MANSERS-from a WOMAN...ask and you shall receive! - Page 19

pondus_levo · 12-23-2008, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by dougdrums

I guess this question will fit here... How does one motivate, inspire, help, etc. get their girlfriend into a good healthy routine without being an a$$ about it. She has mentioned several times needing to "loose some weight" or "get into shape" but hasn't really made any life changes. She eats slightly better when i'm around and in general because of the changes i've made, (high blood pressure and cholesterol are a good excuse for me needing to eat healthy foods all the time) and she knows that I work out 4 times a week, but she doesn't seem like she ever wants to talk about it so i avoid the details of my fitness journey usually with her. I want to be supportive but without being pushy. Thoughts?

Read pages 16/17.

CelticBhoy · 12-23-2008, 01:02 PM

Hey Habitual,

Ready for the holidays? I just want to let you know what's been going on.

The last 4 nights (I think...I have no sense of time when I stay with my special lady friend

) I stayed at the girl's house. I had to drop her at the airport this morning (5 am!) so I gave her Christmas gifts last night...

Muse cd (only one she didn't have)

Custom teddy bear (she absolutely ADORED it!)

A day spa package (facial, body massage, body wrap, manicure, pedicure)

Her reaction was better than any gift she coudl have given me. The Teddy Bear was such a plus, thanks for the advice...it was perfect.

Merry Christmas.

HabitualHealth · 12-23-2008, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by mchenrycruiser

I wasnt creating witty insults, I was making FACTUAL statements. Speaking of things that stink and wipe away easy......just ask bb about her pubes...at her advanced age,they are either grey or falling out....just likes yours i presume.

well you certainly have that witty part right...

curious, is it just me you attack like this or any woman that posts in the forums?

cjh156 · 12-23-2008, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by HabitualHealth

communication would be the key here for me. if there's not a connection/chemistry/interest...sex wont be good for me. i do agree you must have a solid communication line.

Communication is A #1 in any realtionship. In the sex dept, you can have good sex without it, but great sex comes only through communication.

KennyK · 12-23-2008, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by HabitualHealth

well you certainly have that witty part right...

curious, is it just me you attack like this or any woman that posts in the forums?

so

you wanna come to my place

look at some paintings

simplycountry · 12-23-2008, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by HabitualHealth

well you certainly have that witty part right...

curious, is it just me you attack like this or any woman that posts in the forums?

HH, he attacks anything that makes him feel insecure!! He does so here because it can be done with impunity! Without the fear of someone shutting his mouth for him he is free to show the world what a big man he wants to seen as. All he accomplishes is to show them how pathetic and predictable he is!! This type spends time in the real world always hiding behind something either real or put on. The common word is coward!!

LeumasNehpets · 12-23-2008, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by KennyK

so

you wanna come to my place

look at some paintings

Lmfao, fair play Kenny K, you don't half chat up the women.

Hey Kenny K, my place is free if you want to come over and look at my PoKEmon cards?

KennyK · 12-23-2008, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by LeumasNehpets

Lmfao, fair play Kenny K, you don't half chat up the women.

Hey Kenny K, my place is free if you want to come over and look at my PoKEmon cards?

**** son!

You got some Dane cook cd's?

I can bring the natty light

skinnygymboy · 12-23-2008, 02:24 PM

Okay, so for teh sake of a "womans" opinion i'll ask. Wouldn't normally, but well see how this goes.

Girl from my school, were friends but dont really hang out unless its going for a ciggie at school, or at a party/club.

Other week were talking(on facebook), shes like i really wanna go cinema, i wasnt doing much, so i said, well if i'm free later i might go(wanted to see film so might as well), hour or so later i'm like, okay lets go cinema.... Went cinema all was good, tbh didnt think much of it as i just wanted to see this film. Droped her off home, sat in car talking for 5-10mins.

Next day i had a few mates over, i text her like 6ish, "hey, having a little gathering come if you want" She came over after work, by the time she got here i was ****ed. She brought me some pizza, we stayed up till like 5 chatting/watching film etc. She made a point of sleeping in my bed and not with/in a free bed..

Last week its was my birthday, went on pub crawl and she joined us for a few hours later on.... said she wounlnd miss it for the world.

Few days ago i text her "hey (name) hows it going" She text me back like cool cool yeah, how you? So i said i was good just looking forward to xmas. She text me back like "is that it? you're so random hehe :| x" kinda upset So i replied like, well i gota go xmas shopping tomorrow, join me if you want, her relpy to this was all happy again. She did, she didnt need to get anything but came over to mine then came with me shopping....

What's this girls thinking? Shes flirty with most people so i cant really gauge her if shes being flirty with me....She is, allways joking, calling me gay/nob etc when i joke with her, rubbing her legs against mine, crossing legs facing me, kissing me on cheek etc.. And also if you rate shes interested... i guess next step is, meal/drinks then make a move? Havent made a move uptill now as i didnt really think of it tbh, but shes real hot so if shes into me then i might as well..... I'd think shes interested but another opinion doesnt hurt as she does go to my school/kinda buddies.

So okay... see how this goes with your answer, sorry for my poor literacy ability.

Writing it out she seems right intrested.... hmm, overthinking FTL ah well will post anyway... for the lulz of other people. Will wait for her to txt me(as i txt her last/invited her to join me), if she does shes keen....

aquresh · 12-23-2008, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by HabitualHealth

thanks so much for the compliment.

as for the chicas....like mentioned before, women aren't going to take "hints" that create action. they will talk about it allllllll day long and never do anything until they actually are for real and ready. the only thing you can really do is maybe next time they start talking about working out jump in with enthusiasm and say let's do it! tell them DIRECTLY you'll help them with their diet and help keep them motivated. maybe plan a goal for a group outing or something if they reach their goals or something.

i prob wouldn't go with the "you're not gonna get a guy like that until..." line. truth is, deep down, they already know why guys like that aren't attracted to them physically. when i was overweight i never really got the concept behind it...sure, there are straight up shallow people out there but i think more often than not a guy/girl wants someone they can share their interests, goals, etc with. someone who understands the lifestyle and works toward it. after my transformation, i see that more clearly now. i can't see myself dating a guy who isn't somewhat interested in living a healthy lifestyle. it just wouldn't mesh.

Thanks for the reply...I'll give that a shot if the topic ever comes up again!

One more question...If a guy is dating a girl, and is really interested in her...if they decide to take things to the next level, is it appropriate for the guy to ask her if she has been tested at some point before getting intimate? With the rate of STD's high and all that, I feel like it would be good to know obviously (although I am all for abstinence myself). whats a good way to approach that without making her sound like a ho or offending her?

bob1028 · 12-23-2008, 02:36 PM

Im curous i was talking to my ex last night and we started arguing,we broke up about 2 months ago from 1 year realtionship and she has a bf now im single but still having fun

:

her:so wut are u gonna get me for christmas?

me:are u gonna get me something??

her:no but im a girl u need to get me something

me:so? what have you donethat i should give you a gift? im not ur bf anymore and i know for a fact ur not gonna get me anything

her

mg ur such a girl!

me:Im not a girl but im not gonna get u a present just because ur a girl if thats what ur thinking. your just using me for presents

her:im not using you for presents or money you hardly have any money!

me:because i would always be wasting my money on you when we were going out! you didnt even get me a one year anniversary present!

her:i was gonna get you something i just didn't have time! and besides you dumped me the next day!

he:you had one year of time!! and it was two days later! You think that just cuz ur pretty u dont ever have to give and just take advantage of the guy and MAYBE if he satisfies you then maybe you'll spread his legs for him and thats payment enough!

me: w.e. (my name) ur such a girl!!

note:she gave me one of her 2 used ipods once tho. she was gonna sell it to me at first but then just gave it to me after a fight we had that i was mad at her.
I think the guy should pay on dates and all that. but do you think its fair that the guy buys girls gifts and the girl never gets him anything?

Mike1366 · 12-23-2008, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by bob1028

Im curous i was talking to my ex last night and we started arguing,we broke up about 2 months ago from 1 year realtionship and she has a bf now im single but still having fun

:

her:so wut are u gonna get me for christmas?

me:are u gonna get me something??

her:no but im a girl u need to get me something

me:so? what have you donethat i should give you a gift? im not ur bf anymore and i know for a fact ur not gonna get me anything

her

mg ur such a girl!

me:Im not a girl but im not gonna get u a present just because ur a girl if thats what ur thinking. your just using me for presents

her:im not using you for presents or money you hardly have any money!

me:because i would always be wasting my money on you when we were going out! you didnt even get me a one year anniversary present!

her:i was gonna get you something i just didn't have time! and besides you dumped me the next day!

he:you had one year of time!! and it was two days later! You think that just cuz ur pretty u dont ever have to give and just take advantage of the guy and MAYBE if he satisfies you then maybe you'll spread his legs for him and thats payment enough!

me: w.e. (my name) ur such a girl!!

note:she gave me one of her 2 used ipods once tho. she was gonna sell it to me at first but then just gave it to me after a fight we had that i was mad at her.
I think the guy should pay on dates and all that. but do you think its fair that the guy buys girls gifts and the girl never gets him anything?

Dude it's over don't buy her anything thats the new BF's job your're done move on enjoy the Holidays lots of ladies in town visiting family hit the local bars might run into the chick for college/H.S you always wanted to bang the be-jesus out of. DONT BUY HER A BAG OF WARM DOG ****. If you do you got no game.

bob1028 · 12-23-2008, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Mike1366

Dude it's over don't buy her anything thats the new BF's job your're done move on enjoy the Holidays lots of ladies in town visiting family hit the local bars might run into the chick for college/H.S you always wanted to bang the be-jesus out of. DONT BUY HER A BAG OF WARM DOG ****. If you do you got no game.

I like how you think!

JWN · 12-23-2008, 03:02 PM

You missed my last question. pg 17, post #493

HabitualHealth · 12-23-2008, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by cjh156

Communication is A #1 in any realtionship. In the sex dept, you can have good sex without it, but great sex comes only through communication.

agree completely.

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Originally Posted by KennyK

so

you wanna come to my place

look at some paintings

i'm not really into painting.

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Originally Posted by simplycountry

HH, he attacks anything that makes him feel insecure!! He does so here because it can be done with impunity! Without the fear of someone shutting his mouth for him he is free to show the world what a big man he wants to seen as. All he accomplishes is to show them how pathetic and predictable he is!! This type spends time in the real world always hiding behind something either real or put on. The common word is coward!!

verrrryyyy well said. wow.

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Originally Posted by aquresh

Thanks for the reply...I'll give that a shot if the topic ever comes up again!

One more question...If a guy is dating a girl, and is really interested in her...if they decide to take things to the next level, is it appropriate for the guy to ask her if she has been tested at some point before getting intimate? With the rate of STD's high and all that, I feel like it would be good to know obviously (although I am all for abstinence myself). whats a good way to approach that without making her sound like a ho or offending her?

absolutely appropriate! i would hope any woman/man would/could find appreciation in that.

it depends on your relationship with her ya know....like for me, i'm more of a goofy, lighthearted, sarcastic "dater"....i'd start up a game of 20 questions in fun back and forth, ask some lighter topic questions and then ask. (again, that'd be me)

this way it doesn't appear like you're calling her a ho but also there's no "serious topic" pressure/stress or conversation solely devoted to it. (that'd be awkward)

skinnygymboy · 12-23-2008, 03:50 PM

Know tis long but can you look at 549? Bit up the page. Ta.x

2Massive · 12-23-2008, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by CelticBhoy

Hey Habitual,

Custom teddy bear (she absolutely ADORED it!)

That's why I always suggest that.

HabitualHealth · 12-23-2008, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by CelticBhoy

Hey Habitual,

Ready for the holidays? I just want to let you know what's been going on.

The last 4 nights (I think...I have no sense of time when I stay with my special lady friend

) I stayed at the girl's house. I had to drop her at the airport this morning (5 am!) so I gave her Christmas gifts last night...

Muse cd (only one she didn't have)

Custom teddy bear (she absolutely ADORED it!)

A day spa package (facial, body massage, body wrap, manicure, pedicure)

Her reaction was better than any gift she coudl have given me. The Teddy Bear was such a plus, thanks for the advice...it was perfect.

Merry Christmas.

awwww yay!! i'm soooo glad! you're more than welcome. that bear was soooo cute. if she didn't get all googley goo over it i was gonna hafta call her.

i'm never ready until the last minute. i dont know why i do this to myself every year. lol

glad to hear everything worked out better than you hoped! it's always the little things that seem the biggest. hope you have an awesome christmas!

HabitualHealth · 12-23-2008, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by skinnygymboy

Okay, so for teh sake of a "womans" opinion i'll ask. Wouldn't normally, but well see how this goes.

Girl from my school, were friends but dont really hang out unless its going for a ciggie at school, or at a party/club.

Other week were talking(on facebook), shes like i really wanna go cinema, i wasnt doing much, so i said, well if i'm free later i might go(wanted to see film so might as well), hour or so later i'm like, okay lets go cinema.... Went cinema all was good, tbh didnt think much of it as i just wanted to see this film. Droped her off home, sat in car talking for 5-10mins.

Next day i had a few mates over, i text her like 6ish, "hey, having a little gathering come if you want" She came over after work, by the time she got here i was ****ed. She brought me some pizza, we stayed up till like 5 chatting/watching film etc. She made a point of sleeping in my bed and not with/in a free bed..

Last week its was my birthday, went on pub crawl and she joined us for a few hours later on.... said she wounlnd miss it for the world.

Few days ago i text her "hey (name) hows it going" She text me back like cool cool yeah, how you? So i said i was good just looking forward to xmas. She text me back like "is that it? you're so random hehe :| x" kinda upset So i replied like, well i gota go xmas shopping tomorrow, join me if you want, her relpy to this was all happy again. She did, she didnt need to get anything but came over to mine then came with me shopping....

What's this girls thinking? Shes flirty with most people so i cant really gauge her if shes being flirty with me....She is, allways joking, calling me gay/nob etc when i joke with her, rubbing her legs against mine, crossing legs facing me, kissing me on cheek etc.. And also if you rate shes interested... i guess next step is, meal/drinks then make a move? Havent made a move uptill now as i didnt really think of it tbh, but shes real hot so if shes into me then i might as well..... I'd think shes interested but another opinion doesnt hurt as she does go to my school/kinda buddies.

So okay... see how this goes with your answer, sorry for my poor literacy ability.

Writing it out she seems right intrested.... hmm, overthinking FTL ah well will post anyway... for the lulz of other people. Will wait for her to txt me(as i txt her last/invited her to join me), if she does shes keen....

lol i kept reading and was anticipating something bad....sounds like to me she's really into you.

flirting with everyone is one thing but if she's jumping at the call or spending all her time with you i'd say for sure she's keen. if she's hot and flirty with everyone i'm sure it's not that she just wants to be buds.

what you just typed out couldn't be a better "ideal" start to something though. chill, no pressure, fun...go for it.

ImFromDuval · 12-23-2008, 04:24 PM

Question: Are you married,seeing somebody, have a BF or single?

xvicknumber7x · 12-23-2008, 04:27 PM

How can I definitely tell if a girl is into me? I got two extremely hot sisters to join my gym [we're going tomorrow] and I will take either one of them.

skinnygymboy · 12-23-2008, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by HabitualHealth

lol i kept reading and was anticipating something bad....sounds like to me she's really into you.

flirting with everyone is one thing but if she's jumping at the call or spending all her time with you i'd say for sure she's keen. if she's hot and flirty with everyone i'm sure it's not that she just wants to be buds.

what you just typed out couldn't be a better "ideal" start to something though. chill, no pressure, fun...go for it.

lol nah nothing bad. I kinda fudged when she gave me the opotunity to get on her by sleeping in my bed, but i didnt want some 1night ****(not my style) so didnt do anything, so showed her some intrest to show i was keen so she didnt get the worng idea.

Will see how it goes.

You think im right in waiting for her to get in touch with me next? And if in a week or so she hasn't then get in touch myself?

marcodeniro · 12-23-2008, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by skinnygymboy

lol nah nothing bad. I kinda fudged when she gave me the opotunity to get on her by sleeping in my bed, but i didnt want some 1night ****(not my style) so didnt do anything, so showed her some intrest to show i was keen so she didnt get the worng idea.

Will see how it goes.

You think im right in waiting for her to get in touch with me next? And if in a week or so she hasn't then get in touch myself?

You are clear to land. She is showing int in you. she slept with you. u did not make move. she didn't either . thats her testing boundries she is wandering if u r gay by comment and not sleepin with her esp when u were tanked. My opinon not trying to step on toes here is u have a green light buddy~~clear to land~~if u haven't been pushed into the hanging buddy friendzone.

smith197 · 12-23-2008, 05:51 PM

What's a good costume for a guy to wear to a new-years fancy dress party? (serious)

HabitualHealth · 12-23-2008, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by mchenrycruiser

I dont attack you because you have a vagina. I attack you because you have no credibility son.

do i gain credibility by attacking other peeps i deem lack credibility too? cuz you seem to think that makes you super cool and funny.

DubV · 12-23-2008, 06:01 PM

Could you reply to my most recent? It's on the first page.

-E- · 12-23-2008, 06:17 PM

So this thread has gone kinda wrong. Anyway, I got a question, when youre interested in a girl, is it a better idea to get to know her and ask her out after youve known her for a while, or to be obvious that you like her before you start getting to know her.

skinnygymboy · 12-23-2008, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by -E-

So this thread has gone kinda wrong. Anyway, I got a question, when youre interested in a girl, is it a better idea to get to know her and ask her out after youve known her for a while, or to be obvious that you like her before you start getting to know her.

Why is it nessecery to "go out" with her. Why can you not just "chill" with her, for coffee, go for a walk etc and get to know here, there is no real need for a "date" in the formal sense as such. IMO though.

AnthonyLara · 12-23-2008, 07:14 PM

Ok, I havent been in a realationship for about a year after my last break up and im completely over it, but I cant seem to get back in the "game".
Plus a lot of the girls around here arent worth it (either immature or just not what I would consider).

Im pretty much at a lose on what to do its hard for me to meet anyone with work and training and stuff. Maybe my standards are set to high, I think im a pretty nice guy, just not very outgoing and kinda shy.

And as you can tell not very good with words so, if you can help thats kool

TylerDurden777 · 12-23-2008, 09:13 PM

Alright Habitual Ive got a question for you. Im in college right now and earlier this semester had a class with this girl who always gave me good eye contact and smiles and sat right in front of me after i was already in a desk. I had to drop the class but later this semester I bumped into her at harris teeter and got her number, everything went real smooth. A few days went by, I called her up no answer but left a brief message. She texted back and we went to the movies later that week. The date went well, i didnt make a move but asked her what she had planned for the weekend. No plans so i suggest coming over to my place for a movie. She agrees to and did come over that weekend. I got kinda tipsy before going to pick her up. We each had a beer when we got back and watched Transporter after the movie was over i kissed her, she was into it. I pulled her top off and I took mine off. we made out. I pulled it out while she was on top of me. I feel like an ******* now, but I gave her a little shoulder tap and she went down. definitely had some experience, one of the best ive had. I tried to unbutton her pants after doing some touching that she was def enjoying, but she put her hand on mine and moved it away. kool with me i thought, at least shes not a ho. We continued making out for a couple hours. I dropped her back off, she says "I guess I'll talk to you soon!" My response, "You certainly will." I texted her back about 5 days later bcuz Thanksgiving was coming up and just didnt get a chance to call sooner. Asked her if she wanted to come over again. She said sure, and then later had to back out bcuz she was gonna be real busy with finals coming up. I tried calling the next week, left a message. She texts back the next day sayin sorry she couldnt get back to me she had been busy. I called a couple days later left a message asking if she wanted to grab a bite to eat. Didnt get any response. ususally i dont get clingy but i started catching feelings and they got to me so found her on facebook and added her left her a message sayin let me know about dinner. she said whats this about dinner? I told her I wanted to take her out to eat basically. no response. I know she liked me alot, but now im worried i gave her the wrong impression like im just lookin for booty. I havent corresponded with her in a couple weeks. Thinking about sending a Merry Christmas text and see how she responds. if i get a response i was thinking about waiting till the new semester starts and after classes settle in ask her if she wants to go play some basketball, bcuz she likes it & so do I. It would allow us to become better friends & the relationship could flourish from there. Sorry bout the long post.What do you think about the situation???