End of a 2.5 year relationship :( advice appreciated.

[lordsess24]

Originally Posted by Superman Mk II

Damn bro, all i can offer you, is get your ass out the house, do somthing, between work, and the gym, and eating food, i have a tiny bit of time left, which i where i fit in social events, my mates are all busy aswell, stop thinking about her, its over, accept it and dont let it effect your new life, theres a whole new world out there and another girl is waiting for you to find her. Dont dwell on it, dont regret past choices, stop looking at her pictures, and dont cling on to false hope. Good luck man, bb.com is here for you

to add to that , learn from past mistakes and grow mentally. Do not beat yourself up saying what if I did this or that, just learn from them and don't do it again.

Everyone ****s up sometimes.








Also how you holdin up supermanMKII?

[ThePayne]

My fellow bbBrah.


Time surely heals everything. How much will power you have will determine how long it will take to get over her. Delete her off your facebook, myspace, delete her number out of ur phone. Burn the gifts, (unless they are valuable, then sell them), dont cry over it and turn it into motivation to find someone better.

Surely your 18 brah, im not much older but i have been through it at a younger age and found out its not worth your time to date. too many women out there who want to be railed and seduced and you will never have to put up with their Sh!t because they will not be in your life long enough for you to care.

You will be alright. Ya it feels like 1/2 of you is gone, but you know what? You didn't NEED her. only person you need is yourself.

[Superman Mk II]

Originally Posted by lordsess24

to add to that , learn from past mistakes and grow mentally. Do not beat yourself up saying what if I did this or that, just learn from them and don't do it again.

Everyone ****s up sometimes.








Also how you holdin up supermanMKII?

Agreed, and not bad thanks man, havent felt down about it all day, went out with mates last night untill the early morning, pigged on takeaway, watched films etc, i didnt realise they all cared so much, they really helped, got back and did a Leg day in the gym, feels good, bring on tommorow.

Originally Posted by ThePayne

My fellow bbBrah.


Time surely heals everything. How much will power you have will determine how long it will take to get over her. Delete her off your facebook, myspace, delete her number out of ur phone. Burn the gifts, (unless they are valuable, then sell them), dont cry over it and turn it into motivation to find someone better.

Surely your 18 brah, im not much older but i have been through it at a younger age and found out its not worth your time to date. too many women out there who want to be railed and seduced and you will never have to put up with their Sh!t because they will not be in your life long enough for you to care.

You will be alright. Ya it feels like 1/2 of you is gone, but you know what? You didn't NEED her. only person you need is yourself.

That was reasuring to read man, everything your saying is right, and thats whats making the recovery faster, the fact loads of my fellow bb.com's can relate to it, its not some unique experience, everyone goes through it. It does feel like half of me is missing, the first day after the initial shock was brutal, but im starting to see the bright side of this and i dont need her, like you said, all i need is myself.


Many thanks to all contributors, im on spread for 24 hours but will hit moar tommorow.

Btw i can handle everything, other than when i lie in bed at night, i cant help letting it slip into my mind, its strange not having her in the bed most of the week, any ideas ?

[BIGDUBBDEISEL]

Originally Posted by Superman Mk II

Agreed, and not bad thanks man, havent felt down about it all day, went out with mates last night untill the early morning, pigged on takeaway, watched films etc, i didnt realise they all cared so much, they really helped, got back and did a Leg day in the gym, feels good, bring on tommorow.



That was reasuring to read man, everything your saying is right, and thats whats making the recovery faster, the fact loads of my fellow bb.com's can relate to it, its not some unique experience, everyone goes through it. It does feel like half of me is missing, the first day after the initial shock was brutal, but im starting to see the bright side of this and i dont need her, like you said, all i need is myself.


Many thanks to all contributors, im on spread for 24 hours but will hit moar tommorow.

Btw i can handle everything, other than when i lie in bed at night, i cant help letting it slip into my mind, its strange not having her in the bed most of the week, any ideas ?

I know the feeling, i ussually just talk on the phone to keep myself busy until i'm ready to pass out.

[lordsess24]

It's funny, I never had a problem falling asleep. I mean, for a few nights I did, but for the most part I fall asleep just fine. I usually watch either Military, Military history, or history channel at bed time. That **** is awesome, could watch it all day. I usually just hit the sleep timer for 1.5 hours and watch it till I fall asleep.

[bben147a]

for the next week take 20 minutes a day to write about what stresses you out.. your problems..

it will help



























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[0mgwtfbbq]

eh man, i just graduated high school
my whole group of best friends left for school, and i am a returning grad
so begininng of september rolls around, and all my friends are gone, i was pretty depressed, but at least i had my girlfriend there..

2 days later
my gf broke up of 2.5 years broke up with me,
i was crushed and didnt see it comign at all
she left me with nobody. i litteraly had no friends.
so i played it cool, deleted her off everything and played the ignore card

2 weeks ago she texted me saying she still loves me and wants me back and ****
and i said no, **** off, you didnt want me when i needed you the most, and now you need me im not going to want you.

feels good man
im talkin to a bunch of girls a year younger than me,
it took me abotu a month to finally start flirting with girls again

i do still love her, but it takes time to get over that, and right now im just lookin towards the future.
just converse with girls man, text them and stuff
if you wanna have sex with them be like "HEY WANNA HOOK UP" because, really, you have nothing to lose. and chances are they will say yes..

just tryin to be positive and help man

play the field a little bit,
if you dont like whats out there, call her up in 5 years and ask her out.
im sure you will find a better girl man.
one that wont leave you high and dry.

good brah
think of it as a new beginning.
set goals and achieve them!

[Box_o_Dynamite]

Originally Posted by Superman Mk II

serious replys only please

Basicly we had the perfect relationship, i loved, and still love her more than anything then the last few months shes been a little off, not as loving etc, then last night i got the

"its not you, its me, my feelings have just changed im sorry, the last thing i wanted to do was hurt you" spiel

Well as you can imagine, im crushed, i cried for hours like a little b1tch yesterday, today i think im over the crying, but i feel really fu*ked up, like its difficult to eat, i cant stop thinking about her, and like, how the hell has this happend, everywhere i go there are memories of her etc, the usuall breakup situation i guess.

I know alot of you will have been there before, this was my first proper relationship, i met her when i was 16, and we have been in a relationship until now, im almost 19 now.

I suppose as well as allowing myself somewhere to vent, im just looking for advice as to how i can get over this as soon as possible, as crass as it sounds, i dont want this to effect my training, yes i love her, but its over, im not begging her to get back with me, so i cant have this causing a negative impact on my life for long, life goes on.


Cliffs
- 2.5 year relationship ended by the female
- Im crushed, first love, would never have ended it
- feel fu*ked up, confused, angry, a whole host of emotions
- advice to move on from my bb.com bros

those kind of girls are the ones that stay with you...

[crusher_]

Originally Posted by 0mgwtfbbq

im sure you will find a better girl man.

This made me lol

[mikevall]

Originally Posted by Italiantank26

This thread is full of good advice and has been really helpful to me too. I just broke up with my girl of 1 yr and 9 months. She wanted me to be her friend, and I told her to go f*ck herself and she didn't deserve me after all the sh*t i did for her. I would drive an hour and half once a week to visit her at school and take her out to dinner which I paid for, and then I took her out, bought her really nice sh*t, a 250$ watch for her 18th bday, and took her out to a nice restaurant and paid for everything. After doing all this sh*t for her, while she did nothing for me, she has the nerve to tell me she only wants to be friends, but that I should stick around in case she wanted to get back into a relationship. Yesterday I finally gathered by balls after a month of being in an open relationship and told her to f*ck herself, that we are done, and not to contact me anymore. So far its only been a day, but goddamn I'm still really mad
end rant

wtf man... thats a goddamn alot to spend lol. I know ive spent my share on my ex gf as of yesturday feels bad man once you break up... then i think about all the protein n supps i coulda boughten

[FAH_Q]

This is why i misc. Great thread. People helping people.

[Rockon2233]

Originally Posted by IanFromScotland

i know its gonna sound cliche but she might come round.
one place to start is the sticky done by Park0
i swear if i had used that i wudda had a better chance of gettin by ex back a year ago but than the way i planned it out i acted like a bitch
so u should give that a read if not write back i suppose some others might have other info.But i would give her some time leave her for the time being she might change her mind . Yeah it ll be hard to leave her alone but it will be worth it ?

Where is this sticky done by Park0?

Link??

[ChristianBBer]

Here's whats going to happen

Youre going to obsess about her for the next month. Youre going to create these emotional fantasy's where you become deeply attached to your ex. Its going to hurt, youre going to cry and find it very difficult to do the tings you enjoy doing.

Youre going to think about her every second of everyday, youre going t write notes, send texts, etc..

After the first month the thoughts start to slow down, you start moving on with your life as the memories of you and your ex stop taking precedent.

Eventually after the 2-3 month mark those memories seem distant, you dont get that emotional feeling when you think of her, if you do, its very minute.

g/l

[lordsess24]

listen to this = automaticlly feel better

[juve07]

Hey OP its probably tough right now but in all honesty it definitely gets easier. I have been through what your going through so many times its not funny. I have dated at least 4 girls for 2 yrs or longer and honestly believed that each one would eventually be my wife and all of them ended. It feels like crap in the beginning but looking back I wonder what I even saw in a few of them. I can guarantee that you will find someone new and as time passes you won't even think of this girl.

P.S. I hate when chicks go through their "bar star" phase. Such bull****, and they think their so hot because their getting attention at the bar meanwhile I have friends who literally go to the bar and hit on as many girls as possible regardless of what they look like just playing the numbers game. Anyway, good luck man things will turn around and you don't want a bar star as a gf so its better this way.

[Superman Mk II]

Originally Posted by ChristianBBer

Here's whats going to happen

Youre going to obsess about her for the next month. Youre going to create these emotional fantasy's where you become deeply attached to your ex. Its going to hurt, youre going to cry and find it very difficult to do the tings you enjoy doing.

Youre going to think about her every second of everyday, youre going t write notes, send texts, etc..

After the first month the thoughts start to slow down, you start moving on with your life as the memories of you and your ex stop taking precedent.

Eventually after the 2-3 month mark those memories seem distant, you dont get that emotional feeling when you think of her, if you do, its very minute.

g/l

Quoted, for truth, this has happened.
Also; Got head of some random chick at a party, feels good man.
Single life ftmfw, still think about her, but i have spent every day burning her out of my mind, and coming to a realisation, that why do i even give a f*ck. Now when i think of her, no remorse or sadness, just k.

Thanks RH section, this thread really helped push things along, hope some advice in here is usefull to other members going through breakups.