Ex's mother just died, please pray for her.

xaviermt1 · 04-23-2007, 06:07 AM

My Ex and I are good friends, and I just spoke to her and her mother has lost her long fight with cancer. Im a Buddhist but would appreciate people of all faiths to pray for her. She and her family are Catholic.

Im off to sleep however.

This post is 100% serious.

Ps Ill check back at this thread in the morning. I have no experiance consoling those who have lost someone, this is a first for me. Any advice, preferably from personal experiance about what is best to do/say or not do/say would be great.

Yours in Peace,

Xavier Taylor

Allah Akbar · 04-23-2007, 06:11 AM

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Originally Posted by xaviermt1

My Ex and I are good friends, and I just spoke to her and her mother has lost her long fight with cancer. Im a Buddhist but would appreciate people of all faiths to pray for her. She and her family are Catholic.

Im off to sleep however.

This post is 100% serious.

Ps Ill check back at this thread in the morning. I have no experiance consoling those who have lost someone, this is a first for me. Any advice, preferably from personal experiance about what is best to do/say or not do/say would be great.

Yours in Peace,

Xavier Taylor

Leave her alone. Shes your ex and she has her own friends and family. You should stay away especially at your age you don't need the emotional baggage.

HoosierBoy · 04-23-2007, 06:28 AM

I don't have any particular faith, but I said a generic prayer.

xaviermt1 · 04-23-2007, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Allah Akbar

Leave her alone. Shes your ex and she has her own friends and family. You should stay away especially at your age you don't need the emotional baggage.

Who the hell do you think you are? I suspect with a username like allah akbar you are a troll anyway. Why should I stay away from someone I care about? If it was a platonic female friend, or a male friend, I would feel the same way. We only went out for a month, nearly 6 months ago, so we're more like old friends anyway. Losing a Mother is one of the worst things that can happen to a kid our age. She has a bad relationship with her father, and doesnt get on that well with his parents, so she is somewhat limited as for family.
If you think you should abandon a friend for feer of "emotional baggage" you're not a very good person,

Nail_Adam · 04-23-2007, 05:23 PM

Don't pay any attentions to the second poster, he's a troll

googfoog9 · 04-23-2007, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Allah Akbar

Leave her alone. Shes your ex and she has her own friends and family. You should stay away especially at your age you don't need the emotional baggage.

Troll or not, he's right.

swimmd99 · 04-23-2007, 06:21 PM

despite the fact she's your ex, if you are close with her then you should be there for her. Now obviously is not the time to make a pass or try and start anything. I dont think you were infering that at all but i was just saying.....don't tell her "everything is ok".....she may not even want to hear you talk. Let her know you are there for her without pressuring her to talk. If she calls you up and tells you she wants to go get ice cream in the middle of the night, then go. She needs support and a good friend would do that.

Death is very hard to deal with. It can take people 6 months or more before they start pulling out of the grieving process and during that time the support they get can make a huge difference

RelentlessChaos · 04-23-2007, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Allah Akbar

Leave her alone. Shes your ex and she has her own friends and family. You should stay away especially at your age you don't need the emotional baggage.

???? Ok. A younger one so to speak about him "not needing emotional baggage." Just because they use to date doesnt mean anything. He is asking if we would pray for the family and pray for comfort. Doesnt seem like he's having an emotional break down etc.......

none the less, ill be praying for you and relatives to the mom who has passed.

RelentlessChaos · 04-23-2007, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by googfoog9

Troll or not, he's right.

Ok. Just because you and the second dude, think its to much for him to handle, and its not his business, doesnt make it right to go posting that crap. Did he ask your opinion on it? no. He asked for prayer. If you dont pray, then dont post in this thread. Or atleast say "im sorry to hear that" something, that wont get him ticked off or more sad. Commen sense

xaviermt1 · 04-24-2007, 07:17 AM

Cheers to all those who gave advice, it was all good and very relevant. I dont wanna bump the thread, so consider it closed. And as for using this to make a pass lol, my interest in her is purely platonic. (as Im no doubt sure you know. Just clarifying). I think those who posted immaturely have serious issues, because even though you are trolling, a death is nothing to joke about.

Later all.