stalker...

[Tinkerbell78]

Ok ladies little advice needed.

I got my self a membership at the local gym last week and today after my cardio session went to log off my workout and someone called Stuart had sent me a private message throught the system saying I LOVE YOU!

It really got me blood boiling as I had just started training at the gym. I've been a member for 5 days !!! and already someone was bogging me. Maybe I should be flattered but I am not. All I can think of is how the hell have they got my name since I dont know many people at the gym (people I know there, old gym buddies, know I am married but I dont think they even know my surname etc) and only been there for 5 days... Very quick action dont you think.

Also I just think that its weird to send private mgs to people saying I love you... If you are normal and fancy someone surely you go and talk to them and not start sending odd messages...

I was considering having a word with the staff but thought maybe I was over reacting. I just dont like the idea someone sending me msgs or stalking me at the gym. All I am therefore is to train hard and really could do without crap like this.

Oh and another thing... dont you girls love the looks you get when you step to big boys land (the free weight corner) The stares I have had this week, OMG!!!!! Thankfully I had some old gym buddies there who were welcoming me back. One even said you must been having kids !! No ****, does it show

So girls, opinions. Should I wait or see if I get more msgs or should I talk to the staff and maybe get my account blocked so I cant receive private msgs.

Ta!
Heli

[susanq7]

That's weird Heli, maybe the guy Stuart sent it by mistake or something? I would definitely say something to the gym staff if it's making you feel uncomfortable or he does it again. Weird behaviour I think.

That's cool you're getting on well in the gym, I can't wait to hit the weights section of my gym (it's full of hot guys) but at the moment, I'm a little weakling with the weights, trying to get stronger by doing Chalene Extreme and then I'll hit the weights section in the gym.

Susan

[chickeneater]

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell78

Oh and another thing... dont you girls love the looks you get when you step to big boys land (the free weight corner) The stares I have had this week, OMG!!!!!
Ta!
Heli

Not a girl I know, but this tickled my fancy.

I notice that when the women come over to the free weights, some have a comfortable look to them, and others have a look thats hard to explain. A chip on thier shoulder maybe? Like, they're thinking "yeah i'm here, whatta ya got to say about it."? It's like they're forcing themselves to have tunnel vision on the piece of iron they're going for and refuse to move thier face in any other direction, except thier eyes, and then they only look at you in your eyes to see if your'e looking at them. It's a bit amusing. Level of fitness/attractiveness doe'snt seem to matter in this scenario.

Then there's the women who sport the hot outfits and thrive on the attention, but thats another thread sometime, and I don't think you were talking about that.

I can see why they're paranoid, but if they only knew that the guys in the gym are very self centered and are constantly looking around subtley to see if other guys are glancing at them to pump up their ego (non homo). Oh, and if anything, are glancing at you to see if your'e glancing at them for thier ego...lol..no wonders so many people put on headphones and caps to avoid that whole thing.

As far as the "I love you" comment, I have no idea...lol..good luck!

[Tinkerbell78]

Originally Posted by chickeneater

Not a girl I know, but this tickled my fancy.

I notice that when the women come over to the free weights, some have a comfortable look to them, and others have a look thats hard to explain. A chip on thier shoulder maybe? Like, they're thinking "yeah i'm here, whatta ya got to say about it."? It's like they're forcing themselves to have tunnel vision on the piece of iron they're going for and refuse to move thier face in any other direction, except thier eyes, and then they only look at you in your eyes to see if your'e looking at them. It's a bit amusing. Level of fitness/attractiveness doe'snt seem to matter in this scenario.

Then there's the women who sport the hot outfits and thrive on the attention, but thats another thread sometime, and I don't think you were talking about that.

I can see why they're paranoid, but if they only knew that the guys in the gym are very self centered and are constantly looking around subtley to see if other guys are glancing at them to pump up their ego (non homo). Oh, and if anything, are glancing at you to see if your'e glancing at them for thier ego...lol..no wonders so many people put on headphones and caps to avoid that whole thing.

As far as the "I love you" comment, I have no idea...lol..good luck!

ha ha ... I have found out previously that you will have to earn your place in the "big boys corner"... if you train hard and stick to it, you'll soon get the same treatment as other blokes... "you somehow become one of them"

But since I've had two year break from the gym, I guess I have to earn my place again Most of the faces have changed but its so nice to get the welcoming smiles of the oldies, who know you are there to train and thats it.

I dont mind nor care if people look....(I sometimes have a sneaky peek, if there is something worth of looking but sending direct messages is odd and creepy. Thats just my opinion.

[kimm4]

How did this person send you a message...I'm not understanding that part? Has there been anymore since then...if not then let it go.

A stalker to me is someone that follows me everywhere I go...you know sits across from my house in their car watching my every more...but that's just me...

I go to the gym with my blinders on totally in my zone...I have no clue, no do I care what goes on around me.

I've said this time and time again when I read these kinds of threads. (yours is not the 1st) If you're taking time to notice every single stare you're getting at the gym...then I'm sorry you're not training hard enough...

[eglionz]

I'd just ignore it unless it continues. Lol does your gym have like computerized messaging or something btw? I'm confused.

If someone actually starts giving you problems my advice is head it off directly RIGHT away. Don't screw around if you have some romeo genuinely thinking he's in love with you and has a chance. I know some women are afraid to be mean but it's not mean to tell someone who is showing interest that you are married and not interested in them.

But I'd let one message slide personally.

[punxnotdead309]

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell78

Ok ladies little advice needed.

I got my self a membership at the local gym last week and today after my cardio session went to log off my workout and someone called Stuart had sent me a private message throught the system saying I LOVE YOU!

It really got me blood boiling as I had just started training at the gym. I've been a member for 5 days !!! and already someone was bogging me. Maybe I should be flattered but I am not. All I can think of is how the hell have they got my name since I dont know many people at the gym (people I know there, old gym buddies, know I am married but I dont think they even know my surname etc) and only been there for 5 days... Very quick action dont you think.

Also I just think that its weird to send private mgs to people saying I love you... If you are normal and fancy someone surely you go and talk to them and not start sending odd messages...

I was considering having a word with the staff but thought maybe I was over reacting. I just dont like the idea someone sending me msgs or stalking me at the gym. All I am therefore is to train hard and really could do without crap like this.

Oh and another thing... dont you girls love the looks you get when you step to big boys land (the free weight corner) The stares I have had this week, OMG!!!!! Thankfully I had some old gym buddies there who were welcoming me back. One even said you must been having kids !! No ****, does it show

So girls, opinions. Should I wait or see if I get more msgs or should I talk to the staff and maybe get my account blocked so I cant receive private msgs.

Ta!
Heli

I think you should advise staff if it becomes a perpetual thing, but it could have just been a trick. Who knows?
And as for the stalker thing, I know ALL about it. Well, from the outside looking in. My sister has a guy at the gym who's absolutely drooling over her. She told him blatantly that she wasn't interested, but he pursued her. Calls her every night, meets her at the gym, compliments her to NO end.
*Sighs* I'm so glad guys don't hit on me.

[unityed]

Yah thats odd lots of guys go to the gym and stair and the girls I watch the guys look at the girls like meat lol.

w/e I go to the gym and if there are girls running on a machine and I am on a machine facing them I feel like they all think I am looking at there asses when im not kinda makes me want to wait till they are done idk though I just start to panic when I think a girl thinks I am looking at them lol

[I_Fight_Boys]

With regards to the "I love you" message if it makes you feel uncomfortable then report it, you do not deserve to be made to feel this way by someone else no matter what their intentions are.

In terms of the "big boy corner" (good phrase by the way) I think it depends on the guys who are working out there. Most of the time I have no problem, occasionally someone will come up to me and give me tips like once a guy had heard that I had recently hurt my back and was just getting back to the gym and he told me how to tweak a few exercises so that it put less strain on it. Things like that I really appreciate. What I didn't appreciate though was the guy standing staring at me and when I asked if he was waiting for the bench he just says "No, that's ok I'm just watching you" Creepy!

[Tinkerbell78]

Originally Posted by kimm4

How did this person send you a message...I'm not understanding that part? Has there been anymore since then...if not then let it go.

A stalker to me is someone that follows me everywhere I go...you know sits across from my house in their car watching my every more...but that's just me...

I go to the gym with my blinders on totally in my zone...I have no clue, no do I care what goes on around me.

I've said this time and time again when I read these kinds of threads. (yours is not the 1st) If you're taking time to notice every single stare you're getting at the gym...then I'm sorry you're not training hard enough...

We've got these computerised logging systems with a key at our gym. You log in when you first arrive and your program etc is downloaded into your key which you can then take around to the machines. (saves you carrying a piece of paper with you I suppose) Anyhow no good for me as training in the free weights corner but when doing my cardio have to use the key to get machines working.When you finish you have to log off and you get all sorts of calculations of your exercises etc. I didnt even know you can send messages through them, maybe you can search through the members as everyone has to get their photo taken as an ID for the key.

Anyhow... I have no idea who this bloke could be, nor do I care to be honest so I am not encouraging him in any ways - if he would come and talk to me face to face I could politely tell him to p... off and the matter would be over and done with.

I will leave the matter for now and hopefully I wont receive further msgs, maybe someone just has a odd sense of humour and they thought they'll cheer up a fat bird's day by sending them a message (just a bit odd that you would have time to look through members and send them messages whilst at gym - and he must have been there same time as me as had no message when I arrived) Christ, it not like I am one of those gym bunnies in tight clothing with great body and immaculate make up. Nooo I am a mother of two, my youngest is 5 months so all is a bit wobbly and will take a good while to get myself into somekinda shape again. I am training hard (no time for chit chat), sweating like nobodys business and after my session I usually resemble beetroot as my face is sooo red so not a pretty sight!

Oh who knows...each to their own.. as long as they leave me in peace...

[MustangFanatic0]

heh i wouldnt sweat it much, think of it as lifes funny entertaining moments,

better it be a complement than something negative said

[gypsie77]

Perhaps it's some young man that just has a crush on you. I wouldn't sweat it too much. If you continue to get messages that make you uncomfortable, then you might want to say some thing to management.

As for the "big boys corner", I know what you mean. It was a bit intimidating for me initially, but now I've become a regular. If I catch someone staring, I just take it as a compliment and keep it moving. I do have a few obvious admirers. Thank goodness for my training partner (aka Ipod). It allows me to be in my own little world.

[IronMom]

I was gonna start a thread similar to this. Well regarding your issue, I would be watching my back if I were you. Don't go to the gym at night, make sure you park towards the front. Always know who is around you as you are walking out to your car. This is down right creeeeepy. Definately talk to the staff! You gotta know how this person got your name, this is serious. That's crazy! If this is not resolved, I'd be thinking of changing gyms. I'm just sayin', IMHO.

I'll start my thread in a minute.

[chickeneater]

it sux that you girls have to be on the look out for wierdos.

I guess theres a thin line between wanting and not wanting a guy to check you out.