Breaking the friendzone?!!! WTF

[acecombact1]

Ok so im friend with this girl for more than 3 years, At some points we were very close friends. Anyhow a classic friendzone situation happened to me. I told her that i like her, and she told me that she only thinks of me as a friend. i got depressed, acted gay, kept pushing, and got rejected many times.
Situation got realy strange, that we stopped being friends. We even got in an argument and stopped talking to each other for 3 months!!!
I finaly gave up, and tried to move on. I started going out with friends and try to hook up with other girls (she doesnt know that)

after 4 months, we started talking to each other again. I know its useless to try, and i got weak, and told her that i still liked her (WTF i know that stupid and gay, and should have kept ignoring her), i asked her if would consider me as more as friend, and think about it. I was surprised that she said she will think about it!!! she usually just turn me down right away?! what she changed all the sudden after all this years?!!
I actualy think nothing is gonna happen (i already gave up on the idea deep in my mind), but i didnt believe her response. So i asked again, she said she will consider thinking about!!!

i dont understand women?? why is she acting like this all the sudden?! im used to get rejected right away from her? did i break the friendzone?

like i said im not putting too much hope into this, and im gonna keep trying to hook up with other girls, but im still confused?

[ausurfer]

Brah .. you would seriously go out with poon that had to think about whether you're good enough for her? fukc wasting time/money/effort for that.

[Reincarnation]

Originally Posted by acecombact1

Ok so im friend with this girl for more than 3 years, At some points we were very close friends. Anyhow a classic friendzone situation happened to me. I told her that i like her, and she told me that she only thinks of me as a friend. i got depressed, acted gay, kept pushing, and got rejected many times.
Situation got realy strange, that we stopped being friends. We even got in an argument and stopped talking to each other for 3 months!!!
I finaly gave up, and tried to move on. I started going out with friends and try to hook up with other girls (she doesnt know that)

after 4 months, we started talking to each other again. I know its useless to try, and i got weak, and told her that i still liked her (WTF i know that stupid and gay, and should have kept ignoring her), i asked her if would consider me as more as friend, and think about it. I was surprised that she said she will think about it!!! she usually just turn me down right away?! what she changed all the sudden after all this years?!!
I actualy think nothing is gonna happen (i already gave up on the idea deep in my mind), but i didnt believe her response. So i asked again, she said she will consider thinking about!!!

i dont understand women?? why is she acting like this all the sudden?! im used to get rejected right away from her? did i break the friendzone?

like i said im not putting too much hope into this, and im gonna keep trying to hook up with other girls, but im still confused?

Dude when a girl says "No" it doesn't mean never, it just means not now.

[DannyE30]

Wow man, you just eat up anything remotely positive that comes out her mouth. Stop worrying about why she's acting the way she is and move on. She most likely said "She'll think about it" to keep you off her back for a bit. This gives her time to think of other reasons or excuses as to why you two can't be more than friends. Sorry man, you were "Friend-Zoned" a long time ago and that's how it'll always be. Sorry that I didn't sugar coat it for you.

[PatrickBateman1]

Get her drunk and hookup.


That should break the ice.

[ApatoJay]

Originally Posted by PatrickBateman1

Get her drunk and hookup.


That should break the ice.

x2


or even better chloroform her (or rufi, date rape drug, whichever you prefer), give her a go and get it out of your system. after uve tasted the sweet nectar of the friend zoned poon you should be ready to move on with yourself.

[PatrickBateman1]

Originally Posted by ApatoJay

x2


or even better chloroform her (or rufi, date rape drug, whichever you prefer), give her a go and get it out of your system. after uve tasted the sweet nectar of the friend zoned poon you should be ready to move on with yourself.

Lmfao



The funny thing is getting drunk with a girl and hooking up with her kept me away from the friend zone. I didn't really have intentions of hooking up, but it just happened.

No ruffi's though.

[Bramble]

[newparadigm]

It sounds like this girl doesnt want you right now, you are too easily obtainable...

You could try backing off a little and talking to her about another girl, then you would be unobtainable and thus more desirable to her. Nothing a woman likes more than thinking she took you away from another woman, makes them feel powerful.

[Abster82]

How old are you guys?

I had a guy friend that I was super close to from 4th grade til we were seniors in high school. He had crushes on me on/off at that time but never acted on it. I never liked him in a more-than-friends way.

We went to prom together and I think he just thought "TONIGHT IS THE NIGHT" and he made a pass at me. I was totally grossed out. It'd be like if my brother tried to initiate a make-out session. lol

My point is... it's easy to get swept up into the romantic notions of stuff when you're younger (say, 14-20?). I certainly have had so many people say "THE RIGHT PERSON IS RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE SOMETIMES" that I found myself questioning my own feelings and wondering if I SHOULD like guy A or B that's been a platonic friend all those years. But then I'm like... No? If I like someone, I like them. It shouldn't be like.. hostage negociation where I have to TALK myself into liking somebody.

My vote is, just stay friends. It lasts longer anyways.

[StalinX]

fastest way to get out of the friend is tell her how awesome your date went with another girl...she'll become insanely jealous and want you now that she can't have you

but I don't believe a relationship is worth it with her after her rejecting you so many times...she'll be calling all the shots forever

[Al_Pal]

haha. its cause you are ugly

[tpxer]

StalinX -- that's how I did it... true way to find out if she has any feelings for you in that way. imo

[StalinX]

Originally Posted by tpxer

StalinX -- that's how I did it... true way to find out if she has any feelings for you in that way. imo

gjdm! reps

[janky]

fuck

you guys.. seriously..


Why do you FREAK OUT about the friend zone??

If a girl puts you there, who cares? She's missin out on you and you get to USE HER.
Talk to her about chicks, ask her wtf is up w them, tell her you need to meet good girls, she should introduce you.
Ask her questions about how girls think/act.
If shes hot, hang out with her at bars/clubs and use her hotness to make other girls feel like they're not hot enough for you - then attack like a horny piranha!
Who knows, she may get jealous and like you after all!!

you guys are so one-sided lol. Opportunity is all around you, my friend

[janky]

Originally Posted by Al_Pal

haha. its cause you are ugly

LOL I fckin love you in the most non homo way possible bro

[irishjackmp]

Originally Posted by Abster82

How old are you guys?

I had a guy friend that I was super close to from 4th grade til we were seniors in high school. He had crushes on me on/off at that time but never acted on it. I never liked him in a more-than-friends way.

We went to prom together and I think he just thought "TONIGHT IS THE NIGHT" and he made a pass at me. I was totally grossed out. It'd be like if my brother tried to initiate a make-out session. lol

So let me get this straight... you decided to go to the Prom with a guy who you know had feelings for you and had been pining for you for YEARS... and you act suprised he made a pass at you?

Strong attention whore.

[Tiffany Wantsmore]

I think she does like you as a friend, and she probably missed you when you weren't talking for those 4 months - enough to tell you she would consider thinking about it, because she knows if she rejects you again you'll go off again, and she doesn't want that, she wants to stay friends with you.

I think this whole friendzone thing is bizarre, the quicker you guys accept that platonic friendships are possible - even if the guy does want sex, which he usually does - girls friendzone guys they don't want to sleep with, but whose company they enjoy. It's not our fault that guys are horny and only hang around while they're waiting to sex us. While they're waiting, we can still have fun hanging out.

[Abster82]

Originally Posted by irishjackmp

So let me get this straight... you decided to go to the Prom with a guy who you know had feelings for you and had been pining for you for YEARS... and you act suprised he made a pass at you?

Strong attention whore.

1. That was almost 10 years ago and at the time I wore overalls and had a boy's haircuit. Pretty sure it had nothing to do with attention whoring.
2. He had crushes on/off. And he had been talking about this girl Emily for like 6 months prior to that. I didn't think he liked me in the moment but apparently he did.

Also, yes, SHOCKED by the pass. We were both never-been-kissed orchestra nerds and he was very awkward around women. I didn't expect it in a million years.

[irishjackmp]

Originally Posted by Abster82

1. That was almost 10 years ago and at the time I wore overalls and had a boy's haircuit. Pretty sure it had nothing to do with attention whoring.
2. He had crushes on/off. And he had been talking about this girl Emily for like 6 months prior to that. I didn't think he liked me in the moment but apparently he did.

Also, yes, SHOCKED by the pass. We were both never-been-kissed orchestra nerds and he was very awkward around women. I didn't expect it in a million years.

Men don't see overalls or boys haircuts. For us, we only see vaginas.

Women go to proms for things like wearing the fancy dress... lots of pictures with friends, memories.... etc...

Men go to proms to get access to the vag.

[DaCougarMech]

Originally Posted by 240LSX

Wow man, you just eat up anything remotely positive that comes out her mouth

this

do you do her hw too?

[darkshines]

Originally Posted by acecombact1

Ok so im friend with this girl for more than 3 years, At some points we were very close friends. Anyhow a classic friendzone situation happened to me. I told her that i like her, and she told me that she only thinks of me as a friend. i got depressed, acted gay, kept pushing, and got rejected many times.
Situation got realy strange, that we stopped being friends. We even got in an argument and stopped talking to each other for 3 months!!!
I finaly gave up, and tried to move on. I started going out with friends and try to hook up with other girls (she doesnt know that)

after 4 months, we started talking to each other again. I know its useless to try, and i got weak, and told her that i still liked her (WTF i know that stupid and gay, and should have kept ignoring her), i asked her if would consider me as more as friend, and think about it. I was surprised that she said she will think about it!!! she usually just turn me down right away?! what she changed all the sudden after all this years?!!
I actualy think nothing is gonna happen (i already gave up on the idea deep in my mind), but i didnt believe her response. So i asked again, she said she will consider thinking about!!!

i dont understand women?? why is she acting like this all the sudden?! im used to get rejected right away from her? did i break the friendzone?

like i said im not putting too much hope into this, and im gonna keep trying to hook up with other girls, but im still confused?

She will consider thinking about it?

Jesus Christ, give up on her bro. "Considering thinking" about anything = no. She's just trying to put you down a bit nicer than last time so her emotional tampon won't run away for three months again.

[iBeast]

meh

[izaktj]

It's possible, didn't you watch "zack and miri make a porno"?

[acecombact1]

Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

I think she does like you as a friend, and she probably missed you when you weren't talking for those 4 months - enough to tell you she would consider thinking about it, because she knows if she rejects you again you'll go off again, and she doesn't want that, she wants to stay friends with you.

I think this whole friendzone thing is bizarre, the quicker you guys accept that platonic friendships are possible - even if the guy does want sex, which he usually does - girls friendzone guys they don't want to sleep with, but whose company they enjoy. It's not our fault that guys are horny and only hang around while they're waiting to sex us. While they're waiting, we can still have fun hanging out.

MAN i hate to admit it, but i think you are right. Today i talked to her, and she seemed to enjoy our converstions. i felt realy warm when looking to her eyes. She was extra nice to me?!! I was surprised, it also seemed that she didnt even want me to leave. I know she enjoys my company, and she realy missed me when we didnt talk for long time. But i hate to admit that she would probably never sleep with me.

i hate this. She is a great person, but i dont think i can be her friend anymore i think i may cut her completely off soon

[acecombact1]

Originally Posted by Abster82

How old are you guys?

I had a guy friend that I was super close to from 4th grade til we were seniors in high school. He had crushes on me on/off at that time but never acted on it. I never liked him in a more-than-friends way.

We went to prom together and I think he just thought "TONIGHT IS THE NIGHT" and he made a pass at me. I was totally grossed out. It'd be like if my brother tried to initiate a make-out session. lol

My point is... it's easy to get swept up into the romantic notions of stuff when you're younger (say, 14-20?). I certainly have had so many people say "THE RIGHT PERSON IS RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE SOMETIMES" that I found myself questioning my own feelings and wondering if I SHOULD like guy A or B that's been a platonic friend all those years. But then I'm like... No? If I like someone, I like them. It shouldn't be like.. hostage negociation where I have to TALK myself into liking somebody.

My vote is, just stay friends. It lasts longer anyways.

Im exactly your age.

Let me ask you a question. If you are a 26 year old girl, and for some reason you are single because every relation you have beeen into get messed up. You want babies, and you believe you are getting older. would you feel pressured to reconsider a friend who you know that he appreciates you and cares about you, or would you rather be alone?!!

[acecombact1]

Originally Posted by 240LSX

. She most likely said "She'll think about it" to keep you off her back for a bit. This gives her time to think of other reasons or excuses as to why you two can't be more than friends. Sorry man, you were "Friend-Zoned" a long time ago and that's how it'll always be. Sorry that I didn't sugar coat it for you.

dam it reps bro...... the truth hurts, but what you said seems kinda true

[Below 30]

Originally Posted by irishjackmp

So let me get this straight... you decided to go to the Prom with a guy who you know had feelings for you and had been pining for you for YEARS... and you act suprised he made a pass at you?

Strong attention whore.

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Originally Posted by Abster82

1. That was almost 10 years ago and at the time I wore overalls and had a boy's haircuit. Pretty sure it had nothing to do with attention whoring.
2. He had crushes on/off. And he had been talking about this girl Emily for like 6 months prior to that. I didn't think he liked me in the moment but apparently he did.

Also, yes, SHOCKED by the pass. We were both never-been-kissed orchestra nerds and he was very awkward around women. I didn't expect it in a million years.

Yes the rationalizations for leading a man on. It's how women balance out the physical strength that men have.
-30-

[Sounds Good]

Originally Posted by acecombact1

Im exactly your age.

Let me ask you a question. If you are a 26 year old girl, and for some reason you are single because every relation you have beeen into get messed up. You want babies, and you believe you are getting older. would you feel pressured to reconsider a friend who you know that he appreciates you and cares about you, or would you rather be alone?!!

cut it off. shes just stringing you along.

then she'll be fighting for your attention, at this point, don't give it to her.

[PatrickBateman1]

Originally Posted by irishjackmp

So let me get this straight... you decided to go to the Prom with a guy who you know had feelings for you and had been pining for you for YEARS... and you act suprised he made a pass at you?

Strong attention whore.

Seriously.

That **** is f*cked up. Is the bitch retarded? What the hell do you expect him to do?!

I mean ****, be honest with him and tell him what's up, don't lead him on forever.


That's seriously the dumbest **** ever (along with "I still want to be friends"). Bitch needs to get over herself.