Does anyone else's gf hate to do cardio?

guy121 · 05-22-2007, 10:21 PM

I don't know why, but my gf has the most negative attitude towards doing any form of exercise (except lifting some 5lb weights). I have finally got her to run and she's currently doing .8 miles in 9-10 minutes and that kills her. She's 5'5" 174lbs (from ~145lbs when I met her). She keeps telling me that she looks stupid running, she gets discouraged because I lose weight faster than her, she hates to sweat, and that her lungs hurt from running. Only reason she's willing to run now is because I already get hit on/glanced at/stared at/smiles from other women and because I'm losing weight that will only increase and she doesn't want to lose me or look like the fat gf with cute guy thing.

What else can I do to motivate her? Anyone else have the same problem? I think she really needs to start thinking of pushing herself some more rather than just sticking with what she's doing now. Just getting her to this point was like pulling teeth and I'm sure she doesn't plan on increasing the speed or time on the treadmill.

pimpalot805 · 05-22-2007, 10:27 PM

if she doesn't step up than leave her

Jim_Gym · 05-22-2007, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by guy121

What else can I do to motivate her? Anyone else have the same problem?

You can't motivate other people, except by perhaps dumping her. Then she'll work out until she's skinny enough to get another guy before rebounding back up by about 35 pounds.

pimpalot805 · 05-22-2007, 10:30 PM

nah I used to date girls who were like that; never wanted to sweat or do cardio; all they wanted to do was get rid of the fat under their arms and do small ab exercises

all you gotta do is increase the cardio in the bed room; and steal food from her

but honestly; tell her to eat right if she doesn't already; give her a good diet, if her lungs hurt she doesn't exercise enough and she should build up to it? eh?

she doesn't have to run or anything either; as long as her weight-lifting workouts have no rest in between

gfundaro · 05-22-2007, 10:52 PM

Hahah when I first started running, my lungs hurt too, I got the rib-cramp, I couldn't go more than a mile. That in itsself motivated me! Now I run plenty, it's relaxing. Tell her the more she does it the more she'll like it.

pimpalot805 · 05-22-2007, 11:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Jim_Gym

You can't motivate other people, except by perhaps dumping her. Then she'll work out until she's skinny enough to get another guy before rebounding back up by about 35 pounds.

True..

jamesc23 · 05-23-2007, 12:41 AM

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Originally Posted by pimpalot805

and steal food from her

lol this should work as long as she doesn't notice

IronFists · 05-23-2007, 12:58 AM

Explain her u like her if she's 200lb's or 130lb's, and expose the high bf not only as a beauty/ugly problem but also as health problemS. The more you force her, the less motivated she will be.

ryanthestark · 05-23-2007, 01:22 AM

Spike her drinks with DNP and Clen (no seriouse)

Swaggydoo · 05-23-2007, 05:56 AM

Have you tried telling her how important a healthy lifestyle is to you? And you could do different things with each other then, such as bike rides etc (if where u live is ok for that)

parnix · 05-23-2007, 06:46 AM

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Originally Posted by IronFists

Explain her u like her if she's 200lb's or 130lb's, and expose the high bf not only as a beauty/ugly problem but also as health problemS. The more you force her, the less motivated she will be.

this is very true

phil2007 · 05-23-2007, 06:59 AM

maybe she doesn't realize how fat she's getting. show her pictures of herself

jcosley · 05-23-2007, 07:13 AM

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Originally Posted by guy121

I don't know why, but my gf has the most negative attitude towards doing any form of exercise (except lifting some 5lb weights). I have finally got her to run and she's currently doing .8 miles in 9-10 minutes and that kills her. She's 5'5" 174lbs (from ~145lbs when I met her). She keeps telling me that she looks stupid running, she gets discouraged because I lose weight faster than her, she hates to sweat, and that her lungs hurt from running. Only reason she's willing to run now is because I already get hit on/glanced at/stared at/smiles from other women and because I'm losing weight that will only increase and she doesn't want to lose me or look like the fat gf with cute guy thing.

What else can I do to motivate her? Anyone else have the same problem? I think she really needs to start thinking of pushing herself some more rather than just sticking with what she's doing now. Just getting her to this point was like pulling teeth and I'm sure she doesn't plan on increasing the speed or time on the treadmill.

Yes I also have the comfortable gf syndrome. At least my gf is trying to actually lose the weight though, she eats pretty healthy and exercises almost everyday....i broke her of her chocolate habbit which should help. haha!

mstenn · 05-23-2007, 07:20 AM

Find something she likes doing... although theres mot much better than running, a bike ride, Swimming, cross trainer, dancing, walking, rowing, energetic housework, are all forms of cardio you could you to mix it up. just find something she like doing. but diet is probably the best place to show improvement (thats my guess) if its your sorta thing, you could cook the meals making sure they are healthy and balanced.

BJW · 05-23-2007, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by IronFists

Explain her u like her if she's 200lb's or 130lb's, and expose the high bf not only as a beauty/ugly problem but also as health problemS. The more you force her, the less motivated she will be.

Agreed. I'm not trying to say that you don't like her at 200 or anything like that, but it seems like there's a self-image issue going on here with her as well.

hpgilmore · 05-23-2007, 11:23 AM

If you want to keep her, than don't push her so much to work out. She is probably feeling self concious about working out in front of people that look better than her. Try taking her to the gym when less people are around, or have her make friends with some chick there so she will have some one else to hang unto. Checking out other girls is only going to put her off more, and discourge her and make her sad and all that. Of course if you are in the market thats another story.

cawiau · 05-23-2007, 11:43 AM

I guessed we have the same problem. My fiancee (we have been together for 4 years) went from a sexy 5'1 and 125 to now 200 lbs. So she gained 75 lbs during those 4 years and people bother all the time saying it is because she is happy.

She says she wants to go back to 125 but I don't think her heart is really into it. She will start for like a week or two, a month maz than fall back into her old habits. And she always have a reason why she did not exercise that day.

The other thing is all she wants to do is cardio and follow her diet. She will not lift weights to save her life. lately I just don't mention it anymore because it is a very sensitive diet.

I don't have any good advice because I am trying to get her to be motivated. Kinda hard when the person in question will take everything personnally.

jcosley · 05-23-2007, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by cawiau

I guessed we have the same problem. My fiancee (we have been together for 4 years) went from a sexy 5'1 and 125 to now 200 lbs. So she gained 75 lbs during those 4 years and people bother all the time saying it is because she is happy.

She says she wants to go back to 125 but I don't think her heart is really into it. She will start for like a week or two, a month maz than fall back into her old habits. And she always have a reason why she did not exercise that day.

The other thing is all she wants to do is cardio and follow her diet. She will not lift weights to save her life. lately I just don't mention it anymore because it is a very sensitive diet.

I don't have any good advice because I am trying to get her to be motivated. Kinda hard when the person in question will take everything personnally.

I know what you mean dude. I finally got my gf to start lifting weights and keep trying to get her to follow my diet....to eat clean and eat often during the day...its starting to work I think. The only thing that can really help i think is to just keep good clean food in the house at all times and we both can only have no choice but to eat healthy.

scolls · 05-23-2007, 01:11 PM

i personally like the look of women with a little weight to them. not obese but nice curves. what is the true reason you want her to loose weight? is it because of looks or her health? also if you are able to last awhile, sex is good cardio.

jcosley · 05-23-2007, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by scolls

i personally like the look of women with a little weight to them. not obese but nice curves. what is the true reason you want her to loose weight? is it because of looks or her health? also if you are able to last awhile, sex is good cardio.

I like girls with meat on their bones as well....i hate the totally skinny girls. But i think we're getting at that....its just a little too much meat that they really dont need and its not a healthy weight or lifestyle.

nithos · 05-23-2007, 01:27 PM

#1 - She has to want to do it
#2 - She isn't going to be able to run a marathon overnight, she will have to slowly work up to it.
#3 - Be supportive, without forcing her

Cherry · 05-23-2007, 01:36 PM

Losing weight for a SO (significant other) is a lousy reason to lose weight, and it will most likely not hold. A clean diet and consistently making time to workout takes a lot of dedication in today's busy world where any number of other things compete for your time.

I think, given that she's someone you're dating and assuming you have no long-term ties (kids), that you need to decide what YOU are willing to accept. Beyond just her looks, there are health issues with added weight, child-bearing issues, longevity and quality of life, and having similar interests. If you are devoting lots of time to activity and she's not, you may find more distance between the two of you as time passes.

Assuming her trend continues and she puts on more weight - realize that it may eventually impede what she can do (ie: can she make it through a Disney trip with kids one summer, without having to rest; will she get out at the beach with the family or hide because of her weight...). It would be crass to dump someone just because they gained weight, but it would be even worse to be legally tied to someone for a good chunk of the rest of your life who couldn't fully participate in life with you.

WallyWhitecross · 05-23-2007, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by guy121

I don't know why, but my gf has the most negative attitude towards doing any form of exercise (except lifting some 5lb weights). I have finally got her to run and she's currently doing .8 miles in 9-10 minutes and that kills her. She's 5'5" 174lbs (from ~145lbs when I met her). She keeps telling me that she looks stupid running, she gets discouraged because I lose weight faster than her, she hates to sweat, and that her lungs hurt from running. Only reason she's willing to run now is because I already get hit on/glanced at/stared at/smiles from other women and because I'm losing weight that will only increase and she doesn't want to lose me or look like the fat gf with cute guy thing.

What else can I do to motivate her? Anyone else have the same problem? I think she really needs to start thinking of pushing herself some more rather than just sticking with what she's doing now. Just getting her to this point was like pulling teeth and I'm sure she doesn't plan on increasing the speed or time on the treadmill.

Motivation that sticks comes from within. She has to want to do it for her first and foremost.

pologod05 · 05-23-2007, 02:07 PM

someone said above sex was good. its even better if you can get to do all the work, just make like a bunny and f*ck all the time. its good for the mind too...

aside from that, it depends on the commitment level. it may seem selfish, but if youre not happy because of this, then you have reason to move on. if thats the case, there are times when you need to assert yourself, and this may be one of those times.

i do like the idea of stealing food from her tho...

Dokstarr · 05-23-2007, 02:08 PM

As other people have said, I think the biggest thing is that she wants to lose wieght.

If heart isn't into it, then it will never work out and it will be like you are dragging an anchor. If you keep pushing her, she may get defensive, upset, etc. She has to decide what makes her happy. If she really wants to lose weight for herself than she will stick to it, but if she is happy fat then heart wont be in it.

There could also be the fact that she is embarassed about her current abilities at the gym. Some people I've known, especially girls become extremely self concious at the gym thinking people are staring at them, judging them, etc. If she keeps at it her ability will increase, etc.

mcmuffin · 05-23-2007, 02:25 PM

8 miles in 9-10 minutes sounds immense to me!!!

phil2007 · 05-23-2007, 02:30 PM

0.8 dude

guy121 · 05-23-2007, 06:17 PM

Thanks for all the replies.

I seriously was ROFL when I read "steal food from her".

We're both eating right (CalorieKing is a great program everyone). She has ate right in the past, but would cheat about once a week or two which would just set her back to her weight. So now I think she's doing a bit better.

I do not have a problem with her weight so don't think I'm extremely shallow. When we got together I said I would not be with a girl who is 200lbs (no shallow). Of course she was 145lbs, so it wasn't a big deal. Now she has that in the back of her head. Hey whatever works is how I look at it. Today I've been playing off of her friends. Saying wouldn't you like it when you see your friends that they go WOW! You lost a lot of weight! This has seemed to work and she went ahead and did a mile in 13 minutes today. I do show off how my body is looking better and better to get her motivated to do the same. The true motivation is so she can walk with me around other hot women and claim me without any other woman trying to take me away. Seems to work pretty well.

I will have to say that all of you who have a relationship who have the same problem, don't tell your girl that other girls are hotter. I just have had a very "This is who I am, I am always going to be honest, I will be straight to the point, If you look bad I will tell you, If I just **** my pants I will tell you, If you don't like something about me tell me" kind of thing with her. So she knows she can't get mad at me for being honest.

Jose26 · 05-23-2007, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by pimpalot805

if she doesn't step up than leave her

exactly

gfundaro · 05-23-2007, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by guy121

Thanks for all the replies.

I seriously was ROFL when I read "steal food from her".

We're both eating right (CalorieKing is a great program everyone). She has ate right in the past, but would cheat about once a week or two which would just set her back to her weight. So now I think she's doing a bit better.

I do not have a problem with her weight so don't think I'm extremely shallow. When we got together I said I would not be with a girl who is 200lbs (no shallow). Of course she was 145lbs, so it wasn't a big deal. Now she has that in the back of her head. Hey whatever works is how I look at it. Today I've been playing off of her friends. Saying wouldn't you like it when you see your friends that they go WOW! You lost a lot of weight! This has seemed to work and she went ahead and did a mile in 13 minutes today. I do show off how my body is looking better and better to get her motivated to do the same. The true motivation is so she can walk with me around other hot women and claim me without any other woman trying to take me away. Seems to work pretty well.

I will have to say that all of you who have a relationship who have the same problem, don't tell your girl that other girls are hotter. I just have had a very "This is who I am, I am always going to be honest, I will be straight to the point, If you look bad I will tell you, If I just **** my pants I will tell you, If you don't like something about me tell me" kind of thing with her. So she knows she can't get mad at me for being honest.

That's a great way to do it! Then you're not focusing on her problems now, you're visualizing her success in the future. :-) And it's not shallow to have a weight limit, for me it would probably above 350 of fat (my bf is 260 right now and looks good hehe, he's a tall guy). His limit for me would be about 250, because I'm smaller. We'd still stick together, but the 'physical' stuff wouldn't happen hehe :-)