To start off, I'm a 5'7 Chinese man. I'm naturally small frame, if I didn't lift at all, I'd weight about 120. But Yes that's right, I been lifting consistently for 13 years and only weigh 145lbs at 5'7. My pic is below, this obviously is a pic of me flexing. Without a pump and not flexing, I pretty much look like an average Joe. People are incredibly suprised when they see me at the gym though because of my pump, they tell me they had no idea how buff I was, but I know it's just because I have my pump going. Anyhow, I know the reasons why I don't weigh more or look bigger, it's simply because as a 31 year old working a full time job, I cannot find the motivation to stay with a 6 meal a day plan, workout intensely every work out, and keep track of carbs, fat, protein every single day. This post is to just to discuss my situation because I do think it's different than most. Most people either have the motivation or genetics to be incredibly built or they dont get anywhere near the nutrition and fail at getting any results. I"m someone that can get out of the gym and as long as you see me for the first hour, I look like someone that goes to the gym regularly, after an hour though, I look small and scrawny.
THis is what happens through out the course of a year for me.
maybe twice a year, I get super motivated and for 1 month, I do it all right. 6 meals per day, low fat, high protein, intense workouts, and I do see results.
The rest of the year, I still work out consistently, but instead of 6 meals, I eat 4 to 5, I cheat more often, and instead of eating strict, I'll have say a Breaded CHicken sandwich instead of grilled. So although it's not like eating 2 tacos and fries, I'm still getting more fat and calories because it's a breaded chicken but that tastes so much better than a grilled chicken.
So I know what I'm doing wrong and why I haven't gotten any bigger since high school when I pretty much plateued.
My real question is how do people here stay motivated. As you can tell from the pic, I'm not some average Joe that walks into the gym once per month and eats whatever I want. Although relatively small compared to a bodybuilding buff, the size I do have is a result of 13 years of consistent working out, but I can be much bigger if I stayed at it. How do people stay motivated to do this the rest of their lives? I'm motivated enough to some what keep the life style (at least 4 meals, still eat chicken but maybe a friend chicken breast, or add cheese to the sandwich) and I know this is what's keeping me from the ideal size and weight of say, 155 - 160 for being 5'7. Now I don't care what people say, when your only 5'7, that is a good weight. Mark Whalberg as buff as he is doesn't weight no 210 or anything like that. UFC fight light weight, as cutt and built as they may look are in the 145 - 155lb range. I'd ideally like to cut some fat and gain an extra 10lbs of muscle but I haven't been able to stay motivated past maybe 1 month. My full time job has nothing to do with bodybuilding, I work around engineers all day who have no interest in bodybuilding. Does anyone have any tips or things they do to stay motivated?
03-29-2012, 11:03 PM #1
31 years old, 5'7 and 144lbs - been lifting since 18.
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I don't EVER need motivation to get to the gym, because I'm FKING EXCITED AS HELL to get there & start trashing my muscles. I think about it all day at work, I fall asleep thinking about it. Doms excite me, eating excites me, everything about bodybuilding excites me.
If it doesn't excite you, then carry on with what your doing getting below average results.
03-30-2012, 04:29 AM #4
I dont mean to sound disrespectful at all bro
But...for 13 years of lifting thats very bad man. Sort your diet + training out to maximize results. Have you ever thought about working with a Trainer?"Success is a journey, Not a destination"
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Today I look like this.
I been doing this long enough to know what it takes, and I can get back to that in a matter of months, but I guess everyone here is right, I just need to find some way some how to get motivated past the daily routine that I'm currently in. What I really wanted to know is if anyone had issues with being motivated due to hectic work schedule, family, etc. I notice many here are very young, I had no problem staying motivated in college since I had no stress, worked part time, and had nothing else on my mind but to workout to impress the ladies. Times for me are different now.
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I think a lot of smaller guys fail to realise that they can't progress as slowly as everyone else. Their bodytype won't allow them to. If they decide to progress slowly, it'll be REALLY slowly, as you've found out. You have to do extreme 10-12 week phase periods. Overload on calories and protein during that time as it's a bulking period. After that, cut down the fat for 5 weeks (cutting period). Then rest for a month or so, do relatively what you like and then come back and push your boundaries again. This way, you always have a reason to keep coming back and pushing because I guarentee that after 4 weeks rest you'll be desperate to get back in the gym and get your body back on track. You shouldn't have to try and "fit" it into your life, your wellbeing should be on your priority list.
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Dude you don't look bad at all, def solid, like you said you have a small frame. Your eating habits sound very common, I often get fewer meals in and eat not quite as clean in the offseason, you just can't eat 6-7 super clean meals year round and stay sane (I can't). I'd be better if you could string together a couple months of eating clean to get ripped up once per year. I find that helps progress a lot, also lets you know where you're at.
If you're losing motivation, take a week off, or take a deload week. Then find a new program, with set goals, and stick to it. You stick to a program, you get results, and results are awesome for motivation.
I'm 29, been lifting for 15 years...would be 180-185 without the gym prolly (my dad size at my age), I'm 210-215...a 30 lb gain, 2 lbs a year. Pretty sure you're winning on a percentage basis.
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