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Another "why do people in the gym..." post
OK, I have another one. I have been going to my current gym for over 3 years now. It is an LA Fitness so in the evening it's more of a social club but I train in the early morning so at 6AM people just go there to train.
So I have gotten to know most of the morning crowd since I'm there most every day. So why is that you can see people (girls and guys) just about every day and some of them can't even acknowledge your existence? I mean you can walk right by them every day and they won't look at you, say hello, knod the head, nothing. And it isn't any specific gender, body type, look (good or bad), etc. either. It's like they are too good to speak to you.
Just wonderin...
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10-29-2009, 07:17 AM
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For me that would be nice. I like to hit the gym and get my workout done and not have people trying to talk to me before I start my workout. Sometimes I see the same people and they always want to talk which prolongs my workout and breaks my concentration. I like to socialize but not in the gym.
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10-29-2009, 07:25 AM
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Well in the gym I visit.....half the people don't speak english...so I can understand that lack of greetings....
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10-29-2009, 07:38 AM
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I'm in the gym at 5:30am, right when it opens. Same 15 or so people there every morning. Gym is big, several different rooms, so people are spread out. While I'm not like the people you describe, I don't really talk to anyone. I usually give a nod or a "Yo, what's up", but I've got my MP3 player going, and I'm focused on my routine. Not to be rude or anything, I just want to do my thing and get to work. In the weight room, it's usually just me and one other guy. He's like I am...all business. We acknowledge each other and then get to work.
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10-29-2009, 07:40 AM
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I think most people just want to get in and get out. I know I am that way since I have to pick my kids up after working out but I still manage to say hi or nod my head.
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10-29-2009, 07:41 AM
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maybe you should go in the evening
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10-29-2009, 07:49 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by BBLou
OK, I have another one. I have been going to my current gym for over 3 years now. It is an LA Fitness so in the evening it's more of a social club but I train in the early morning so at 6AM people just go there to train.
So I have gotten to know most of the morning crowd since I'm there most every day. So why is that you can see people (girls and guys) just about every day and some of them can't even acknowledge your existence? I mean you can walk right by them every day and they won't look at you, say hello, knod the head, nothing. And it isn't any specific gender, body type, look (good or bad), etc. either. It's like they are too good to speak to you.
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With some of these people, it isn't that they're mean, unfriendly, or dislike you on sight. They're just painfully shy and socially inept. There are some people that have to be drawn out. Then, of course, there's the fact that it is a gym you're talking about. It is early in the morning. They're half asleep. They only have so much time before they have to head to work. You sort of answered your own question. At 6AM people just go there to train.
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10-29-2009, 08:18 AM
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LIKE cozener stated. some are shy and socially inept and some need to be drawn out. I'm a lot like that, little shy, unsure, whimpy, whoose, or whatever. I mean I am not a small dude, but not big, but shy until i'm drawn out. AND this place is drawing my out a little, maybe because of the web. I some times feel like the lion from wizard of oz.
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10-29-2009, 08:21 AM
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I've been going to this gym for 10+ months, and don't know more than 10 -12 people's names. Mostly because I'm there for me. I don't talk to other people as it eats up my training time. It's me being anti-social, but the only likely place I see these people is at the gym.
I certainly could stop at the Shake bar, drink my protein, read a magazine and talk with people. In all honesty, I'd rather be home with my wife.
In my quest to compete next year, I'm sure others will stop me and ask, and I'll be pleasent enough to discuss it because I am a pleasent person. Truth be told, I couldn't care about others names because I'm there for me and not as a social meeting.
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10-29-2009, 08:30 AM
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there are always people like that in some gyms.
It bothered me for a bit, then I realized I probably don't want to know them anyway.
If they can't be bothered to simply acknowledge the existence of a fellow human they have shared gym space with for years then why would I even want to know them?
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10-29-2009, 08:47 AM
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Originally Posted by chodan9
there are always people like that in some gyms.
It bothered me for a bit, then I realized I probably don't want to know them anyway.
If they can't be bothered to simply acknowledge the existence of a fellow human they have shared gym space with for years then why would I even want to know them?
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That's exactly my thoughts. ^^^
But I think most of those that replied here have misunderstood my original post. I'm not looking for a social atmosphere or trying to make friends. I go to the gym to train, period. And like someone else said, I also have my MP3 player cranking out what I want to hear (instead of that god-awful piped in music). The last thing I want to do is strike up a conversation at 6AM when I'm trying to get through my workout and get the hell out of there. I just get annoyed when some people can't even offer a knod or hey when I see them every single day...
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10-29-2009, 09:28 AM
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Yup what he said.
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Originally Posted by cozener
With some of these people, it isn't that they're mean, unfriendly, or dislike you on sight. They're just painfully shy and socially inept. There are some people that have to be drawn out. Then, of course, there's the fact that it is a gym you're talking about. It is early in the morning. They're half asleep. They only have so much time before they have to head to work. You sort of answered your own question. At 6AM people just go there to train.
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I think the preceding comment sums it up. I work-out at home right now but if I went I would love to know everybody at the gym for support reasons. However I would want to remain focused
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10-29-2009, 10:04 AM
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The OP describes me pretty well. I'm more of a loner type. I'd just as soon not speak to or interact with anyone, as I find most people annoying. I make an effort to not make eye contact with people so to not be put in any type of social situation.
If I'm spoken to, I"ll reply, but not engage any interaction further than that. I'm just not a "people" person I guess.
To each their own.
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10-29-2009, 10:15 AM
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I'm like that. I don't say hello, nod, or any of that. I'm there to work out, not socialize. The fact that other people are there also using the equipment is incidental. I honestly don't understand why people care about this stuff. The other day, some guy posted that he was bothered by women leaving the area when he came to use nearby equipment. If you are there to work out, then why do you care?
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10-29-2009, 10:26 AM
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i usually smile and nod at people when they speak to me. i dont say anything back though because with pantera blaring in my headphones i never know what the **** anyone is saying anyways. actually now that i think about it why do people try to talk to people that have headphones on in the first place?
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10-29-2009, 01:55 PM
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Some people are in their zone and not even thinking about smiling or anything. If someone smiles at me, I smile back... but being a female I rarely smile first at a guy. I don't want them to confuse me being nice with flirting. I do smile at the other girls in the gym if given the opportunity. Most of the time I'm in my zone though (headsets on, loud music blasting, and just focusing on my next lift).
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10-29-2009, 02:11 PM
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sad but true, I am the most muscular guy in my Y at the time of day I train, and I wear skimpy tanks...no one says **** to me.
feels nice being looked at as a menace for once
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10-29-2009, 02:11 PM
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Originally Posted by White_Chocolate
Some people are in their zone and not even thinking about smiling or anything. If someone smiles at me, I smile back... but being a female I rarely smile first at a guy. I don't want them to confuse me being nice with flirting. I do smile at the other girls in the gym if given the opportunity. Most of the time I'm in my zone though (headsets on, loud music blasting, and just focusing on my next lift).
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how do THEY know you're not flirting? 
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10-29-2009, 02:39 PM
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Some people are just jerks. I don't socialize with anyone at the gym but I will smile and nod at anyone who will acknowledge me. But there are some who just willfully refuse to acknowledge your existence. I say to heck with them and just go on and do my thing.
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10-29-2009, 02:41 PM
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Quote:
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Because I don't wink at the girls ... oh wait! Is that why the guys think I'm flirting with them?
J/K
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10-29-2009, 03:09 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by BBLou
OK, I have another one. I have been going to my current gym for over 3 years now. It is an LA Fitness so in the evening it's more of a social club but I train in the early morning so at 6AM people just go there to train.
So I have gotten to know most of the morning crowd since I'm there most every day. So why is that you can see people (girls and guys) just about every day and some of them can't even acknowledge your existence? I mean you can walk right by them every day and they won't look at you, say hello, knod the head, nothing. And it isn't any specific gender, body type, look (good or bad), etc. either. It's like they are too good to speak to you.
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I'm not in there to listen to some chick yak or some guy whine. I'm in there to do what I want to do. Sure I might throw a nod to certain folks every now and then, but most I totally ignore. I've got my music in my ears and I don't want to be f***** with. You want to chit chat get the hell off the machine and go outside.
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10-29-2009, 03:20 PM
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......... It's like they are too good to speak to you....
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Maybe they are! (just joking!)
No really, who cares? I might be one of those people sometimes.
I'm not in to the "good morning" to everyone I see thing. I have more than enough people in my life already. If someone doesn't want to make eye contact or mumble something meaningless in the morning, I could not care less. I do not go out of my way to speak to anyone at the gym. In the year I've been going there, I've learned six people's names and I think five of them approached me for first contact. I chat with them briefly now, but most of the time I'm dripping sweat and sucking air... I stink too.... who wants to chat then?
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10-29-2009, 03:25 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by BBLou
OK, I have another one. I have been going to my current gym for over 3 years now. It is an LA Fitness so in the evening it's more of a social club but I train in the early morning so at 6AM people just go there to train.
So I have gotten to know most of the morning crowd since I'm there most every day. So why is that you can see people (girls and guys) just about every day and some of them can't even acknowledge your existence? I mean you can walk right by them every day and they won't look at you, say hello, knod the head, nothing. And it isn't any specific gender, body type, look (good or bad), etc. either. It's like they are too good to speak to you.
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My guess is that your bigger than they are, and they are intimidated.
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10-29-2009, 04:10 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by BBLou
OK, I have another one. I have been going to my current gym for over 3 years now. It is an LA Fitness so in the evening it's more of a social club but I train in the early morning so at 6AM people just go there to train.
So I have gotten to know most of the morning crowd since I'm there most every day. So why is that you can see people (girls and guys) just about every day and some of them can't even acknowledge your existence? I mean you can walk right by them every day and they won't look at you, say hello, knod the head, nothing. And it isn't any specific gender, body type, look (good or bad), etc. either. It's like they are too good to speak to you.
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there's been a few of these threads and it is a bit weird. I go for opening time a couple of times a week and the guys/girls who open up are pretty much always five minutes late getting the doors open. There is a group of three pretty old guys, two guys who go off to work in rigger boots etc afterwards and me and we all speak to each other whilst we are waiting. I'm limited to pretty much exactly an hour before I have to get showered and go to work but I always get a 'goodbye, have a good day' from any who are on machines near the check out point. Its not the same at classes I admit, most people acknowledge others who go every week but not much more interaction. Maybe its an age thing with the older people being more willing to pass the time of day?
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10-29-2009, 04:23 PM
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there are people at my gym that do the same way,which i kinda like it,they wont speak half the time,but sometimes when they do,they want to talk all day long
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Quote:
Originally Posted by BBLou
OK, I have another one. I have been going to my current gym for over 3 years now. It is an LA Fitness so in the evening it's more of a social club but I train in the early morning so at 6AM people just go there to train.
So I have gotten to know most of the morning crowd since I'm there most every day. So why is that you can see people (girls and guys) just about every day and some of them can't even acknowledge your existence? I mean you can walk right by them every day and they won't look at you, say hello, knod the head, nothing. And it isn't any specific gender, body type, look (good or bad), etc. either. It's like they are too good to speak to you.
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A guy in my graduate program joined my gym, it's funny, we'll be debating and discussing things in study group tomorrow, but in the gym, not even a nod. I've seen this guy BS'ing with others so I know he's not in some "do not disturb" zone. I'm starting to think that I give off some kind of vibe where people avoid me in the gym. That, or maybe it's the farts.
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I just started at a new gym this past weekend because the Y was getting too small and I have spoken to more people in 4 days than I did 4 months at the old place. Not there to chat but acknowledgement is nice.
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Maybe you are really creepy?
I never talk to people or look at them unless I have to. I put my earbuds in and whether I have a song playing or not I pretend I can't hear them. I am the same at the grocery store...minus the earbuds...and I don't pretend not to hear them I just won't stop my cart so they have to talk fast.
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Lol, I hadn't thought of that angle.
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Here are my two reasons:
1) When I am working out I am in the zone and block everything and everyone out and am extremely focused on my workout.
2) Because with my luck I will acknowledge someone and then they will feel it is necessary to tell me their life story which I could care less about. It keeps me from being rude and telling someone "If you don't mind can you shut the hell up so I can finish my workout".
Don't get me wrong - If someone wants advice from me I am more then happy to help out but I purposely feel no need to be Mr. Friendly in the gym and say hi to everyone. I am in the gym to workout. That's what the weights are in there for. If I wanted to socialize and get acknowledgement for my vanity I would join a one of those "You look like you could use a hug" clubs. LOL
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