

Dirtrider290 · 05-24-2007, 01:04 PM

Tell him you secretly like her and maybe he'll lay off a little bit.

Brokensteel · 05-24-2007, 01:06 PM

I didn't mean to come across as her being my girlfriend, she's just a really close friend of mine. And it wouldn't bother me so much if he didn't have her scared out of her mind.

And she's made it clear that she doesn't want to be with him, but he continues to obsess about her.

wmirza · 05-24-2007, 03:51 PM

tell him u like her and ur trying to hook up with her.. or let her tell him she has a bf hell back off eventually

FunkDaddy · 05-24-2007, 04:12 PM

Get him a hooker.

But seriously, some people don't know they come off as creepy and obsessive, they really are oblivious. Tell him he really needs to back off because she ain't feelin his pimpage. If he continues, tell him he really needs to back the **** off because she's one hair doll away from a restraining order.

She could also be exaggerating to ****-test you.

Brokensteel · 05-24-2007, 06:55 PM

She is literally scared of going on this trip, she's even considering not going because of him. She's went from telling me not to say anything about it to him, to almost begging me to do something. Thing is, I don't know what to do.

I really don't think telling him I'm trying to get with her will work, because he knows the history between she and I and that we're probably not going to even consider dating.

I'm confused as hell.

FunkDaddy · 05-24-2007, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Brokensteel

She is literally scared of going on this trip, she's even considering not going because of him. She's went from telling me not to say anything about it to him, to almost begging me to do something. Thing is, I don't know what to do.

I really don't think telling him I'm trying to get with her will work, because he knows the history between she and I and that we're probably not going to even consider dating.

I'm confused as hell.

So tell her to get a different room. Switch with somebody. What kind of ****ing porno-wannabe university puts dudes and chicks in the same rooms?

I've had the same situation a few times where chicks wanted me to deal with stalker types, but no offense, I'm probably a lot more intimidating than you are. If you think you can ball up and put some fear into him, do it. Otherwise tell her to be really mean and cold about it, and tell him to **** off.