sigh :( gf problems

Herzeleid · 03-22-2007, 08:18 AM

okayy.. ive been dating this girl for 1.5 years, it is an internet long-distance relationship. everything has been pretty good and she was into me and i am in love with her. but yesterday she said she developed feelings for this boy in her drama class, and now she's "confused" and doesnt know what to do. this is gay because i have a $600 plane ticket to SEE her for the first time in 8 days and she does this. anyway, right now she's deciding if she'll stay with me or go out with this other guy. the other guy.. she admitted he's not as physically or mentally attractive as me.. i think shes just flattered somebody admitted they liked her so she's falling head over heels for this idiot; or she's nervous about meeting me for the first time. but she denies both. figures..
what should i do? ive been trying really hard and saying a bunch of sweet things but it didnt really have much effect. well maybe it did, but it hasnt shown. should i just let things run its course? im really attached to this girl and im so depressed already.. i cant imagine how ill feel if she officially leaves me. i felt like killing myself yesterday, but i know things would get better and thats a dumb thing to do.

HopkinFrog · 03-22-2007, 08:29 AM

As unlikely as it may seem, I have been in a similar situation.

I say, just go, you have the ticket, why should you waste your money like that? You go, you meet up with her and see how it goes, if it doesn't.. you treat it as an experience man, and you go sight seeing.

When you see her for the first time it will be overwhelming. You may even be shocked to realise your feelings are different for her within the first few days. The Internet is a great place to initiate contact with people, but its upon being with that person you will both truely make your decision about how you feel for each other.

Herzeleid · 03-22-2007, 08:31 AM

alright, thanks man im going. if she truly wants to leave me, i hope im not attracted to her in real life. itd hurt way too much. i think things will work out though.. maybe.. i hope.

HopkinFrog · 03-22-2007, 08:35 AM

She'll be overwhelmed when you meet her too you know! I wouldn't assume anything too deep about your feelings for each other at this stage (even though it's hard not to, and I did the same when I went through it), things will change when you meet her. See it as an opportunity.

Good luck, hope everything works out fine (which it will)

shiv15 · 03-22-2007, 08:44 AM

Go see her, once she meets you in person .. its all over, that other kid will just be a passing thought.

Reps for being from MI and having Herzeleid as your name. When i recharge that is.

patsfan313 · 03-22-2007, 08:44 AM

wait u have never met her?

mult68 · 03-22-2007, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

...because i have a $600 plane ticket to SEE her for the first time in 8 days and she does this.

Wait wait....so you havent seen her in 8 days and youre going to fly out to see her....or you have NEVER met her and youre flying out in 8 days?????

Please tell me you have met her after 1.5 years of "dating".

If not...what if she smells? Has bad breath....a wooden leg? A pecker?

Herzeleid · 03-22-2007, 10:26 AM

ive never met her and i have 8 days until i do
haha im very sure she's okay physically and everything :P im not worried about that at all.

deepthr0at · 03-22-2007, 10:45 AM

Meet her and hit it, hit it hard, hit it fast, spartan style. When its all over and you decide to pursue things with her and she is still "confused", go out and meet other girls to make her jealous. Hopefully that will keep her in line. If that doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be. Your only 17 man, the best years of your life are still ahead of you, don't be sprung to a chick (especially one hundreds of miles away) like me or other guys I know and miss out. I recently got out of a 4 year relationship (from age 16-20 I was with her), and these past 6 months that I have been single, I've had more fun and saw so much more things in that time span than the whole 4 years I was with this girl. Just something to keep in mind.

93Akkord · 03-22-2007, 11:02 AM

does any one else see this going down hill real quick?

not trying to make you feel bad or anything

Shhmmooove · 03-22-2007, 11:08 AM

WHERE are you going to see her??? Dont know where a $600 ticket will take you.......

You could simply ask her if its worth the trip. If not, still go, but dont tell her that, that is if you cannot get a refund on the ticket. Surely it would atleast save you a little cash not to see her - expensive dinners, drinks, the odd gift...blah blah.... Its not totally fair that you are the one making the big commitment by flying out to see HER, then her tellin' you all that stuff about the other fella.

Good luck to you.....going to be a frustrating flight for ya with all those thoughts flyin thru yer head (no pun intended).

ExtremeEnigma · 03-22-2007, 11:16 AM

what kind of **** is this? you're in love with someone you've never met? and you guys actually don't see anyone else because of your e-relationship? christ dude you're 17, go meet some chicks you can actually see and touch in real life.

i refuse to answer what you asked because this whole thing is so friggin ridiculous.

Herzeleid · 03-22-2007, 11:25 AM

dont ridicule me please
i never meant to have an e-relationship. it just turned out that way. one day on a site like myspace she messaged me and we hit it off pretty well, then a few months later she told me she loved me, and i loved her before that even. she's everything i look for in a girl. im mormon so.. i like innocence. im not into "playing the field" and checking out other girls or "having fun" really. shes perfect, and im willing to make sacrifices right now to be with her for many years in the future

-im going to Salt Lake City in Utah to see her for 6 days

flapjackson · 03-22-2007, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

dont ridicule me please
i never meant to have an e-relationship. it just turned out that way. one day on a site like myspace she messaged me and we hit it off pretty well, then a few months later she told me she loved me, and i loved her before that even. she's everything i look for in a girl. im mormon so.. i like innocence. im not into "playing the field" and checking out other girls or "having fun" really. shes perfect, and im willing to make sacrifices right now to be with her for many years in the future

-im going to Salt Lake City in Utah to see her for 6 days

lol @ not into having fun
well i sure hope your trip sucks then, so you can enjoy it more

MrDreamWeaver · 03-22-2007, 12:17 PM

Dude. Practically speaking it doesn't sound like this thing is gonna work. Think about it, it costs you $600 bucks to see her every time.

Anyway, do what you want. Be aware that WE EXPERIENCED MEN think this is stupid. You'll get burned, lose $, etc, then realize how stupid it was. When this happens, come back and rep me.

deepthr0at · 03-22-2007, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

shes perfect, and im willing to make sacrifices right now to be with her for many years in the future

-im going to Salt Lake City in Utah to see her for 6 days

The question is, is SHE ready? You said already that she is having mixed feelings, which isn't good for your situation at all. Just beware that any screwup or mishandling of the situation could very well lead to her hooking up with some other guy. On a side note, you paid $600 for a plane ticket from michigan to utah? No offence, but sounds like someone ripped you off on that deal.

bpb77 · 03-22-2007, 12:46 PM

$600 can fly me from MD to Hawaii. How can you date someone for 1.5 years and never meet them?

Have you been faithful to her this entire time?

Lieb · 03-22-2007, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

im mormon so..

say no more.

so you think she will wait for you while your on your mission?

Leon Phelps · 03-22-2007, 01:38 PM

wtf

J4m · 03-22-2007, 01:56 PM

maybe she is having second thoughts, and has changed her mind about meeting because she thinks you wont like her in the flesh and would stop talking to her so she has made up that she likes some other boy,and that you dont go and visit?

Herzeleid · 03-22-2007, 02:01 PM

wow thats possible
shes returned to talking to me normally.. like saying "i love you" back and stuff.. haha im not going on a mission =) shes mormon also ! im going in the marines which is more difficult

bleeh

TricepsNGirls · 03-22-2007, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

wow thats possible
shes returned to talking to me normally.. like saying "i love you" back and stuff.. haha im not going on a mission =) shes mormon also ! im going in the marines which is more difficult

bleeh

You're taking a huge bet with your money. People with proficient online personalities are often unable to keep up a similar impression in person. There really isn't much "love" beyond romantic anticipation if you guys haven't met before. Face-to-face interaction is essential for gauging compatibility. If you can foot the bill, great, but count on having to be more rational and practical when you get older. Good luck with the meet-up.

Sach · 03-22-2007, 02:59 PM

what if its a dude or a fat chick, will you still be in love?

BYUballer · 03-22-2007, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

dont ridicule me please
i never meant to have an e-relationship. it just turned out that way. one day on a site like myspace she messaged me and we hit it off pretty well, then a few months later she told me she loved me, and i loved her before that even. she's everything i look for in a girl. im mormon so.. i like innocence. im not into "playing the field" and checking out other girls or "having fun" really. shes perfect, and im willing to make sacrifices right now to be with her for many years in the future

-im going to Salt Lake City in Utah to see her for 6 days

Yo bro, You're Mormon? Nice, so am I. Im up at BYU right now. Want me to go down and beat the crap out of the other guy for you? Gotta look out for a fellow member and I dont have class tomorrow....
Is she Mormon too?

ForumNinja · 03-22-2007, 03:21 PM

So you were 15.5 years old when you got into a long distance 1.5 year relationship with a girl you have never met before and dont know what she looks like?

Loochi · 03-22-2007, 03:23 PM

Dude, I've had something similar to this, maybe not as intense as yours..

You should go see her before she really falls for this drama boy, go there and show her how fun and cool you are. If it doesn't work, it wasn't ment to be.. And as harsh as that sounds, it's for a reason. Always stay positive though! Good luck dude.

Herzeleid · 03-22-2007, 05:11 PM

i dont know where people get the idea i dont know what she looks like xD ive said i know she's not fat or weirdly. we have webcams

ChefPhalBignuts · 03-23-2007, 04:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

-im going to Salt Lake City in Utah to see her for 6 days

Oh my hell.... You met a Mormon girl over the net? Trust me I live in Utah.... RUN

parkway drive · 03-23-2007, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Herzeleid

alright, thanks man im going. if she truly wants to leave me, i hope im not attracted to her in real life. itd hurt way too much. i think things will work out though.. maybe.. i hope.

dude are you seriosuly 17?

you look way older and your situation doesnt look like something a 17yr old experiences.

look dude just go there and go for it. i dont no how you could call it a relatiosnhip youve never even met in person... maybe its just because i cant relate but... yeah how does this work?

Sebstar · 03-23-2007, 07:00 AM

you bought a ticket, why not use it?

just keep us posted will ya?