To start off, I'm a 5'7 Chinese man. I'm naturally small frame, if I didn't lift at all, I'd weight about 120. But Yes that's right, I been lifting consistently for 13 years and only weigh 145lbs at 5'7. My pic is below, this obviously is a pic of me flexing. Without a pump and not flexing, I pretty much look like an average Joe. People are incredibly suprised when they see me at the gym though because of my pump, they tell me they had no idea how buff I was, but I know it's just because I have my pump going. Anyhow, I know the reasons why I don't weigh more or look bigger, it's simply because as a 31 year old working a full time job, I cannot find the motivation to stay with a 6 meal a day plan, workout intensely every work out, and keep track of carbs, fat, protein every single day. This post is to just to discuss my situation because I do think it's different than most. Most people either have the motivation or genetics to be incredibly built or they dont get anywhere near the nutrition and fail at getting any results. I"m someone that can get out of the gym and as long as you see me for the first hour, I look like someone that goes to the gym regularly, after an hour though, I look small and scrawny.
THis is what happens through out the course of a year for me.
maybe twice a year, I get super motivated and for 1 month, I do it all right. 6 meals per day, low fat, high protein, intense workouts, and I do see results.
The rest of the year, I still work out consistently, but instead of 6 meals, I eat 4 to 5, I cheat more often, and instead of eating strict, I'll have say a Breaded CHicken sandwich instead of grilled. So although it's not like eating 2 tacos and fries, I'm still getting more fat and calories because it's a breaded chicken but that tastes so much better than a grilled chicken.
So I know what I'm doing wrong and why I haven't gotten any bigger since high school when I pretty much plateued.
My real question is how do people here stay motivated. As you can tell from the pic, I'm not some average Joe that walks into the gym once per month and eats whatever I want. Although relatively small compared to a bodybuilding buff, the size I do have is a result of 13 years of consistent working out, but I can be much bigger if I stayed at it. How do people stay motivated to do this the rest of their lives? I'm motivated enough to some what keep the life style (at least 4 meals, still eat chicken but maybe a friend chicken breast, or add cheese to the sandwich) and I know this is what's keeping me from the ideal size and weight of say, 155 - 160 for being 5'7. Now I don't care what people say, when your only 5'7, that is a good weight. Mark Whalberg as buff as he is doesn't weight no 210 or anything like that. UFC fight light weight, as cutt and built as they may look are in the 145 - 155lb range. I'd ideally like to cut some fat and gain an extra 10lbs of muscle but I haven't been able to stay motivated past maybe 1 month. My full time job has nothing to do with bodybuilding, I work around engineers all day who have no interest in bodybuilding. Does anyone have any tips or things they do to stay motivated?