Is Porn Cheating?

[MystOne]

Originally Posted by brasileira

i don't think its cheating...but if my husband did that id be hurt. if your bf really cares about you he would stop if you asked him to

easier said than done haha..my fiance knows im an addict

[Luv_Ta_Lift]

Originally Posted by cdkisner

Is Porn Cheating?

I need some help here ladies. I have a serious problem with my BF looking at porn. It kills me that he wants to look at naked women other than me. It makes me feel unwanted and unattractive. And then when he comes to me for intimacy, it makes me feel used, like I'm getting sloppy seconds. I feel like I should be enough to fulfill his desires and he shouldn't need to look elsewhere. I certainly don't.

Does anyone else feel this way, or am I just crazy?

No porn isnt cheating. I mean its one way to liven up the sex life wit ur partner..... IMO

[JAWS22]

Originally Posted by Luv_Ta_Lift

No porn isnt cheating. I mean its one way to liven up the sex life wit ur partner..... IMO

Not when I call out OH DONNA! When I bust. Sorry about last night, take me back?

[gingerbabe]

I don't think porn is cheating, but it depends on how much the porn is affecting his life and your relationship as a couple, along with your sex life.

I just might be bothered by it depending on what type of porn he's watching. I found out that my BF was watching a video of a girl masturbating/having a orgasm while hanging from a noose with a bag over her head. It disturbed me, it was a big turn-off. I don't want to have sex with him anymore...am I CRAZY???

I dont' think it's cheating, but porn can't paint unreasonable pictures and roles for us normal women to fulfill.

[hsmosny]

porn is just a fantasy my bf doesnt watch porn but if he did it would be fine with me. it doesnt change the love he has for me. i honestly would rather him watch it and masterbate then go find someone else to have sex with because im at work or not in the mood.

[dunkonu9]

Originally Posted by hsmosny

porn is just a fantasy my bf doesnt watch porn but if he did it would be fine with me. it doesnt change the love he has for me. i honestly would rather him watch it and masterbate then go find someone else to have sex with because im at work or not in the mood.

If he has internet he has watched porn.

[parsnip1965]

Originally Posted by gingerbabe

I found out that my BF was watching a video of a girl masturbating/having a orgasm while hanging from a noose with a bag over her head. It disturbed me, it was a big turn-off. I don't want to have sex with him anymore...am I CRAZY???

No, you're not crazy. That would creep me out. Too many people have died from autoerotic asphyxiation.

[hsmosny]

Originally Posted by dunkonu9

If he has internet he has watched porn.

im not saying he hasnt watched porn in the past he doesnt now is all im saying and if he does its fine with me

[city_of_frogs]

my ex and i were living together and he would sneak porn onto his phone, go the the bathroom and 'have a shower'... and when i asked him about the quite obvious sounds i was hearing, he blamed it on our room mate... this hurt and effectively had me withdraw from sex all together.

i think if you're living with them and see them frequently, then he shouldn't need porn, and if he does, he should involve you so you can benefit from it too.

if you're not with each other every day, and he has his male desires during the week, then i think its ok.

they're not looking at the girls, they're looking at the nitty gritty

[pie89]

Originally Posted by aneas

How do you see the porn with a bag over your head?

LOL wut.
re read/

[pie89]

Originally Posted by aneas

lmao I see it now. See my title Grammar Fool. I also have reading comp problems. I got issues.

ha sorry

[TNetz]

Porn is good. It stimulates the mind and raises the heart beat. If you're a proode, or just not that into sex, than the guy will look for alternatives.

Try giving it up more often!

That said, if he's paying for porn, he has a problem in my opinion. Porn > $$= problem.

[X-ring]

Originally Posted by erinlee01

Porn isn't the issue - the men are. You can take away the porn and something else will replace it. I also would have to say that the number of men that get "hooked" on it to the point that it harms relationships is small compared to the number of men who watch porn.

Well said.... that's why there's guns, boats and power toolz for me!

[rumple39]

Originally Posted by cdkisner

I need some help here ladies. I have a serious problem with my BF looking at porn. It kills me that he wants to look at naked women other than me. It makes me feel unwanted and unattractive. And then when he comes to me for intimacy, it makes me feel used, like I'm getting sloppy seconds. I feel like I should be enough to fulfill his desires and he shouldn't need to look elsewhere. I certainly don't.

Does anyone else feel this way, or am I just crazy?

Your not crazy. My husband buys magazines and he likes to watch porn while we have play nite. I used to get upset because I felt the way you do. Like I was not good enough, or he wanted to blonde with the fake boobs, well I learned over time, that if he wanted that then he can go find it, well we have been together for 22 years and I now watch them with him and I found it excites me and our play time is more intense. It is not that he thinks you are not good enough, it is just the nature of man. Try and watch them once and it just might make yuor relationship hotter!!

[pie89]

i watch porn, but i would still be jealous if my boyfriend did

[pie89]

Originally Posted by aneas

He is a dude there is no "IF".

lol
shh

[parsnip1965]

Originally Posted by city_of_frogs

my ex and i were living together and he would sneak porn onto his phone, go the the bathroom and 'have a shower'... and when i asked him about the quite obvious sounds i was hearing, he blamed it on our room mate... this hurt and effectively had me withdraw from sex all together.

i think if you're living with them and see them frequently, then he shouldn't need porn, and if he does, he should involve you so you can benefit from it too.

if you're not with each other every day, and he has his male desires during the week, then i think its ok.

they're not looking at the girls, they're looking at the nitty gritty

I can see why he's your ex. Masturbation is natural. In most couples, both people are well aware of that and they may "help" each other masturbate or incorporate it into their sex play. A guy who instead lies about it and blames your roommate for the sounds he's making has hangups I can't even begin to address.

[halogenic]

My wife watches porn. When we had it on cable she would have in running all day and all night. It gets a bit brain numbing after awhile, but it doesn't bother me

[parsnip1965]

Originally Posted by halogenic

My wife watches porn. When we had it on cable she would have in running all day and all night. It gets a bit brain numbing after awhile, but it doesn't bother me

Funny. That would drive me nuts. There is nothing less sexy than being sexually stimulated *all* the time.

[halogenic]

Originally Posted by parsnip1965

Funny. That would drive me nuts. There is nothing less sexy than being sexually stimulated *all* the time.

Yeah as I said it's brain-numbing, even if you're not watching, just to have it running constantly in the background. Personally I can't sit still longer than 15 minutes to watch any kind of TV. Which annoys the hell out of my wife

[KyleAaron]

Having porn on all the time... man... That reminds me of when I worked catering and would have to make 120 litres of soup. We'd blend it up with this 5 foot long mixer - it's the mixer Ahnold would have if he were a chef.

When you see 120 litres of soup, it doesn't look like food anymore. You don't feel hungry looking at it. It's like paint or something.

Porn's gotta be the same, surely.

[RebeccaG]

Originally Posted by KyleAaron

Having porn on all the time... man... That reminds me of when I worked catering and would have to make 120 litres of soup. We'd blend it up with this 5 foot long mixer - it's the mixer Ahnold would have if he were a chef.

When you see 120 litres of soup, it doesn't look like food anymore. You don't feel hungry looking at it. It's like paint or something.

Porn's gotta be the same, surely.

Haha!

Nice analogy!

[dust1984]

Pron has save me so much money and serious fights. My wife is NOT cool with me going to the strip clubs. It's not that I want to cheat, I want to see. If you took pron and strip clubs away from me.... I'd be a single dude. My wife isn't cool with pron by any means unless she's watching too. That only happened once... I heard her say "EEWWWW!" and tha was all she wrote for me! I think that's part of the reason girls don't want us watching b/c we'll get crazy AWESOME idea's they want nothing to do with! But we end up guilting....

[TrulyUres777]

Originally Posted by cdkisner

I need some help here ladies. I have a serious problem with my BF looking at porn. It kills me that he wants to look at naked women other than me. It makes me feel unwanted and unattractive. And then when he comes to me for intimacy, it makes me feel used, like I'm getting sloppy seconds. I feel like I should be enough to fulfill his desires and he shouldn't need to look elsewhere. I certainly don't.

Does anyone else feel this way, or am I just crazy?

If you love him and he loves you then talk to him. Let him know what bother's you and address the issue. After that, just settle it from there. I'm sure he'll listen. If you feel like it's cheating then speak up. Sometimes you can't help feeling the way you do. BTW: You're beautiful so don't be insecure

[Hunterchilla]

I dont know if anyone has mentioned this because I did not read the whole thread..

When I had a girlfriend and everything was fine in the sexual department I never looked at porn. I would have sex with my girlfriend if I got horny and that would be more then anything I could ask for.

However, we stopped having sex as often as we did, and I started to watch porn to make up for the lack of sex.

Also before my girlfriend was never into anal sex, and I used to watch alot of anal porn. She was not into it, so once in a while I watched anal porn. She finally got into it, and then no more porn.

So it definately correlates to the relationship with your girl.


Also, if your watching porn all the time it definately means that your girlfriend is not completely satisfying you. Out of my guy friends, the ones who have told me they watch porn ontop of their sexual relationships with their girl friends were more likeley to cheat, as opposed to the other side.

When a girl is completely satisifying their man sexually a man will still watch porn, but if the man is watching porn regularly then the girl is not satisfying his needs. Not that he will cheat but it he needs to let his hornyness out somehow!

[Zoo_York]

If a guy dosn't look at porn, thats ****ing strange

[RebeccaG]

Originally Posted by Hunterchilla

When a girl is completely satisifying their man sexually a man will still watch porn, but if the man is watching porn regularly then the girl is not satisfying his needs. Not that he will cheat but it he needs to let his hornyness out somehow!

Oh, you poor, poor men with all your pent up hornyness!

Must be so hard for you, fellers, when the womenz aren't doing their job. Sit down, let me make you a sammich and you can tell me all about it.

There, there dear.

[missintent]

My boyfriend and I talked about this last night. I told him that I think porn is just a fantasy, and is somewhat similar to women who love watching romance films. It's a fantasy, an idealization on real life. Sex and love isn't really like what we see on TV or in books, and it doesn't become a problem until we expect that.

A guy who expects his SO to be like a girl in a porno is just as harmful to his SO as a girl who expects her SO to be like the men in romance movies. Those are two dimensional characters, they lack the depth that make relationships real.

However, most people can watch that fantasy for an hour or two and then go about life happy with who they have. Fantasies only become a problem when we crave them over contact with real people.

[BrotherWolf]

Originally Posted by missintent

My boyfriend and I talked about this last night. I told him that I think porn is just a fantasy, and is somewhat similar to women who love watching romance films. It's a fantasy, an idealization on real life. Sex and love isn't really like what we see on TV or in books, and it doesn't become a problem until we expect that.

A guy who expects his SO to be like a girl in a porno is just as harmful to his SO as a girl who expects her SO to be like the men in romance movies. Those are two dimensional characters, they lack the depth that make relationships real.

However, most people can watch that fantasy for an hour or two and then go about life happy with who they have. Fantasies only become a problem when we crave them over contact with real people.

In 10 pages of this thread this is the best post, you're right on !

[katedawg]

I actually used to really hate that my boyfriend would look at porn. I don't think I'm an ugly girl but i don't have the "look" of girls in those movies. And I'm not trying to offend anyone I just mean I don't have big fake boobs, bleach blonde hair, and i don't wear a pound of make up, which i'm just saying that's not me. I used to get self conscious and think that if he was looking at porn he must want girls that look like that, he must not be happy with me. But I talked to him about it and he explained that when a man is watching porn it's about the act, the act of sex turns them on, it's not about what the girl looks like it's just for stimulation. Once he explained that I felt a lot better about it. I even have watched it with him a few times. :x I know diffferent situations are different but I think you should stay open minded, I would rather him look at girls online and be done with it then be out actually sleeping with them, there is a big difference! Which now that we have been together longer and we are together a lot more, he doesn't really look at it too much anymore, which i'm not sad about lol! hope that helps