guys help me out with some g/f issues (serious inquiries only)

[Jaw-Knee]

Originally Posted by Red_Juice

Ditch the Bitch.


You play by your own rules buddy!

This.

You're an adult with your own life.

[JamesIII]

I'm sorry to say it wont get any better - its a learned behaviour, which has worked until now!!

[PontifexPanda]

Start saying no when she says that ****. Either she'll get over her bitchiness or break up with you.

[xvicknumber7x]

If you want to try to fix this, just blatantly disregard every ''order'' she gives you.

[Guardian]

The best answer is to stay with her but do what you want and ignore her demands, shell prolly end up staying with you anyways so why not. When she says stuff just say hey I make the rules here and this is what Im going to do if you dont like it to bad.


Girls love that stuff!!

[Calhexas]

Originally Posted by zachry144

this will help me get some stuff off my chest while you guys can give me some suggestions. i dont care if you bull**** around but some serious posts would be nice.

heres the deal im 20 years old and my girlfriend is 20 years old. we have been dating for 10 months and we both go to the same school. everything was good but over the past few months it seems everything is getting worse and worse. there are a few key things that i think are making it so troublesome.

She demands my attention pretty much all the time. if i dont text her back or talk to her or something for like 5 minutes she flips the **** out and gets all pissed. We will just be chilling in my room and ill be typing something on the misc or something and she will yell "PAY ATTENTION TO ME" and will start to like sob and ****.

Then when i want to go out with friends and drink some she gets all pissy and will like start crying about something within an hour.

she tells me i am a bad boy friend all the time and will never listen when i have something to say to her. she will make me out to be the bad person in every situation and thinks she is like a saint. i am starting to get really upset about this and i talk to my old man about it too and he said i should move on what do you guys think? i mean this girl is putting ****ing restriction on me saying i can only go out 3 times over break and i can only drink 3-4 beers each time i go out. theres something really wrong with that and we will be arguing and i will be all come and stuff and she will end conversation with **** YOU ZACH **** YOU and then hang up when i would never do anything like that.


any help please?

Sounds like you two are at different levels. She demands more attention because she's both a girl, and of a different affection type. Everyone feels loved in their own way. Some physical, some verbal, some emotional, some out of gifts and ****, some from attention...there's several types.

She seems ready to settle or be settled, and you seem like an average 20 year old guy...wanting to have a good time.

Nothing wrong with either of you, you guys are just not really compatible. Either you start compromising with each other, or your relationship gets ****tier and ****tier.

[un4]

Here's the deal. There are dozens of different type of girls out there with various characters. The one you are dating is best described by the very POSSESSIVE version.

This version can be PASSIVE or AGGRESSIVE; Unfortunately, you are going out with the type of Aggressive Possessive (let's call it PA). It's not a bad thing, only if you know how to deal with it.

Let me put it straight, when your GF is PA, then you are in a constant battle of power. She wants to be in command, however, you are the one with the nut sack. You need to be the man in the relationship and that needs to be made clear.

Your GF probably loves you and is very attatched to you. However, she seems to be suffering from some sort of complex which leads her to become PA. If you fail to keep the upper hand (ie: be the one in commande, the MAN) and you succumb to the pressure than she will consider you as a wimp and your manlyhood may be at stake. She will think of you as "too nice" and will progressively loose interest in you. This is proven.

What you need to do is make sure she understands that you are the decision maker, you are the man and that you choose how things are. You want to go out with your buddies for a beer? DO SO.
DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF SUCCUMBING TO HER TELLING YOU NOT TO.
NOT EVER, NOT WITH ANY GIRL. Trust me, allowing that to happen is putting your balls aside, bending over and telling the girl that you are a wimp. That will cause total loss of attraction since you will be seen as a "weak" person. Girls do not like that, and that applies to your PA GF.

When she is acting all bitchy, just tell her that if she doesn't stop nagging then you'll leave until she calms down because you can't stand spoiled immature brats.

Eventually, she will learn to stop acting like a spoiled brat and will gain confidence and maturity.

This girl was probably a spoiled kid, she'd cry and yell and scream if her mother refused to buy her candy as a child. Do not let her reproduce this with you. You are not her father (nor mother for that matter). You are the BF and your are the decision maker. You will not tolerate such childish behavior from her, make that VERY VERY clear to her.
And if she dares hang up on you, DO NOT CALL HER BACK. Show her that by doing that she is creating a reaction in you which is causing you to loose interest in her by becoming fedd up. She will quickly begin to doubt in her silly CHILDISH methods.

If she refuses to change her childish attitude then make it clear that you are not interested in immature persons. Either way, as your father suggested, its a win-win situation since you'll end up dumping her if she does not learn to contain her PA attitude.

To cut things short, all you got to do is be the man, make it clear and show that you will not tolerate childish behaviour. Be strong, and eventually she will take you seriously and undertand that either she is to change or you will move on. If she cares for you, then she'll make the necessary efforts and change, for YOU.

Here's my 2 cents on the matter, hope it helps.

[Violator009]

run, run soo far away

[BabyJan3]

Originally Posted by zachry144

this will help me get some stuff off my chest while you guys can give me some suggestions. i dont care if you bull**** around but some serious posts would be nice.

heres the deal im 20 years old and my girlfriend is 20 years old. we have been dating for 10 months and we both go to the same school. everything was good but over the past few months it seems everything is getting worse and worse. there are a few key things that i think are making it so troublesome.

She demands my attention pretty much all the time. if i dont text her back or talk to her or something for like 5 minutes she flips the **** out and gets all pissed. We will just be chilling in my room and ill be typing something on the misc or something and she will yell "PAY ATTENTION TO ME" and will start to like sob and ****.

Then when i want to go out with friends and drink some she gets all pissy and will like start crying about something within an hour.

she tells me i am a bad boy friend all the time and will never listen when i have something to say to her. she will make me out to be the bad person in every situation and thinks she is like a saint. i am starting to get really upset about this and i talk to my old man about it too and he said i should move on what do you guys think? i mean this girl is putting ****ing restriction on me saying i can only go out 3 times over break and i can only drink 3-4 beers each time i go out. theres something really wrong with that and we will be arguing and i will be all come and stuff and she will end conversation with **** YOU ZACH **** YOU and then hang up when i would never do anything like that.


any help please?

It'd be annoying to have restrictions and have her in your face like that all the time, but...maybe she is insecure? She could just have personal issues that she isn't dealing with. She might think maybe if you get drunk you'll run off with another girl or something. or if you go out too much, you'll meet someone new. It seems like she just wants to put limits on you because she's afraid you'll move on without her. If she is insecure and has trouble with confidence, your relationship wont be too great until she deals with those issues first. Thats what I think, anyways! Or she's just really possessive, and having attention 100% of the time is what makes her feel loved. In which case, she is obviously not the girl for you.

[Tiffany Wantsmore]

It is a bit off to be typing on Misc when your gf has come over to hang out. But screaming and crying is a major overreaction. Next time she reacts like that, with a toddler temper tantrum, just stand up and walk off. Tell her you're not going to deal with her if she acts like that.

In the end it depends whether the fun you do say you have with her is worth all this hassle. If you do break up, at least you know for future reference what behaviour you won't put up with from the next girl.

[New_York]

Originally Posted by Tiffany Wantsmore

It is a bit off to be typing on Misc when your gf has come over to hang out. But screaming and crying is a major overreaction. Next time she reacts like that, with a toddler temper tantrum, just stand up and walk off. Tell her you're not going to deal with her if she acts like that.

In the end it depends whether the fun you do say you have with her is worth all this hassle. If you do break up, at least you know for future reference what behaviour you won't put up with from the next girl.

I see you give some good advice on this forum, reps on recharge.



OP, just read your other thread too.. I feel for ya man... you're in the academy? Don't let these things ruin your career... big statement there but I don't want to see another military prospect ruin their careers over a woman.

[ak_m_f]

fuk it n ditch it

[lukeridnour08]

Originally Posted by zachry144

this will help me get some stuff off my chest while you guys can give me some suggestions. i dont care if you bull**** around but some serious posts would be nice.

heres the deal im 20 years old and my girlfriend is 20 years old. we have been dating for 10 months and we both go to the same school. everything was good but over the past few months it seems everything is getting worse and worse. there are a few key things that i think are making it so troublesome.

She demands my attention pretty much all the time. if i dont text her back or talk to her or something for like 5 minutes she flips the **** out and gets all pissed. We will just be chilling in my room and ill be typing something on the misc or something and she will yell "PAY ATTENTION TO ME" and will start to like sob and ****.

Then when i want to go out with friends and drink some she gets all pissy and will like start crying about something within an hour.

she tells me i am a bad boy friend all the time and will never listen when i have something to say to her. she will make me out to be the bad person in every situation and thinks she is like a saint. i am starting to get really upset about this and i talk to my old man about it too and he said i should move on what do you guys think? i mean this girl is putting ****ing restriction on me saying i can only go out 3 times over break and i can only drink 3-4 beers each time i go out. theres something really wrong with that and we will be arguing and i will be all come and stuff and she will end conversation with **** YOU ZACH **** YOU and then hang up when i would never do anything like that.


any help please?

Fuk dude that kinda sucks.
It seems as if your in too deep to just end it too ya know.
but seriously, you have to end this soon, while your atleast on kinda good terms..

I mean honestly, she's telling you how many beers you can drink?? haha

[JKS32]

She doesn't trust you because she wouldn't trust herself. Not gonna work.

Just my $.02

[Back Double Biceps18]

Come on move on brah. PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!!! Move on NAOWWWWW! *sobs in corner*