First date, kissed, then nothing...

VirgilMorgan · 11-06-2009, 10:56 AM

I had this girl over and cooked her dinner cause im seeing this girl as relationship material. Things went well and we ended the night with several small kisses. Things went good. I didnt text her the next day and then the day after that (thursday) I went to Ohio to Westside Barbell. (WOOOOOOO!!!!) Anyways, I am in Ohio and gone through Monday. She came over tuesday and I texted her thursday night. I sent a simple "boo" and wanted to see what she said and she never replied. I am not gonna text her until I get home unless she texts me first but it sucks cause now I dont know what is going on between us but im gone. You guys got any thoughts???

cliffs:

Had girl over
ended night kissing
texted her 2 days later (waited more than a day) I am out of town
She never replied
Not gonna text her until I get back unless she texts first
What to do???

Money Shot · 11-06-2009, 10:59 AM

i would text one more time with a question like "what are you doing friday night?" or something like that. otherwise, she isnt interested

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-06-2009, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Money Shot

i would text one more time with a question like "what are you doing friday night?" or something like that. otherwise, she isnt interested

This could come off as desperate, it will make it look as if he has nothing to do on a friday night, and want's to hang with her, just my opinion. Mabeytry asking her what she's doing sunday.

Money Shot · 11-06-2009, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

This could come off as desperate, it will make it look as if he has nothing to do on a friday night, and want's to hang with her, just my opinion. Mabeytry asking her what she's doing sunday.

she isnt going to respond to him anyway. its more of a last ditch effort. if she doesnt respond, then at least he tried. if he doesnt do anything at all, it will amount in the same end result

BIGDUBBDEISEL · 11-06-2009, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Money Shot

she isnt going to respond to him anyway. its more of a last ditch effort. if she doesnt respond, then at least he tried. if he doesnt do anything at all, it will amount in the same end result

Well you don't know she won't respond brahh. If that were the case, ther would be no point in texting her.

skier_ · 11-06-2009, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Money Shot

i would text one more time with a question like "what are you doing friday night?" or something like that. otherwise, she isnt interested

This OP.

Kiss doesn't mean much though, just kinda how dates end.

Money Shot · 11-06-2009, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by BIGDUBBDEISEL

Well you don't know she won't respond brahh. If that were the case, ther would be no point in texting her.

she didnt respond to him the other day. she also didnt respond to him a second time after a few hours. at this point, she wont get back to him

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Originally Posted by skier_

This OP.

Kiss doesn't mean much though, just kinda how dates end.

exactly. kissing means nothing when it comes out whether they want to see you again. its a good indication but isnt guaranteed

Crazy Monkey · 11-06-2009, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by VirgilMorgan

I had this girl over and cooked her dinner cause im seeing this girl as relationship material. Things went well and we ended the night with several small kisses. Things went good. I didnt text her the next day and then the day after that (thursday) I went to Ohio to Westside Barbell. (WOOOOOOO!!!!) Anyways, I am in Ohio and gone through Monday. She came over tuesday and I texted her thursday night. I sent a simple "boo" and wanted to see what she said and she never replied. I am not gonna text her until I get home unless she texts me first but it sucks cause now I dont know what is going on between us but im gone. You guys got any thoughts???

so let me get this straight, you are seeing her as relationship material, but you're playing stupid texting games. Why dont you call/text her and TALK to her

i dont get some people...you're 22 for **** sakes

du3ce · 11-06-2009, 12:30 PM

She wants u to chase her I'm in the same situation but with me she actually wanted the second date, I thought it went well, just call her up if she doesn't pick up then drop it. Sometimes I wish chicks would be up front instead of playing the ignoring game.

VirgilMorgan · 11-06-2009, 01:01 PM

Im out of town. Im from Idaho and Im in Ohio. So I cant ask her what she is up to cause I am not in town to do anything. I figure I will call her on Sunday.

2 D · 11-06-2009, 01:09 PM

I had a girl do this to me last spring.

Just bring it up to her or make a move O.P. she is probably timid.

AZZA23 · 11-06-2009, 10:07 PM

She's not interested in seeing u again, cos if she was she would have responded to your "strange" msg. The ball is in her court.

I reckon she is pissed at you for not msging sooner and when u finally did you msg one word with no real meaning.

evedder08 · 11-06-2009, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by VirgilMorgan

cliffs:

Had girl over
ended night kissing
texted her 2 days later (waited more than a day) I am out of town
She never replied
Not gonna text her until I get back unless she texts first
What to do???

How long ago was that text you sent her?

VirgilMorgan · 11-07-2009, 11:02 AM

Im gona call her tomorrow and kinda just catch up and ask how out football game went etc. See how things are going and see what her reaction is. But I am actually gonna CALL her tomorrow night. That text was on thursday night.

du3ce · 11-07-2009, 11:29 AM

Lol me n u are on the same boat good luck brah

bill257 · 11-07-2009, 11:50 AM

Next time you are kissing just whip your dick out. She'll know what to do.

mingo3403 · 11-07-2009, 01:49 PM

text another girl instead... (serious)

divert your attention elsewhere and this girl will be up on your nuts soon enough.

VirgilMorgan · 11-07-2009, 02:41 PM

When I call her tomorrow, should I leave a message if she doesnt pick up?

Nocturnal310 · 11-07-2009, 02:57 PM

first kiss tells it all....if u made it very PG13...chances are she doesnt see sex happening fast so maybe she lost interest.

but i would not give up so easily....dont come off as desperate but text her sometime.

'lets meet up for cuddle session

'

try that text and let me know what happens.

VirgilMorgan · 11-09-2009, 08:12 AM

I called her and her phone was off. Said I wanted to know about the football game and told her to call me but kept the message to like 30 seconds. She texted me back a couple hours later saying sorry for not answering and the game sucked. Didnt ask me anything back about my trip or anything. I didnt answer cause i was in bed and im not gonna say anything today. Ill see her in class tomorrow and talk then but I think I am gonna drop her. Too many games and I dont want to waste my time.

blakus_javus · 11-09-2009, 08:21 AM

you're 22 and still playing "should I text tomorrow" games. Fail.

Tip 1; if you have to play all those ****ty games and rules to get that particular girl, then she is exactly the kind of girl who plays all those stupid ****in games and obsesses about all that "game" and "rules" and "not into you" bulldust... which leads me to tip 2.

Tip 2; Avoid those kinds of bishes like the plague, if you get caught playing those games YOU WILL LOSE- men have **** to do, you can't possibly keep up with that ****.

Tip 3; wouldn't it be lovely to be able to text a girl the next day if you felt like it and have her like it and be glad, not respect you less because apparently you didn't wait a cool enough time. THAT chick is relationship material,

so just forget tha dating games, do what the **** you feel like and act like a 22 year old and profit.

samcanadian · 11-09-2009, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by blakus_javus

you're 22 and still playing "should I text tomorrow" games. Fail.

Tip 1; if you have to play all those ****ty games and rules to get that particular girl, then she is exactly the kind of girl who plays all those stupid ****in games and obsesses about all that "game" and "rules" and "not into you" bulldust... which leads me to tip 2.

Tip 2; Avoid those kinds of bishes like the plague, if you get caught playing those games YOU WILL LOSE- men have **** to do, you can't possibly keep up with that ****.

Tip 3; wouldn't it be lovely to be able to text a girl the next day if you felt like it and have her like it and be glad, not respect you less because apparently you didn't wait a cool enough time. THAT chick is relationship material,

so just forget tha dating games, do what the **** you feel like and act like a 22 year old and profit.

I agree with this guy, but unfortunately those girls are few and far between. Society dictates the rules of a relationship right now and when that became the status quo i'm not sure....but it's still lame.

The worst is when the girls that don't follow these rules break your heart, because you never see it coming.

blakus_javus · 11-09-2009, 08:44 AM

Seriously, ditch the rules, be your own man. End up with a better standard of chick.

Are they really that entrenched in America? In oz here and there are still plenty of normal girls. Freaky nasty normal girls!

loveforlife · 11-09-2009, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by blakus_javus

you're 22 and still playing "should I text tomorrow" games. Fail.

Tip 1; if you have to play all those ****ty games and rules to get that particular girl, then she is exactly the kind of girl who plays all those stupid ****in games and obsesses about all that "game" and "rules" and "not into you" bulldust... which leads me to tip 2.

Tip 2; Avoid those kinds of bishes like the plague, if you get caught playing those games YOU WILL LOSE- men have **** to do, you can't possibly keep up with that ****.

Tip 3; wouldn't it be lovely to be able to text a girl the next day if you felt like it and have her like it and be glad, not respect you less because apparently you didn't wait a cool enough time. THAT chick is relationship material,

so just forget tha dating games, do what the **** you feel like and act like a 22 year old and profit.

LOVE your advice, especially bolded part!

I kind of find it hypocritical & funny though that all these guys are complaining about girls playing games with them when they're doing the exact same thing right back! Not contacting right away, not because you're busy, but because you want to appear cool or something is playing a GAME and most guys do that!

Guardian · 11-09-2009, 08:56 AM

Alot of women do not like the old leave them alone for days, the strategy is used so often that todays woman has caught on and has a "just like every other guy" alert when you do this.

If you see a woman and it goes well call her the next night, the key is all in your approach. Call, do not look for any re assurance of the date, simply ask how her day was, say a few jokes, tell her youve gotta run, and say a general idea like "maybe we can get together thursday or friday I will call you" then be done.

This way your not desperate trying to see them or talk for hours on end, but your not ignoring them causing them to feel your a jerk like every other guy.

Woman like attention and to be recognized and unlike popular opinion here there is nothing wrong with that, the key is to do it at small levels to keep them interested but also keep them happy and feeling good.

Also, especially early on, calling and actual conversation is way superior to texting. calling shows more confidence, also prevents her from overthinking it. Not to mention now a days it will set you apart, and girls like a guy that is unique over anything else.

redredss · 11-09-2009, 08:57 AM

haha thats balls man, nah its probably fine, mabye her phone is messed
send her one text when your back maybe on like a wednsday and just asked what she is up to for the weekend.

blakus_javus · 11-09-2009, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by loveforlife

LOVE your advice, especially bolded part!

I kind of find it hypocritical & funny though that all these guys are complaining about girls playing games with them when they're doing the exact same thing right back! Not contacting right away, not because you're busy, but because you want to appear cool or something is playing a GAME and most guys do that!

I completely agree, I was including him in getting caught up in that crap.