Gay Wedding

[iamtheawesome]

Yes

I have no problem with gays getting married, and I always have a blast at weddings.

[Fifth Column]

You'd need a wheelbarrow and bottle of chloroform to get me to attend ANY wedding, period. Gay or otherwise.

[Beeewbs]

Originally Posted by N_nam

If you guys had a cousin, a friend or someone that was planning to marry a guy and you were invited to the wedding, would you go? Or because of how you feel you wouldnt attend? Just curious what would be you reaction.

I would go and be happy for them. I'm actually surprised at the results of this poll so far, given the general homophobic tones that are usually quite rampant around here.

[Beeewbs]

Originally Posted by ryan250

Don't bother my ass one bit, just as long as they don't adopt.

And why not? And before you give me some ignorant answer:



http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/publicati...lgparents.html

Beliefs that lesbian and gay adults are not fit parents likewise have no empirical foundation (Anderssen, Amlie, & Ytteroy, 2002; Brewaeys & van Hall, 1997; Parks, 1998; Patterson, 2000; Patterson & Chan, 1996; Perrin, 2002; Stacey & Biblarz, 2001; Tasker, 1999; Victor & Fish, 1995). Lesbian and heterosexual women have not been found to differ markedly either in their overall mental health or in their approaches to child rearing (Bos et al., 2004; Kweskin & Cook, 1982; Lyons, 1983; Miller, Jacobsen, & Bigner, 1981; Mucklow & Phelan, 1979; Pagelow, 1980; Parks, 1998; Patterson, 2001; Rand, Graham, & Rawlings, 1982; Siegenthaler & Bigner, 2000; Thompson, McCandless, & Strickland, 1971). Similarly, lesbians' romantic and sexual relationships with other women have not been found to detract from their ability to care for their children (Bos et al., 2004; Chan et al., 1998b; Pagelow, 1980). Lesbian couples who are parenting together have most often been found to divide household and family labor relatively evenly and to report satisfaction with their couple relationships (Bos et al., 2004; Brewaeys et al., 1997; Chan, et al., 1998a; Ciano-Boyce & Shelley-Sireci, 2002; Hand, 1991; Johnson & O'Connor, 2002; Koepke, Hare, & Moran, 1992; Osterweil, 1991; Patterson, 1995a; Sullivan, 1996; Tasker & Golombok, 1998; Vanfraussen, Ponjaert-Kristoffersen, & Brewaeys, 2003). Research on gay fathers likewise suggests that they are likely to divide the work involved in child care relatively evenly and that they are happy with their couple relationships (Johnson & O'Connor, 2002; McPherson, 1993).

The results of some studies suggest that lesbian mothers' and gay fathers' parenting skills may be superior to those of matched heterosexual couples. For instance, Flaks, Fischer, Masterpasqua, and Joseph (1995) reported that lesbian couples' parenting awareness skills were stronger than those of heterosexual couples. This was attributed to greater parenting awareness among lesbian nonbiological mothers than among heterosexual fathers. In one study, Brewaeys and her colleagues (1997) likewise reported more favorable patterns of parent-child interaction among lesbian as compared to heterosexual parents, but in another, they found greater similarities (Vanfraussen, Ponjaert-Kristoffersen, & Brewaeys, 2003). A recent study of 256 lesbian and gay parent families found that, in contrast to patterns characterizing the majority of American parents, very few lesbian and gay parents reported any use of physical punishment (such as spanking) as a disciplinary technique; instead, they were likely to report use of positive techniques such as reasoning (Johnson & O'Connor, 2002). Certainly, research has found no reasons to believe lesbian mothers or gay fathers to be unfit parents (Armesto, 2002; Barret & Robinson, 1990; Bigner & Bozett, 1990; Bigner & Jacobsen, 1989a, 1989b; Bos et al., 2003, 2004; Bozett, 1980, 1989; Patterson, 1997; Patterson & Chan, 1996; Sbordone, 1993; Tasker & Golombok, 1997; Victor & Fish, 1995; Weston, 1991). On the contrary, results of research suggest that lesbian and gay parents are as likely as heterosexual parents to provide supportive home environments for children.

http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/publicati...pchildren.html

Concerns that children of lesbian or gay parents are more likely than children of heterosexual parents to be sexually abused have also been addressed. Results of work in this area reveal that the great majority of adults who perpetrate sexual abuse are male; sexual abuse of children by adult women is extremely rare (Finkelhor & Russell, 1984; Jones & McFarlane, 1980; Sarafino, 1979). Moreover, the overwhelming majority of child sexual abuse cases involve an adult male abusing a young female (Jenny, Roesler, & Poyer, 1994; Jones & McFarlane, 1980).


A number of investigators have also studied a third component of sexual identity, sexual orientation (Bailey, Bobrow, Wolfe, & Mickach, 1995; Bozett, 1980, 1987, 1989; Gottman, 1990; Golombok & Tasker, 1996; Green, 1978; Huggins, 1989; Miller, 1979; Paul, 1986; Rees, 1979; Tasker & Golombok, 1997). In all studies, the great majority of offspring of both lesbian mothers and gay fathers described themselves as heterosexual. Taken together, the data do not suggest elevated rates of homosexuality among the offspring of lesbian or gay parents.


Results of research to date suggest that children of lesbian and gay parents have positive relationships with peers and that their relationships with adults of both sexes are also satisfactory. The picture of lesbian mothers' children that emerges is one of general engagement in social life with peers, with fathers, with grandparents, and with mothers' adult friends-both male and female, both heterosexual and homosexual. Fears about children of lesbians and gay men being sexually abused by adults, ostracized by peers, or isolated in single-sex lesbian or gay communities have received no support from the results of existing research.

http://aappolicy.aappublications.org...rics;109/2/339

Children who are born to or adopted by 1 member of a same-sex couple deserve the security of 2 legally recognized parents. Therefore, the American Academy of Pediatrics supports legislative and legal efforts to provide the possibility of adoption of the child by the second parent or coparent in these families.

Children deserve to know that their relationships with both of their parents are stable and legally recognized. This applies to all children, whether their parents are of the same or opposite sex. The American Academy of Pediatrics recognizes that a considerable body of professional literature provides evidence that children with parents who are homosexual can have the same advantages and the same expectations for health, adjustment, and development as can children whose parents are heterosexual.1?9 When 2 adults participate in parenting a child, they and the child deserve the serenity that comes with legal recognition.

Children born or adopted into families headed by partners who are of the same sex usually have only 1 biologic or adoptive legal parent. The other partner in a parental role is called the "coparent" or "second parent." Because these families and children need the permanence and security that are provided by having 2 fully sanctioned and legally defined parents, the Academy supports the legal adoption of children by coparents or second parents. Denying legal parent status through adoption to coparents or second parents prevents these children from enjoying the psychologic and legal security that comes from having 2 willing, capable, and loving parents.

[get.set.go]

i'd go and be fine with it.


i dont have a problem with gays adopting either. they'd have to go through all the background checks like straight couples and to be honest theres so many single parent families around the fact their both the same gender shouldnt matter that much. Also im sure it'd be better for the kid to be raised in a gay household than in an orphanage

[muscleman420]

I would go and i would have a FABULOUS time!

[thegenerel]

if you went, it would require a "hi my name is" tag with "no homo" below. otherwise youd get railed in the bathroom

[DunDeedIt]

The average gay wedding probably has more fine wiman guests than the straight ones.

Also less straight dudes.

Chances to hook up (no homo) at the party with some fine wumanz are therefore better.

Conclusion: You should go... or else you're the phag.




(opposite if lesbians)

[thecole111]

wouldnt miss it for the world...its not like everyday we get to see a gay wedding, so GO!

[Barbarian440]

Free food man. Just buy them a ****ty blender for 20 bucks and scarf down all the shrimp. That's what I'd do at a hetero wedding.

[WickedMind]

Originally Posted by kvkx1111

lol if any one in my family/extended family tried to have a gay wedding they'd be disowned.

aren't you the one who jacked off on camera for a gay website? How'd that go over with the fam?

[TripleTrouble]

No problem with it. Im not one of those sensitive, angry homophobes. So i wouldnt give a sh*t who is marrying, as long as i have a good time (no homo)

[Messiahtype]

Food + drinks that I'm not paying for? Sure.

I've been to tons of my friends weddings where they married raging controlling ugly bridezilla bitches. I certainly don't "agree" with those unions, but it's their choice.


Same deal here.

[1.8Tsunami]

Originally Posted by ryan250

Don't bother my ass one bit, just as long as they don't adopt.

yeah, those kids are better off living w/ crack head mom's that whore themsleves out for a piece of nose candy

/sarcasm

[richard_20]

free drinks+food
whats not to love

[Mike-anon]

What does a gay horse eat?







HaaAAaaAAAyYYY!!!

(no homo)

To the thread. Of course I'd go, it doesn't bother me, and weddings are fun.

[krocknw]

would not attend

[skier_]

Attend and be happy for them. Though like anyone else if it was before they were 30, I might think they are making a mistake.

[N_nam]

Hmmm interesting poll. Its nice to see half would go in good spirits, and 3 out of 10 would boycott, unfortunately.
But considering:
-the amount of hot women there
-the fact your abscene wont change the outcome
-and the relationship thereafter will be forever tainted
you 30% have strong convictions that clearly wont be swayed even for their happy day.

I actually have never been to one. I hear they are TONS of fun though.

[kyle1867]

Originally Posted by Shike

So let's see. This wedding will be filled with women, probably some hotties, and a bunch of dudes that are into dudes. Sounds like almost a guarentee that you can pick up a chick, where do I sign up?

the logic is strong in this one... id go to a gay wedding, beer, no competition for the single ladies and free fashion advice. cant lose really

[bhujerban]

Originally Posted by scrace

i'd go, who am i to judge them, plus free food.

This, definitely. Besides that, you get to see two guys kiss. HAWT!