So shy girls get hooked up, but shy guys are screwed?

[kendog]

I've noticed that shy guys have it pretty rough since females will pretty much not do a thing in terms of any kind of initialization.

I'm wondering though if shy girls who aren't an 8+ out of 10 could possibly have some similar problems despite guys doing all the work?

Let's say theres a girl who's extremely shy and maybe a 6.5/10. Is it not pretty much a guaranteed that some guy will come along sooner rather than later and do all the work, where as shy guys are completely and utterly screwed?

[cmmulla]

I think the shy guy will eventually get his too... as long as he's not hideous, and the girl who does the work might not exactly be that great either.

[neowings]

Shy guys are pretty much screwed, i.e, me. Well, shy girls it depends if she opens up fine or not.

[gotDOMS]

how do u become less shy can anyone give tips? lol i think it will help alot of us
is it just confidence? i dont think. what do you guys think

[nognig]

Originally Posted by gotDOMS

how do u become less shy can anyone give tips? lol i think it will help alot of us
is it just confidence? i dont think. what do you guys think

You beat your fears (being shy is usually a fear of uncomfortable situations) by forcing yourself to do what scares you.

One thing that helps me is to make an approach with the only goal being the approach. Don't say "I'm going to approach her and get a date for this weekend."

Instead say "That girl is cute, I'm going to go and talk to her". Then do it. You'll either get a vibe that she might be interested in going out or not. The point is, you did approach her. You accomplished your goal.

Do that for a few months and you'll realize there are too many girls out there to be disappointed because one of them won't give you the time of day.

NN

[EZ-Bar]

Guys are more look oriented while girls are more personality oriented so ugly chicks cant really do anything while shy guys can change.

shyness and confidence go hand in hand the less confident the more shy usually. Also unfortuanetly confidence only comes through experience you can use things like hypnosis to help, but in the end your going to have to put yourself out there.

[Jordyn]

Originally Posted by nognig

You beat your fears (being shy is usually a fear of uncomfortable situations) by forcing yourself to do what scares you.

One thing that helps me is to make an approach with the only goal being the approach. Don't say "I'm going to approach her and get a date for this weekend."

Instead say "That girl is cute, I'm going to go and talk to her". Then do it. You'll either get a vibe that she might be interested in going out or not. The point is, you did approach her. You accomplished your goal.

Do that for a few months and you'll realize there are too many girls out there to be disappointed because one of them won't give you the time of day.

NN

excellent advice.

OP: shy, 6.5/10 girls are probably in a worse situation than shy guys because at least guys do the approaching most of the time, can overcome their shyness, and do something (ie, approach) to get girls. on the other hand, shy girls dont do any approaching/initiating, they wait for the guys to come along, and who knows about the quality/quantity of guys who do?