Conscerning love for mom/dad (very serious)

[MagneticMilkshake]

Anyone else seem like their taking their parents love for granted? I only have a mom because Ive never met my day, but everyday she comes in my room and tries to spend time with me. She'll either lay in my bed and watch tv while im on my computer, or try to talk with me. I always seem to hate it when she does that, but last night I had a dream. My mom was sick with some kind of stomach disease, and I was in school. I had some lady from the office read me some note written by my mom the moment before she died that was addressed to me. She told me how much she loved me and its a shame we will never see each other again because I will be dead by the time you read this. In my dream I spent the rest of my days with a notebook writing down all the positive times I had with my mother.

Well today in class, I was just thinking about all the times I told my mom to get out of my room and stop trying to give me hugs, ect. And I thought about the dream I had last night. I just put my head down by my knees and my hands over my eyes and almost cried. I would feel so bad about my self if I found out my mom died coming home today. I always rejected every attempt she tried to love me. I would feel like crap for the rest of my life knowing when I had my mom I never loved her.

Is anyone else the same way?e

[knowles.ja]

I called my dad after I watched Click to tell him that I love him.

Edit: I didn't read your post.

[MoonMan12]

ya

[The-Stig]

As I got older, I realized that I was a dick to my parents as a teen (especially my mom). I call her twice a week now and talk to her for about 45 mins each time.

[TheGreatest2K7]

Well, I could care less for my father. But my mom I take for granted sometimes, but usually not. Your post (dream) really touched me (no homo)...

[-Aaron-]

We need more of these threads here, in the misc.

[Phonte]

Originally Posted by MSUHockey

Anyone else seem like their taking their parents love for granted? I only have a mom because Ive never met my day, but everyday she comes in my room and tries to spend time with me. She'll either lay in my bed and watch tv while im on my computer, or try to talk with me. I always seem to hate it when she does that, but last night I had a dream. My mom was sick with some kind of stomach disease, and I was in school. I had some lady from the office read me some note written by my mom the moment before she died that was addressed to me. She told me how much she loved me and its a shame we will never see each other again because I will be dead by the time you read this. In my dream I spent the rest of my days with a notebook writing down all the positive times I had with my mother.

Well today in class, I was just thinking about all the times I told my mom to get out of my room and stop trying to give me hugs, ect. And I thought about the dream I had last night. I just put my head down by my knees and my hands over my eyes and almost cried. I would feel so bad about my self if I found out my mom died coming home today. I always rejected every attempt she tried to love me. I would feel like crap for the rest of my life knowing when I had my mom I never loved her.

Is anyone else the same way?e

Age: 18

Sounds about right.

[jason_bh]

Unfortunately when we're young teenagers we want nothing to do with our parents. As a father now, I don't look forward to the days when I come home from work and my 3 little boys don't run to the door, say "Daddy" and give me a hug.

Being a parent now, I can see why your mother wants to spend time with you. You're 18? She probably realizes that you are getting ready to move out and she will won't be able to spend that time with you.

It's a sad thing for a parent to see there kids grow up, it happens too fast.

[TheAustrianOak]

i don't exchange "i love you's" with my parents, and never have... we just don't have that type of relationship.. no one in my family does

i see and talk to my parents a couple of times a week, and i spend time with them still though..

[SamuelK]

Originally Posted by Phonte

Age: 18

Sounds about right.

exactly, all kids go through this phase when your in middle/high school. Its normal. Id say that once you hit your 20's you really start to realize all the **** your parents went through and you really start to appreciate it

[malty]

I felt like my relationship with my parents changed virtually the day I left for college.

Before that they were disciplinarians, and we had wars all through my senior year over stuff ranging from college applications, to thank you notes for my graduation presents, to stupid things like dishes in the sink.

Once I was out the door, and came home in one piece and with good grades, I guess they were just proud I didn't turn out to be a ****head, and they've backed way off and we get along great now. I always loved them because they're my parents, but now I genuinely like them as people.

[wouldlikemuscle]

Agh, this thread tugs at the ole heart strings.

I live with my Mum and Nan (see Dad once every couple of weeks), and before going out or before bed or whatever, we always exchange I love yous. I find I probably... ok I DO take my mum for granted, I get home from work/gym, dinner's just about ready when I get home, then unless I'm going out, I'm up in my bedroom the rest of the night. I know I should be doing more... and yes, at 23yo I REALLY should be doing more. Life has thrown a fair few blows over the last couple of years too, especially very recently... but that I love you is assurance we're not too distant from each other.

[Steak_n_Taters]

Your mom knows you love her. Even if you aren't the 'best' son or whatever she knows. If something were to happen to her you could rest easy, she knows. You don't have to tell her. That doesn't mean you shouldn't make more of an effort. I did the same shyt in highschool and kind of regret it now that I'm in school and only see her every few months.

[j_son88]

haha thats well wierd, iv only jst started to realise how good my parents have been to me n how much of a tit i have been to them.


and im 18!

[-Aaron-]

*Pours a little liquor out for the parents!*

[Nicole2005]

Originally Posted by MSUHockey

Anyone else seem like their taking their parents love for granted? I only have a mom because Ive never met my day, but everyday she comes in my room and tries to spend time with me. She'll either lay in my bed and watch tv while im on my computer, or try to talk with me. I always seem to hate it when she does that, but last night I had a dream. My mom was sick with some kind of stomach disease, and I was in school. I had some lady from the office read me some note written by my mom the moment before she died that was addressed to me. She told me how much she loved me and its a shame we will never see each other again because I will be dead by the time you read this. In my dream I spent the rest of my days with a notebook writing down all the positive times I had with my mother.

Well today in class, I was just thinking about all the times I told my mom to get out of my room and stop trying to give me hugs, ect. And I thought about the dream I had last night. I just put my head down by my knees and my hands over my eyes and almost cried. I would feel so bad about my self if I found out my mom died coming home today. I always rejected every attempt she tried to love me. I would feel like crap for the rest of my life knowing when I had my mom I never loved her.

Is anyone else the same way?e

MSU,

I can speak from experience on this subject. My mom recently died December 18, 2006, exactly one week before Christmas. I was with her when she died, and it was all very unexpected.

Now that she is no longer with us, I can only tell you how important it is to truly appreciate your mom and to not take her for granted. I promise you if she were to suddenly pass away you will only look back with regret that you never took the time to appreciate everything she did for you.

When parents have a kids, all they want out of it is to hopefully provide you with the best life possible, give you opportunities they never had, and above all else, they want you to be happy. Let your mom know that she's important to you. Even if you only do it once, make sure she knows that she matters to you and that you appreciate her. If you don't, you might wake-up one day like I did and find out you can't tell her that ever again.

[MagneticMilkshake]

Originally Posted by Nicole2005

MSU,

I can speak from experience on this subject. My mom recently died December 18, 2006, exactly one week before Christmas. I was with her when she died, and it was all very unexpected.

Now that she is no longer with us, I can only tell you how important it is to truly appreciate your mom and to not take her for granted. I promise you if she were to suddenly pass away you will only look back with regret that you never took the time to appreciate everything she did for you.

When parents have a kids, all they want out of it is to hopefully provide you with the best life possible, give you opportunities they never had, and above all else, they want you to be happy. Let your mom know that she's important to you. Even if you only do it once, make sure she knows that she matters to you and that you appreciate her. If you don't, you might wake-up one day like I did and find out you can't tell her that ever again.

Thanks for the advice. Also, December 18th is my birthday. I remember my birthday very well, and now it all seems so weird that someone's mom had passed away the very moment I was out probably eating dinner and enjoying life with my family. Too sad.

[YUL]

Originally Posted by TheAustrianOak

i don't exchange "i love you's" with my parents, and never have... we just don't have that type of relationship.. no one in my family does

i see and talk to my parents a couple of times a week, and i spend time with them still though..

same with me. my GFs family does it all it time and it drives me up the wall.

[AlphaBlack]

This thread got me thinking.


Good thread.

[SuperDavid]

yep too easy to take parents for granted!
more so when your around 18! but the older you get the more appreciative you get....generally! but sometimes people don't figure out how great their parents are till it's too late!
my dad had a heart attack and is ok now. but at the time that really scared the crap out of me!!! I don't think I've experienced anything more scary than thinking my dad might die! it's given me even more of an understanding of how important they are to me!
Don't take your parents for granted! the earlier you figure this out the better!

[zwilson50]

Great thread.