Girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me. Feeling depressed

moveouttamyway · 10-28-2009, 10:21 PM

So this is my story. My girlfriend of 1.5 year who I loved and cared about broke up with me last week. She was rambling about how I never listened to her and cared about her and she is always self conscious when she is with me. She tells me that she still loves me to death but is not happy in the relationship and Im constantly bringing her down.

I mean I like to have fun and always tease her and stuff but wtf? Also the thing about me not listening and caring about her is just complete bull****. Doesn't all guys zone out when girls tell him about her day and problems. I do other things to show that I care and am just not a good listener.

We lived together for about a year and recently she has a internship this semester which put her about an hour drive away. We would skype every night which didn't help the situation. I would be watching tv or playing games when she calls me on skype and then gets pissed off when i try to multi-task while talking to her.

Anyways she came down last weekend and it was suppose to be our last weekend together. Everything was perfect. We had sex like 3 times and had such a great time throughout the weekend.

Im missing her to death right now. I can't eat or sleep or study for my ****ing mid terms which I am going to fail. She still text me and tell me she's missing me like crazy. I called her tonight to see if we can get back together and tell her i want to come up this weekend. She said that we are definately not getting back together and some bull **** about how its not my fault that I don't care about her and we're not right for each other, but she still wants me to come up. I can tell that she still have feeling for me and that she loves me and I feel the same way and we both have so much fun when were together. Maybe I should just accept my loss and move on. Its so damn hard right now. I let the girl of my dream slip through my fingers because throughout our relationship I was using that stupid PUA cocky and funny ****.

well that's my rant.

ev1ld33n · 10-28-2009, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by moveouttamyway

So this is my story. My girlfriend of 1.5 year who I loved and cared about broke up with me last week. She was rambling about how I never listened to her and cared about her and she is always self conscious when she is with me. She tells me that she still loves me to death but is not happy in the relationship and Im constantly bringing her down.

I mean I like to have fun and always tease her and stuff but wtf? Also the thing about me not listening and caring about her is just complete bull****. Doesn't all guys zone out when girls tell him about her day and problems. I do other things to show that I care and am just not a good listener.

We lived together for about a year and recently she has a internship this semester which put her about an hour drive away. We would skype every night which didn't help the situation. I would be watching tv or playing games when she calls me on skype and then gets pissed off when i try to multi-task while talking to her.

Anyways she came down last weekend and it was suppose to be our last weekend together. Everything was perfect. We had sex like 3 times and had such a great time throughout the weekend.

Im missing her to death right now. I can't eat or sleep or study for my ****ing mid terms which I am going to fail. She still text me and tell me she's missing me like crazy. I called her tonight to see if we can get back together and tell her i want to come up this weekend. She said that we are definately not getting back together and some bull **** about how its not my fault that I don't care about her and we're not right for each other, but she still wants me to come up. I can tell that she still have feeling for me and that she loves me and I feel the same way and we both have so much fun when were together. Maybe I should just accept my loss and move on. Its so damn hard right now. I let the girl of my dream slip through my fingers because throughout our relationship I was using that stupid PUA cocky and funny ****.

well that's my rant.

**** man, if she is the girl of your dreams you have got to try to make it work. Try telling her that. Women need support in many ways, so try to show her you can be that. I mean part of the story you ranted is BS cause she's full of **** about missing and loving you but not wanting you. But you only get but so many dream girls.

Al_Pal · 10-28-2009, 10:31 PM

she still wants the sex... but you cant offer it enough for her to be committed to you and not find someone else who can **** her on a more consistent basis.

colton_orr · 10-28-2009, 10:32 PM

move on to next one

moveouttamyway · 10-28-2009, 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by colton_orr

move on to next one

I know its so conventional to say that. This is really stressing me out. It would be better if she said **** you never talk to me again. That way I can cut my loses and move on. However, what is "I love you so much and love being with you but we're not right for each other?" Complete bull****!

Matt_Buddha · 10-29-2009, 03:06 AM

I'm thinkin' she's messing around with someone else.

MagneticMilkshake · 10-29-2009, 01:41 PM

I feel your pain man but at the same time I was just loling realize how fcked you are that you are still communicating with your ex and still missing each other. If you dont have a chance at getting back with her then your going to have it real hard.

Her reasons for breaking up dont seem enough though. And you guys should talk about it before breaking up

dickhordishay · 10-29-2009, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by moveouttamyway

I know its so conventional to say that. This is really stressing me out. It would be better if she said **** you never talk to me again. That way I can cut my loses and move on. However, what is "I love you so much and love being with you but we're not right for each other?" Complete bull****!

Don't over think it. My ex "loved" me too and I was a "great guy", yet she, for some reason, just "couldn't be with" me. Move on. It's hard. Don't keep thinking what she may be thinking or what she said, 'cause it's just bullsh*t and their way of letting you down easily.

Shagrath · 10-29-2009, 02:39 PM

another guys grades and career prospects hindered by a female

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lordsess24 · 10-29-2009, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by dickhordishay

Don't over think it. My ex "loved" me too and I was a "great guy", yet she, for some reason, just "couldn't be with" me. Move on. It's hard. Don't keep thinking what she may be thinking or what she said, 'cause it's just bullsh*t and their way of letting you down easily.

what he said.

tmertz · 10-29-2009, 03:02 PM

There are plenty more fish in the sea <srs>

lordsess24 · 10-29-2009, 03:08 PM

watch this and cheer up.

disregard females, aquire currency.

Ecnewyx · 10-29-2009, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ev1ld33n

**** man, if she is the girl of your dreams you have got to try to make it work. Try telling her that. Women need support in many ways, so try to show her you can be that. I mean part of the story you ranted is BS cause she's full of **** about missing and loving you but not wanting you. But you only get but so many dream girls.

No no no a million times no.

Also pretty sure you weren't being "cocky and funny". Cocky and funny does NOT mean:
- Zoning out when she tells you about her day and problems. If you loved her you would listen, the same way you'd expect HER to listen about your problems.
- Watching TV or playing games when she calls to talk... and then doing it continuously even after she made it clear she had a problem with it.

Anyway, it's not all your fault. It's a safe bet she's into someone else, lol, but hasn't yet closed the deal which is why she can't cut you loose completely yet. Time to move on, brah. There'll be other women.

LovesMuscles · 10-29-2009, 04:08 PM

Maybe it's because you actually sucked and got tired of you. Wow, gee, imagine that.

You didn't listen? Fail. It's done.

I swear, guys in here will never take responsibility for destroying a relationship. Pathetic.

stevedarsh · 10-29-2009, 06:29 PM

she's into someone else.

Italiantank26 · 10-29-2009, 07:23 PM

damn you guys are harsh aha, OP just take it easy for a while, try not contacting her, and get your sh*t together, study for your midterms, then worry about your girl, I went through the same, its not easy, but it can be done. If she really wants you back she will let you know, but you have to be the man in this situation and can't be catering to her every need. Don't just drive an hour to see her just to f*ck then have her tell you that she still doesn't want to be together, cause it'll make it worse for you. Tell her straight up, if we are broken up its over, you can't talk to her cause its too emotional, and you are not going to see her.

SiNiStEr94 · 10-29-2009, 07:37 PM

Cut all contact completely. Don't reply to her texts, don't answer her calls.

It will be hard at first, but it's the easiest and best way in the long run IMO. Keeping in contact will always bring back those feelings for her. Go out with your boys this weekend and have a good time. But most importantly, study for the midterms.

NolesFSU-NYMets · 10-29-2009, 07:53 PM

Going through the same thing bro. Broke up with her on Monday after a year. Now all my buddies are in relationships and I dont have anyone to go out with to wing man me. Feels bad man. I dont know how ima meet chicks!

FAH_Q · 10-30-2009, 12:09 AM

Well that is pretty dumb on your part to try to play x box when your girl is skyping you. My GF lives an hour and a half away from me too, but i see her every weekend and skype/text throughout the day.

Why would you not just get off the video game when she wants to see you? I love XBOX live more than the average person so i know where your coming from, but my gf hates that stuff too so i just take a break and play it when i get off skype with the bish.

And asking her to get back together is probably the worst thing you can do. I'd just sit back and play it cool. Go out with your friends and have fun, but dont try to hook up with any other girls if you want to get back with your ol lady, but taking pictures with some girls wouldnt hurt and make your gf a little jealous too haha

tommyV_1988 · 10-30-2009, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by NolesFSU-NYMets

Going through the same thing bro. Broke up with her on Monday after a year. Now all my buddies are in relationships and I dont have anyone to go out with to wing man me. Feels bad man. I dont know how ima meet chicks!

I'm in a similar situation, ALL my friends, apart from the one who is always across the globe travelling are taken.

Sux2beme

captainhorseboy · 10-30-2009, 07:46 AM

sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too

she wants you to come vist but you're not back together
she loves you but its just not right
etc

irishjackmp · 10-31-2009, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by moveouttamyway

She still text me and tell me she's missing me like crazy

This line jumped off the paged @ me. I hate it when girls use manipulative lines like this.

OP... I once broke up with a girl I had dated for a long time. I tried to do it as tatfully as possible... I would never have dreamed of using line liek the one I quotes... know why? Because I know it would have given her false hope and been crueil.

She sent you that text for the sole purpose of stroking her ego. She knew by saying it, you would fall all over yourself telling her how much you miss her too, how bad you want to be with her, etc... and I am sure you took the bait. The proper response would have been to not text her back @ all.

The simplest explanation tends to be the right one. She probably has another guy she is interested in. I know it's not easy to do... but you need to cut all contact OP.

Rayaarito · 10-31-2009, 08:24 AM

Whatever you do, cut contact immediately: I didn't with my ex and she dragged me along for a year telling me that she misses me and still thinks about it. One day she comes home telling me that she met somebody. Don't let that be you.

Oh yeah, and our relationship was perfect, no arguements or anything. She was the nicest girl and we broke up because of school. Just because you think she's nice doesnt' mean she won't do it.

salman85 · 10-31-2009, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by moveouttamyway

So this is my story. My girlfriend of 1.5 year who I loved and cared about broke up with me last week. She was rambling about how I never listened to her and cared about her and she is always self conscious when she is with me. She tells me that she still loves me to death but is not happy in the relationship and Im constantly bringing her down.

I mean I like to have fun and always tease her and stuff but wtf? Also the thing about me not listening and caring about her is just complete bull****. Doesn't all guys zone out when girls tell him about her day and problems. I do other things to show that I care and am just not a good listener.

We lived together for about a year and recently she has a internship this semester which put her about an hour drive away. We would skype every night which didn't help the situation. I would be watching tv or playing games when she calls me on skype and then gets pissed off when i try to multi-task while talking to her.

Anyways she came down last weekend and it was suppose to be our last weekend together. Everything was perfect. We had sex like 3 times and had such a great time throughout the weekend.

Im missing her to death right now. I can't eat or sleep or study for my ****ing mid terms which I am going to fail. She still text me and tell me she's missing me like crazy. I called her tonight to see if we can get back together and tell her i want to come up this weekend. She said that we are definately not getting back together and some bull **** about how its not my fault that I don't care about her and we're not right for each other, but she still wants me to come up. I can tell that she still have feeling for me and that she loves me and I feel the same way and we both have so much fun when were together. Maybe I should just accept my loss and move on. Its so damn hard right now. I let the girl of my dream slip through my fingers because throughout our relationship I was using that stupid PUA cocky and funny ****.

well that's my rant.

did you atleast PIIHB? you should feel happy, and post some dirty pics here, it will make you feel better

i promise

DuhDuhDill · 10-31-2009, 08:59 AM

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Originally Posted by colton_orr

move on to next one

Truth. Hit it one more time and move on.

neowolfe · 10-31-2009, 10:30 AM

maybe if you didnt treat her like sh!t she wouldnt be f*cking someone else (which deep down, you know she is)

moveouttamyway · 11-08-2009, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Ecnewyx

No no no a million times no.

Also pretty sure you weren't being "cocky and funny". Cocky and funny does NOT mean:
- Zoning out when she tells you about her day and problems. If you loved her you would listen, the same way you'd expect HER to listen about your problems.
- Watching TV or playing games when she calls to talk... and then doing it continuously even after she made it clear she had a problem with it.

Anyway, it's not all your fault. It's a safe bet she's into someone else, lol, but hasn't yet closed the deal which is why she can't cut you loose completely yet. Time to move on, brah. There'll be other women.

So its been 2 weeks after....

Again I know i should cut off all contact but it harder said than done. We even had webcam sex yesterday. She was naked and moaning like crazy. After i made her orgasm she told me it was wrong lol.

And yes she is interested in someone else. They met when she was still with me and she tells me she loves talking to him cause he listen. They went on a ****ing date today for like over 10 hours and is still not back yet. This is bull****. I was pretty much over her but today im pretty pissed. Im getting myself out there also, but nontheless this is really depressing right now. Shes feeding me lines about while she loves talking to this guy, she wants to be single for a while to figure things out and get over me completely before moving on to another guy.

I think its all bull****. I know I'm being a idiot for talking to her still.

System32 · 11-08-2009, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by moveouttamyway

So its been 2 weeks after....

Again I know i should cut off all contact but it harder said than done. We even had webcam sex yesterday. She was naked and moaning like crazy. After i made her orgasm she told me it was wrong lol.

And yes she is interested in someone else. They met when she was still with me and she tells me she loves talking to him cause he listen. They went on a ****ing date today for like over 10 hours and is still not back yet. This is bull****. I was pretty much over her but today im pretty pissed. Im getting myself out there also, but nontheless this is really depressing right now. Shes feeding me lines about while she loves talking to this guy, she wants to be single for a while to figure things out and get over me completely before moving on to another guy.

I think its all bull****. I know I'm being a idiot for talking to her still.

I've been through this man, me and my ex of 4 years(off and on) broke up and within 2 weeks she had a new B/F. You need to cut off ALL contact with her. Delete her number/facebook and any reminence of her. Out of sight out of mind really does work. This will also push the fact if she really wants to be with you she will come back. But don't rely on that to happen, just figure it as a total loss and move on. You are only hurting yourself by keeping in contact. Trust me on this one, cut her off completely.

mackd · 11-08-2009, 10:04 PM

agree what someone else said about "dont overthink it".

Also, plenty more rubbish at the tip.

Edsol · 11-08-2009, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by dickhordishay

Don't over think it. My ex "loved" me too and I was a "great guy", yet she, for some reason, just "couldn't be with" me. Move on. It's hard. Don't keep thinking what she may be thinking or what she said, 'cause it's just bullsh*t and their way of letting you down easily.

This. Don't believe the nonsense about her still loving you, but can't be with you. Chicks don't think like that. You're going to hurt for a while no matter what. It's up to you to decide whether or not you want to prolong the hurt by hanging around hoping for her to come back to you. It's done. Cut contact and better yourself so this won't happen again.