Advice!!!! Speachless!

kitkatbarr1 · 07-31-2009, 06:20 PM

Ok so here it goes....I have been so focused and motivated for months and it seemed to be causing conflits with many of my relationships! I have slacked off some on the diet because of this. None of my friends and family agree with my goals. I was told that my focus on my goals was taking up too much of my time.
What do you say when someone says "I'm proud of you for not getting up and working out this morning"? Another thing that hurts is when you're told that your progress is to the negative in their opinion...such as "your arms are scary...don't do that."
This and so much more has gotten me off track and discouraged! I feel depressed because of the cheating on my diet.
I have tried to explain how I enjoy working out and it makes me feel good. I have explained how I just want to be healthier and make healthier choices but....no one seems to understand.

I would love some advice on what to do!

Ok sorry for the rant...I'm through!

GtG-Army · 07-31-2009, 06:58 PM

So many people out there, my friends included are simply content with the mediocre and mundane. That's their right, but some of us have a drive to persevere, to push our mind and body to discover new limits in life. New limits to our own human spirit. We relish in the challenge and are never satisfied.
The truly successful people in this world are the ones who will not be outworked. Let them think what they want, just modestly nod your head and keep pushing. Your goals are your goals and no others. Only you can determine your own success!

"You have to do what others won't to achieve what others don't."

Now get the hell out there, pick your head up and keep going, and have some fun while you're at it! You look great!

kitkatbarr1 · 07-31-2009, 07:22 PM

Thank you so much! You are a great help!!! I will! Maybe one day they will understand! Lol! Thanks for the compliments too!

CFranzen1 · 08-01-2009, 02:58 PM

Do you have a balance in your life between personal relationships and your fitness lifestyle?

Some people will understand your drive to have a healthier, fitter body and lifestyle, but others not so much. I can remember when my mother-in-law told me I shouldn't do anymore squats because my vagina would fallout! And because I didn't agree with the diet she thought was a good diet for me, she also told me I wouldn't get pregnant and have any kids!....yeah, I understand the pressure. But, I stood my ground and you have too as well.

Keep moving forward with you goals, sooner or later they will get the picture or they won't, but don't let other people's reaction and opinion make you feel bad about your healthy lifestyle. Besides, most likely they are jealous of your drive and success.

kitkatbarr1 · 08-03-2009, 06:53 AM

Yes I try to have a nice balance. I workout before my family wakes up and take weekends off to spend with them.
Thank you for the advice and encouragement! It helps so much to have that support!!

I hope to be an inspiration to them one day...atleast encourage and show my kids how to live healthy lives! Thanks again

Shr3dJunki3 · 08-04-2009, 05:59 AM

Those of us who actually do workout and diet usually have way fewer health problems than the rest of our families. It may just be a generality but I've consistently seen this to be true. The same people that criticize us are also usually the ones with diabetes, high cholesterol, mild obesity, and they wonder why they get those things...just keep doing what you do, even though it is hard at times.

h4ndic4pd · 08-04-2009, 06:40 AM

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Originally Posted by kitkatbarr1

Yes I try to have a nice balance. I workout before my family wakes up and take weekends off to spend with them.
Thank you for the advice and encouragement! It helps so much to have that support!!

I hope to be an inspiration to them one day...atleast encourage and show my kids how to live healthy lives! Thanks again

Of course everything in moderation but I know what you mean. I began working out in January of this year and since then my professional and social life has kind of taken a back seat. The way I see it though I've spent 23 years neglecting my personal health and pursuing other things so whats one year off to really focus on myself physically, and so far I'm down 60 pounds! Aslong as youre relationships arent completely being destroyed cause you're being a fitness Nazi I really dont think its an issue. I find most the people who are upset with my new goals are people who are jealous because they cannot motivate themselves to achieve what I am.

Now stop slacking and best of luck!

roman209 · 08-04-2009, 07:38 AM

I have had all kinds of comments from people to discourage me, espically people that were most close. Its always those ones that you dwell on the most. Eventually the comments compound and you start to go down the road you are going down now.

Training is part of who you are - dont run from that because you can only ever be the best you that you can be. I found that when people understand the need to train goes deeper than the mirror, they are alot more accepting of the things you will do.

gottalift78 · 08-04-2009, 07:43 AM

The best thing to do is just take it in, then you use the negative vibe as motivation. I'm the youngest of a large family, and the moment I started to lift and build, all I heard was steroid this steroid that. They see my supplement on the fridge and claim that is why I look the way I do. Obviously they are wrong.It's my hard work, diet and 5 am wake up calls to lift and then run 5 miles. I take that type of **** and push harder. My uncle busted my balls so bad one night at a party that I pissed in a cup and handed it to him and said prove it..... **** got real after that.

Your entire life is going to be filled with people who don't want you to succeed, you either let that get to you and go down to their level, or you ignore it and become invincible.

lockdown45 · 08-04-2009, 05:43 PM

Out of everything bad comes something good. Emotions are definitely your greatest thing to utilize for motivation. Think about what you're accomplishing that they aren't. If someone sees fit to oppress you and mold you into what pleases them, you resist and continue to do what feels right. It isn't your loss if you're satisfied, and obviously wont help to become submissive.

johnderriLLL · 08-04-2009, 06:53 PM

when people tell u to quit thats when u know you are making real progress. there has to be more to life than just eating and sleeping and working. ive lost 102 pounds so far, i hear all kinds of talk.

all of a sudden(ive been doing this for 3 and a half years) with in the past month some of my friends tell me ive been talking about working out and losing weight too much. they tell me to quit talking about it. i know im on the verge of changing my life and theres nothing they can do to stop me.

i have mixed feelings when it comes to family and friends support. i think they thought when i was fat that there was nothing wrong with me to begin with. but i would really like their support.

you could also try telling them when they talk to you like that it hurts your feelings and you dont like it. dont let them over step their boundarys. you have to stand up for your self if u dont no one else will.

the moral of the story is dont let any one change you. if u want to change do it for your self.

nakedsnake · 08-04-2009, 06:56 PM

you gotta do this for yourself girl. when you go to workout, it's your time to work on you.
just because you have a family doesn't mean you should feel guilty for spending time on yourself, especially with the way you are working around it. hell, they should be cheering you on! just keep doing what you're doing, don't let it get to you.