I want to tell my GF I love her.....

Curious_Wun · 11-04-2009, 09:17 PM

But I don't want to be the first to say it. I'm almost 100% sure she loves me, because of what she says, and it almost slips out but she makes sure she doesn't say it (seems like she doesn't want to scare me away because she worked so hard to get me). Like the other night we had a really close and intimate moment, saying all these things to one another and she's like "I want to say so much more but I don't want to scare you away" and I was like "just say it" but she said nevermind. I want to tell her I love her but like I said, I don't want to be the first. What would you guys suggest?

benzz · 11-04-2009, 09:18 PM

do it phaggot

lordsess24 · 11-04-2009, 09:18 PM

How long you been going out? I was with my ex for like 8 months before I told her (I said it first). (We went out for almost 3 years)

cirame1 · 11-04-2009, 09:18 PM

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But I don't want to be the first to say it. I'm almost 100% sure she loves me, because of what she says, and it almost slips out but she makes sure she doesn't say it (seems like she doesn't want to scare me away because she worked so hard to get me). Like the other night we had a really close and intimate moment, saying all these things to one another and she's like "I want to say so much more but I don't want to scare you away" and I was like "just say it" but she said nevermind. I want to tell her I love her but like I said, I don't want to be the first. What would you guys suggest?

how long have u been dating?

MAKUA NUI · 11-04-2009, 09:20 PM

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do it phaggot

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Fused · 11-04-2009, 09:20 PM

If it has been less than 6 months forget about it.

Curious_Wun · 11-04-2009, 09:21 PM

We've been officially dating for two months, but for four months before that we were still seeing each other/having sex, with which she has told me she always had strong feelings for me during that period (whereas during that period I liked her but not that much).

Fused · 11-04-2009, 09:24 PM

I wouldn't do it if I were you. You are really putting yourself out there early and you will give up a lot of your power in the process.

Curious_Wun · 11-04-2009, 09:29 PM

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I wouldn't do it if I were you. You are really putting yourself out there early and you will give up a lot of your power in the process.

Solid advice. I was pretty much going to do this anyway, just wanted to see what the misc brahs had to say. Let the whore say it first

crusher_ · 11-04-2009, 09:30 PM

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do it phaggot

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dsuhiti · 11-04-2009, 09:31 PM

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Solid advice. I was pretty much going to do this anyway, just wanted to see what the misc brahs had to say. Let the whore say it first

Strong love by calling your girlfriend a whore.

TheAlmightyJad · 11-04-2009, 11:45 PM

Ask her to be honest with you, say "Hey, I looooove honesty, and I really wanna know how you feel about me"

This guarantees a , I am falling for you/I like you so much/you mean so much to me answer..

But you are sure she loves you and if you are asking that question you want her to tell you I love you, so she will...

Good luck.

Tyr616 · 11-04-2009, 11:46 PM

why say it, its not like if you don't say it she will dump you.

FAH_Q · 11-04-2009, 11:47 PM

Helllll no don't say it first

Synny · 11-05-2009, 12:56 AM

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Helllll no don't say it first

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RalphNader420 · 11-05-2009, 12:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Curious_Wun

But I don't want to be the first to say it. I'm almost 100% sure she loves me, because of what she says, and it almost slips out but she makes sure she doesn't say it (seems like she doesn't want to scare me away because she worked so hard to get me). Like the other night we had a really close and intimate moment, saying all these things to one another and she's like "I want to say so much more but I don't want to scare you away" and I was like "just say it" but she said nevermind. I want to tell her I love her but like I said, I don't want to be the first. What would you guys suggest?

express your inner feelings bro lmao

AZZA23 · 11-05-2009, 01:05 AM

Whats this giving up the power crap - a real man says what he feels no matter the consequences.

dsuhiti · 11-05-2009, 02:10 AM

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Whats this giving up the power crap - a real man says what he feels no matter the consequences.

Kinda agree man. Im so sick of playing games, mind games, ego games, domination games. F*uck that ****, I can express my feelings without being less confident etc. Although I must agree, you gotta play the game when the relationship is fresh.

AZZA23 · 11-05-2009, 02:14 AM

Look we are all guilty of playing games to some extent, but u have to draw the line somewhere, I mean the OP already has the girl, he has strong feelings for her, going by what he said she feels the same way, so why not just say it FFS!

shadysalesman · 11-05-2009, 02:22 AM

I'd wait.. it's only been what ? 2 months you said? I think I waited something around 8 months -- You need to becareful and use that word carefully .. There's so much more to it haha.. You'll get what I/we mean..

maybe wait a few more months?

Curious_Wun · 11-05-2009, 02:24 AM

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I'd wait.. it's only been what ? 2 months you said? I think I waited something around 8 months -- You need to becareful and use that word carefully .. There's so much more to it haha.. You'll get what I/we mean..

maybe wait a few more months?

I have been in a 4 year relationship before, I know what love feels like.

shadysalesman · 11-05-2009, 02:26 AM

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I have been in a 4 year relationship before, I know what love feels like.

I'm not doubting you - I've been with my gf for almost 5 years now -- Just sayin'..
Maybe if you don't want to be the first one to say it, then you shouldn't be saying it.. If that's not an issue then go for it.

AZZA23 · 11-05-2009, 02:26 AM

You cant put a timeframe on this sort of thing....you will know when is the right time to say it.

Quibble · 11-05-2009, 08:04 AM

don't do it phaggot.....oh and get your estrogen levels checked.

CelticBhoy · 11-05-2009, 08:55 AM

When I'm in a relationship, the feelings of being in an irrational infatuation and feeling like a couple of teenagers - everything is fireworks. It's a great feeling.

If you think it or feel it...say it: because you don't know what tomorrow will bring. Take it one day at a time and live it to its fullest.

If you are able to take a breath and just "enjoy the flow" once you say "love" it CAN potentially change you. Love is a crazy word...because once love comes into play, people start to subconsciously change: whether they start looking into the future, start idolizing their new love, etc. and what our partners originally liked - how we acted, who we are - changes...which leads to distance.

-If you're an emotional guy like me. You'll want to blurt out your feelings. Personally, I don't get tired of complimenting my girl's looks. Yes, I'm sure I feed her ego no doubt. But when it comes to saying "Love?" Ppft...say it only when you mean it. And the less you say, the MORE it'll mean.

Other than that. Be you.

My girlfriend said I love you first.

We were in her room about to go out somewhere. We were joking and laughing about something and then it appeared she was going to blurt something out (I knew what it was, just had that feeling), but refrained. I was like, "What? C'mon, just say it!"

She looked at me, shook her head and gave a sort of exasperated sigh and calmly said, "I love you." We kissed and held each other after...

...obviously, I said it back! But I absolutely 100% meant it.

If there is something I realized it's this: Sometimes we say that love is lust just because society or whatever says that you should not say love until X amount of time has passed. Generally, I agree with this statement because it's the safe way to play it. But, there is no "time limit" on love. If you love someone, why not tell them? Why wait? Enjoy the time with them and moments. My relationship can end tomorrow, who knows...if she's going to break up with me, there is nothing I can do.

Love is also not even a word. It can be summed up in a mere glance. There are times - and they may be few and far between - that your special someone will give you a glance, or a stare, or a brief look. It's very difficult to describe this look, but it speaks volumes. It's kind of like a look of appreciation. A look of gratitude, of thanks, of security, of fun. And of love.

And "the look" happens not at the fancy restaurant, or after sex, or some cliche moment. It will occur on a normal event -- like a ride to a grocery store -- or a brief moment of "regularity."

It's very hard to explain or define. And I hope that you all experience or can relate to the feeling.

GentleG · 11-05-2009, 08:56 AM

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But I don't want to be the first to say it.

Life is too short, just tell to her what you feel about her. Good luck with your relationship.

MustangFanatic0 · 11-05-2009, 09:03 AM

edit: now that i read more info....2 months isnt long enough, wait a while.

illninofan21 · 11-05-2009, 09:21 AM

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