**** Buddies (serious)

gouscfootball · 01-09-2007, 03:00 PM

Ok so I recently broke up with my ex who I went out with for 8 months, and we've been apart for about two weeks. This Sunday i'm playing a round of golf with her, and I was wondering what would be the best way to approach her about being **** buddies without the emotional side of the relationship obviously. I don't want to come off too strong about it, and was thinking of ways to bring it up. Anyone have any success with this? And as a footnote, we're 17 so take that into consideration..I liked the physical side of the relationship alive so I still want to keep that aspect between us..

creature · 01-09-2007, 03:07 PM

Tough conversion.

Just ask her if she ever wondered how much better the sex would be if you tried it without all of the emotion? This will give you some direction.

Do this on the last hole so the game isn’t ruined if she gets cheesed off.

This probably isn’t going to work so keep yourself out of backhand range.

Good luck.

PhoenixBuff · 01-09-2007, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by gouscfootball

Ok so I recently broke up with my ex who I went out with for 8 months, and we've been apart for about two weeks. This Sunday i'm playing a round of golf with her, and I was wondering what would be the best way to approach her about being **** buddies without the emotional side of the relationship obviously. I don't want to come off too strong about it, and was thinking of ways to bring it up. Anyone have any success with this? And as a footnote, we're 17 so take that into consideration..I liked the physical side of the relationship alive so I still want to keep that aspect between us..

17 and f*ck buddies? Not possible, you younger people are too emotional. Something "bad" is going to happen....like fall in love with her again. Be careful man.

cbad_local · 01-09-2007, 03:09 PM

she will probably be down.

but get ready for alot of unneccessary drama. there is never going to be a time when you or her don't have more than just sex on the mind. If your playing golf with her you might as well because you are not following the stressfree breakup code by hanging with her. So I say do it and enjoy it while you can 'cause soon enough one of you will get hurt again.

gouscfootball · 01-09-2007, 07:32 PM

anymore opinions? thanks for the input

EyeCyoo · 01-09-2007, 08:56 PM

Tough conversion.

It's going to depend greatly on the relstionship you had and what kind of people you both are.

You dont really have much to lose if you are upfront about it. she may get pissed off and reject it straight out, but you dont have to deal with her b/s anymore.

Maybe ask her if she misses the physical aspect of your relationship.

"dam we had the best sex life going..." is a good introduction to the subject.

Just ensure there is no flirting with relationship intentions (this is the tricky part). Its just physicall between both of you, and you both have to know this 110% or there will be trouble.

M_Ainsworth · 01-09-2007, 09:11 PM

if it was me i'd just be like....

we used to have a lot of fun together especially when we were alone....

*check her reaction*

you know that is probably what i miss the most, i always felt really comfortable with you and it just felt right you know?

*check reaction again*

i truly miss those moments and i personally dont see anything wrong with trying to relive some of those intimate times

-----her reactions should reveal the answer to you by now

parkway drive · 01-10-2007, 01:44 AM

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Originally Posted by PhoenixBuff

17 and f*ck buddies? Not possible, you younger people are too emotional. Something "bad" is going to happen....like fall in love with her again. Be careful man.

17 and have a **** buddy so yeah it does work.

but your right these things never end well, im expecting emotional baggage sooner or later.

1/2man1/2amazin · 01-10-2007, 02:24 AM

show her the rolex: grab your dong, wrap it around your wrist, walk up to her and ask her if she would like to see your rolex. if she says yes, show her your "rolex". if she says no, show her your "rolex"

triplehfan · 01-10-2007, 02:30 AM

if you've broke up with her man leave it at that. you broke up for a reason. chances are one of you (probably you) is still into the other person and being ****buddies will screw with the other persons head and it's just gonna create one big mess.

think with your head, not your dick

Beklet · 01-10-2007, 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by triplehfan

if you've broke up with her man leave it at that. you broke up for a reason. chances are one of you (probably you) is still into the other person and being ****buddies will screw with the other persons head and it's just gonna create one big mess.

think with your head, not your dick

Agreed. You can't feally be a f-buddy with an ex. There will ALWAYS be an emotional attachment on one side. You split up for a reason. F-buddies are usually people you don't know well and see occasionally for sex. She wouldn't even work as a friend-with benefits.

SPreston36 · 01-10-2007, 07:43 AM

Id run away while you still can. If your wanting to be f-buddies with her becuase yoru still attractied to her, id reccomend stop hanging out with her all together for awhile..

Following around someone you already broke up with just inhibitis your chances of finding someone else potentially better.

brigg554 · 01-10-2007, 07:59 AM

i tried it with an ex

1 month later she tells me that i need to be her b/f or she cannot see me any more... she got emotionally attached to me again.

its possible but very unlikely that it will work. if you are truly f buddies, there is no cuddling, no listening to her problems, no hanging out with each other and friends.. you can do all of this, but it is signs that someones getting attached

user23960508710783 · 01-10-2007, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by SPreston36

Id run away while you still can. If your wanting to be f-buddies with her becuase yoru still attractied to her, id reccomend stop hanging out with her all together for awhile..

Following around someone you already broke up with just inhibitis your chances of finding someone else potentially better.

Exactly. She will just get pissed at you and say no, or she'll say yes and you'll get yourself into an awful situation.

You know, there are no emotional ramifications to be had as a result of internet porn . . .

BioMachine · 01-10-2007, 02:52 PM

Ane of my ex's just jokingly said " I miss the sex a lot... we could always be f*** buddies!" and that was that

.

And to a couple people who said that it probably won't work at 17, for me it worked out fine: we'd meet up, hang out a litle bit, fool around, and then split.

Of course I'm not saying that it's entirely impossible for feelings to come back, just presenting proof on one side.

triplehfan · 01-12-2007, 08:21 AM

^^^^^

sorry man but one or both of you are kiddin yourselves. i can be friends with my exes as they were good people deep down and we ended fairly amicably but bekret was right. when you've got a fukbuddy pretty much the only thing you do is randomly meet for sex

bottom line as i said, it doesn't work with exes. you either get back together or you leave well alone.

cbad_local · 01-12-2007, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by triplehfan

^^^^^

sorry man but one or both of you are kiddin yourselves. i can be friends with my exes as they were good people deep down and we ended fairly amicably but bekret was right. when you've got a fukbuddy pretty much the only thing you do is randomly meet for sex

bottom line as i said, it doesn't work with exes. you either get back together or you leave well alone.

couldnt agree more. my most recent girlfriend refused to quit contact with an ex who is still into her. she doesnt even talk to him that much, but it is hurting both us and him. Her father was abusive, and I think that maybe stems from her not giving up on men in her life. And its not like I don't want her to talk to him for no reason. he was doing some texting right when we started going out giving me due reason to make sure that she wont be in contact with him again. So pretty much, having her not give up on ex's shows me a redflag that something in her past is screwing up her future.

wow strong off topic, but you know

empresscat · 01-12-2007, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Beklet

Agreed. You can't feally be a f-buddy with an ex. There will ALWAYS be an emotional attachment on one side. You split up for a reason. F-buddies are usually people you don't know well and see occasionally for sex. She wouldn't even work as a friend-with benefits.

Yup.

If there was feeling there, she (and probably you) will always have some residual feeling. As long as you are hanging out, and especially if you are having sex, she is going to carry some hope of making things the way they "used to be."

Ex-Terminator · 01-12-2007, 11:17 AM

A key factor here is which one of you broke up the relationship. If she broke it off, then forget about it. It's not going to happen. If you broke it off then there's a chance, but be warned......if she goes for it, it's because she wants more than to just be f*ck buddies.

Women think differently than we do. Generally speaking, a woman gives you her body because she feels a certain intimacy with you. As for us? We'll hump anything we think is hot (or sometimes not). Most women don't do sex just for the sake of sex.

Uncle Bob · 01-13-2007, 12:27 PM

You were getting some sex with her, but now you broke up and aren't getting sex anymore. You miss the action and want it back, and think it would be easiest with someone you already screwed. I won't get between you and poon, but you two should really wait a while and cut off contact for a bit, then see what happens. She will start to wonder if other girls are hitting on you now that you are single, and if you actually start going on dates with other girls she will see what a stud you are and want you. I think f*ck buddies will work best if she initiates it, because it gives you the power and if she gets too close you can step back and say 'sex only please'.

If you ask her to be f*ck buddies right now she'll know that you need her and that you aren't getting any other girls interested in you...you might as well just get back together.