Dumped my girlfriend last night, kinda glad, kinda down though. (long read, Colin)

[rdnjr]

I made a post about her a few weeks ago, because i couldn't figure out what the hell she was up to and I thought she was flaking on me for plans that we had together that weekend, but anyways i'll pick it up from there.
So me and her end up hanging out that weekend, had an awesome time. Fast forwarding, from there on out things really started to fall into place, I felt like I put hardly any work into the relationship, because things just seemed to happen for the both of us. It was about as good as it gets up until Wednesday, which was valentines day.

Tuesday and Wednesday night she stayed at her friends house. I was okay with Tuesday night, although her parents invited me over to dinner but I didn't take up on the offer since the roads were bad. So we decided maybe Thursday night would be better. On Wednesday night though is when things started to get a little fishy. So Wednesday, Valentines day, rolls around and I hadn't really talked to her all day so I didn't know what was going on, so she said she would call me later on. So I waited for her to call, and she finally did call about 11:30, and right in the middle of the convo she cut it off and said she had to go. I was like WTF, It was only like an 8 minute convo. Right there my gut told me something was up and I was right as I found out Thursday night.

So Thursday rolls around, and I was pumped to give her the Valenties day gifts I got her, and she got me something in return also. She texts me later in the afternoon, and then calls me saying she's really tired and didn't know if she wanted to hang out or not, so I was like whatever it's up to you, if you are tired and want to rest then I can wait till the weekend, no biggie. Talked to her that night on AIM, and I knew something was bothering her, and I was fishing around trying to think of a way to get it out of her, so I told her something was bothering me and she finally gave in and said she had to be honest and said something was bothering her too.

So she said that there is this kid who lives far away and is coming over her friends house (the one she stayed at, and this kid happens to be her friends cousin), and everytime he comes in she see's him, and she said that when she sees him that she develops feelings for him, and everything kinda rekindles between them. She said they have never done anything, but the attraction is there. She said she WILL see him when he comes in, and he is coming in for like two weeks, and she said she will like stay the weekend or something. She also said that things will never work out between them though because of the distance they live apart. She told me that she really likes me but at the same time she doesn't want to hurt me and it ain't fair to me and her.

So natually, im pissed off, hurt, and confused at the same time. She would always tell me how I was just like her dad (her and her dad are really close), how lucky she was to have me, how great of a guy I was, and we have so much fun together. I felt the same exact way towards her, I thought I was a lucky guy, she was a great gal, and we just had so much fun together, she was the ideal girl for me.

There is a lot more to this story but I'm going to leave some details out. Anyways, I got drank Friday night, and she called me and I didn't answer. So I called her back, no answer. She called me again and I answered, and I told her that I was pretty pissed off at her. Yesterday I texted her seeing if she still wanted to hang out and I got some sarcastic reply, so I got pissed and flipped out. I sent her a text saying something like "This is my problem not yours. Don't try to turn this on me. I'm done, and you are really gonna have to make this up to me if you want to be with me. Bye". I got no reply. I texted her again last night (alcohol again of course), saying I'm sorry about that text. She sent me another sarcastic text, and i sent a text back, and she said yea well i gotta get up early...so I said "ok sorry, goodnight". Then I sent another one right after that that said "By the way this relationship is over. Goodnight babe ". She sent one back saying "Nite. Sweet dreams." lol. Haven't talked to her since.

Very long post, but I needed to vent a little bit, and I'm still kinda shocked that this happened. Things were going so well. I guess the moral of the story is to trust your gut. It's really the only thing you got. If you feel something is up then ask or fish around until you get it out of them.

Cliffnotes:
-Things were just about as good as they get with my girlfriend
-She stays over friends house for two nights, and I had a gut feeling something was up
-Said she has feelings for this kid whenever he comes in, rekindles things but they have never done anything. Kid happens to be her friends cousin.
-I was shocked, because everything was going so well, so yesterday I flipped out.
-Last night I texted her apologizing for flipping out, she gets sarcastic, so I dump her and haven't talked to her since.

Thoughts? Criticism? PIITB? :P

Thanks.

[RonaldMcDonald]

lol


at least its over...you know its over when she tells you she has feelings for her cousin lol

I would of avoided all that texting, sorta childish, but then again you were drunk, so thats excusable.

Enjoy your freedom.

[rdnjr]

hahaha...it's her friends cousin actually, the one's house she stayed at, and he is staying there. When she was over there two nights, and that last night I knew something was up. Had a gut feeling about it. Ugh i never woulda thought it. At least she told me early and was honest about it though.

[euphoria1]

Regardless if anything happened, essentially it was over anyway as she has feelings for another guy, why be in a relationship with someone like that? And why apologize? It was fishy

[wimpking]

She wants your approval to fukk some other guy. You did the right thing, move on.

[koreanizm]

Good job on dumping the girl. If you begged for the relationship to continue, she would hold all the power and still cheat. Im sure you feel down but you did the right thing.

[Furple]

I don't understand this drunk text stuff... I get drunk sometimes and never done anything like that. I even remember not to answer ex-gf calls/texts when I drink. Maybe I am just lucky to have that control when I drink, but it always has me wondering...

oh yea, wow strong text breakup

[88shane04]

SAME SITUATION WITH MY EX.... I dumped her moved on best thing i've ever done.

[creampuff18]

Move the **** on..............i mean u hear alot of **** that girls say about us guys but damn there are ALOT of girls that are just as ****ed up as any other cheating guy

[Mr Bounce]

The fact that she was so quick to let go of the relationship is worrying, but since it's over that's okay. You were good to get out. Sometimes when you take a stand you find out what people are really like and it can hurt to know you loved/trusted them.

[Taw]

I would PIITM so she shuts up now and stop talking crap
LOL
that would piss me off, this the decline...then things would have never been the same as before

[The-Stig]

IMO, you did the right thing bro. She seems like someone that loves being chased after. Always remember one thing, never rely on anybody else except yourself. At the end of the day, you have nobody else except yourself. You did the right thing by saying goodbye to her and don't let anyone else tell you any different.

[niiick]

didn't i tell you this would happen in the last thread ...

[SkinnyDip]

Tough break, but if she was ready to cheat or devolp feelings for another guy, it is for the best. Good luck.

[TheAustrianOak]

Originally Posted by Furple

I don't understand this drunk text stuff... I get drunk sometimes and never done anything like that. I even remember not to answer ex-gf calls/texts when I drink. Maybe I am just lucky to have that control when I drink, but it always has me wondering...

oh yea, wow strong text breakup

yea all that texting was a little pathetic to be honest

OP: you did the right thing by breaking up with her, but if you would have just broken up with her and kept it that way it would have looked better on you

the text messaging dosen't look good on you or her

[RickRoss]

Yea the texting seemed kinda corny. And then u kept texting back. Don't worry though, soon as this guy leaves to go back home, she'll be on your nuts begging u to take her back. F*ck her.

[giggedyyy]

OP, DO NOT contact her ever again. Even if she starts calling again in a week, or 2, or a month down the road, do not answer her calls, emails, IM's. NOTHING. Cut it off completely, don't give her the satisfaction of giving in to her. Find another girl that will make you happy, plenty out there, good luck dude.

[joshwilson1]

I hope you realize that when you make a stand and do something mean, but then appologize for it, you are giving her all of the power over. I hope you do not try and contact her with the last text you sent her. She made a choice and nothing you say or do is going to change it for her. Move on and keep yourself busy with other things you like to do. Over time, you will care less and less about her until she is a footnote in the book of your life.

[rdnjr]

Thanks everyone. As far as the drunk texting I realized it was stupid when I was sober but there ain't nothing I can do about it now. RickRoss yeah I have a feeling she will be calling/texting/trying to get a hold of me soon. It's her problem not mine, and now she has to deal with it. I haven't talked to her since that last text Saturday night. I'm sure it's still fresh on her mind as it is mine but I don't care. There are plenty of other women out there. I am still a little down about it, but things have been better than I thought they would be. Every other girl I have had problems with I just moped around like a little pussy. I just felt the natural urge yesterday to begin setting new goals and bettering myself. Doin the best I can in school, hittin the gym even harder, applied for a job yesterday, and lookin forward to this weekend It feels great, thanks for the advice everyone.

I'll fill ya in if anything else happens.

[BrightNail]

Originally Posted by rdnjr

Thanks everyone. As far as the drunk texting I realized it was stupid when I was sober but there ain't nothing I can do about it now. RickRoss yeah I have a feeling she will be calling/texting/trying to get a hold of me soon. It's her problem not mine, and now she has to deal with it. I haven't talked to her since that last text Saturday night. I'm sure it's still fresh on her mind as it is mine but I don't care. There are plenty of other women out there. I am still a little down about it, but things have been better than I thought they would be. Every other girl I have had problems with I just moped around like a little pussy. I just felt the natural urge yesterday to begin setting new goals and bettering myself. Doin the best I can in school, hittin the gym even harder, applied for a job yesterday, and lookin forward to this weekend It feels great, thanks for the advice everyone.

I'll fill ya in if anything else happens.

I have no doubt she will be contacting once this dude leaves town. She will be high on him for a few days, then it will sink in... then you will get a phone call or text from her.

Do yourself a favor. Do not answer or reply. Actually, not answering should be enough but most people don't "get that" - so give her the answer she needs if she keeps contacting you.. text her back this, and only this... nothing else. No "talks" no "expressing of your feelings" .. none of that ****. Cause it doesn't matter. She might say "I want you, and only you. I realized something.. blah blah blah..."... Its ALL bull****.

Text her this if she contacts you: "Don't embarass yourself further. Please do not contact me. I am not in the least bit interested".

Thats it.

Good job in ending it. I give her kudos for being upfront somewhat. Most women would lie and not be truthful, at least she is somewhat honest with her feelings. BUT, that doesn't mean she is the one for you. She isn't. Some fly by night dude can manuever her away from you. She isn't the one for you.

good luck.

[kamis]

dude that was the beginning of the end and you ended it early, well done lad. it was bound to happen anyways, now find a new wench and ravage her!