Were you treated differently after losing alot of weight?

[parnix]

Originally Posted by AdeptArgonaut

Bump for this, I started reading this thread at the beginning, and sometimes it even choked me up a little. Lots of pain here from the past, and lots of good joy from the changes we made. Big bump!

Nice one man, very nice.

Edit: broke the quote

[goodfella0729]

Originally Posted by YellowBeetle

Absolutely. I was a heavy alcoholic for about 4 years and consumption of all those calories put me up at 135-140lbs and I'm only 5'4". After getting sober, I dramatically lost 40 lbs in a month or 2 and was down to 98lbs. I'd ad a huge crush on this guy from my university and he was never interested (I aso had a B/F at the time though). As soon as I lost all that weight (and my BF broke up with me) he started coming into my work and asking me out. My friendly all treated me better and said I was pretty. It was also a lot easier to make friends, and I would get looks on the street. I don't ever want to be overweight again. It's seriously the most important variable to my happiness. I'm female.

congrats on getting sober! i just got passed my 1 year of being sober. i was a hardcore alcoholic and quit cold turkey. (long story)

but being sober and being in shape is better than drinking anyday for me now. i love being muscular and in shape now.

[Subnetting]

Joined this site because of this thread and a few others ha!

A couple comments.

1) No idea how to be treated as an equal because I have always been fat, my entire life ha. You eventually get used to the fat jokes, and then you begin to crack on yourself with fat jokes. Self defamation is pretty easy to get used to. I'm sure many overweight people can relate to this,

2) Not sure why people get jealous about losing weight. A buddy of mine recently lost 40 lbs, I compliment him all the time. I am not jealous or hateful. It actually inspires me, much like this thread ha!

[kcurran]

People gave me hell about losing weight, it was kind of pathetic. I work at a bbq restaurant and I was recently injured and my entire life I was literally a vertical hyphen until I worked there and gained a lot of weight fast.. next thing you know I get no respect because I lost weight and am in so much better shape. Sure I looked like death until I balanced out my metabolism and put on a few more pounds of muscle but still, why give someone trash talk about losing weight when you're huge yourself =/

[shajadpa]

Originally Posted by kcurran

People gave me hell about losing weight, it was kind of pathetic. I work at a bbq restaurant and I was recently injured and my entire life I was literally a vertical hyphen until I worked there and gained a lot of weight fast.. next thing you know I get no respect because I lost weight and am in so much better shape. Sure I looked like death until I balanced out my metabolism and put on a few more pounds of muscle but still, why give someone trash talk about losing weight when you're huge yourself =/

Misery loves company bro. People that hate certain things about themselves and are too weak to change gotta knock those that actually do something about it. They'll either wake up and realize like you did or have that problem their whole loves....fuhgeddaboutit!

[spak]

yea the fact i lost so much weight now i get everyone asking me for diets and stuff, when in reality they should just be eating clean whole foods like i do, and i maybe go out to eat or get fast food once a week if that, and i drink a few beers on the weekends, never binge drink. So basically they ask me, "how do i lose weight?" and yet they are drinking 5-10 mixed drinks every weekend, and those hit about 400 cals per, and i drink a few beers on the weekend amounting to maybe 300-400 calories.

[Iceberg56]

For me this is pretty much the opposite. During high school i was a 3 year varsity starter playing football. Not to sound cocky but id have to say some people were jealous of me, my family was pretty supportive. I got plenty of girls as well. But after high school things went downhill. Worked alot along with college classes was pretty hard to handle for me at first. I was exhausted, stopped working out and put on some pounds. I could never gain over 175 in high school and then after i was around 190 with a gut. People stopped giving me all that attention i was used to and my family kept tellin me how bad i look. But i'm gettin back into it now and i hoping to get back to where i was

[ExpectingRain]

Buuuuump.

[Testament125]

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[blawford]

Originally Posted by Testament125

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[Dirty Diesel]

Well it's been since Januray for me since I started up. And the other day was good for me. My extened family never really seen me since forever.. and the other day was my daughter's b-day. And the positive input from the family was inspriting. I use to be a real "fat arse". I still feel the same (fat/mental wise) but I look totally different now. I"m a 44 chest with a 34in pants size.. So yeh. I"m feeling that too.

Regards,
Dirty Diesel

[LoRdAc][d]

It's kinda been the opposite for me in terms of my family.

My mom and grandparents are old school. They keep telling me I shouldn't lose anymore weight cuz it's unhealthy... (i'm at 17%bf). My grandparents are the worst, they know I'm on a meal plan and constantly bring me deserts and food that I can't eat due to my macro/calorie requirements even after I've explained...

Aside from that I get more stares and compliments from coworkers, friends and my wife.

[Syphonx]

Went out to Bars lastnight. Saw some old friends and one said "Holy **** where did the rest of you go". Least to say that made me very happy. That made it all worth it. Now I just gotta find all the single ladies.

[Roke-Ster]

Originally Posted by Subnetting

Joined this site because of this thread and a few others ha!

A couple comments.

1) No idea how to be treated as an equal because I have always been fat, my entire life ha. You eventually get used to the fat jokes, and then you begin to crack on yourself with fat jokes. Self defamation is pretty easy to get used to. I'm sure many overweight people can relate to this,

2) Not sure why people get jealous about losing weight. A buddy of mine recently lost 40 lbs, I compliment him all the time. I am not jealous or hateful. It actually inspires me, much like this thread ha!

wow, number 1 really got to me. I used to do that all the time. And that made me the funny fat guy which evened me out in a way, but that all changed, and now i dont know how to act. Being overly obesed and calling a skinny person a fat@ss was funny back then, but i cant do that anymore, so i seem to have lost my personality =/

and 2... Everyone has been jealous of my weight loss... no one encourages me anymore, all i get is pure, YOUR GETTING TO SKINNY, and i still have man boobs... like what kind of garbage is that?
It used to feel good when i heard that, but ever since everyone started telling me that, its been more and more harder to lose weight. Im SLOWLY losing it now. In fact. Today i ate like 2 snickers and 2 reesees cups..
Im hating this, i get no support anymore, and all i NEED is that little push. But the fact that everyone is so envious and tries putting me down, sets me back. its pure shiiit. so if you still get support, be grateful for it. Im THIS close to giving up on everything.
After losing around 130 pounds. im feeling close to throwing it away

[hankst]

Originally Posted by Syphonx

Went out to Bars lastnight. Saw some old friends and one said "Holy **** where did the rest of you go". Least to say that made me very happy. That made it all worth it. Now I just gotta find all the single ladies.

Trust me, getting ripped doesn't mean **** with the ladies. It's your new found confidence, not your muscles.


And that's why I don't get laid that often

[webgodess]

Originally Posted by Subnetting

Joined this site because of this thread and a few others ha!

A couple comments.

1) No idea how to be treated as an equal because I have always been fat, my entire life ha. You eventually get used to the fat jokes, and then you begin to crack on yourself with fat jokes. Self defamation is pretty easy to get used to. I'm sure many overweight people can relate to this,

2) Not sure why people get jealous about losing weight. A buddy of mine recently lost 40 lbs, I compliment him all the time. I am not jealous or hateful. It actually inspires me, much like this thread ha!

They are jealous because they can't do it themselves.

[Syphonx]

Originally Posted by hankst

Trust me, getting ripped doesn't mean **** with the ladies. It's your new found confidence, not your muscles.


And that's why I don't get laid that often

Thats what people say but I wasnt getting any women at 255lbs. Now Im under 200 and I feel like I at least have a chance now.

[Avocado]

Originally Posted by Syphonx

Thats what people say but I wasnt getting any women at 255lbs. Now Im under 200 and I feel like I at least have a chance now.

I went from 175 to 140 and I definitely agree with you. I don't understand why 121 pages into this thread that someone would try and deny that women are just as interested in men with good physical features as men are interested in women with good physical features.

Yes, some men exude confidence and some women like bigger guys, etc. There are a lot of qualities that can make a person attractive. But being lean and muscular makes a huge difference in just starting a conversation with most women. There are scientific studies out there to that effect as well as any number of examples from this thread.

When I was overweight women would give me the death stare just for having the audacity to ask them a simple question. It was like it pained them that I even existed. I was confident enough to ask them simple questions, but the frustrating way I was reacted to was solely based on my weight.

Being more lean and muscular now, I can't remember the last time I got a death stare. The same types of questions now lead into longer conversations and all of a sudden it seems like women want those conversations to continue over dinner instead of end as quickly as possible. I would say that is primarily due to my weight and level of fitness.

The point is not that confidence doesn't matter, but just that weight and fitness are huge factors in how that confidence is perceived. Lose weight and people will react to you better. Period.

[Syphonx]

Agrred. Listen u can be an in shape douchebag and not get women. But if you are in shape they dont instantly dismiss you.

[Testament125]

Bump.

[trance__dreamer]

Originally Posted by Roke-Ster

Im SLOWLY losing it now. In fact. Today i ate like 2 snickers and 2 reesees cups..
Im hating this, i get no support anymore, and all i NEED is that little push. But the fact that everyone is so envious and tries putting me down, sets me back. its pure shiiit. so if you still get support, be grateful for it. Im THIS close to giving up on everything.
After losing around 130 pounds. im feeling close to throwing it away

no. just no. you're not throwing jack shit away. you truly need to step away & give a damn about yourself & no one else. stop giving a damn about other pple. it seems selfish. but ehh...you can't argue w/ results.

it seems like you need a break from the strict diet. that's fine. i'm currently on a break right now, myself.
however, i'm still improving my athletic ability. & i strongly suggest that you do the same.

[Dominikm]

Ummmm.....

There is nothing wrong with 2 snickers and 2 reesess cups, factor it into your cals and keep going. WE ARE HUMAN! We like to treat ourselfs, enjoy life but don;t go over board and you will pull though

[phabphour20]

Fell off for a bit.

Back on the bus.

Back to my lowest weight (268) in at least 5 years. And going lower.

Got a new wife and now a baby on the way.

I am doing this for the rest of my life.

And at some point in the next year, I am going to catch a woman staring at me.

Stay healthy.

-PP

[trance__dreamer]

Originally Posted by Dominikm

Ummmm.....

There is nothing wrong with 2 snickers and 2 reesess cups, factor it into your cals and keep going. WE ARE HUMAN! We like to treat ourselfs, enjoy life but don;t go over board and you will pull though

/agreed. life is SO much more pleasant when you know that you can literally eat ANYTHING you want; just as long as it's in moderation.
i've said it a million times, & i'll say it again: it wasn't 'til recently that i learned not to binge.

i got obese due to emotional eating from my dad getting cancer from 2nd hand smoke. when he got out of the hospital (unsucessful treatment!!!) in june of '02 (he got diagnosed in sept of '01...it was a really short battle/struggle) 'til he passed away in march of '03, the fat gain was faster; it started getting REALLY bad REALLY quickly. when he got out of the hospital in june of '02, i was around 145, & i think i was 200'ish when he passed away in march of '03; that's 65 lbs in 1 year. =S & by jan of '07, i was 300'ish - i gained the other 45 lbs in 4 years. o-_O but overall, that's 150 lbs in 5 years. =/

anyway. the moderation thing took 2.5'ish years for myself to learn this, though. (jan '07 when i started --> @ the beginning of this past summer: may '09.) i realized that to reach my goals, i MUST learn moderation & can't be have the "all-or-nothing" mentality anymore; i just can't. or jack ****'s gunna happen to reach my goals.

feels good, man. but man oh man. it may take you a while to learn this. =/ but now i'm back to living the way i did before i started getting obese; kinda sucks, though. i'm missing about 5 years from my life (june '02 when he got out --> jan '07 when i said enough was enough.) i started getting obese iwhen i was 16 & was 20 when i made the change. so, i still feel exactly like i did when i was 16 when i started getting obese. (i also feel young 'cause of the health/fitness thing, too. ) now, some pple in my life find me annoying/immature. & i try my best to act my age. but sometimes, w/ certain things, it's hard. 'cause i haven't learned/been through that thing, yet.

that's the worst thing about being obese. you don't have a life. =/ so, now, i'm playing catch up. there are some things that i won't do, due to my morals/values, etc. but yea. in regards to dating, i still have a lot to learn. *sigh* but that's just the price you pay for eating yourself silly & sitting around on your ass letting life pass you by. don't ever feel sad about jack shti. life's too short.

[iDrive]

Originally Posted by trance__dreamer

in regards to dating, i still have a lot to learn. *sigh* but that's just the price you pay for eating yourself silly & sitting around on your ass letting life pass you by. don't ever feel sad about jack shti. life's too short.

1) Find a guy.
2) Smile at said guy.
3) ???
4) Profit!

[Dennis71]

now, some pple in my life find me annoying/immature. & i try my best to act my age. but sometimes, w/ certain things, it's hard. 'cause i haven't learned/been through that thing, yet.

that's the worst thing about being obese. you don't have a life. =/ so, now, i'm playing catch up. there are some things that i won't do, due to my morals/values, etc. but yea. in regards to dating, i still have a lot to learn. *sigh* but that's just the price you pay for eating yourself silly & sitting around on your ass letting life pass you by. don't ever feel sad about jack shti. life's too short.

this... its just a better life.


being overweight my entire life.. i didnt really learn to socially interact with people. When u are fat, u learn self defimation in order for people not to make fun of u. It really sucks. After losing all this weight i feel like a new person, new confidence, all my friends say im alot more fun to be around, and im alot funnier

[StrongIron84]

I tried explaining this to my friend who has been thin/jacked his whole life... i am like bro you can't really understand what it feels like to have all this weight on you, people do treat you better if you are in better shape.

at 280+ a lot of you might have experienced the "short fuse" of society it seems like rarely do people besides your friends want to bother with you. Could be at anything; in the store the people may be nice but they don't have a lot of patience to deal with you or you may get those "stop asking me questions" facial expressions(some may know what i mean).

But since losing the weight and looking in proportion i rarely get that its the small things i notice such as people are more inclined to go out of their way to help you or they just flat out talk to you better.

Also, the attention from the ladies is nice, although i am usually too retarded to notice that they actually want to have a conversation and talk to me and i usually ignore them..

ie.
In the gym a girl asks me a retarded question to strike up a conversation i answer it and go back to doing my sets, girl stands there for a couple minutes for me to say something else but i don't so she is like oh guess ill talk to you later and walks away.

In the bar i am sitting with my back to the wall(didn't notice at first), my friends have their backs to her and she waves "toward me" and smiles but i look through her and watch the Yankees game thinking she waved at someone behind me(ever wave to someone you didn't know and they weren't waving at you and you feel retarded... didn't want it to happen), i turn around after her and her friends leave and i am in a corner... yeah i am CAPTN Oblivious

[pablocai]

Originally Posted by StrongIron84

I tried explaining this to my friend who has been thin/jacked his whole life... i am like bro you can't really understand what it feels like to have all this weight on you, people do treat you better if you are in better shape.

at 280+ a lot of you might have experienced the "short fuse" of society it seems like rarely do people besides your friends want to bother with you. Could be at anything; in the store the people may be nice but they don't have a lot of patience to deal with you or you may get those "stop asking me questions" facial expressions(some may know what i mean).

But since losing the weight and looking in proportion i rarely get that its the small things i notice such as people are more inclined to go out of their way to help you or they just flat out talk to you better.

Also, the attention from the ladies is nice, although i am usually too retarded to notice that they actually want to have a conversation and talk to me and i usually ignore them..

ie.
In the gym a girl asks me a retarded question to strike up a conversation i answer it and go back to doing my sets, girl stands there for a couple minutes for me to say something else but i don't so she is like oh guess ill talk to you later and walks away.

In the bar i am sitting with my back to the wall(didn't notice at first), my friends have their backs to her and she waves "toward me" and smiles but i look through her and watch the Yankees game thinking she waved at someone behind me(ever wave to someone you didn't know and they weren't waving at you and you feel retarded... didn't want it to happen), i turn around after her and her friends leave and i am in a corner... yeah i am CAPTN Oblivious

something similar here, we have to learn to handle those looks, how to act when girls smile at you, its weird since when you are obese people doesnt even look at you, they just ignore you...now its totaly different....a lot more respect also

[Franco_R]

I've been overweight my whole life and I've always wanted to get into shape but never really applied myself. I'm glad I came across this site, it's a great source of information to help me get in shape and stay there! I can relate to being the 'invisible' one everywhere I go but hopefully all that will change

[StrongIron84]

Originally Posted by pablocai

something similar here, we have to learn to handle those looks, how to act when girls smile at you, its weird since when you are obese people doesnt even look at you, they just ignore you...now its totaly different....a lot more respect also

yeah man, i need to get use to it, and i still have more weight to lose prob like another 30 pounds or so, but even now the difference in the way people treated me when i was 50 pounds heavier is like a complete 180