GF has a Problem -- Me Not Cuddling After Sex - Page 3

justanothagirl · 03-06-2009, 10:21 AM

its also nice to just sorta hold hands or something while just sleeping nxt to each other.

bben147 · 03-06-2009, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by justanothagirl

its also nice to just sorta hold hands or something while just sleeping nxt to each other.

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

illbleed · 03-06-2009, 12:13 PM

My point is, I think every woman knows that on some level she is being used for sex by a man. I guess I have to at least treat it like it's more than just me taking care of my natural male urges. I choose to do it with one woman; that is, I would like her to take care of my needs and I will try to accommodate her's. In fact, I'm sure that most women know that men use them for sex. What I do not understand is the need to sugar coat things for women and make it seem sweet and romantic when in fact, there is almost no difference between having sex with a woman you love and having sex with a woman, period. The love is something a man feels for the mind anyway, if it's actually love (not lust). Sex is purely physical to me. The pussy remains the same prior to and after love. And love, in my opinion, is enjoying being around the person to a high degree. So following that logic, a man will fall in love with a woman after he starts having sex with her. But women want love before sex. How can anyone expect these two creatures to get along? *shakes head*

Deja · 03-06-2009, 12:19 PM

pimpin' ain't easy -- the act of having sex is "love" how is that not constitute romance? use some foreplay and don't jump the gun/let suspense build, if she doesn't initiate she likely doesn't feel deprived of love/emotion.

being bland is very "unspecial"

tonytunes · 07-08-2009, 03:01 AM

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Originally Posted by _dopamine_

u dont eat??

damn i get hungry afterwards

hell yeah. that **** make ur both hungry and thirsty.

210RobinHood · 07-08-2009, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by SpiderSense

Ugh you're laying there covered in sweat then are supposed to hug up on a chick that's also covered in sweat? Rather just ****, **** in the shower, then cuddle even though that will probably lead to sex again and back to square one.

This ^. Cuddling leads to sex. If your done having sex there's no more need cuddle unless you're looking for round 2, 3, or 10

shitbrickhouse · 07-08-2009, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by tonytunes

hell yeah. that **** make ur both hungry and thirsty.

whenever someone bumps an old thrad, i always wonder, did he search "cuddling" or had he subscribed to this cuddling thrad or something???

LMK tonytunes.

healthierJ · 07-08-2009, 10:58 AM

Maybe she'll eventually learn it's just nature. Guys want to sleep after and girls want to cuddle and talk

BreesieBabby · 07-09-2009, 12:50 AM

strong bump...

but I sounded SMART!

lol that rarely happens

Fenno · 07-09-2009, 02:39 AM

Easily fixed just be a sex god and control yourself and go for hours til she falls asleep, finish then you dont have to worry bout cuddling

hipshimmy · 07-09-2009, 03:47 AM

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Originally Posted by healthierJ

Maybe she'll eventually learn it's just nature. Guys want to sleep after and girls want to cuddle and talk

Not everyone likes cuddling and talking after sex, but if your woman likes it, then do it. I think women just appreciate the effort. Just do something to show you are not just trying to bust your nut and go to sleep.

LeftNut · 07-09-2009, 04:24 AM

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Originally Posted by hipshimmy

Not everyone likes cuddling and talking after sex, but if your woman likes it, then do it. I think women just appreciate the effort. Just do something to show you are not just trying to bust your nut and go to sleep.

Again my question to this is why? How does "cuddling" help Women determine a differentiation of worth in an act that in its purest form is meant to be of higher esteem anyway?

There is no logical reasoning in value behind this little contrived behavioural condition....... you've (in a general sense, not you personally) just shared your body, your honour and a level of intimacy that is meant to be in and of itself of virtue with another human being whom you are in a relationship with. You've both during these relations have been as close to each other and being as one as is humanly possible but yet you need a "cuddle" at the end from him to show you that he cares? Wtf?

A "cuddle" is nothing more than a form of placating to a females ego/guilt. Its delusional for anyone to honestly think "cuddling" is going to make a blind bit of difference between casual sex and sex in a relationship.

Tiffany Wantsmore · 07-09-2009, 05:00 AM

It's not only women. I've got up after sex before, only to have the guy say in surpise "don't you want to cuddle?" and then having to get back inthere and do it. I agree it is mostly women though, and also you're right, it's to make them feel you didn't just use them for sex. Its a shame that women do feel that though, but not surprising considering how many times I see written here "hit it and quit it" or, in the case of a break up, "f*ck her best friend" which is, of course, clearly only using women for sex. You can't blame us really.

LovesMuscles · 07-09-2009, 10:16 AM

If she's your gf, then she's going to want it. It's an emotional thing for her I guess :/

She'll probably find someone who does if you don't...

Casual sex I wouldn't understand but he clearly said GF.

I didn't want to. He wasn't great at what he did anyway.

mydawgs · 07-09-2009, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by LeftNut

Again my question to this is why? How does "cuddling" help Women determine a differentiation of worth in an act that in its purest form is meant to be of higher esteem anyway?

There is no logical reasoning in value behind this little contrived behavioural condition....... you've (in a general sense, not you personally) just shared your body, your honour and a level of intimacy that is meant to be in and of itself of virtue with another human being whom you are in a relationship with. You've both during these relations have been as close to each other and being as one as is humanly possible but yet you need a "cuddle" at the end from him to show you that he cares? Wtf?

A "cuddle" is nothing more than a form of placating to a females ego/guilt. Its delusional for anyone to honestly think "cuddling" is going to make a blind bit of difference between casual sex and sex in a relationship.

And if you can't follow this logic, some people (like my husband) are just too freekin hot....cuddling with him is like being in a suana...really

skier_ · 07-09-2009, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by TinaBee

Just reach your hand over and rest it on her body somewhere. You don't have to full on spoon her or anything. She just wants to feel connected to you. Girls are like that.

This.

skier_ · 07-09-2009, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by LeftNut

Again my question to this is why? How does "cuddling" help Women determine a differentiation of worth in an act that in its purest form is meant to be of higher esteem anyway?

There is no logical reasoning in value behind this little contrived behavioural condition....... you've (in a general sense, not you personally) just shared your body, your honour and a level of intimacy that is meant to be in and of itself of virtue with another human being whom you are in a relationship with. You've both during these relations have been as close to each other and being as one as is humanly possible but yet you need a "cuddle" at the end from him to show you that he cares? Wtf?

A "cuddle" is nothing more than a form of placating to a females ego/guilt. Its delusional for anyone to honestly think "cuddling" is going to make a blind bit of difference between casual sex and sex in a relationship.

We like it? Does there really have to be a big reason?

FKAri · 07-09-2009, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by illbleed

My point is, I think every woman knows that on some level she is being used for sex by a man. I guess I have to at least treat it like it's more than just me taking care of my natural male urges. I choose to do it with one woman; that is, I would like her to take care of my needs and I will try to accommodate her's. In fact, I'm sure that most women know that men use them for sex. What I do not understand is the need to sugar coat things for women and make it seem sweet and romantic when in fact, there is almost no difference between having sex with a woman you love and having sex with a woman, period. The love is something a man feels for the mind anyway, if it's actually love (not lust). Sex is purely physical to me. The pussy remains the same prior to and after love. And love, in my opinion, is enjoying being around the person to a high degree. So following that logic, a man will fall in love with a woman after he starts having sex with her. But women want love before sex. How can anyone expect these two creatures to get along? *shakes head*

Are you serious? You still have this mentality at 22? Then you haven't met anyone who youve actually cared for. Granted theres gonna be some girls you are attracted to or sleeping with that you dont enjoy being around but Ive also enjoyed being around many girls who I wasnt in love with.

Just cuz u like being around em doesnt mean you love em. You gotta actually care for em.

darkshines · 07-09-2009, 11:22 AM

Just lay on your back and lay your arm out wherever she is. She'll just climb in there and then all you have to do is wrap your arm around her back or side or whatever.

Literally takes no effort and is very similar to how I sleep normally (on my back).

Plus it makes it very easy to initate 4am surprise sex.