Red Flags (serious)

recyfer · 04-25-2007, 02:22 PM

Ok I'll make this quick and painless: Me and my girl have been talking for about 3 months and been going out a few weeks now. I've already smashed 4 times but that's besides the point, anyways I get a text this morning this morning asking if I wanted to go to the club this weekend (which we've never gone) then I get one back like 30 seconds later saying "****, sorry this was meant for my other friends Rachel."

Immediately I get a little defensive since we're both 18 (even though she looks like 20-21) and the fact that before me the only times she has had sex was when she was drunk.. It doesn't help that the friend she is going with cheats on most of her boyfriends..

Thanks for those who read this just need help deciding on what to do.

BVAV · 04-25-2007, 02:25 PM

What can you do? Just let it blow over for now.

Outside backer · 04-25-2007, 02:26 PM

lmfao u havent been going out with her long enough to start thinking this way

i give this relationship 2 months tops

ur overreacting like no other

Hallock · 04-25-2007, 02:28 PM

And I thought this was going to be another thread about sex on the period.

gr8fubar420 · 04-25-2007, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Outside backer

lmfao u havent been going out with her long enough to start thinking this way

i give this relationship 2 months tops

ur overreacting like no other

i dunno man, b1tches cheat like ****in crazy. only things you can do though are spy on her or just trust her.

he hasn't been going out with her long enough to start thinking this way? i think he should think this way in the beginning and not farther in a relationship.

caramon · 04-25-2007, 02:33 PM

Well, if you want to know what she's doing at the club, then just find out what type she is from this Guide to Clubbin' that I made:

http://www.ebonfist.net/clubbin.html

Basically, just find the type that fits her personality and that'll tell you what she's doing there.

angelfire2005 · 04-25-2007, 02:48 PM

Sounds like a jealously tactic. Just let it go, if she cheats who cares, plenty of other girls out there.

caramon · 04-25-2007, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by recyfer

Ok I'll make this quick and painless: Me and my girl have been talking for about 3 months and been going out a few weeks now. I've already smashed 4 times but that's besides the point, anyways I get a text this morning this morning asking if I wanted to go to the club this weekend (which we've never gone) then I get one back like 30 seconds later saying "****, sorry this was meant for my other friends Rachel."

Immediately I get a little defensive since we're both 18 (even though she looks like 20-21) and the fact that before me the only times she has had sex was when she was drunk.. It doesn't help that the friend she is going with cheats on most of her boyfriends..

Thanks for those who read this just need help deciding on what to do.

Tell her that you're going out with your buddies to a club. See what she says

recyfer · 04-25-2007, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by caramon

Tell her that you're going out with your buddies to a club. See what she says

I would say that but then she would know for sure that I was just trying to get a response out of her and wouldn't believe I would actually go..

angelfire2005 · 04-25-2007, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by recyfer

I would say that but then she would know for sure that I was just trying to get a response out of her and wouldn't believe I would actually go..

My ex used to pull this kind of **** just to get a response, which for the first few times she did. Finally I was like screw this do whatever you want I'm gonna go hang out with some people. She never once did go do what she originally said she would, even though she said it a lot. Girls love mind games. I broke up with her because I got sick of the drama.

SkinnyDip · 04-25-2007, 03:54 PM

Don't even worry about it, if she is going to cheat on you now, she would and will cheat on you later. Just let it go, if it happens atleast she did it 3 weeks in, instead of 3 years.

chuckles_nz · 04-25-2007, 04:53 PM

Dude its just some time to spend with the boys.... go to a couple of clubs flirt a little blah blah get your end away

phaiel · 04-25-2007, 05:21 PM

maybe she's doing it on purpose? seems like she does it a lot

hhhercules · 04-25-2007, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by gr8fubar420

i dunno man, b1tches cheat like ****in crazy. only things you can do though are spy on her or just trust her.

he hasn't been going out with her long enough to start thinking this way? i think he should think this way in the beginning and not farther in a relationship.

true, that other fool was wrong.

Grayman · 04-25-2007, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by SkinnyDip

Don't even worry about it, if she is going to cheat on you now, she would and will cheat on you later. Just let it go, if it happens atleast she did it 3 weeks in, instead of 3 years.

looks like its 3months if that makes a difference

recyfer · 04-25-2007, 09:47 PM

Update: I'm on the verge of breaking it off since I heard from her best friend (who I'm also good friends with) that she wasn't going to tell me.. Ya this blows

caramon · 04-25-2007, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by recyfer

I would say that but then she would know for sure that I was just trying to get a response out of her and wouldn't believe I would actually go..

That's why you go out and do it. Don't just say it. Anyway, of course she wasn't going to tell you about it. But get used to this. It's going to happen a lot from now.

Scarface2883 · 04-25-2007, 10:41 PM

You are gonna regret a relationship with her. She honestly sounds like a club ho, so at least you know what she is and what to expect now. Don't be surprised when she cheats on you.

recyfer · 04-25-2007, 11:00 PM

What do you think should I just can her now or give it a few days to pan out or what?

caramon · 04-25-2007, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by recyfer

What do you think should I just can her now or give it a few days to pan out or what?

Well, since you obviously don't trust this girl, I wouldn't invest much time into this.

recyfer · 04-26-2007, 05:48 AM

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Originally Posted by caramon

Well, since you obviously don't trust this girl, I wouldn't invest much time into this.

Ya I see what you mean there, time to man the **** up and do what I have to do. Since trust is obviously #1 in a relationship and im not feeling it.

wimpking · 04-26-2007, 09:45 AM

lolz! you've never been to a club with her, but she's hitting the clubs every weekend with her girlfriends. crom is strong on his mountain.