What the hell does this mean!

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

yea f*ck it, not gonna bother begging for her back, as I've done that, its over, idc, lol, I just wanted the male interpretation=what she actually meant, when she said she wanted to be best friends still love me etc. and I guess I got it. Just gonna focus on getting more jacked than you guys here on this forum and school

So your cutting all contact then?

[skydve76]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

yea f*ck it, not gonna bother begging for her back, as I've done that, its over, idc, lol, I just wanted the male interpretation=what she actually meant, when she said she wanted to be best friends still love me etc. and I guess I got it. Just gonna focus on getting more jacked than you guys here on this forum and school

There ya go, make her jealous. Then later on bend her over then cut contact again. DOne that many times.

They always come back too, stay strong.

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by skydve76

There ya go, make her jealous. Then later on bend her over then cut contact again. DOne that many times.

They always come back too, stay strong.

Hmm, so most come back from your experience?

[Italiantank26]

Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

So your cutting all contact then?

yea i'm cutting contact, I deleted her phone number, I never memorized it so I can't call her even if i wanted too, deleted her fb, I threw away all the presents she ever got for me, yes including the stuff animals, except for a few pieces of jewelry.

Originally Posted by skydve76

There ya go, make her jealous. Then later on bend her over then cut contact again. DOne that many times.

They always come back too, stay strong.

yup its what my plan is

[skydve76]

Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Hmm, so most come back from your experience?

Always, ESPECIALLY in his situation where she is like trying to hold on to him

"Woman are like monkeys, they never let go of one branch until they have a firm grip an another".

Record: 8 months later bitch shows up crying. I gave it to her a few times (CONDOM DUDE), then got another girlfriend. Everytime I see her, she flips me off

I guarantee she'll be back, just give her space, be cool, take it out at the gym.

She'll be begging you back,

[ICQ666]

She wants out of the relationship, but will pretend that she cares by saying, "I can't handle the relationship. Let me think about it...etc" She doesn't want to feel guilty for breaking up, so she is hoping that you end it. Women are a lot of times like that, been there, done that, same crapp.... They don't want to feel that they were the "reason" the relationship didn't work. So, give her all the time in the world to think about things and ignore her. She will come back crawling.... I say, no future here. She is probably interested in someone better than you, or someone that she sees more future with. I am just realistic man.

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

yea i'm cutting contact, I deleted her phone number, I never memorized it so I can't call her even if i wanted too, deleted her fb, I threw away all the presents she ever got for me, yes including the stuff animals, except for a few pieces of jewelry.


yup its what my plan is

Oh wow, has she tried contacting you since?

[Italiantank26]

Originally Posted by ICQ666

She wants out of the relationship, but will pretend that she cares by saying, "I can't handle the relationship. Let me think about it...etc" She doesn't want to feel guilty for breaking up, so she is hoping that you end it. Women are a lot of times like that, been there, done that, same crapp.... They don't want to feel that they were the "reason" the relationship didn't work. So, give her all the time in the world to think about things and ignore her. She will come back crawling.... I say, no future here. She is probably interested in someone better than you, or someone that she sees more future with. I am just realistic man.

could be, except she knows she can't get no one better than me, I am fortunate to be extremely well of financially, I would say I'm pretty good looking, treated this girl extremely well (almost too well), she didn't have her license so I would always drive around to c her, yea its f*cked, anyway point is she can't get no one better than me, at least its the way I look at it. Only reason I'm dissapointed is cause I wasted so much so I'm like wtf. On top of that, my game isn't good, and I just am not the person who goes out everyone weekend and f*cks around with girls, so I know its gonna b a while b4 I get another gf, but with school and sh*t I'm fine with that now

Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Oh wow, has she tried contacting you since?

yea she contacted me again, after I explictly told her, I didn't want her to contact me again, this was only two days later. She said she wished it didn't have to be like this, she called and left me a vm telling me she loved me blah blah. I caved and txt her back. Then got into another fight with her about all this bullsh*t she is pulling, and told her not to call me or txt me until she get her sh*t together, this was only yesterday, so its been a day since.

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

could be, except she knows she can't get no one better than me, I am fortunate to be extremely well of financially, I would say I'm pretty good looking, treated this girl extremely well (almost too well), she didn't have her license so I would always drive around to c her, yea its f*cked, anyway point is she can't get no one better than me, at least its the way I look at it. Only reason I'm dissapointed is cause I wasted so much so I'm like wtf. On top of that, my game isn't good, and I just am not the person who goes out everyone weekend and f*cks around with girls, so I know its gonna b a while b4 I get another gf, but with school and sh*t I'm fine with that now


yea she contacted me again, after I explictly told her, I didn't want her to contact me again, this was only two days later. She said she wished it didn't have to be like this, she called and left me a vm telling me she loved me blah blah. I caved and txt her back. Then got into another fight with her about all this bullsh*t she is pulling, and told her not to call me or txt me until she get her sh*t together, this was only yesterday, so its been a day since.

Hmm since you said 'until you get your **** together' she might view that as you will always take her back. I think her thinking you won't, is when she would actually want to be with you again.

[Italiantank26]

she just sent my a msg on fb, saying "really mature for deleting me" made me laugh, was gonna respond just with one word, stop. Should I respond, or continue to ignore her, I haven't tlk to her since thursday

[kineticforce]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

she just sent my a msg on fb, saying "really mature for deleting me" made me laugh, was gonna respond just with one word, stop. Should I respond, or continue to ignore her, I haven't tlk to her since thursday

ignore...any response is gonna prolong it - ignore

[Guardian]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

So what the f*ck does it mean when your gf tells you that she loves you, your her best friend, and you mean the world to her, but that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment cause she can't handle it. I'm like wtf, why can't you handle it, cause you can't handle the stress not being single and surrounded by college dudes? She said no this isn't the reason, and failed to comply what it was. Anyone wanna give me the male interpretation of what she really ment

It means ones appreciation for any individual thing in life increases when they experience other things.

Therefore believe it or not the most appreciative girls often are the ones who were with quite a bit of guys before.

[MustangFanatic0]

maybe she dont wanna ruin the friendship, maybe she isnt experienced with having a relationship and is just afraid

[SrsBrah]

She put you in the friendzone.... so put her in the rape zone!

[daverick89]

I recently did exactly the same thing, actually broke up with her last Saturday. You're looking into this too much, I just wanted to be single. We (me, you, your gf) are still young, getting in serious relationships is not something we should be seeking, atleast not in my opinion. My dad put it this way for me:

"Men my age hunt with rifles, men your age hunt with shotguns. Shooting with the wrong gun is going to leave you with regrets and that is the most damaging thing that can happen to a relationship."

Pretty much don't go look for the one, go out and meet people, 20 years from now when you have appreciated and she has deppreciated you're going to be mad at yourself for settling down with 1 girl at a young age. I've been single for a week and it feels good man, I still text her because she said she didn't want to lose me, but talking to my parents this weekend they told me that it would be cruel and mean of me to lead her on when it is not there and it's just holding back both of us from moving on. Think about it that, I can promise you she is not going to get back with you unless she has a really bad dating streak and you get very social and meet lots of girls and she gets jealous. We tend to undermine ourselves as people (not all of us, these are the real alphas) when we have bad dating luck and that's when insecurity hits and you start thinking you were better off in a relationship with said previously discard person.

My advice: Hit the gym, hit the books (seriously, guys undermine how much intelligence can weigh in their favor, a good balanced package is what every woman wants, its ingrained in our basic biological foundations to seek a mate who is going to pass on good qualities to their offspring, good qualities = attraction, this applys to being social, to being in great shape, being really good at anything really), dont' text or call her anymore, ignore her texts, her calls. You're just putting yourself behind and boosting her ego by adhering to her little manipulative games, you're better than this OP. Bury the hatchet and get back on your horse.

[MassiveIntense]

she has options and the reason why she "doesnt want it to be like this" when you broke off contact with her and she still wants to remain friends with you is because she feels guilty of what she has done to you


f* her bro, move on

[killermike]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

So what the f*ck does it mean when your gf tells you that she loves you, your her best friend, and you mean the world to her, but that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment cause she can't handle it. I'm like wtf, why can't you handle it, cause you can't handle the stress not being single and surrounded by college dudes? She said no this isn't the reason, and failed to comply what it was. Anyone wanna give me the male interpretation of what she really ment

she wants some cocks and doesnt want to cheat on you, end it at that and be happy.

[Italiantank26]

Originally Posted by daverick89

I recently did exactly the same thing, actually broke up with her last Saturday. You're looking into this too much, I just wanted to be single. We (me, you, your gf) are still young, getting in serious relationships is not something we should be seeking, atleast not in my opinion. My dad put it this way for me:

"Men my age hunt with rifles, men your age hunt with shotguns. Shooting with the wrong gun is going to leave you with regrets and that is the most damaging thing that can happen to a relationship."

Pretty much don't go look for the one, go out and meet people, 20 years from now when you have appreciated and she has deppreciated you're going to be mad at yourself for settling down with 1 girl at a young age. I've been single for a week and it feels good man, I still text her because she said she didn't want to lose me, but talking to my parents this weekend they told me that it would be cruel and mean of me to lead her on when it is not there and it's just holding back both of us from moving on. Think about it that, I can promise you she is not going to get back with you unless she has a really bad dating streak and you get very social and meet lots of girls and she gets jealous. We tend to undermine ourselves as people (not all of us, these are the real alphas) when we have bad dating luck and that's when insecurity hits and you start thinking you were better off in a relationship with said previously discard person.

My advice: Hit the gym, hit the books (seriously, guys undermine how much intelligence can weigh in their favor, a good balanced package is what every woman wants, its ingrained in our basic biological foundations to seek a mate who is going to pass on good qualities to their offspring, good qualities = attraction, this applys to being social, to being in great shape, being really good at anything really), dont' text or call her anymore, ignore her texts, her calls. You're just putting yourself behind and boosting her ego by adhering to her little manipulative games, you're better than this OP. Bury the hatchet and get back on your horse.

wow strong post man, good advice, gave you some reps, yea it has its up and downs, it's easier said than done to let someone go who you have so intimate for so long, but i guess u gotta do it

[dlm]

quit giving in to her attention games. cutting all contact means just that. do it, don't cave again. she's retarded anyway lol

my best friend keeps telling this one crazy broad to stop texting and calling...he calls her every name in the book too and she just keeps coming back...i told him it's his fault for constantly responding to her and giving her the attention she wants...he doesn't get it.

[daverick89]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

wow strong post man, good advice, gave you some reps, yea it has its up and downs, it's easier said than done to let someone go who you have so intimate for so long, but i guess u gotta do it

I broke up with my now ex-girlfriend (about a year and a half ago) about 2 months before meeting my last girlfriend, I was very hung up about it and it was because of that that I started working out and focussing on me instead of women. I pulled it all together and became a well rounded package and girls were left and right without any effort, girls want a guy they can show off to their friends. If she can't wait to introduce you to her friends then it's pretty much all over for her, you got played a loaded deck and the cards are in your favor.

My most recent ex, the one I mentioned in my last post, was a million times better girlfriend than the one from a year and a half ago and I can't believe I was ever sad to have been broken up with her. I rejoice the fact that she is no longer a part of my life and holding me back. Remember, you are going into adulthood, what you do in the next 8-10 years is going to set the standard for the rest of your life, make the most of it!

Go out meet some girls, make sure you're in a lot of photos, if you see a camera whore buy her a couple of shots (I usually do 1 or 2, not big on buying girls drinks, and yet at closing time the guy whose been spending his hard earned $7.15/hr on $50 worth of drinks for some random girl, only to once again pass out with his right hand on his d*ck at the end of night, closing time at bars is seriously depressing for me seeing how badly girls use guys some times and it makes me care even less about girl's feelings), anyways back on track, find these camera whores a couple of times, make some bodily contact in some of them when you're both **** faced without creeping out said girl and I promise you your ex-girlfriend will be texting you to see if you want to go to lunch and stuff. This will only work if you ignore her, if you tell her how much you still want to be with you then she won't give a **** because she knows at the end of the day if she showed up on your doorstep you would take her in.

When you start focussing on making yourself a better man and not on impressing other people, your quality of life will go up, with girls, with school, with potential future life, everything. It has worked for me and I have seen countless other guys who are better off than your average guy because they know this simple fact and they believe it. As for relationships, they are simple really, always be the less interested person. Girls are simple minded and emotional, and if they think a guy thinks he can do better than them then they want to prove that they can get him. Guys think this same way, but like I said when you can get the women in your life to think this way then the cards are stacked in your favor and your love life will be smooth sailing.

edit: much like studying, getting over someone is hard because you tell yourself it is, get rid of all their ****, take them off of fb, delete their number and tell them you are not interested in them contacting you and doing so would probably just stem bad feelings towards them and you don't want that, you just want you two to part ways. once you do it and stop complaing about how hard it is you will see how simple it is to cut someone out of your life without thinking about it twice.

[MuscleStuck]

Disregard females, aquire currency!

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by daverick89

I broke up with my now ex-girlfriend (about a year and a half ago) about 2 months before meeting my last girlfriend, I was very hung up about it and it was because of that that I started working out and focussing on me instead of women. I pulled it all together and became a well rounded package and girls were left and right without any effort, girls want a guy they can show off to their friends. If she can't wait to introduce you to her friends then it's pretty much all over for her, you got played a loaded deck and the cards are in your favor.

My most recent ex, the one I mentioned in my last post, was a million times better girlfriend than the one from a year and a half ago and I can't believe I was ever sad to have been broken up with her. I rejoice the fact that she is no longer a part of my life and holding me back. Remember, you are going into adulthood, what you do in the next 8-10 years is going to set the standard for the rest of your life, make the most of it!

Go out meet some girls, make sure you're in a lot of photos, if you see a camera whore buy her a couple of shots (I usually do 1 or 2, not big on buying girls drinks, and yet at closing time the guy whose been spending his hard earned $7.15/hr on $50 worth of drinks for some random girl, only to once again pass out with his right hand on his d*ck at the end of night, closing time at bars is seriously depressing for me seeing how badly girls use guys some times and it makes me care even less about girl's feelings), anyways back on track, find these camera whores a couple of times, make some bodily contact in some of them when you're both **** faced without creeping out said girl and I promise you your ex-girlfriend will be texting you to see if you want to go to lunch and stuff. This will only work if you ignore her, if you tell her how much you still want to be with you then she won't give a **** because she knows at the end of the day if she showed up on your doorstep you would take her in.

When you start focussing on making yourself a better man and not on impressing other people, your quality of life will go up, with girls, with school, with potential future life, everything. It has worked for me and I have seen countless other guys who are better off than your average guy because they know this simple fact and they believe it. As for relationships, they are simple really, always be the less interested person. Girls are simple minded and emotional, and if they think a guy thinks he can do better than them then they want to prove that they can get him. Guys think this same way, but like I said when you can get the women in your life to think this way then the cards are stacked in your favor and your love life will be smooth sailing.

edit: much like studying, getting over someone is hard because you tell yourself it is, get rid of all their ****, take them off of fb, delete their number and tell them you are not interested in them contacting you and doing so would probably just stem bad feelings towards them and you don't want that, you just want you two to part ways. once you do it and stop complaing about how hard it is you will see how simple it is to cut someone out of your life without thinking about it twice.

Agreed, that's why nice guy's seem to finish last, they show to much emotion and care about the girl to much.

[daverick89]

Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Agreed, that's why nice guy's seem to finish last, they show to much emotion and care about the girl to much.

Yeah I'm thinking about starting a log, going to keep track of my workouts, I am about where I was when I started last year from my progress pics and going to just log my workouts, school work, and encounters with women and then throw out some general advice. I've been looking at the relationship advice section for a while when I had a moment of denial about my relationship and saw I was a whole lot better off than most guys on here. Lots of wrong info going around, especially from the girls, although a couple are honest and say it like it is. Idk if people would actually read it though, maybe I should just start it and see if people are interested at all, I think I have a pretty interesting life and that people might benefit from real world examples. I am about a 7 to 8 in looks, I am willing to admit this, not the best looking but not a bad looking guy. When I'm single girls ask me if I'm gay because I don't have a gf, and I usually have 2-3 texting me at a time to hang out, so I'm not depending on my looks as a crutch. It's all about how you portray yourself to girls and how you react to situations.

When I changed my relationship status to single, some of the comments were "oh no", "here we go again, daverick89 is single haha, hit me up dude", "fathers hide your daughters" (that one was from a girl I used to work with when I was in HS who was 7 years older than me but I always felt like if I tried I could hook up with her). You have to work with what you were dealt with and make the most of it and when you do, the girl will put you on a pedestal instead of the other way around. Assume the position of being a man, stop making excuses.

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by daverick89

Yeah I'm thinking about starting a log, going to keep track of my workouts, I am about where I was when I started last year from my progress pics and going to just log my workouts, school work, and encounters with women and then throw out some general advice. I've been looking at the relationship advice section for a while when I had a moment of denial about my relationship and saw I was a whole lot better off than most guys on here. Lots of wrong info going around, especially from the girls, although a couple are honest and say it like it is. Idk if people would actually read it though, maybe I should just start it and see if people are interested at all, I think I have a pretty interesting life and that people might benefit from real world examples. I am about a 7 to 8 in looks, I am willing to admit this, not the best looking but not a bad looking guy. When I'm single girls ask me if I'm gay because I don't have a gf, and I usually have 2-3 texting me at a time to hang out, so I'm not depending on my looks as a crutch. It's all about how you portray yourself to girls and how you react to situations.

When I changed my relationship status to single, some of the comments were "oh no", "here we go again, daverick89 is single haha, hit me up dude", "fathers hide your daughters" (that one was from a girl I used to work with when I was in HS who was 7 years older than me but I always felt like if I tried I could hook up with her). You have to work with what you were dealt with and make the most of it and when you do, the girl will put you on a pedestal instead of the other way around. Assume the position of being a man, stop making excuses.

I'd be interested. If you really break women down, it seem's to me like if there not complaining there not happy, and also they will tell you they want one thing, but really want the opposite. Just from my past relashionships anyhow.

[dsuhiti]

Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Was it ended on bad term's or no?

Well at first, I was pissed off as all hell. I just got heartbroken for no real reason. After a few days I wanted to end it on an OK note. I needed to get stuff off my chest so I wrote a letter. We talked, still upset but it was calm etc.

We parted ways well. We agreed that we need to kinda find ourselves first. I said that if she wants to talk in the future about us then we can meet up etc. I can't be friends with her so we are not contacting each other for a few months but then we will meet up to catch up. Although this might sound bad for the misc, it works for me. I am sad, angry and heartbroken, but at the same time I am glad for this. I'm only 18 and I want to have some fun with other girls and get my life right.

Good luck to you man, you will be all good. IMO, she will be running back in 6 months after realising who she let go of (in my and your situations). She will regret it. Good luck brah.

[Cell-Tech Daddy]

She says she loves you and your here best friend to absolve herself of guilt and make it 'ok' in her mind.

Cut off contact, dont ever go back

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by dsuhiti

Well at first, I was pissed off as all hell. I just got heartbroken for no real reason. After a few days I wanted to end it on an OK note. I needed to get stuff off my chest so I wrote a letter. We talked, still upset but it was calm etc.

We parted ways well. We agreed that we need to kinda find ourselves first. I said that if she wants to talk in the future about us then we can meet up etc. I can't be friends with her so we are not contacting each other for a few months but then we will meet up to catch up. Although this might sound bad for the misc, it works for me. I am sad, angry and heartbroken, but at the same time I am glad for this. I'm only 18 and I want to have some fun with other girls and get my life right.

Good luck to you man, you will be all good. IMO, she will be running back in 6 months after realising who she let go of (in my and your situations). She will regret it. Good luck brah.

Thanks bro, it's just your treated her alot better than i did, so the situations may be diffrent, although i was her first true love.