Its Hopeless.....

[Zephirus79]

I am a 27 year old male that weighs 300 pounds.

Let me tell you about my life and you can give suggestions. I am the technology director for the county I live in which means I sit on my ass all day and work on computers. When I do need to go to a different floor, I do take the stairs but its not often that I have to leave my office.

I dont want to walk on my lunch break because I need to eat lunch and I dont wanna get all sweaty to go back to work.

Our small town has no fitness center which is unfortunate. Closest one is 30 mins away.

I am married with 2 kids so even if there was a gym, I couldnt go often because I have two kids (parents will understand). They are both young too. One is 6 and the other is 2.

I skip breakfast because im never hungry in the morning. For lunch I normally have a grilled chicken salad with lite vinegarette dressing. Then I will eat a sensible dinner that evening.


Im not losing a damn thing. I eat only 2 meals a day and i dont eat until im stuffed. As far as what I drink, its water, Coke Zero, or Diet Green Tea from Lipton which is all sugar free and 0 calories.

This is not making sense to me. I would love to lose enough weight to where I could fit my fat ass on a roller coaster when we go on vacation in september.

I dont have any room at my house or i would buy a home gym. I dont even have room for a damn weight bench. About the only thing I have room for is something like Dumbells that I can use in the living room floor.


Is it hopeless???

[rude boy]

research articles on this website. thats what i did when i first wanted to lose weight.

[ScottC]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

Is it hopeless???

Yes, it is hopeless...because you make it so.

I am a parent of a special needs kid with a catastrophic seizure disorder, and I make the time to try a better myself so I can be there for my son.

[Zephirus79]

ive been here reading the forums for a long time.


How do you do it? I mean without a gym to go to or anywhere to get a home gym... Could I do everything with dumbells? What do you suggest ofr cardio? That only thing that comes to the top of my head is running up and down the road I live on lOL

[ScottC]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

time. How do you do it? I mean without a gym to go to or anywhere to get a home gym... Could I do everything with dumbells? What do you suggest ofr cardio? That only thing that comes to the top of my head is running up and down the road I live on lOL

Hey, it's a start. I will find an article for you, bbs.

Edit: here is a link to all the articles on the bb.com main site realting to training at home. It will get you started...if you want.
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/bbin...TrainingatHome

Last year around this time I weighed 264 1/4lbs. I was finally sick and tired of being sick and tired of myself. I didn't choose the right way to lose weight (Weight Watchers), but I did not know any other way. I found this site in September. If interested you could read my journal on my progress since January.

[pnycar69]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

I am a 27 year old male that weighs 300 pounds.

Let me tell you about my life and you can give suggestions. I am the technology director for the county I live in which means I sit on my ass all day and work on computers. When I do need to go to a different floor, I do take the stairs but its not often that I have to leave my office.

I dont want to walk on my lunch break because I need to eat lunch and I dont wanna get all sweaty to go back to work.

Our small town has no fitness center which is unfortunate. Closest one is 30 mins away.

I am married with 2 kids so even if there was a gym, I couldnt go often because I have two kids (parents will understand). They are both young too. One is 6 and the other is 2.

I skip breakfast because im never hungry in the morning. For lunch I normally have a grilled chicken salad with lite vinegarette dressing. Then I will eat a sensible dinner that evening.


Im not losing a damn thing. I eat only 2 meals a day and i dont eat until im stuffed. As far as what I drink, its water, Coke Zero, or Diet Green Tea from Lipton which is all sugar free and 0 calories.

This is not making sense to me. I would love to lose enough weight to where I could fit my fat ass on a roller coaster when we go on vacation in september.

I dont have any room at my house or i would buy a home gym. I dont even have room for a damn weight bench. About the only thing I have room for is something like Dumbells that I can use in the living room floor.


Is it hopeless???

Not at all! Its not hopeless.

First off. You are not eating enough. Second you can eat at your desk while you are typing. Im doing that now. You need to spread your meals out into 6 small meals a day. Think of it as constant snacking on healthy food.

You not being hungry in the morning is irrelevant. Eat SOMETHING. Even if its just a banana or something.

The time thing about going to the gym because you are a parent doesnt float with me. I have two kids and I run a company on top of that. So if I can find the time. So can you.

The no gym thing should not be an issue. Get yourself those dumbells and I can point you to a whole bodyweight exercise routine that I use when Im on the road and don't have access to weights and can only workout in my hotel room. I would do it now, but I don't have my refence material to point you to right now.

Your diet needs revamping. You do have time to exercise. You don't need special or fancy equipment. And you need to be comitted to it or it wont work.

[Nore]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

I am a 27 year old male that weighs 300 pounds.

Let me tell you about my life and you can give suggestions. I am the technology director for the county I live in which means I sit on my ass all day and work on computers. When I do need to go to a different floor, I do take the stairs but its not often that I have to leave my office.

I dont want to walk on my lunch break because I need to eat lunch and I dont wanna get all sweaty to go back to work.

Our small town has no fitness center which is unfortunate. Closest one is 30 mins away.

I am married with 2 kids so even if there was a gym, I couldnt go often because I have two kids (parents will understand). They are both young too. One is 6 and the other is 2.

I skip breakfast because im never hungry in the morning. For lunch I normally have a grilled chicken salad with lite vinegarette dressing. Then I will eat a sensible dinner that evening.


Im not losing a damn thing. I eat only 2 meals a day and i dont eat until im stuffed. As far as what I drink, its water, Coke Zero, or Diet Green Tea from Lipton which is all sugar free and 0 calories.

This is not making sense to me. I would love to lose enough weight to where I could fit my fat ass on a roller coaster when we go on vacation in september.

I dont have any room at my house or i would buy a home gym. I dont even have room for a damn weight bench. About the only thing I have room for is something like Dumbells that I can use in the living room floor.


Is it hopeless???

I can think of a few things you're doing wrong.

1. You're making excuses for yourself. That's great that you have kids, but there is time available to work out for an hour, even 30 minutes. Surely your wife could cover for you during that time. So the gym is thirty minutes away, figure out an alternative if you can't commit to that. Get inventive! You're obviously a smart person considering you're a technology director for a county. Give yourself more credit.

2. Skipping breakfast. I used to do this too. I wish I could go back in time to my childhood and never miss a breakfast. When I went to school I always wondered why I was so sluggish in gym class. It was because I didn't have food on my stomach. Your body needs energy from food to expend energy. Give your body something in the morning to get your metabolism going. It doesn't have to be huge.

3. Two meals a day isn't going to cut it. Aim for 5 or 6 spaced out every 2 to 3 hours. Think of your metabolism as a camp fire. You can put a big log on a small fire, but it's going to snuff the flames and slow things down. Or, you can keep putting smaller twigs and sticks on there...building up the power of the fire.

4. Drink alot of water at work. Forget that coke zero stuff, or tea, or anything that's going to dehydrate your body. The worst case scenario is you have to get up alot to go to the bathroom, but hey, guess what? That just solved your never getting out of your seat problem.

5. Check out the stickies in this section. Diet combined with excercise will turn your life around, but only you can make the decision to start. I promise you if you stick with it for at least a month and see the results and start feeling better the rest should come naturally.

[Zephirus79]

Well there is more to the gym thing than I said. When the gym here was open, we did have a membership. My wife and I both went. She didn't want to go alone with all those guys so we had to go together which meant we had to find a babysitter each time. that became so much of a hastle that we quit as we were only going like 1 or 2 times a week.

I will read the link that was posted and your journal. I can spread my meals out. I know people say starvation mode and stuff quite often but, in my mind, I think well if I take in 1000 cals a day, I should drop weight cause I would be burning more than I am taking in. What difference does it make since it comes down to how many cals intake vs how many you burn.


Thanks, Ill read this link right now

[Nore]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

I will read the link that was posted and your journal. I can spread my meals out. I know people say starvation mode and stuff quite often but, in my mind, I think well if I take in 1000 cals a day, I should drop weight cause I would be burning more than I am taking in. What difference does it make since it comes down to how many cals intake vs how many you burn.


Thanks, Ill read this link right now

The human body is very adaptive. If you give your body less energy to work with, it will learn to work with less energy. Therefore it will expend less. Any energy you input into your body, it will cling to it for dear life.

[tuberacer49]

I don't think OP is being completely honest about his diet. If he was eating this much, he'd be losing a lot of weight, fast without any exercise. Losing weight is 80% diet, 10% mental and the other %10 exercise...... or something along those lines.

[jdominic6]

my dad started eating breakfast everyday and he lost almost 10 pounds just by doing that alone.

[demonwareltd]

Originally Posted by Nore

The human body is very adaptive. If you give your body less energy to work with, it will learn to work with less energy. Therefore it will expend less. Any energy you input into your body, it will cling to it for dear life.

I agree 100%....it's the number one flaw of people who try to lose weight...just stop eating and the weight will fall off. WRONG! That just makes you hungry, miserable and with no results. You need to eat more to get your body to burn fat. I didn't believe it either until I tried it for myself. I have been eating between 2700-3300 calories a day spread out evenly over 6-7 meals a day and eating nothing processed...all lean meat, veggies, and complex carbs. I've lost 20+ lbs in 10 weeks. The body will use this wholesome food as fuel and since it is not processed will have to work hard in order to use it as fuel which in turn causes the body to use more energy and burn more calories...quite amazing if you ask me...

[jcosley]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

ive been here reading the forums for a long time.


How do you do it? I mean without a gym to go to or anywhere to get a home gym... Could I do everything with dumbells? What do you suggest ofr cardio? That only thing that comes to the top of my head is running up and down the road I live on lOL

You DONT HAVE TO workout to lose weight. Your diet is messed up for one thing. You HAVE to eat breakfast...i dont care if your hungry or not...i still force myself to...its the most important meal of the day. Then eat CLEAN foods every 2-3 hours. I work on computers all day and its very easy to do this for me. You grab a small ziplock bag fill it with Almonds, walnuts, or peanuts or anythign and this will be your snack before breakfast and lunch. Chicken Salad is not healthy. Yes it has chicken...which is covered in Mayo Sauce which makes it terrible. Try bringing your own lunch so you dont have to walk if its that big of a deal. After work, you can always go on a walk with you family or jsut go outside with them and play or whatever just to get moving around. Its NOT hopeless...if there is a will...there is a way. If you dont want to fat anymore, its your decision man. Make the write one.

[tuberacer49]

Originally Posted by demonwareltd

I agree 100%....it's the number one flaw of people who try to lose weight...just stop eating and the weight will fall off. WRONG! That just makes you hungry, miserable and with no results. You need to eat more to get your body to burn fat. I didn't believe it either until I tried it for myself. I have been eating between 2700-3300 calories a day spread out evenly over 6-7 meals a day and eating nothing processed...all lean meat, veggies, and complex carbs. I've lost 20+ lbs in 10 weeks. The body will use this wholesome food as fuel and since it is not processed will have to work hard in order to use it as fuel which in turn causes the body to use more energy and burn more calories...quite amazing if you ask me...

HOLY ****.

I'm taller than you, and I only eat 2000 calories a day. It's no wonder I have the urge to binge every weekend. I'm gonna take your approach and see if it works for me. BTW, what's your workout regimen like?

[bigtiny31]

A.) eat a cup of oatmeal first thing when you get out of bed
B.) cut out the sugar (as in coffee creamer and soda), and dont go to fast food
C.) try to eat several small meals thru the day
D.) take your kids for a walk EVERY day when you get home (your wife will love you for this)
E.) watch the pounds fall off

How easy is that? Dont make any excuses, just do it!

[demonwareltd]

Originally Posted by tuberacer49

HOLY ****.

I'm taller than you, and I only eat 2000 calories a day. It's no wonder I have the urge to binge every weekend. I'm gonna take your approach and see if it works for me. BTW, what's your workout regimen like?

Here's a link to my current workout journal if you want to review it:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=1492191

I started out with no cardio, but lifting 6 days a week. Then starting about 3-4 weeks ago, I try to get in 20 minutes of cardio, 3 days a week. I do my best to keep the intensity in the weight room up in order to preserve muscle mass while cutting, but it can be hard sometimes. Don't get me wrong either, the urge to cheat has presented itself on a few occasions, driving me to tears on a couple...in that respect it's always good to have someone you can lean on when you need it to get you back in the game and keep you away from cheating

[jcosley]

Originally Posted by bigtiny31

A.) eat a cup of oatmeal first thing when you get out of bed
B.) cut out the sugar (as in coffee creamer and soda), and dont go to fast food
C.) try to eat several small meals thru the day
D.) take your kids for a walk EVERY day when you get home (your wife will love you for this)
E.) watch the pounds fall off

How easy is that? Dont make any excuses, just do it!

Exactly!!! Dont make excuses for yourself being overweight. You know how you got that way, just like i know how I am the way I am. Its up to you to do something about it...all we can say really.

[Nore]

Originally Posted by bigtiny31

D.) take your kids for a walk EVERY day when you get home (your wife will love you for this)

Heh, that's actually great advice. Repped.

[Zephirus79]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I can look into getting some dumbells and I am giong to work on my diet. Ill make a list of "clean" foods I can take to work with me and eat every 2-3 hours.

I do wanna lose this weight. Im tired of being called "big guy". I want my wife to look at me and think, "DAYUM he looks good". Of course she loves me either way but still.

[pnycar69]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

Thanks for the advice everyone. I can look into getting some dumbells and I am giong to work on my diet. Ill make a list of "clean" foods I can take to work with me and eat every 2-3 hours.

I do wanna lose this weight. Im tired of being called "big guy". I want my wife to look at me and think, "DAYUM he looks good". Of course she loves me either way but still.

Hey my wife still calls me "big guy", but not because Im fat anymore.

[jcosley]

Originally Posted by pnycar69

Hey my wife still calls me "big guy", but not because Im fat anymore.

LOL! Niiiiice

[jcosley]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

Thanks for the advice everyone. I can look into getting some dumbells and I am giong to work on my diet. Ill make a list of "clean" foods I can take to work with me and eat every 2-3 hours.

I do wanna lose this weight. Im tired of being called "big guy". I want my wife to look at me and think, "DAYUM he looks good". Of course she loves me either way but still.

One thing I left out man is....alot of the time your diet gets brought down by how your entire family eats as well. So if they arent eating healthy as well its easier for you not to be eating what you should. So maybe you should incorporate a healthy lifestyle for everyone in your family as well. Just a thought.

[bigtiny31]

Yep, I tell my wife not to buy chips, soda, ect... If its in the house, I am 1000% more likely to eat it! I stopped drinking coffee in the morning because I was going thru a pound of sugar a month just in my coffee (crazy I know)... I stopped drinking soda because water is way better for your body! It takes will power but just resolve yourself to it...

I only eat poorly when we go out once a week to dinner, but even then I usually have a salad instead of fries!

Dont call it a diet, call it your new healthy lifestlye and make it a permanant part of your family!

[commi]

Buy a pair of roller blades. Its obvious at your size that you cannot run and if you could it would be to hard on your joints i have known a guy with your same situation and he bought a air of roller blades and roller bladed for a hour a day he killed enough fat until he could run and then he started running outside not once during this diet did he use a tredmill or any sort of machine. Skipping breakfast doesent help either eat breakfast. Diet drinks are useless because they make you crave sweets more just drink water its a harsh reality but your fat and you are way to big and you gotta loose it. For lunch its either you go to subway and have their low fat 6 inch subs or you bring your own lunch cause im assuming you go to mcdonalds or something for that salad never go to mcdonalds again. Dont make excuses make some room in your house for a eliptical because you know damn well there will be room it doesent take up much space there is no such thing as a house that cannot hold 1 eliptical if thats the case mabey you should think about a bigger home.

[ScottC]

Originally Posted by Zephirus79

Thanks for the advice everyone. I can look into getting some dumbells and I am giong to work on my diet. Ill make a list of "clean" foods I can take to work with me and eat every 2-3 hours.

Here is a healthy foods shopping list...you an even print it out.
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/stella9.htm

Lots of good advice in here, man. Do this. Do it for yourself and your family. If you have to drive to the gym in the middle of the night 30 minutes both ways, then do it. It's only as bad as you make it, brother. We all make sacrifices or we wouldn't be here...and we're here to help you and support you in any way we can. Do it, bro.