This semi hyooge guy keeps asking my gf out....... help (serious)

[kiddink]

Originally Posted by lizzylamb

As long as your gf keeps shutting him down, I don't see why you should have to do anything.

this.

all you insecure betas telling him to beat the guy up. LMFAO

if you do everything right then the girl will shut him down because she knows you are better.

[Cynic09]

I hate to say it but girls always have a backup around in case their relationship fail. And in this case, that new guy is the backup.

And beating up on some guy cuz he's hitting on your GF is pathetic. What you gonna do? Get into a fight with every guy that comes on to her? She needs to learn to handle herself or it's time for a new girl.

In b4 girl breaks up with OP and get with the new guy that is "Harassing her". lol!

[neekz0r]

Originally Posted by kiddink

this.

all you insecure betas telling him to beat the guy up. LMFAO

if you do everything right then the girl will shut him down because she knows you are better.

A) She's not shutting him down.
B) She told him to deal with it.
C) Confronting the guy and telling him to **** off isn't 'beating the guy up'.

[MacMan07]

Originally Posted by neekz0r

I would of asked her why she didn't say anything about having a boyfriend. When she spouted off that silly "what if he just wants to be friends" excuse I would of said "Why do you care what he thinks about you?" and then followed up with "I'm going to deal with this for you, but you need to let guys know that you're attached. I can't spend all my time chasing guys off who hit on you"

That **** is so lame, I can't believe how many of you guys are giving this sort of advice.

There is NOTHING you can do about guys hitting on your girlfriend. I repeat, NOTHING. If you cannot handle dating a girl who gets hit on all the time, then don't date anything about a 6, because that's how the world works. Granted, she should have been more up front with this guy, but very seldom do girls ever blatantly tell guys to **** off. They like to string them along for the attention and they will never admit that to you, or themselves for that matter. This is especially true for young girls who are not completely secure and love the ego boost.

Ask yourself this, if you were truly secure in yourself and your relationship, why would you bother to tell this guy off? In fact, why would you even be bothered by it? You guys need to learn to just roll with the punches and realize that this type of **** happens. The more you acknowledge it, the worse off you are. All this bull**** about "manning up" and confronting this guy is utter bull**** because you're not doing it to protect your girlfriend from being harassed or something, you're doing it to protect your own insecurities, and if you cannot realize that, you are in denial. This girl isn't being raped or something,

[MacMan07]

Originally Posted by neekz0r

A) She's not shutting him down.
B) She told him to deal with it.
C) Confronting the guy and telling him to **** off isn't 'beating the guy up'.

Do you think she really wants him to deal with it? Or do you think she wants him to deal with it because she's sick of hearing him whine about the thought off some guy stealing her away from him? Let's be reality.

[neekz0r]

Originally Posted by MacMan07

Do you think she really wants him to deal with it? Or do you think she wants him to deal with it because she's sick of hearing him whine about the thought off some guy stealing her away from him? Let's be reality.

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Originally Posted by neekz0r

OP's failure is two fold. I'm betting that he's been less then manly before. The girl is probably tired of it, and this is a last ditch effort on her part to see if he'll step up to the plate, so to speak. She flat out told him that she's not going to deal with it and that he needs to. So, there's two things OP needs to do, put her in her place and then deal with the guy.

[Riceboi]

Walk up to him during class and say back off my girl or I'll kick the **** out of you.

If he gets up then muay thai his ass in front of class LOL

and I'm not insecure, just beat his ass for fun for disrespecting you.


brb training UFC

[MacMan07]

Originally Posted by neekz0r

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I honestly HIGHLY doubt that this is all a game she's playing to try to get him to "man up". I would seriously bet money against it.

[correll28]

just make fun of him to your girlfriend for something.

[Cynic09]

Originally Posted by Num3n

i asked her about it, and she says she only dates white guys (this guy is chinese) and she is chinese ironically lol. She also on a regular basis tells me im "perfect" (lol), and that she loves me (inb4 me rove you wrong time). she isnt fob though..

Is this you OP? LOL!

[neekz0r]

Originally Posted by MacMan07

I honestly HIGHLY doubt that this is all a game she's playing to try to get him to "man up". I would seriously bet money against it.

Oh, she'd never admit it. But come on. I'm sure this isn't the first time she's been hit on. Why is it this time she's not shutting the guy down? Why is she telling him to deal with it? Besides that, it doesn't really matter. She's not shutting the guy down. Bottom line. The guy also knows that she's attached and because he thinks he can get away with it, he'll keep pursuing her -- even if she shuts him down now. Which she won't.

Hence, why my suggestion is probably the best course of action.

[CelticBhoy]

Originally Posted by neekz0r

Oh, she'd never admit it. But come on. I'm sure this isn't the first time she's been hit on. Why is it this time she's not shutting the guy down? Why is she telling him to deal with it? Besides that, it doesn't really matter. She's not shutting the guy down. Bottom line. The guy also knows that she's attached and because he thinks he can get away with it, he'll keep pursuing her -- even if she shuts him down now. Which she won't.

Hence, why my suggestion is probably the best course of action.

I think if she is refusing to shut him down, then she is directly disrespecting the OP. Obviously guys can care less if the girl has a bf or not. But if she is direct, abrupt, and uninterested, the guy will eventually yield. The problem is: She didn't tell him she has a boyfriend, she's giving him BS for not getting involved, etc.

My opinion: She's not worth the effort. Sure it's easier said than done, but she is down right disrespecting the OP.

[ICQ666]

Thank God I am not in your shoes bro. Knowing how fawking violent I am, I would have fought that loser infront of the class to make thigs more interesting. I am even pissed hahaha. The best way is to have your gf handle it like a women she is... if she is not cooperating, DUMP THAT SH...IIT!!.

[ReadsTheMisc]

You should have called him out when he asked your gf for drinks and embarrased him in front of the whole class

[manletman]

[wesbender]

Originally Posted by manletman

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lol, that gif is classic.


But OP, i haven't read through the whole thread as it's most likely just a bunch of repetitive bullshit, but a few people have already given the best advice. Play it off like it's not a big deal, because it isn't. Guy's are going to hit on your girl all the time, that's just the way things work. You gotta brush it off and let her handle it. If she can't handle it, then she's a pretty ****ty girlfriend and you need to dump her ass.

[Polymath]

Originally Posted by zeugirdor66

Beat the **** out of that wanker.

No, dumbass

Originally Posted by Shoester

I hope to god you have already said something to this guy.

Yes

Originally Posted by MagneticMilkshake

if your gf is going to cheat she is going to cheat regardless of what you say to this guy

Yes, and your girlfriend will cheat on you. If she was really into you, she would have mentioned that she has a boyfriend. girls do this **** all the ****ing time, if they don't, they are consciously making an effort to conceal the fact.

Originally Posted by Num3n

As much as i would like to test my 'metal' against his (i used to be in muay thai for 2 years) i dont want to get kicked out of college.

so preferrably i would like to solve this without violence but id be willing of course to defend myself should the need arise

Stop acting tough, you can't even talk to him.

Originally Posted by Dom_88

Sounds to me like she's enjoying the attention, and that's why she hasn't fully shut him down.

Yes, she is enjoying the attention.

Look, here is what to do:
1. Tell him "Stop asking my girlfriend out, stop flirting with her, do not ask her out for drinks, do not ask her to hang out one-on-one" SIMPLE AS THAT!!!!
2. Confront you gf about why she didn't shut him down. You SHOULD BE SUSPICIOUS.

If she goes to him, let her. As a previous poster mentioned, he is dominating you right now. Let her go but confront him. It is not about a girl who doesn't like you enough to shut down other suitors, it is about a guy disrespecting you relationship, thinking you are a nothing and that he can flirt with your girl.

Violence is not the answer, only use it if he uses it against you.

[neekz0r]

Originally Posted by Polymath

Look, here is what to do:
1. Tell him "Stop asking my girlfriend out, stop flirting with her, do not ask her out for drinks, do not ask her to hang out one-on-one" SIMPLE AS THAT!!!!
2. Confront you gf about why she didn't shut him down. You SHOULD BE SUSPICIOUS.

If she goes to him, let her. As a previous poster mentioned, he is dominating you right now. Let her go but confront him. It is not about a girl who doesn't like you enough to shut down other suitors, it is about a guy disrespecting you relationship, thinking you are a nothing and that he can flirt with your girl.

Violence is not the answer, only use it if he uses it against you.

That sounds like vaguely familiar advice ... hmmmmmmmm...

[Halfway]

Gain 100lbs of muscle, and next time he comes up to you and your gf stare at him like he's some curious species of insect you just shook out of your boot

he won't say much more than hi and bye, and that'll be the end of that.

you can thank me later.

seriously though, if she isn't shutting him down she wont shut down anyone. When she's at the bar with her friends she'll be chatting with douchebags and giving them her number 'just to hang out'.

this is why you don't invest anything emotially in anyone under the age of 25

[Num3n]

Damn it i dont have enough rep power to rep everyone who contributed to this thread... not that it would do much anyways.

Hmmm some damned really good advice, i am acting on some of it now, thanks everyone

*will update

[Ecnewyx]

OP needs to re-examine his girl.

As far as I'm concerned, the only person who's being disrespectful in this situation is his girlfriend.

/thread.

[The Blaqghost]

Originally Posted by Num3n

Ok so we have class together, all 3 of us: my gf, myself, and this guy (hes 22, same height, pretty big due to a roid cycle or two (srs)). So anyways from the get go i saw that glint in his eye when he saw her... Anyways they were put together in class for some project along with 2 others and they all exchanged numbers and e-mail. anyways so he adds her on msn and he constantly tries to talk to her... keeps on calling her cute, and flirting with her etc.

this continues for a while and now today he asks her out to drinks.... brah went too far... I know this is pretty beta asking for advice but i just want some other peoples opinions on what i should do - no sense charging into the fray without thinking.

anyways should i just confront him after class or something? the only thing making me hesitant is that it might be really really awkward for the rest of the semester in class.


suggestions please, thanks.

Always talk to your girl first. Never sweat the dude first. Is your girl closing the door on ol boy? No if,ands or buts. Is she telling ol boy, NO,NO,NO? Is she telling him she can't go out with him or she doesn't want to go out with him? There's a big difference. If she says to him she CAN'T, because she's in a relationship and not say she doesn't WANT to get out now before you really start trippin on her. It's a 2 way street though. What you ask and want from her you have to do the same. Dig?

[The Blaqghost]

Originally Posted by Halfway

Gain 100lbs of muscle, and next time he comes up to you and your gf stare at him like he's some curious species of insect you just shook out of your boot

he won't say much more than hi and bye, and that'll be the end of that.

you can thank me later.

seriously though, if she isn't shutting him down she wont shut down anyone. When she's at the bar with her friends she'll be chatting with douchebags and giving them her number 'just to hang out'.

this is why you don't invest anything emotially in anyone under the age of 25

I feel you bruh. But I know women in their 30's that would fall under what you said. LOL.

[uptonogood]

OP where you go to college

[monicadickey]

I would say just leave him be. If you make drama out of it and start worrying it's just going to give him a chance to make you look stupid. If you ignore him and trust your girlfriend to be a big girl, and maybe you point out creepy stuff he does or strike up a conversation about roids if you know he's on them, your girlfriend will disqualify him in her own mind without you having to be a dick about anything.

Just use common sense and don't go out of your way to be bothered by this guy or do anything about it.

I know this is a bodybuilding forum but I'll let you in on a secret: to most girls, some guy being a huge ball of muscle isn't a recipe for crazy instant attraction so don't even worry about that part. Worry about the guy's behavior. From your post he already sounds overly persistent and annoying so you probably don't have anything to worry about.

[JTLDN]

Originally Posted by MagneticMilkshake

if your gf is going to cheat she is going to cheat regardless of what you say to this guy

^this.

getting pissed will only make you look insecure, and subsequently less attractive.

be indifferent, if you're cocky, then encourage her to do it.

[footballplaya23]

Ok if your girlfriend tells you to do it you do it cause you dont want your girlfriend thinking your a pussy that cant protect her and stick up for her over something as simple and stupid as this. Your thinking way too much into it and being a *** when you shoulda just stood up to him in the first place so he had some respect for you instead of watching him hit on ur girlfriend from a distance.

[crusher_]

If she is attractive in the slightest she is going to have guys hitting on her, thats life!

All you need to worry about is how she is reacting to it, and it doesn't seem like she has been leading him on or being overly friendly to him so stop being an insecure douche or you will f**k up your relationship..

[janky]

Originally Posted by Num3n

Ok so we have class together, all 3 of us: my gf, myself, and this guy (hes 22, same height, pretty big due to a roid cycle or two (srs)). So anyways from the get go i saw that glint in his eye when he saw her... Anyways they were put together in class for some project along with 2 others and they all exchanged numbers and e-mail. anyways so he adds her on msn and he constantly tries to talk to her... keeps on calling her cute, and flirting with her etc.

this continues for a while and now today he asks her out to drinks.... brah went too far... I know this is pretty beta asking for advice but i just want some other peoples opinions on what i should do - no sense charging into the fray without thinking.

anyways should i just confront him after class or something? the only thing making me hesitant is that it might be really really awkward for the rest of the semester in class.


suggestions please, thanks.

So just pull him aside, man to man, and tell him what's up... That sht's not cool, it's disrespectful, and he needs to find another bitch to hit on. If he keeps it up, then you told him - if you wanna smash on him that's your call.

You don't have to beat his ass or anything..He probably jerks off thinking about something you get to nail every night. That's satisfaction enough.. but I mean, ultimately your girl isn't going anywhere from what it sounds like, and if she does, then she's a whore and you can just catch them leaving the bar and axe the living fck out of both of them.

Face it brah, serial killers get publicity. You'll be famous in NO TIME, and we all know how much bitches love the famous pplz.

[GainThis]

any update OP?