Friends on "diets" and how it can be annoying.

[bouncingpuka]

Originally Posted by FameGirl

I HATE when other women are like "oh omg you're so lucky... you look great" etc.

LUCKY!? I work my ass off! I hate when people assume that I go home and eat mcdonalds and just magically stay in shape.

^^^^THIS^^^^ I get this sooo much, like I just put my feet up, twiddle my thimbs, sit on my butt all day, and POOF, the biceps pop up.....geez.....

I think the main problem is that people STILL don't get that 'diet' is a way of LIFE, it's a lifestyle, NOT a 30 day whatever....the whole forma mentis needs to change.....

[vanillabn]

Originally Posted by hmotb555

Oh goodness isn't it upsetting?! So my friend has a few health issues and she is so excited because apparently she eats 900 calories a day and she has lost weight and I'm trying to explain to her that she's eating too little....I mean she weighs well over 200lbs. But she just keeps saying "well it's working right now" and i'm like ya! because your body is crying for nutrients and sustenance! *sigh* and then on top of that she says some dietician told her it's ok for her to eat 900 cals a day and I'm like WTF!!!!

Yes, I have a coworker who is currently doing this. She is also well over 200lbs... and again, she got her diet plan from a DIETICIAN! I can't believe there's people out there that are supposedly professionals and are giving advice like that.... it makes me mad actually

[swindled]

Originally Posted by cassiegose

Shes done the rice and beans diet where she eats nothing but rice and beans for weeks....

My roommate does this alllll the time...she doesnt do it as a fad diet, she just doesnt know how to cook food..or how to eat properly. She is sooo sure that beans and rice have everything she needs to survive, then she wonders why she gets dizzy and tired at the gym. She rarely eats raw veggies (or just veggies in general...yet shes a vegetarian...), there is almost no complex carb intake (does weight watchers bread even count?? I say no!). The sad thing is, her doctor is no better...she went to the doctor and she told her not to lift heavy, because "she is not a sprint kayaker like her roommate"..... cuz I just woke up one day, and all of a sudden I had the muscle and bone mass I needed to sprint kayak....it didnt take me 2 workouts a day, everyday to get there.....

I have actually stopped going to the gym with my roommate, I love her, but I cant handle her quack doctor's comments anymore. And it frustrates the hell out of me, when I see her squatting 75lbs, when both her and I know she can do more weight no problem. I also have stopped being around the house when she eats, Im sick of nagging her about her intakes, when I know she isnt listening to me and isnt going to learn. So Im just going to have to wait until it blows up in her face... sad but true

[iflyjets]

Originally Posted by BuffedWildCat

Hehe. Get used to it. That's why most people in this world don't look the way we bodybuilders do. It's also the most frustrating part of my job as a personal trainer. People ask for the impossible. I tell them what to do, even write a diet for them, but do/will they stick to it, no, then they wonder why they're not getting the results they want. It's frustrating, I can't do it FOR them. And seeing as how your clients are part of your advertisement, yeah, even more frustrating when they don't listen to you and never make any significant physique changes, makes the PT look like a bad PT. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, teaching others HOW to reach their fitness goals, how to lift, but when it comes down to it, it's up to THEM to stick with exactly what I tell them in order to make the changes and most of the time that doesn't happen, at least not in the short year and a half that I trained clients (as in nobody stuck with what I told them long enough to see significant changes in their physiques). I will probably go back to it anyway after my kids both go to school, only because I just really enjoy educating people on how to reach their fitness goals.

Buffed... do you ever get frustrated about the fact that a lot of people don't stick to what you teach them? I designed a meal plan for my sister last week and I KNOW she hasn't looked at it since and that alone annoyed me. I've just always wondered if trainers ever get frustrated... almost like a waste of time, yet not completely because you ARE teaching them really good things but they're just not following through, but I look at some of the other trainers at my gym and they seem really bored and not engaged almost as if they know that maybe their client isn't serious about it??? I meet with a trainer once a week for now just to get a set plan and I've been tracking what I eat and working out based on previous work outs with him on my own but I know some people I see there only show up for their once a week session or whatever they pay for... I mean I know trainers get paid either way at the end of the day but still, if I were a trainer, I'd love to see someone really develop based on what I would teach them...just curious how you all handle that!!! Mad props

[eglionz]

Oh man, I had a roomie whose trainer told her she could eat 2200 calories a day and lose weight. Granted she was overweight (210 lbs) but I still think that number was way too high for her. She was largely sedentary and only went to the gym maybe twice a week (once a week with the trainer).

So she would just not eat for the whole day and then go through 1-2 pints of ice cream. Naturally, not eating anything but sugar just led to more binge eating. My fiance remembers one time she came home with two large pizzas and bread sticks and he was all excited because he figured she would offer him some... but she ate them all herself.

She gained 6% body fat in 3 months. Then she would just imply I must be anorexic because I was seeing very good results at the gym and staying away from junk food.

My fiance's mom is also a piece of work. She has gotten so large that she is disabled. She will change doctors if they imply her health problems are weight related. She wants the lap band or whatever. Thing is... her house is full of snacks, soda, candy... she eats out constantly. I'm worried she will die of malnutrition if she gets weight loss surgery because her eating habits are so poor.

I'm honestly at a point where I can't stand "fat talking" or diet talk and don't really hang out with the people I know who do it. =\

[jill7]

I am trying really hard to do what I'm supposed to do and eat right. But honestly until very recently I was in the 1200 calorie group and then I started researching more on here and elsewhere and I realized OMG I can't eat that little. I'm currently at about 1700 and I am only doing cardio because I'm really overwhelmed about lifting without a gym to go to and only 3 lb and 15 lb weights at my disposal. I will start lifting again after we move. But I really want to get to a place where I have a clean diet and good nutrition I tried counting macros today I got really confused. Maybe I'm just not doing things right. I have my husband constantly on my case about carbs and going on the atkins diet. I keep telling him that I couldn't stick to something like that long term. You ladies seem like you know what you're doing so any advice for this used to be dieter would be helpful.
But yeah about people who stuff themselves and claim to be trying thier best I know a lot of those. My daughter is one. I tell her I don't want to hear her tell me she's fat (which she isn't) as long as she keeps eating the way she does.

[eglionz]

Originally Posted by jill7

I have my husband constantly on my case about carbs and going on the atkins diet. I keep telling him that I couldn't stick to something like that long term.

Props that you know atkins wouldn't work for you. I found limiting my carbs to good carbs (natural foods, whole grains, berries) works very well. I don't even use artificial sweeteners anymore, although I have a cheat meal once a week and I usually get a diet soda with that.

Just be consistent and pay attention to what you eat. It's very easy to have a few cheats during the week, and while they don't seem like much at the time they can be the thing that keeps you from losing.

I'd also suggest you go by measurements more than just the number on the scale if you are lifting.

[jill7]

my measurements aren't budging either. well I lost a tiny tiny bit in one area like a sixteenth of an inch. I think it will get better once i move and get to the gym to do some crazy lifting

[cass22]

Reading these posts i've done nothing but nod my head, a friend of mine recently said I'm not gonna eat much now till saturday so I can look good for going out saturday night?! WTF or the latest of a close friend of mine " I think I might do the Cambridge Diet just for a week, so I can get some LBS off" OMG I'm by no means an expert but even when I try and give them basic advice I can literally see it going in one ear and out the other...

[jill7]

Yeah one of my friends told me that i should eat rice cakes, protein bars, and slim fast for a few weeks and then jump up to normal calories just to get things going. I mean it worked for her so the sad thing is that I listened until I got on here. It didn't do a damn thing for me by the way and I was starving and really cranky and tired.

[MustangFanatic0]

my mom is at 220 lbs and is 5ft 3 and is on the weight watchers diet. They dont encourage exercise and there point system doesnt include protien. So i see her eating mexican food and drinking diet cherry pepsi and she's eating salty baked chips in salsa. So i questioned her if she was still on her WW diet, and she got all upset at me and said as long as i count it.
My dad is worse, he just takes a diet pill and eats what ever he wants. he eats alot of snack food, PBand J at nights, he's just a heavy snacker and never exercises

My bf is having trouble giving up Mountain Dew and pizza, he eats nothing but fast food.
I thought it was so funny, he said he was on a diet and he was eating 3 chicken snackers w/o lettuce and mayo and some wedge cut fries with a v8.
Its hard for me to get a partner to exercise with. One thing about my bf is that he's pretty competitive, so maybe i can use that to my advantage..buahaha, he's suppose to work out with me sunday...so im getting excited about that.

[eglionz]

Junk food can be very hard to give up. It's addictive and companies spend millions to make sure you want to eat it.

My fiance is still really struggling but he is only going on about 10 days without copious amounts of junk food. I think if you can convince someone to go two weeks without eating junk they will find they crave it less.

Personally I get horrible headaches if I eat lots of sugar. I had a small bag of Jelly Belly candies on my last cheat day and my head hurt so bad that night.

Same thing two weeks prior on "donut" day. =(

[iKoniConSciencE]

*Starts obnoxiously guffawing*

This sounds like most of my friends. They always ask me for weight loss advice but then dismiss what they don't want to hear with, "Well, wait, you're also coming from a bodybuilder perspective!" I tell them things we all know on these forums like: eat a reasonable amount of food, do a reasonable amount of exercise (one that creates a 500-1,000 calorie deficit every day), strength train for fat loss, and no, weight lifting won't make you look like a competitive bodybuilder -- I am fairly certain we ALL want to say from time to time, "Honey, don't flatter yourself... it takes A LOT of dedication to be THIS chiseled; getting your behind into the gym to pump some iron will NOT make you look as muscular as I do without targeted workouts, proper diet, and extreme dedication." Being the kind, non-snarky person that I am, I always omit that last bit.

BuffedWildCat:
I, too, do some personal training. Clients can be so frustrating because they DO request the impossible and then whine when the impossible doesn't happen overnight. We're such an instant gratification nation. I've had clients quit on me before, which is a tiny bit disheartening but I get over it. One of them wrote me this long, elaborate letter about how she felt like she was dying when she trained with me, and two more just... disappeared. One of the ones who disappeared told me that she had a family emergency and then later said, "Please don't be angry with me, but I just don't have the willpower. I know you're thinking I'll be fat forever and that I must be a loser, but I just can't."

...yup, people like that are usually pretty down on themselves... I would NEVER hurl such accusations at anyone.

Jrzimmer - yeah I've seen the cookie diet... tsk tsk... it made me laugh hysterically when I saw these wafer thin wannabe cookies sitting on the rack at Walgreens next to the protein bars.

[swindled]

Originally Posted by iKoniConSciencE

and two more just... disappeared. One of the ones who disappeared told me that she had a family emergency and then later said, "Please don't be angry with me, but I just don't have the willpower. I know you're thinking I'll be fat forever and that I must be a loser, but I just can't."

...yup, people like that are usually pretty down on themselves... I would NEVER hurl such accusations at anyone.

Its really sad, because thats my mom's mindset about herself. She wants to lose the weight and get in shape, but she is afraid of going to the gym and letting people see her "fat". She will constantly find excuses not to go (granted she has a very busy job and she is very dedicated to it), but she always asks me to teach her how to do things at the gym and then never follows through on it. Any ideas how to get her motivated? I have tried almost everything, and I want to see her feel good about herself for once (after my dad died her self esteem really plummeted, and then she gained weight which made it worse). I really do want her to succeed, but she is so afraid of what other people think of her when she is at the gym, she wont even go to a personal trainer because of what they might think of her.

[Linds33]

Originally Posted by iKoniConSciencE

*Starts obnoxiously guffawing*

This sounds like most of my friends. They always ask me for weight loss advice but then dismiss what they don't want to hear with, "Well, wait, you're also coming from a bodybuilder perspective!" I tell them things we all know on these forums like: eat a reasonable amount of food, do a reasonable amount of exercise (one that creates a 500-1,000 calorie deficit every day), strength train for fat loss, and no, weight lifting won't make you look like a competitive bodybuilder -- I am fairly certain we ALL want to say from time to time, "Honey, don't flatter yourself... it takes A LOT of dedication to be THIS chiseled; getting your behind into the gym to pump some iron will NOT make you look as muscular as I do without targeted workouts, proper diet, and extreme dedication." Being the kind, non-snarky person that I am, I always omit that last bit.

BuffedWildCat:
I, too, do some personal training. Clients can be so frustrating because they DO request the impossible and then whine when the impossible doesn't happen overnight. We're such an instant gratification nation. I've had clients quit on me before, which is a tiny bit disheartening but I get over it. One of them wrote me this long, elaborate letter about how she felt like she was dying when she trained with me, and two more just... disappeared. One of the ones who disappeared told me that she had a family emergency and then later said, "Please don't be angry with me, but I just don't have the willpower. I know you're thinking I'll be fat forever and that I must be a loser, but I just can't."

...yup, people like that are usually pretty down on themselves... I would NEVER hurl such accusations at anyone.

Jrzimmer - yeah I've seen the cookie diet... tsk tsk... it made me laugh hysterically when I saw these wafer thin wannabe cookies sitting on the rack at Walgreens next to the protein bars.

These are the reasons why as much as I would love to become a personal trainer, I decided not to. Out of everyone i know who has done personal training their biggest complaint was this. People want to see results, they want it now and they don't want to work for it. Oh and if they don't get that they blame it on you!! One of my friends told me a story about his last client who was a younger girl in her 20's who would train with him, would tell him that she ate a perfect diet, but would then go out to the bars after and drink and eat about 500g of simple carbs a day and maybe 4000 calories!!

I thought about this thread yesterday at wal-mart. I was walking through the frozen section to get some frozen veggies and fruits when i saw a young girl and her boyfriend standing there. She was on the chubbier side (again not trying to be offensive here) and was talking about her diet to her boyfriend. She said something to him about how yesterday she was only allowed to eat 1200 calories, and then she proceeded to open the freezer door and filler her cart with lean cuisines. I wanted to stop right there and ambush her like the takehome chef, but it would be more like the takehome trainer/nutritionist. Are people seriously that lazy and unmotivated to loose weight that they don't even want to put the effort into cooking and really learning about their diets? Just because something has the word "lean" in it's title does not mean that eating it will cause you to become a lean mean sexy machine.

I work a 10 hour day and while my gym time can suffer from it, I ALWAYS make sure that i cook healthy clean meals for myself and my BF because i know how important diet is.

I also get the people who tell me that i am "soooo lucky" to be so thin. As a kid i could eat what i wanted and stay skinny, but as an adult it takes work for me to keep weight off. One time I was at costco buying a miriad of healthy foods and the girl at the checkout joked with me and said "you aren't allowed to leave until you buy something thats bad for you!" I get that a lot when i go to the grocery store.

[LittleDonkey]

There's a story on The Daily Beast today called "How Stars Slim Down"... apparently restricting your calories to 1200-1500/day or gastric bypass surgery is the way to go. Once you learn something about it, proper nutrition and healthy weight loss seem like common sense, but when the average person is being inundated with really crappy advice, it's hardly surprising that they'll try most any regime, no matter how counterintuitive its tenets.

[iKoniConSciencE]

I get the "you're so lucky" line from people who don't know any better, too, along with, "Well, look at your wrists! You're meant to be tiny!" (I beg to differ -- I am NOT meant to be tiny, nor am I actually tiny!)

The funniest thing has to be when I'm bustin' out the gun show (*LOL* I LOVE showing people my muscles... I worked hard for them! While I want even bigger, better guns, I'm pretty satisfied with what I've got!) and someone says, "Wow, do you work out?" Uh, no, I grew peaks and veins by sitting all day eating Cheetos, you silly girl.

I also get: "Did you used to work out or something?" because apparently, in my neck of the (back)woods, people stop working out after high school.

Linds33: I know exactly what you mean. I want to stop all people on "diets" and offer my legitimate help, but know they probably wouldn't follow it/care/listen to me.

[Yoghurt]

Originally Posted by Walk2liv

why do people do "30 day diets"? that doesn't make any sense to me.. I mean, I know why... but it's totally useless and pointless.

Reminds me of these:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_IYWi0S9u_j...lt+machine.jpg

[Yoghurt]

[QUOTE=Linds33: I know exactly what you mean. I want to stop all people on "diets" and offer my legitimate help, but know they probably wouldn't follow it/care/listen to me.[/QUOTE]

Thankfully, you're all kind enough to share how you got to where you are today on these forums. The n00bs here (like me!) appreciate your help!

/feels the love

[swindled]

Originally Posted by Linds33

I thought about this thread yesterday at wal-mart. I was walking through the frozen section to get some frozen veggies and fruits when i saw a young girl and her boyfriend standing there. She was on the chubbier side (again not trying to be offensive here) and was talking about her diet to her boyfriend. She said something to him about how yesterday she was only allowed to eat 1200 calories, and then she proceeded to open the freezer door and filler her cart with lean cuisines.

Lean Cuisines are soooo full of salt..its so bizarre in todays society. As soon as companies make something "healthy" they fill it full of salt. My mom used to buy lean cuisines too until I pointed out how much salt was in one of them.

And even though Im not a personal trainer I totally know what you mean when you want to give someone nutrition advice, it just seems like common sense but a lot of people dont seem to give common sense a thought.

[cfaith]

Originally Posted by FameGirl

I HATE when other women are like "oh omg you're so lucky... you look great" etc.

LUCKY!? I work my ass off! I hate when people assume that I go home and eat mcdonalds and just magically stay in shape.

Originally Posted by sthpadregrl

this is definitely a pet peeve for me......especially when they say...Just wait till you have kids, I'm like....yeah i have 2 and they are usually in some sport or another themselves.

i absolutely HATE the "you are so lucky"

Originally Posted by bouncingpuka

^^^^THIS^^^^ I get this sooo much, like I just put my feet up, twiddle my thimbs, sit on my butt all day, and POOF, the biceps pop up.....geez.....

I think the main problem is that people STILL don't get that 'diet' is a way of LIFE, it's a lifestyle, NOT a 30 day whatever....the whole forma mentis needs to change.....

hahaha....the harder I work the luckier I get!

[swindled]

I was watching a big expos? on the diet industry, and it is the only industry in the world that makes money off of failure. So many women try one diet, then it fails, so they go to another one...so on and so forth.

[iflyjets]

Originally Posted by swindled

I was watching a big expos? on the diet industry, and it is the only industry in the world that makes money off of failure. So many women try one diet, then it fails, so they go to another one...so on and so forth.

Yeah and I don't get it. All it takes is having the concept of eating clean explained to you and then if you TRULY think about it... it makes sense that eating natural/unprocessed foods with the right balances of carbs/protein/fats that it WOULD BE GOOD FOR YOU!

As someone else said in an earlier post... we're in a "quick fix nation"

[xwadeax]

I agree.. it's pretty annoyig seeing other on "diets," failing, complaining, trying the same crap over with a slight adjustment. I'm quite chunky myself, but I've never been one to "diet" then complain. I was reading a blog on another site, of a teenager, I think. She was complaining because someone told her "If you are truly dedicated to losing weight or changing your body, you will do it" Then went off on how she would diet, starve, lose the weight, then eat one or two things that were "bad" and gain it all back. "I didn't go back to my old habits, I don't understand!" It was ridiculous.. She considered that dedication. Refused to work out, by the way.

I hate to be the annoying newbie, but I've recently dedicated myself to changing my body. I'm looking to learn more about nutrition (not "dieting," but truly changing my diet for a life time) and working out. I started running nightly about 3 weeks ago, and I already have seen incredible improvements in my stamina and speed, it motivates me to do so much more. I would love to start weight lifting, but hardly have the time to go to a gym. It's literally 11.5 hours between my commute and work, 7 hours of sleep, plus two kids. I DO have free weights I've started using.. but as I've realised, I only know about 2 workouts per area!

Can someone help me? I need some good resources for nutrition, maybe some nutritious recipes (I love to cook, and my daughter like to help), and most definitely some resources/advice on workouts? You know, actual workouts, proper form, best way to acheive results (apart from the nutrition, of course!)

[Walk2liv]

My Store manager a couple months ago was tryin to lose weight -- cause her parents were visiting... random, anywho, she was drinkin "hydroxycut" the ones you could put in your water but also takin in a bunch of juices... ALSO -- she was takin CLA and some seaweed stuff?? said she was "workin out" everynight... I'd like to see how hard. and then she'd come in every morning with a sausage biscuit from mcdonalds... and she wonders why she wasn't gettin better results..I mean EVERY morning one or two sausage biscuits...

now she's stopped working out -- ate some papa johns the other day and is still takin the CLA hopin it'll help. ...

[Linds33]

Originally Posted by Walk2liv

My Store manager a couple months ago was tryin to lose weight -- cause her parents were visiting... random, anywho, she was drinkin "hydroxycut" the ones you could put in your water but also takin in a bunch of juices... ALSO -- she was takin CLA and some seaweed stuff?? said she was "workin out" everynight... I'd like to see how hard. and then she'd come in every morning with a sausage biscuit from mcdonalds... and she wonders why she wasn't gettin better results..I mean EVERY morning one or two sausage biscuits...

now she's stopped working out -- ate some papa johns the other day and is still takin the CLA hopin it'll help. ...

Oh dear god!! People need to stop taking damned diet pills thinking that you are just going to loose the weight by popping something into your mouth.

I will sometimes complain about not loosing weight or hitting a plateau and hey, top me that is fine to get frustrated when you are working your butt off, eating so healthy you make monks look like bad asses and you are not feeling/seeing the results or you hit a plateau. However people who don't even work at it complaining is just annoying as all bloody...okay i have to stop...

I always get this picture in my head of someone who is very overweight talking about how they can't manage to loose any weight no matter how hard they try...and they are doing so all while sitting on the ass while eating a tripple big mac, super size fries and a diet coke...oh yes with the sunday for dessert.

xwandeux: I totally feel you about not having time to workout. I have a job that has me at the office for 10 hours a day with an hour commute each way (with bad traffic). Gym time is something that is rare for me some weeks but i will manage somehow to get there. You can find a gym that has childcare and look at it as "mommy time".

Krista smash is also a good place to get ideas on free weights...and she is motivating as all hell!!

[LittleDonkey]

Read another stupid article called "The Exercise Myth" on The Daily Beast... it paints a pretty bleak picture for people trying to lose weight. And the comments (over 80) left by readers show just how uninformed most people are. It's really sad.

[Walk2liv]

Originally Posted by LittleDonkey

Read another stupid article called "The Exercise Myth" on The Daily Beast... it paints a pretty bleak picture for people trying to lose weight. And the comments (over 80) left by readers show just how uninformed most people are. It's really sad.

reminds me of one time I was watching TLC and a show called the 1000lbs woman was on. This lady was like 950+ lbs, stuck in a hospital bed in her house and tells us how there are untruths about fat people --

apparently one of those untrue things was

"Fat people don't eat a lot" -- I about died when I heard -- she explains that because she doesn't eat a lot that fat people don't ....

okay -- she may have stopped eating so much but this lady was morbidly obese -- you HAVE to eat a LOT of UNHEALTHY FAT SUGAR FILLED CRAP to get to be 900+ lbs okay... she was in such denial. And of course by now, with her not eating as much as she did before she wasn't losing weight -- she had ****ed up her metabolism SO MUCH there was NO way she could ever have fixed it probably without some major help ...

let's just say she tried for gastric bypass -- and died two weeks later from complications. what else could be expected?

What I don't understand is how could someone let themselves get so large? How could they treat their body so badly? It's sad --

Oh and a bit off subject -- I HATE how people think because you eat healthy you are undereating -- wtf is that all about?

[Jessie86]

I hear people trying to tell me that because they played some mild sport for an hour they can have hungry jacks or McDonalds - because they have "burned it off". Yet they wonder why their body isn't changing - or getting bigger.

Then people look at me like I am crazy for getting up at 5:30am to go for a run, and like I am depriving myself for not stuffing myself with cakes and pastries at morning teas. Not matter how much I explain that I eat heaps of food, I just choose to eat healthy and I like to stay fit so whenever I can fit activity in a busy day I do it - it is in one ear and out the other.

People don't seem to realise the concept of body composition either - and I think that is half the problem - everyone is going by the scales and not thinking about anything else.

I much prefer a healthy lifestyle as opposed to some 30 day diet (which I stupidly tried in my teens and of course resulted in more weight gain). I just hope that the people I know will eventually see my progress and maybe something will sink in.

[AshDancer]

Originally Posted by Walk2liv

Oh and a bit off subject -- I HATE how people think because you eat healthy you are undereating -- wtf is that all about?

I know! This drives me crazy! My ex-roommate constantly got on my case about that....how I must be starving myself b/c she could see me losing weight and my body transforming (meanwhile I was working my ass off in the gym and eating healthy!).

I used to tell her that I ate more than she did, just that my choices were different, and she didn't believe me! It killed me to see her skip breakfast, go out for lunch and snack on crap at work (we also worked together), and to her credit she did cook a reasonable dinner most nights, but she didn't work out, and then complain about how "skinny" I was (which I am not!). I tried to help her by offering for her to come running/rollerblading with me, or to the gym, and also offering to cook more of my foods for her to eat also, but her response? "You eat 5x a day, I could never do that"....umm wait, aren't you always on my case about how I "starve" myself...but you couldn't possibly eat 5x a day like I do, implying it was too much?? Hmmmmmm